"Surplus Men" Explained

In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, hosts Lisa and Sovereign sink their teeth into the world of emotional vampires — the people who drain your peace, your joy, and your energy. They explore how to recognize these emotional leeches, the red flags of covert narcissism and drama addiction, and how to protect your energy with healthy boundaries and self-awareness. But first, in Tea Time, the hosts discuss the new “full bush” underwear from Skims, Mackenzie Scott’s major donation to Black cultural preservation, the viral $5.5K “alpha male” bootcamp that’s more parody than power, and Mike Vrabel’s viral feminist gesture during NFL press conferences. Later, in the Mailbag, they respond to a listener question about why some men deliberately retraumatize their partners in relationships. 🎧 This episode exposes the traits of emotional vampires and gives you the garlic, mirror, and wooden stake to protect your peace. 🎙️ Topics Discussed: How to recognize emotional vampires in relationships and friendships Narcissists, drama magnets, and energy drainers How emotional exhaustion affects women’s mental health The power of boundaries and emotional detachment Why centering yourself is the ultimate act of self-preservation Signs of covert manipulation and how to protect your energy ✨ Links and Resources Mentioned: SKIMS Is Selling ‘Full Bush’ Underwear https://people.com/kim-kardashian-addresses-attention-around-new-skims-full-bush-faux-pubic-hair-underwear-11832419 MacKenzie Scott Triples Down on DEI With $40 Million Donation https://fortune.com/2025/10/15/billionaire-mackenzie-scott-dei-40-million-donation-african-american-cultural-heritage-fund/ $5.5K Bootcamp to Turn ‘Soft Men’ Into ‘Alpha Males’ Goes Viral https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-15191027/David-Cohodes-5500-alpha-male-bootcamp.html Mike Vrabel Explains Why He Gives Female Reporters the First Question https://awfulannouncing.com/nfl/mike-vrabel-explains-first-question-press-conferences-female.html Millions Attend ‘No Kings’ Protests Across the U.S. https://time.com/7326801/no-kings-protests-near-me-trump/ 📚 This Week’s Recommendation: Vampire in Brooklyn https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0114825/ 💌 Join the Conversation: Got questions or wild stories to share? Email us at https://www.patreon.com/audacitea ▶️ Subscribe & Watch Full Episodes on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@theaudaci-teapodcast Join our YouTube Membership for the Crumpets segment – a completely unhinged and uncensored bonus segment of the show! 📱 Follow Us Online: TikTok – https://www.tiktok.com/@the_audacitea0 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/the_audacitea_podcast Spotify – https://open.spotify.com/show/1qfGGpJ0aS626IGBGwLtdU Apple Podcasts – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-audaci-tea/id1779370788 🕰️ Episode Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Tea Time! 04:20 Skims “Full Bush” Underwear 11:18 Mackenzie Scott’s Philanthropy 15:00 Alpha Male Bootcamp: A Comedy of Errors 22:43 Mike Vrabel’s Microfeminism 25:57 No Kings Protest 29:54 What Are Emotional Vampires? 31:15 Types of Emotional Vampires 49:40 Setting Boundaries in Friendships 01:12:27 Recognizing and Avoiding Emotional Vampires 01:15:53 Mailbag: Men Intentionally Re-Traumatizing You?? 01:32:46 Poll Results: The Performance of Masculinity 🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr and The Sovereign Woman. Music, audio production, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound. 📩 For advertising, business, or general inquiries: [email protected] 💡 Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of Siren Sound or its affiliates. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, hosts Lisa and Sovereign unpack the “Cool Girl” archetype; the effortless, chill, low-maintenance woman who always puts men’s comfort first. They explore how this myth was built to serve patriarchy, how it pressures women to suppress their emotions and identity, and why rejecting it is a radical act of self-love. But first, in Tea Time, the hosts discuss Ayesha Curry’s viral comments about not wanting marriage or kids, the Texas State Fair backlash over price gouging, and a man who went viral for buying a life-size Henry Cavill doll. Later, in Tea or Trash, they debate the ethics of cosmetic surgery and authenticity in the age of performative empowerment.   🎧 This episode dives into the Cool Girl archetype — how patriarchy rewards female self-erasure, how women perform to earn male approval, and why true empowerment begins with authenticity.   