Stop Being Needy in Life How to Meet Your Own Needs for Connection in Healthier Ways | DTPHD Podcast 31

In this interview, you're going to hear me open up in a way that many of my followers have likely not heard before. This video is about my experience of discovering the only thing truly worth living (or dying) for. Unconditional love is a strange concept for a lot of guys. They think they know what "unconditional love" means. But only when you begin to love all your most vulnerable parts unconditionally -- the ones holding the shame, fear, sadness, etc. -- are you then able to love an intimate partner unconditionally. Unconditional love means that when we choose to give love, we love that person without conditions. Unconditional love does not mean disrespecting healthy boundaries, accepting abuse, or permitting harm. Healthy boundaries are good for both parties. Spoiling the child is not good for you or the child. Similarly, becoming codependent is not good for either partner. Unconditional love also does not mean indiscriminate love. It does not mean we love everyone, always, equally. That's indiscriminate. Unconditional love means that when choose to give love to someone, we do so without expecting any return, regardless of the circumstances. Beware the feeling of what you think might be ”unconditional love” in a romantic relationship unless you have already discovered this state in a non-romantic relationship. There is too much else mixed in with romantic relationships — sexual desire, ego validation, peer approval, finances, etc. — for the novice to disentangle or isolate from it the element of unconditional love. This is much better learned from loving an innocent party, such as your child (or god-daughter, in my case) or even your pet dog. Once you understand the meaning and experience the depth of unconditional love, you enter an entirely new dimension of reality. I really hope you enjoy this video! ***** For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment. His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now. Connect with David Tian here: Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/ Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd ***** For transcriptions and more free resources, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/life-decisions/true-meaning-of-life/  

***** Join the launch of Stefan Ravalli's "Self-Made Mind" here: https://tenshin.mykajabi.com/free-mindfulness-course ***** Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Join our private Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ ***** Get free access to Stefan and David’s new mantra meditation course here: https://www.tenshinmindfulness.com/ ***** For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment. His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now. Connect with David Tian here: Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/ Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd ***** About Stefan Ravalli: Forever studying masterful humans and the art of service the world over to bring their practices to our (sometimes “service-deficient”) culture, Stefan Ravalli combines all that with his expertise in meditation, mindfulness, and communication/listening to raise the game of service professionals - and anyone looking to upgrade how they connect with others (and themselves). Learning meditation was a game-changer for Stefan. It gave him the inner strength to be his unique self (without the negative self-talk!), connect with others better, and live a healthy happy life. Meditation also makes you realize your potential and gives you the fearlessness to pursue bigger and better things you never thought possible, so Stefan left a leadership role at a high-profile bar/restaurant to India to teach meditation. After doing that for years and deepening his tea ceremony practice, Stefan realized that the art of service was the richest path of self-cultivation available to him. Serving anything anywhere was the best way to apply and accelerate all the upgrades he got from meditation. So he started Serve Conscious to bring these tools and practices to anyone where service is part of their life - to awaken us to the power of service as a means of growth and self-mastery. Learn more about Stefan Ravalli here: http://serveconscious.com

***** Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Join our private Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ ***** Get free access to Stefan and David’s new mantra meditation course here: https://www.tenshinmindfulness.com/ ***** For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment. His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now. Connect with David Tian here: Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/ Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd ***** About Stefan Ravalli: Forever studying masterful humans and the art of service the world over to bring their practices to our (sometimes “service-deficient”) culture, Stefan Ravalli combines all that with his expertise in meditation, mindfulness, and communication/listening to raise the game of service professionals - and anyone looking to upgrade how they connect with others (and themselves). Learning meditation was a game-changer for Stefan. It gave him the inner strength to be his unique self (without the negative self-talk!), connect with others better, and live a healthy happy life. Meditation also makes you realize your potential and gives you the fearlessness to pursue bigger and better things you never thought possible, so Stefan left a leadership role at a high-profile bar/restaurant to India to teach meditation. After doing that for years and deepening his tea ceremony practice, Stefan realized that the art of service was the richest path of self-cultivation available to him. Serving anything anywhere was the best way to apply and accelerate all the upgrades he got from meditation. So he started Serve Conscious to bring these tools and practices to anyone where service is part of their life - to awaken us to the power of service as a means of growth and self-mastery. Learn more about Stefan Ravalli here: http://serveconscious.com ***** Shownotes: 1:02  What’s the default state of achievers, and why does it matter? 4:45  Two metaphors for how best to view the worth of a human being 8:36  How achievers become worthy of love and connection 10:35  How meditation helps you find your own value 16:44  How growing and striving relate to meeting your need for significance 20:55  When the pursuit of significance becomes unhealthy 25:01  One of the big downsides from being in the Flow state 27:26  Why people put off their happiness 30:44  How to find fulfillment in the present 36:11  Why achievers don't believe they're enough 40:33  This is what achievers fear when they reach their goals 45:56   What happens when you let go of striving for significance 49:02  The advantage of finding fulfillment in the present

