EP 156: Rough Patch Or The Wrong Relationship?

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 2:23 Normal relationship rough patch or is this not the right relationship for you? 2:50 Every relationship has rough patches  5:00 Healthy relationships can still be frustrating  5:20 What happens when things are difficult? 6:00 7 Signs you're in a rough patch 11:00 7 Signs you're in the wrong relationship 18:10 Questions to help you decide  22:00 Get specific in what isn't working and what you want 24:00 How I can help you       One-on-One 8 Week Coaching: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/get-over-your-ex-8-week-program Connection Call: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall Website: www.shiftyourstory.net

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 2:00 Stop trying to force yourself to not think about your ex 03:45 There is a difference between thinking about your ex and ruminating about them 05:00 Stop searching for new information 06:40 Think about them at a specific time & place 08:15 Get specific about what you are missing  11:00 Get curious about what you are missing so that you can solve for it 12:50 Give yourself new things to attach to 13:45 Don't get fixated on healing  17:00 Don't make your thoughts mean so much  18:28 Schedule a connection call with me    One-on-One 8 Week Coaching: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/get-over-your-ex-8-week-program Connection Call: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall Website: www.shiftyourstory.net

Timestamps 00:00 Intro 03:00 How lonliness shows up in relationships  06:30 What can we do when we feel lonely in our relationship 08:30 "I feel like I shouldn't have to ask" 10:00 Should I end the relationship? 11:24 Closing thoughts 12:00 How you can work with me  One-on-One 8 Week Coaching: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/get-over-your-ex-8-week-program Connection Call: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall Website: www.shiftyourstory.net

Timestamps 00:00 Intro 01:45 What are boundaries? 04:50 Your boundaries don't have to be watered down or pallatable  06:00 The fear (and power) of direct communication 07:00 Boundaries are not tests  08:00 What if they don't like my boundary? 11:15 Boundaries vs. Expectations vs. Standards 12:20 Boundaries are not a get out of jail free card  14:30 Boundaries are part of healthy relationships 15:20 Boundaries improve connection  15:50 What do you do if someone crosses your boundary? 18:00 Boundaries are not a punishment  20:00 You decide how you respond when someone crosses a boundary 22:00 Ways you can work with me 23:00 Outro   One-on-One 8 Week Coaching: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/get-over-your-ex-8-week-program Connection Call: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall Website: www.shiftyourstory.net

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  00:30 It's not about going back to who you were. It's about building something new. 01:30 You are always changing 2:30 What does it look like to meet who you are now? 04:00 Where did you make yourself smaller? 5:00 Confidence comes from action 8:00 Where are there opportunities to do more of what you love? 11:30 Find areas of your life you can grow in  13:00 External change vs. Internal change  15:00 You don't need to change everything 16:30 Ways you can work with me       One-on-One 8 Week Coaching: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/get-over-your-ex-8-week-program Connection Call: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall Website: www.shiftyourstory.net

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:00 Sometimes you're not grieving your ex, but your shared social life  03:40 It is harder making friends as an adult  05:00 Become a regular somewhere  06:00 Make the first move  08:00 Diversify friendship needs 09:15 Who can you go deeper with? 10:00 What do you want your social life to look like? 10:50 30 Day friendship challenge 12:00 Questions to journal on 13:30 Did something help you make friends? Share with me! 14:30 Outro   One-on-One 8 Week Coaching: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/get-over-your-ex-8-week-program Connection Call: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall Website: www.shiftyourstory.net

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:00 Humans hate unfinished stories  03:00 You're never going to get inside your ex's head  04:20 "If I understand, I'll feel better" 04:50 Closure is not getting an explanation 06:50 Ask yourself questions that will move you forward  08:30 It's easy to spiral in the what ifs 10:40 Don't get lost in the imaginary  11:20 You can't make sense of your real life from your imaginary scenarios  12:00 You have to grieve the relationship that existed  13:00 Missing your ex doesn't mean you should still be with them  13:15 You may never get the apology you're looking for  14:50 Their lack of accountability does not disqualify your experience 15:30 Closure practice 17:20 Closure doesn't mean you approve of what happened  18:00 Closure comes from acceptance  19:00 How to schedule a connection call 19:50 Outro One-on-One 8 Week Coaching: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/get-over-your-ex-8-week-program Connection Call: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall Website: www.shiftyourstory.net

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  00:45 My own dating anxiety 02:20 The goal isn't to never have anxiety, it's this... 02:57 Seperate what you know from what you're assuming 04:30 What is the story you're telling yourself? 05:30 Their feelings are not yours to manage 09:30 Is there actually something for you to do here? 10:30 Not all tension in dating is bad! 11:00 Slow down- you don't need to have it all figured out 11:50 You don't need to know what every moment means 13:00 Build a life that doesn't require dating going well  14:00 How much emotional power are you giving to another person? 16:20 Recap  Outro One-on-One 8 Week Coaching: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/get-over-your-ex-8-week-program Connection Call: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall Website: www.shiftyourstory.net

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  02:00 Chemistry vs. compatiblity  03:00 Chemistry can tell you who you are attracted to- but not if you should build a life with them 04:20 Sign #1 You want the same kind of life  05:45 Sign #2 You feel emotionally safe  06:50 Sign #3 They are consistent  07:35 Sign #4 You can handle conflict  08:55 Sign #5 You like who you are around them 09:35 Sign #6 The effort is mutual  10:30 Sign #7 You don't have to convince yourself  12:40 Recap of 7 signs  14:30 Please leave a review or 5 stars! 15:20 Schedule a connection call with me    One-on-One 8 Week Coaching: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/get-over-your-ex-8-week-program Connection Call: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall Website: www.shiftyourstory.net

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:30 Why it is more challenging to form relationships now  04:00 Feeling lonely and isolated in relationships  05:00 Inconvenience vs. incompatibility  07:30 Relationships require us to put in effort  08:30 Give to give, recieve to recieve  09:45 Relationships are inherintely inconvenient - but that doesn't make the unecessary  10:15 If they wanted to- they would 14:25 Community as we get older 16:00 Questions to help you determine if this is an inconvenience or incompatibility 16:30 Is this inconvenience temporary or permanent? 17:00 Are both parties putting in the effort? 17:30 Are you reaping the rewards of this relationship? 18:05 Does this comprimise your values or your preferences? 18:50 Would you make this adjustment for someone you love? 19:30 Sometimes the right person requires us to figure things out 20:15 Is this someone you want to make room for? 22:00 Outro   One-on-One 8 Week Coaching: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/get-over-your-ex-8-week-program Connection Call: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall Website: www.shiftyourstory.net