🎙️ Topics Discussed: The origins and cultural impact of the Cool Girl archetype How patriarchy teaches women to perform for the male gaze Ayesha Curry and public discourse on marriage, motherhood, and autonomy Authenticity vs. the “low-maintenance” performance Why women’s self-worth must exist beyond male validation The intersection of feminism, beauty culture, and self-acceptance   ✨ Links and Resources Mentioned: Ayesha Curry Says She Didn’t Want To Get Married Or Have Kids https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/celebrity/articles/stephen-curry-supports-ayesha-amid-145811878.html Viral Social Media Posts Spark Debate Over State Fair of Texas Attendance and Costs https://www.wfaa.com/article/news/local/state-fair/viral-posts-spark-debate-over-state-fair-of-texas-attendance-costs/287-4994d76c-ddb1-45af-9f93-61ebab6ec5e0 Man Buys Anatomically Correct Henry Cavill Doll https://www.queerty.com/man-buys-a-life-size-silicone-anatomically-correct-henry-cavill-doll-immediately-goes-viral-20251008/   📚 This Week’s Recommendation: When Did You Realize That Being the “Cool Girlfriend” Was a Load of Sh*t? https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/127umam/when_did_you_realize_that_being_the_cool/?share_id=y5PhlxBUsXiMss2yaLSNy&utm_content=2&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_source=share&utm_term=1   💌 Join the Conversation: Got questions or wild stories to share? Email us at [email protected] with “The Audaci-Tea” in the subject line. Your message might be featured in a future episode.   ☕✨ Support the Show: Join our Patreon community! Sign up for free, or become a Tea VIP for exclusive perks like: Bonus Crumpets segment – completely unhinged and uncensored Early access to episodes Voice memo mailbag access Ad-free listening A private feminist community 👉 https://www.patreon.com/audacitea   ▶️ Subscribe & Watch Full Episodes on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@theaudaci-teapodcast Join our YouTube Membership for the Crumpets segment – a completely unhinged and uncensored bonus segment of the show!   📱 Follow Us Online: TikTok – https://www.tiktok.com/@the_audacitea0 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/the_audacitea_podcast   🕰️ Episode Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Tea Time! 05:46 Ayesha Curry “Didn’t Want Marriage Or Kids” 13:55 Texas State Fair: Price Gouging and Public Reactions 18:40 Man Buys Anatomically Correct Henry Cavill Doll 25:38 Understanding the “Cool Girl” 33:06 The Dynamics of Female Competition 38:36 The Performance of Being a Cool Girl 43:52 The Exhaustion of Cool Girl Expectations 49:43 Authenticity in Relationships 50:50 The Cool Girl vs. Trad Wife Dichotomy 56:30 The Consequences of Being a Cool Girl 01:06:09 Recognizing Your Worth 01:11:30 Empowerment Through Self-Love and Healing 01:14:38 Tea or Trash: Cosmetic Surgery 01:29:58 Tea or Trash: Feminism in Advertising 01:32:38 Poll Results: Surplus Men   🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr and The Sovereign Woman. Music, audio production, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound.   📩 For advertising, business, or general inquiries: [email protected]   💡 Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of Siren Sound or its affiliates. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, hosts Lisa and Sovereign welcome back special guest The Public Offender to unpack what it really means to perform masculinity, and how this performance shapes men’s behavior, women’s safety, and the structure of society itself. Together, they explore how cultural scripts of “manhood” are reinforced by patriarchy, peer pressure, and media, and how redefining masculinity could free everyone from toxic expectations. But first, in Tea Time, the hosts cover Trump’s attempt at a military takeover of Portland, Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban’s divorce, Janae’s viral diss track aimed at Nicki Minaj, a listener comment asking whether decentering men actually centers them, and a Tea VIP voicemail seeking advice about her son’s father. Later, in the Mailbag segment, they tackle a listener question about handling a brother-in-law’s inappropriate text messages.   🎧 This episode pulls back the curtain on the performance of masculinity — how men perform toughness for other men, the social cost of emotional repression, and how redefining manhood benefits everyone.   🎙️ Topics Discussed: The cultural performance of masculinity and its social consequences Male identity, emotional repression, and societal expectations Patriarchy’s influence on relationships and gender dynamics How peer groups reinforce toxic masculine norms Feminism, empathy, and the path to redefining manhood Navigating harassment, boundaries, and accountability   ✨ Links and Resources Mentioned: Trump Slams Federal Judge, Whom He Appointed, for Blocking National Guard Deployment in Portland https://tinyurl.com/mvw3p7vh Keith Urban’s ‘Cocaine Clause’ Set to Land Him Millions as Nicole Kidman Files for Divorce https://www.standard.co.uk/showbiz/keith-urban-cocaine-clause-prenup-nicole-kidman-divorce-b1250581.html Janae Releases Nicki Minaj Diss Track https://www.tiktok.com/@janae.alea/video/7557571706492161310   📚 This Week’s Recommendation: The Performance of Masculinity: Beyond Postures and Gestures https://davidnjohnson.com/men/the-performance-of-masculinity-beyond-postures-and-gestures/ Follow The Public Offender https://linktr.ee/publicoffender   💌 Join the Conversation: Got questions or wild stories to share? Email us at [email protected] with “The Audaci-Tea” in the subject line. Your message might be featured in a future episode.   ☕✨ Support the Show: Join our Patreon community! Sign up for free, or become a Tea VIP for exclusive perks like: Bonus “Crumpets” segment – completely unhinged and uncensored Early access to episodes Voice memo mailbag access Ad-free listening A private feminist community 👉 https://www.patreon.com/audacitea   ▶️ Subscribe & Watch Full Episodes on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@theaudaci-teapodcast Join our YouTube Membership for the Crumpets segment – a completely unhinged and uncensored bonus segment of the show!   📱 Follow Us Online: TikTok – https://www.tiktok.com/@the_audacitea0 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/the_audacitea_podcast   🕰️ Episode Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Tea Time! 03:15 Trump Attempts Portland Military Takeover 05:55 Nicole Kidman & Keith Urban Divorce 11:50 Janae Releases Nicki Minaj Diss Track 12:28 Is It Impossible To Decenter Men? 18:56 Tea VIP Voicemail: Anger Towards Men 26:07 Welcome Back, The Public Offender! 31:03 Race, Class, And Masculinity 36:14 Scripts of Manhood and Societal Expectations 41:18 Men Hate Femininity 52:21 The Influence of Male Peer Groups 01:03:05 The Patriarchy's Grip on Society 01:13:24 Cultural Differences in Women's Solidarity 01:21:56 Escaping the Patriarchy 01:33:44 Mailbag: Sexual Harassment From Brother-In-Law 01:50:00 Poll Results: Decoding 'Manspeak'   🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr and The Sovereign Woman. Music, audio production, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound.   📩 For advertising, business, or general inquiries, email [email protected]   💡 Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of Siren Sound or its affiliates. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

What happens when a society has more men than women who want to partner with them? In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, hosts Lisa and Sovereign unpack the concept of “surplus men” — those left out of relationships, social life, and purpose. They explore how this imbalance impacts dating, marriage, politics, and even global stability. From radicalization to authoritarianism, the hosts reveal why surplus men pose one of the most overlooked social challenges of our time. But first, in Tea Time, they cover Alex Jones and Nick Fuentes being banned from YouTube (again), a shocking mass catcalling event in Spain, Suffolk County’s “Top 10 Deadbeat Dads” list, and a listener comment on why women stay in relationships with men. Later, they break down a Reddit case study of a husband controlling his wife through finances.   🎧 This episode digs into the ripple effects of male loneliness, societal unrest, and why women’s independence is changing the dating landscape worldwide.   🎙️ Topics Discussed: The global rise of “surplus men” and why it matters Male loneliness, violence, and radicalization How skewed sex ratios shape politics and stability Why marriage has historically “pacified” men Finding purpose outside relationships with women Financial control and power dynamics in modern marriages   ✨ Links and Resources Mentioned: Alex Jones and Nick Fuentes Taken Off YouTube Again https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/us-politics/alex-jones-nick-fuentes-youtube-ban-covid-b2833859.html Spanish Students Stage Mass Catcalling Event https://www.stuff.co.nz/world/300709146/spanish-students-stage-mass-expletiveridden-catcalling-event Top 10 Deadbeat Dads in Suffolk County https://www.yahoo.com/news/10-worst-deadbeat-dads-suffolk-234139974.html A Surplus Of Men, A Deficit Of Peace https://kar.kent.ac.uk/11430/1/surplus_men_IS_article.pdf Women Continue To Outpace Men In College Enrollment and Graduation https://www.forbes.com/sites/michaeltnietzel/2024/08/07/women-continue-to-outpace-men-in-college-enrollment-and-graduation/   📚 This Week’s Recommendation: Everything Is Tuberculosis by John Green https://www.amazon.com/Everything-Tuberculosis-Persistence-Deadliest-Infection/dp/0525556575 Lisa’s blog on Surplus Men: https://www.patreon.com/posts/reading-tea-blog-140381730 💌 Join the Conversation: Got questions or wild stories to share? Email us at [email protected] with “The Audaci-Tea” in the subject line. Your message might be featured in a future episode.   ☕✨ Support the Show: Join our Patreon community! Sign up for free, or become a Tea VIP for exclusive perks like: Bonus “Crumpets” segment – completely unhinged and uncensored Early access to episodes Voice memo mailbag access Ad-free listening A private feminist community 👉 https://www.patreon.com/audacitea   ▶️ Subscribe & Watch Full Episodes on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@theaudaci-teapodcast Join our YouTube Membership for the Crumpets segment – a completely unhinged and uncensored bonus segment of the show!   📱 Follow Us Online: TikTok – https://www.tiktok.com/@the_audacitea0 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/the_audacitea_podcast   🕰️ Episode Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Tea Time! 04:05 Alex Jones & Nick Fuentes Banned From YouTube Again 07:40 Mass Catcalling Event in Spain 14:55 Top 10 Deadbeat Dads 18:35 Can You Decenter Men While In A Relationship? 28:15 Surplus Men: Understanding the Crisis 39:02 The Reality of Surplus Men 49:48 Political Implications of Surplus Males 58:10 Why Are There Surplus Men? 01:06:15 Evolution and Identity Crisis in Men 01:11:12 How To Not Be A Surplus Man 01:18:17 This You? Husband Withholds Finances 01:35:24 Poll Results: Why Women Lose Themselves In Relationships   🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr and The Sovereign Woman. Music, audio production, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound.   📩 For advertising, business, or general inquiries, email [email protected]   💡 Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of Siren Sound or its affiliates. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