***** This talk is a short excerpt from a private Zoom seminar in May 2020 as part of the Aura Mastermind. The accompanying text for this seminar is Richard Schwartz, “You Are The One You’ve Been Waiting For”: https://ifs-institute.com/store/37 ***** Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Join our private Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ ***** Get free access to Stefan and David’s new mantra meditation course here: https://www.tenshinmindfulness.com/ ***** For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment. His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now. Connect with David Tian here: Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/ Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd ***** What An Unconditional Love Relationship Is Like Between Two True Selves Shownotes 1:02 David Tian Ph.D. explains how our various parts work in a relationship 9:28 What are exiled parts of ourselves? 15:52 This happens when you are the primary source of love for your parts 17:59 The three ways your most vulnerable parts were exiled 24:03 What qualities do we lose when parts of us are exiled? 26:00 This is how exiles feel in an intimate relationship 32:48 What extreme belief do our parts have about intimate relationships? 41:15 How attachment re-injuries impact our intimate relationships 46:55 How your partner can become your "tor-mentor" 50:49 The problem with our exiled parts 53:30 The solution to the problem with our exiled parts 56:08 Two major types of love 1:00:53 Common manifestations of protective parts in intimate relationships 1:03:22 Relationship troubleshooting issues to look out for

***** Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Join our private Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ ***** Get free access to Stefan and David’s new mantra meditation course here: https://www.tenshinmindfulness.com/ ***** For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment. His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now. Connect with David Tian here: Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/ Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd ***** About Stefan Ravalli: Forever studying masterful humans and the art of service the world over to bring their practices to our (sometimes “service-deficient”) culture, Stefan Ravalli combines all that with his expertise in meditation, mindfulness, and communication/listening to raise the game of service professionals - and anyone looking to upgrade how they connect with others (and themselves). Learning meditation was a game-changer for Stefan. It gave him the inner strength to be his unique self (without the negative self-talk!), connect with others better, and live a healthy happy life. Meditation also makes you realize your potential and gives you the fearlessness to pursue bigger and better things you never thought possible, so Stefan left a leadership role at a high-profile bar/restaurant to India to teach meditation. After doing that for years and deepening his tea ceremony practice, Stefan realized that the art of service was the richest path of self-cultivation available to him. Serving anything anywhere was the best way to apply and accelerate all the upgrades he got from meditation. So he started Serve Conscious to bring these tools and practices to anyone where service is part of their life - to awaken us to the power of service as a means of growth and self-mastery. Learn more about Stefan Ravalli here: http://serveconscious.com ***** Should You Meditate? | DTPHD Podcast 32 Shownotes: 2:04 This is the most beneficial part of meditation 6:54 The most common reasons people do not stick with their meditation practice 11:25 Can meditation address specific “problem areas”? 14:43 The meditation app that David Tian Ph.D. recommends the most 19:06 Which meditation practice is best for you? 24:32 What do different types of meditation lead to? 28:48 This is how you know a meditation practice is working for you 33:25 The two meditation obstacles that people encounter most often 37:56 How can you gauge the results of meditation? 40:17 Skills you can learn from your meditation practice 44:45 What expectations should you have when it comes to your meditation practice

***** This talk was originally filmed in late 2019 in at the W Taipei hotel. ***** Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Join our private Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ ***** For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment. His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now. Connect with David Tian here: Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/ Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd *****

***** Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Join our private Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ ***** Get free access to Stefan and David’s new mantra meditation course here: https://www.tenshinmindfulness.com/ ***** For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment. His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now. Connect with David Tian here: Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/ Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd ***** About Stefan Ravalli: Forever studying masterful humans and the art of service the world over to bring their practices to our (sometimes “service-deficient”) culture, Stefan Ravalli combines all that with his expertise in meditation, mindfulness, and communication/listening to raise the game of service professionals - and anyone looking to upgrade how they connect with others (and themselves). Learning meditation was a game-changer for Stefan. It gave him the inner strength to be his unique self (without the negative self-talk!), connect with others better, and live a healthy happy life. Meditation also makes you realize your potential and gives you the fearlessness to pursue bigger and better things you never thought possible, so Stefan left a leadership role at a high-profile bar/restaurant to India to teach meditation. After doing that for years and deepening his tea ceremony practice, Stefan realized that the art of service was the richest path of self-cultivation available to him. Serving anything anywhere was the best way to apply and accelerate all the upgrades he got from meditation. So he started Serve Conscious to bring these tools and practices to anyone where service is part of their life - to awaken us to the power of service as a means of growth and self-mastery. Learn more about Stefan Ravalli here: http://serveconscious.com ***** Shownotes: 3:35 What are the two toxic extremes when it comes to trying to meet your needs? 7:55 Why connection is one of the highest human needs 14:24 How the need for connection is universal to all human beings 18:22 Why people often deny their emotional needs 23:33 How to meet your needs successfully

***** Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Join our private Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ ***** For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment. His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now. Connect with David Tian here: Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/ Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd ***** HENRY CHONG is our special guest speaker on this episode. Henry is Director of Fusang Capital, a fund management company that manages the assets of multi-family offices. He is also a Director at the Portcullis Group, Asia’s biggest independent group of trust companies, providing comprehensive wealth administration to high-net-worth individuals, providing a one-stop shop for corporate, trustee, and fund administration services to individuals, family offices, philanthropies, private banks, and investment managers. Henry is a graduate of Oxford University with a B.A. (Hons) in Philosophy Politics & Economics and is a founder of the Oxford Economics Society. He also holds a M.Sc. in Behavioral Science from the London School of Economics and is a Fellow of the Royal Society of Arts (FRSC). He will be sharing with us from his deep insights in behavioral economics, finance, health, and psychology. Connect with Henry here: http://henrychong.com/http://henrychong.com/ ***** Shownotes: 2:24 How to define our needs for certainty and uncertainty in our lives 7:09 Why people are afraid of uncertainty 8:35 Understanding certainty and uncertainty through Campbell’s Jungian framework of the Hero's Journey 11:49 What are the opportunities in this period of uncertainty? 17:49 How your life success is related to your threshold of uncertainty 22:16 The importance of setting limits amidst these opportunities

***** Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Join our private Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ ***** Get free access to Stefan and David’s new mantra meditation course here: https://www.tenshinmindfulness.com/ ***** For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment. His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now. Connect with David Tian here: Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/ Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd ***** About Stefan Ravalli: Forever studying masterful humans and the art of service the world over to bring their practices to our (sometimes “service-deficient”) culture, Stefan Ravalli combines all that with his expertise in meditation, mindfulness, and communication/listening to raise the game of service professionals - and anyone looking to upgrade how they connect with others (and themselves). Learning meditation was a game-changer for Stefan. It gave him the inner strength to be his unique self (without the negative self-talk!), connect with others better, and live a healthy happy life. Meditation also makes you realize your potential and gives you the fearlessness to pursue bigger and better things you never thought possible, so Stefan left a leadership role at a high-profile bar/restaurant to India to teach meditation. After doing that for years and deepening his tea ceremony practice, Stefan realized that the art of service was the richest path of self-cultivation available to him. Serving anything anywhere was the best way to apply and accelerate all the upgrades he got from meditation. So he started Serve Conscious to bring these tools and practices to anyone where service is part of their life - to awaken us to the power of service as a means of growth and self-mastery. Learn more about Stefan Ravalli here: http://serveconscious.com ***** Shownotes: 1:00 Why some people think “judging” is bad and wrong 6:44 Are there drawbacks for judging? 13:55 Why should we stay open to judgment? 18:15 The difference between subjectivism and relativism, and why it matters 22:34 What is the value of non-judgment? 30:20 The value of leaning into discomfort ***** Transcription and free resources are available here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/podcast/why-judging/

***** Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Join our private Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ ***** Get free access to Stefan and David’s new mantra meditation course here: https://www.tenshinmindfulness.com/ ***** For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment. His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now. Connect with David Tian here: Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/ Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/ Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd ***** About Stefan Ravalli: Forever studying masterful humans and the art of service the world over to bring their practices to our (sometimes “service-deficient”) culture, Stefan Ravalli combines all that with his expertise in meditation, mindfulness, and communication/listening to raise the game of service professionals - and anyone looking to upgrade how they connect with others (and themselves). Learning meditation was a game-changer for Stefan. It gave him the inner strength to be his unique self (without the negative self-talk!), connect with others better, and live a healthy happy life. Meditation also makes you realize your potential and gives you the fearlessness to pursue bigger and better things you never thought possible, so Stefan left a leadership role at a high-profile bar/restaurant to India to teach meditation. After doing that for years and deepening his tea ceremony practice, Stefan realized that the art of service was the richest path of self-cultivation available to him. Serving anything anywhere was the best way to apply and accelerate all the upgrades he got from meditation. So he started Serve Conscious to bring these tools and practices to anyone where service is part of their life - to awaken us to the power of service as a means of growth and self-mastery. Learn more about Stefan Ravalli here: http://serveconscious.com ***** Shownotes: 1:04 How is gratitude a practice? 4:00 How gratitude affects your other life goals 9:08 What is the difference between process orientation and goal orientation, and why does it matter? 16:30 This happens when you are grateful for the things you have now 19:13 The key connection between gratitude and the vantage point of trust 24:23 How to turn anger into something positive 27:18 The importance of acknowledging and appreciating the emotions we feel 32:15 How psychological healing is related to being grateful 37:00 The power that comes from appreciating your life 40:08 How to practice gratitude in your life ***** Transcription and free resources are available here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/podcast/gratitude-drives-out-fear/