Have you ever heard a man drop some bizarre terminology when talking about women? Words that sound more like a conspiracy than a conversation? In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, your hosts Lisa and Sovereign break down the language of the “Red Pill” and decode the toxic phrases that reveal insecurity, misogyny, and control. They unpack where this manspeak comes from, why it’s dangerous, and how women can recognize the red flags early. But first, in Tea Time, they get into Jimmy Kimmel’s cancellation controversy, Cardi B’s pregnancy announcement, and the latest rapture conspiracy making the rounds online. Later, in Mailbag, they answer a listener’s question: can men and women really be just friends if attraction is in the mix?   🎧 This episode is all about recognizing the hidden meanings in Red Pill language, reclaiming confidence in conversations with men, and raising sons who reject misogynistic scripts.   🎙️ Topics Discussed: What “Red Pill” terminology really means Misogyny hidden in everyday language How to respond to manspeak and red flag phrases Emotional intelligence as a tool for raising better sons Why women should center their own goals and independence   ✨ Links and Resources Mentioned: Jimmy Kimmel Returns To Air https://www.npr.org/2025/09/24/nx-s1-5551277/jimmy-kimmel-live-abc-back-on-air-glen-powell-fcc-trump Cardi B Is Pregnant https://www.vogue.com/article/cardi-b-is-pregnant-stefon-diggs The Rapture Is Coming? https://www.iflscience.com/how-is-the-world-is-going-to-end-tomorrow-according-to-conspiracy-theorists-80898 A Third of Male University Students Say They Would Rape a Woman if There Were No Consequences https://www.the-independent.com/news/world/americas/a-third-of-male-university-students-say-they-would-rape-a-woman-if-there-no-were-no-consequences-9978052.html   📚 This Week’s Recommendation: Read Lisa's Blog On Decoding Manspeak https://www.patreon.com/posts/reading-tea-blog-139748719 Reverse Red-Pill Your Sons In Advance https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTMdvDXQ8/ Adolescence https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTMdvDXQ8/ The Will To Change by Bell Hooks https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-will-to-change-bell-hooks/1100306349   💌 Join the Conversation: Got questions or wild stories to share? Email us at [email protected] with “The Audaci-Tea” in the subject line. Your message might be featured in a future episode.   ☕✨ Support the Show: Join our Patreon community! Sign up for free, or become a Tea VIP for exclusive perks like: Bonus “Crumpets” segment – completely unhinged and uncensored Early access to episodes Voice memo mailbag access Ad-free listening A private feminist community 👉 https://www.patreon.com/audacitea   ▶️ Subscribe & Watch Full Episodes on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@theaudaci-teapodcast Join our YouTube Membership for the Crumpets segment – a completely unhinged and uncensored bonus segment of the show!   📱 Follow Us Online: TikTok – https://www.tiktok.com/@the_audacitea0 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/the_audacitea_podcast   🕰️ Episode Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Tea Time! 02:44 Jimmy Kimmel and Cancel Culture 08:17 Cardi B’s New Album and Personal Life 13:12 Rapture Tok and Religious Psychosis 22:42 Intro To Red Pill Terminology 31:07 Debunking Misconceptions About Masculinity 38:50 Dehumanization and Misogyny in Language 50:02 Emotional Intelligence and Logic 01:12:54 Raising Emotionally Intelligent Boys 01:18:24 Mailbag: Can Men and Women Be Platonic Friends? 01:40:14 Poll Results: Being Hot & Having Fun   🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr and The Sovereign Woman. Music, audio production, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound.   📩 For advertising, business, or general inquiries, email [email protected]   💡 Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of Siren Sound or its affiliates. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

Have you ever felt like you're losing a piece of yourself in a relationship? Like the 'you' before your partner slowly fades away? In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, your hosts Lisa and Sovereign are diving deep into why so many women find themselves in this exact situation, exploring the subtle shifts and societal pressures that lead to a diminished sense of self when partnered. But first, in Tea Time, they discuss the latest NBC poll revealing Gen Z’s gender divide on what success means, Epstein’s infamous birthday book, and the heartbreaking story of an elderly man scammed by Meta’s flirty AI chatbot. Later, the hosts debut a brand new game called Therapy or the Void, putting characters of Sex and the City to the ultimate test.   🎧 This episode is all about recognizing the patterns that erase women’s individuality and finding the tools to prioritize independence, self-worth, and authenticity in relationships.   🎙️ Topics Discussed: Why women minimize themselves to fit societal expectations Sacrificing dreams and identity for partners Media’s role in romanticizing unhealthy relationships Gen Z’s gender divide on defining success How women can reclaim independence and self-worth   ✨ Links and Resources Mentioned: NBC Poll: Gender Divide Among Gen Z on Defined Success https://www.nbcnews.com/video/shorts/nbc-poll-finds-big-gender-divide-among-gen-z-247116357733 Epstein’s Birthday Book https://www.pbs.org/newshour/nation/see-epsteins-full-birthday-book-with-alleged-personal-messages-from-trump-clinton-and-others Meta’s Flirty AI Chatbot Invited a Retiree to New York. He Never Made It Home https://www.reuters.com/investigates/special-report/meta-ai-chatbot-death/   📚 This Week’s Recommendation: Stop Waiting For Your Hypothetical Husband https://youtu.be/6CiOm04JNVc?si=J55QZuGauIuIB0Ns Untamed by Glennon Doyle https://www.amazon.com/Untamed-Glennon-Doyle-Melton/dp/1984801252 Women Who Run With The Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés https://tinyurl.com/3ncrc22k Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes https://www.mahoganybooks.com/9781476777092?searchid=0&search_query=The+year+of+yes   💌 Join the Conversation: Got questions or wild stories to share? Email us at [email protected] with “The Audaci-Tea” in the subject line. Your message might be featured in a future episode.   ☕✨ Support the Show: Join our Patreon community! Sign up for free, or become a Tea VIP for exclusive perks like: Bonus “Crumpets” segment – completely unhinged and uncensored Early access to episodes Voice memo mailbag access Ad-free listening A private feminist community 👉 https://www.patreon.com/audacitea   ▶️ Subscribe & Watch Full Episodes on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@theaudaci-teapodcast   📱 Follow Us Online: TikTok – https://www.tiktok.com/@the_audacitea0 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/the_audacitea_podcast   🕰️ Episode Chapters 00:00 Welcome & Tea Time! 04:17 Gen Z Gender Divide on Success 11:33 Epstein’s Birthday Book 15:36 Elderly Man Dies Trying To Cheat With Chatbot 22:46 Why Women Lose Themselves in Relationships 31:10 Reframing Women's Roles and Personal Success 43:55 The Career-Driven Woman 48:00 Sacrificing for Others: The Patriarchal Script 54:49 The Impact of Gender Expectations 01:03:09 Living Life on Your Own Terms 01:10:11 Therapy Or The Void: Sex & The City 01:33:14 Poll Results: Passport Bros   🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr and The Sovereign Woman. Music, audio production, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound.   📩 For advertising, business, or general inquiries, email [email protected]   💡 Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of Siren Sound or its affiliates. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, your hosts Lisa, Sovereign, and Gwen are joined by special guest Amber Akilla! Amber is a DJ, online personality, and unapologetic advocate of living authentically. In this epsiode, Amber shares her philosophy of being hot and having fun, centering confidence, independence, and self-acceptance as tools for empowerment. But first, in Tea Time, the hosts break down Judge Judy’s advice that women should always have their own money, Ciara adding Russell Wilson’s last name to Future Jr, how men are currently ruining nightlife, and Druski’s viral NASCAR appearance. In Mailbag, they respond to a listener navigating men’s expectations of women in public conversations.   🎧 This episode is all about embracing joy, confidence, and authenticity, and how women can decenter the male gaze to build lives filled with fun, creativity, and power.   🎙️ Topics Discussed: Amber Akilla’s philosophy of being hot and having fun Why women should always keep financial independence Nightlife and how male behavior changes women’s experiences Exercise, movement, and dance as self-care beyond weight loss Decentering men and embracing authentic confidence Living authentically and learning from failure   ✨ Links and Resources Mentioned: Ciara Adds Russell Wilson’s Last Name to Son https://www.vibe.com/news/entertainment/ciara-added-wilson-to-son-futures-last-name-years-ago-1235106568/ Men Are Ruining Nightlife! https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT6nkywHc/ Druski Goes Viral https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/celebrity/articles/druski-faces-backlash-whiteface-nascar-183429728.html   📚 This Week’s Recommendation: FREE EBOOK: The Shopping List Your Mother Owes You by Mide Yussuff https://dunnmade.wordpress.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/the-list-your-mother-owes-you-by-mide-yussuff-1-flat-1.pdf   Beauty Fades, Dumb Is Forever: The Making of a Happy Woman by Judy Sheindlin https://a.co/d/caB4MIz   Follow Amber! @AmberAkilla everywhere   💌 Join the Conversation: Got questions or wild stories to share? Email us at [email protected] with “The Audaci-Tea” in the subject line. Your message might be featured in a future episode.   ☕✨ Support the Show: Join our Patreon community! Sign up for free, or become a Tea VIP for exclusive perks like: Bonus "Crumpets" segment – completely unhinged and uncensored Early access to episodes Voice memo mailbag access Ad-free listening A private feminist community 👉 https://www.patreon.com/audacitea   ▶️ Subscribe & Watch Full Episodes on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@theaudaci-teapodcast   📱 Follow Us Online: TikTok – https://www.tiktok.com/@the_audacitea0 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/the_audacitea_podcast   🕰️ Episode Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Tea Time! 03:09 Judge Judy’s Advice For Women 08:34 Ciara Changes Son’s Last Name 13:42 Men Are Ruining Nightlife! 22:26 Druski’s Whiteface at NASCAR 24:47 Welcome Amber Akilla! 27:30 Amber’s Journey and Philosophy 31:04 Defining Being Hot and Having Fun 41:30 Movement and Exercise as Self-Care 52:20 The Balance of Consumption and Contribution 01:00:59 Living Authentically: Advice for Young Women 01:10:16 Decentering Men, Self-Perception and Confidence 01:17:28 Embracing Failure and the Journey 01:24:54 Mailbag: Forced Politeness In Shared Spaces 01:36:30 Poll Results: The "Manosphere" Algorithms   🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr, The Sovereign Woman, and Gwen. Music, audio production, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound.   📩 For advertising, business, or general inquiries, email [email protected]   💡 Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of Siren Sound or its affiliates. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, your hosts Lisa, Sovereign, and Gwen expose the dark underbelly of the “Passport Bros” movement, where Western men travel abroad seeking relationships with women in countries that often have less gender equality and opportunity. From exploitation disguised as romance to the illusions of “traditional” femininity, the hosts unpack how patriarchy and colonial fantasies intersect in this disturbing trend. But first, in Tea Time, they celebrate Gwen turning 30, react to a Seaworld mime trolling husbands who won’t carry their wives’ bags, and debate a viral claim that women fought to go 50-50 in relationships. In Feminist Herstory, they spotlight Giulia Tofana, one of history’s most infamous poisoners, and what her story reveals about women’s fight for autonomy in oppressive systems.   🎧 This episode calls out how men flee accountability at home only to recreate cycles of exploitation abroad — and why feminism’s fight against gender inequality is global.   🎙️ Topics Discussed: Why “Passport Bros” exploit global power imbalances The link between sex tourism and gender inequality How men project insecurities and seek control in relationships Why financial independence is crucial for women everywhere Feminist Herstory: Giulia Tofana and resistance against patriarchy   ✨ Links and Resources Mentioned: Mime At Seaworld Keeps Shaming Husbands To Carry Their Baby’s and Backpacks Instead Of Their Wives https://www.instagram.com/reel/DNX9pHpgiGD/ Deadly trend of ‘Passport Bros’ lured by honeytraps and murdered for cash https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/30671055/deadly-passport-bros-traps-murdered-cash-drug-kill-men/ Đổi Mới https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Đổi_Mới ‘The White Lotus’ Is Reigniting The Conversation Around ‘Passport Bros’ https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a64387699/what-is-a-passport-bro/ Mail Order Brides https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mail-order_bride Cyntoia Brown Released After 15 Years In Prison For Murder https://www.npr.org/2019/08/07/749025458/cyntoia-brown-released-after-15-years-in-prison-for-murder Giulia Tofana https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Giulia_Tofana   📚 This Week’s Recommendation: Dr. Potter - Stand with a Surgeon Facing Retaliation https://www.gofundme.com/f/stand-with-a-surgeon-facing-retaliation The Passport Bros Subreddit https://www.reddit.com/r/thepassportbros/   💌 Join the Conversation: Got questions or wild stories to share? Email us at [email protected] with “The Audaci-Tea” in the subject line. Your message might be featured in a future episode.   ☕✨ Support the Show: Join our Patreon community! Sign up for free, or become a Tea VIP for exclusive perks like: Bonus "Crumpets" segment – completely unhinged and uncensored Early access to episodes Voice memo mailbag access Ad-free listening A private feminist community 👉 https://www.patreon.com/audacitea   ▶️ Subscribe & Watch Full Episodes on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@theaudaci-teapodcast   📱 Follow Us Online: TikTok – https://www.tiktok.com/@the_audacitea0 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/the_audacitea_podcast   🕰️ Episode Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Tea Time! 05:15 Gwen Turns 30! 14:04 Mime Trolls Dads at Seaworld 19:02 Should Feminists Go 50-50? 29:22 Passport Bros 43:04 Anything But Personal Responsibility 52:12 The Mail Order Bride Phenomenon 56:15 The Dark Side of Passport Bros 01:12:18 Feminist Herstory: Giulia Tofana 01:30:49 Poll Results: The Motherhood Trap   🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr, The Sovereign Woman, and Gwen. Music, audio production, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound.   📩 For advertising, business, or general inquiries, email [email protected]   💡 Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of Siren Sound or its affiliates. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, your hosts Lisa and Sovereign pull back the curtain on the “Manosphere”, the digital rabbit hole pulling young men into misogyny through algorithm driven feeds. From TikTok trends to YouTube pipelines, they explore how social media is shaping worldviews and fueling a growing crisis in how boys and men see women, relationships, and themselves. But first, in Tea Time, the hosts discuss viral clips about women in male dominated fields, Offset blaming his failed marriage on Cardi B not cooking, and Kevin Hart’s ill fated race against an ex NFL player that landed him in a wheelchair. In the Mailbag, they respond to a therapist telling her client that patriarchy “doesn’t exist anymore.”   🎧 This episode unpacks the algorithmic mechanics of radicalization, the rise of online misogyny, and what it means for the next generation.   🎙️ Topics Discussed: How social media algorithms funnel boys toward misogynistic content The manosphere’s impact on relationships and gender expectations The role of resilience and socialization in women’s survival strategies Radicalization of young men online versus women’s experiences of propaganda Why feminism is still seen as a threat, and how to respond to denial of patriarchy The importance of women maintaining financial and personal agency   ✨ Links and Resources Mentioned: Women In Men’s Fields by MichellesPublicDiary https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT6qtafTY/ The Internet Is Absolutely Roasting Offset For Blaming His Failed Marriage On Cardi B Not Cooking https://www.buzzfeed.com/mychalthompson/offset-cardi-b-not-cooking-lyrics-backlash Kevin Hart challenged an ex NFL player to a race, ended up tearing his lower abdomen and is in a wheel chair now https://www.aol.com/dumbest-man-alive-smith-dwayne-085306255.html The Dad Is Totally To Blame For The Half Marathon Mom “Ignoring” Her Kids https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/mom-ignores-kids-marathon-tiktok Social media algorithms ‘amplifying misogynistic content’ https://www.theguardian.com/media/2024/feb/06/social-media-algorithms-amplifying-misogynistic-content Girls are developmentally equivalent to boys who are 4 to 6 weeks younger in developmental terms https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC1119278/ We unleashed Facebook and Instagram’s algorithms on blank accounts. They served up sexism and misogyny https://www.theguardian.com/technology/article/2024/jul/21/we-unleashed-facebook-and-instagrams-algorithms-on-blank-accounts-they-served-up-sexism-and-misogyny How algorithms, alpha males and tradwives are winning the war for kids’ minds https://19thnews.org/2025/06/internet-culture-algorithms-alpha-males-tradwives/   📚 This Week’s Recommendation: 'It stains your brain': How social media algorithms show violence to boys https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c4gdqzxypdzo   💌 Join the Conversation: Got questions or wild stories to share? Email us at [email protected] with “The Audaci-Tea” in the subject line. Your message might be featured in a future episode.   ☕✨ Support the Show: Join our Patreon community! Sign up for free, or become a Tea VIP for exclusive perks like: Bonus "Crumpets" segment – completely unhinged and uncensored Early access to episodes Voice memo mailbag access Ad-free listening A private feminist community 👉 https://www.patreon.com/audacitea   ▶️ Subscribe & Watch Full Episodes on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@theaudaci-teapodcast   📱 Follow Us Online: TikTok – https://www.tiktok.com/@the_audacitea0 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/the_audacitea_podcast   🕰️ Episode Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Tea Time! 02:50 Women in Male-Dominated Fields 10:20 Offset Complains Cardi B Didn't Cook 21:31 Kevin Hart In Wheelchair After Race 32:25 The "Manosphere": Algorithmic Rabbit Holes For Young Men 38:39 The Intersection of Biology and Socialization 45:07 Ego Death and Resilience in Women 55:03 Radicalization and the Influence of Social Media 01:23:22 Mailbag Segment: Patriarchy Doesn't Exist? 01:39:12 Poll Results: The Rise Of Conservatism   🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr, The Sovereign Woman, and Gwen. Music, audio production, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound.   📩 For advertising, business, or general inquiries, email [email protected]   💡 Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of Siren Sound or its affiliates. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, your hosts Lisa, Sovereign, and Gwen  ask the question, "Is motherhood a choice, or is it a trap we're all expected to fall into?" For generations, society has pushed a narrative about women’s ultimate purpose. But what if that narrative isn’t just outdated, but actively harmful? This episode unpacks the uncomfortable truth about the “choice” to be a mother. But first, in Tea Time, the hosts discuss a new Chinese pregnancy robot expected to give birth by next year, how Medicaid cuts will impact the elderly, and Trump’s military takeover of Washington D.C. To close things out, they review the film Hidden Figures and dive into what was fact, what was fiction, and what Hollywood left out.   🎧 This episode explores how cultural expectations around motherhood shape women’s choices, identities, and freedoms.   🎙️ Topics Discussed: The pressure women face from family, culture, and media to become mothers The myth of the “biological clock” and baby fever Child-free women navigating stigma and judgment The propaganda of parenthood and glamorization of motherhood Eldest daughter syndrome and the hidden burdens of parentification Workplace and systemic challenges faced by mothers   ✨ Links and Resources Mentioned: Medicaid Cuts Will Devastate Nursing Home Residents https://medicareadvocacy.org/issue-brief-medicaid-cuts-will-devastate-nursing-home-residents/ Hospital Layoffs Escalate—Impact Spreads from Support Staff to Nurses https://nurse.org/news/hospital-nurse-layoffs-us-healthcare-trends/#:~:text=Hospitals%20and%20long%2Dterm%20care,changes%20in%20federal%20reimbursement%20rates. Marriage age in the United States https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_age_in_the_United_States Who Is Legally Responsible For Elderly Parents? Filial responsibility laws https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Filial_responsibility_laws Trump Takes Over Washington D.C. with National Guard https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cvgv1pmypdyo 20 officers came to arrest man charged with throwing sandwich at a police officer in DC https://www.cnn.com/2025/08/13/politics/man-sandwich-dc-felony-charged 'Pregnancy robot' that will give birth to live baby expected to be released next year https://www.ladbible.com/news/technology/china-artificial-womb-pregnancy-robot-702891-20250818 The Myth of the Biological Clock https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/a-marriage-of-equals/201906/the-myth-of-the-biological-clock The Flo period-tracking app sold user data to Meta and Google https://www.theverge.com/news/753469/meta-flo-period-tracker-lawsuit-verdict Federal Jury Convicts Former Reality Television Personality for Downloading and Possessing Child Sexual Abuse Material https://www.justice.gov/archives/opa/pr/federal-jury-convicts-former-reality-television-personality-downloading-and-possessing-child Eldest Daughter Syndrome: What It Is And 12 Signs To Look For, According To Experts https://tinyurl.com/nb9v3bj9 The Matilda Effect (Men Stealing Credit From Women’s Inventions and Accomplishments) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matilda_effect   📚 This Week’s Recommendation: Kelley Daring TikTok – https://www.tiktok.com/@kelleydaring Regretful Parents Reddit – https://www.reddit.com/r/regretfulparents/ Fence Sitter Reddit – https://www.reddit.com/r/Fencesitter/   💌 Join the Conversation: Got questions or wild stories to share? Email us at [email protected] with “The Audaci-Tea” in the subject line. Your message might be featured in a future episode.   ☕✨ Support the Show: Join our Patreon community! Sign up for free, or become a Tea VIP for exclusive perks like: Early access to episodes Voice memo mailbag access Ad-free listening Bonus video segments and behind-the-scenes blogs A private feminist community 👉 https://www.patreon.com/audacitea   ▶️ Subscribe & Watch Full Episodes on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@theaudaci-teapodcast   📱 Follow Us Online: TikTok – https://www.tiktok.com/@the_audacitea0 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/the_audacitea_podcast   🕰️ Episode Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Tea Time! 02:20 Medicare Cuts and Their Impact 08:27 DC Takeover and Political Tensions 13:47 Pregnancy Robots 23:29 Baby Propaganda 29:10 Debunking Baby Fever and Biological Clocks 31:47 Religious and Political Influences on Motherhood 34:57 The Mommy Algorithm On Social Media 43:20 The Myths of Motherhood and Personal Fulfillment 57:59 The Struggles of Regretful Parents 01:04:55 The Propaganda of Parenthood 01:14:01 Eldest Daughter Syndrome and Parentification 01:18:20 Concerns About Population and Resources 01:21:07 Film Review: Hidden Figures 01:37:15 Poll Results: Men's Mental Health Crisis?   🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr, The Sovereign Woman, and Gwen. Music, audio production, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound.   📩 For advertising, business, or general inquiries, email [email protected]   💡 Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of Siren Sound or its affiliates. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.