Why You Don’t Ask for What You Want During Sex—And How to Start

57 | "I Love Sex, and I’m Tired of Feeling Ashamed": One Latina’s Journey to Sexual FreedomEpisode Summary:Respect your elders. Stay quiet. Don't ask for too much.Sound familiar?In this episode, I sit down with Yesenia to call out the cultural guilt that's been keeping us silent in and out of the bedroom — and show you what it actually looks like to reclaim your pleasure sin vergüenza.What You'll Learn:How "respeta" culture kills your voice in bedWhy guilt and exhaustion block your desireHow to stop overthinking during sexWhy planning sex makes it hotter — not boringCelebrate my Golden Birthday with me: https://sexinspanglish.hbportal.co/public/67f2e9843d210000258ccdadResources & Links:Come get coached on the podcast!Book your Sales Call (formerly known as the Quicky Call) hereSubscribe to receive Golosa Gossip - A weekly email series empowering mujeres to get in touch with their bodies, own their pleasure and where we discuss all the cochinadas our abuelas didn’t tell us about.How to Write Sex Scenes Without Boring Your ReadersLet's Connect:Share this episode with your amiga, una vecina, and una cochina who needs to hear it! And, be sure to rate and review to get this show to more listeners that want to enjoy sex sin vergüenzaFollow me on Instagram ⁠@sexinspanglish⁠ for more tips, stories, and inspiration on owning your pleasure and boosting your sexual confidence.Got thoughts or questions? Submit your question to the⁠anonymous question box⁠! Your questions might even end up answered on the podcast - anonymously of course!

56 | [Re-Release] A Mí No Me Pides Nada: How It Still Shows Up (And What I Do Now)Summary:In this re-release of one of our most listened-to episodes, I revisit A Mí No Me Pides Nada. I share how this dicho still rears its ugly head and how I handle it years later.From staying quiet during painful pelvic floor therapy to letting $40 charges slide, this episode is all about how this cultural messaging still sneaks into our everyday decisions—and what it looks like to actually do something about it.Whether you’ve heard it before or are brand new to this convo, this episode is a must listen.What You’ll Learn:How the dicho “A Mí No Me Pides Nada” shows up long after childhoodWhat it looks like to ask without follow-through (and why that matters)The connection between cultural messaging and people-pleasingReal-time tools to help you stop abandoning yourself in the momentCelebrate my Golden Birthday with me: ⁠https://sexinspanglish.hbportal.co/public/67f2e9843d210000258ccdad⁠Resources & Links:Book your Sales Call (formerly known as the Quicky Call) ⁠here⁠⁠Subscribe to receive Golosa Gossip⁠ - A weekly email series empowering mujeres to get in touch with their bodies, own their pleasure and where we discuss all the cochinadas our abuelas didn’t tell us about.⁠How to Write Sex Scenes Without Boring Your Readers⁠ Let's Connect:Share this episode with una amiga, una vecina, and una cochina who needs to hear it! And, be sure to rate and review to get this show to more listeners that want to enjoy sex sin vergüenzaFollow me on Instagram⁠ ⁠@sexinspanglish⁠⁠ for more tips, stories, and inspiration on owning your pleasure and boosting your sexual confidence.Got thoughts or questions? Submit your question to the⁠ ⁠anonymous question box⁠⁠! Your questions might even end up answered on the podcast - anonymously of course!

55 | Why You Don’t Ask for What You Want During Sex—And How to StartIf asking for what you want in bed feels awkward even with a supportive partner, you’re not alone. In this episode, I break down exactly why it feels so awkward. Hint: it has to do with dichos like “A mí no me pidas nada” and “Just don’t get pregnant.”I’m reading from my free ebook Just Don’t Get Pregnant and Other Dichos, sharing TikTok comments that share experiences from women just like you, and giving you coaching tools to start shifting the way you show up - in and out of the bedroom.What You'll Learn:How childhood dichos shaped your relationship with giving and receiving - in and out of the bedroomWhy you feel weird/awkward asking for what you want and asking for helpSimple mindset shifts to help you feel more comfortable asking for what you wantThe one question to ask yourself that starts to break generational shame for goodCome Celebrate My Golden Birthday With Me: https://sexinspanglish.hbportal.co/public/67f2e9843d210000258ccdadResources & Links:Just Don't Get Pregnant & Other Dichos: subscribepage.io/LatinaGuideBook your Sales Call (formerly known as the Quicky Call) hereSubscribe to receive Golosa Gossip - A weekly email series empowering mujeres to get in touch with their bodies, own their pleasure and where we discuss all the cochinadas our abuelas didn’t tell us about.How to Write Sex Scenes Without Boring Your Readers Let's Connect:Share this episode with your amiga, una vecina, and una cochina who needs to hear it! And, be sure to rate and review to get this show to more listeners that want to enjoy sex sin vergüenzaFollow me on Instagram ⁠@sexinspanglish⁠ for more tips, stories, and inspiration on owning your pleasure and boosting your sexual confidence.Got thoughts or questions? Submit your question to the ⁠anonymous question box⁠! Your questions might even end up answered on the podcast - anonymously of course!

54 | Why Sex Should Never Be Painful: Causes & Solutions You Need to KnowSex should never be painful—period. In this episode, I break down the most common causes of painful sex and how to solve for it. Whether it’s pelvic floor tension, vaginal dryness, trauma, or hormonal changes, we’re getting to the root of what’s going on and what you can do about it.PLUS: I’m sharing all the juicy details of my Golden Birthday Special—including 5 private calls, a 90-minute orgasm technique intensive, and lifetime access to Operation Orgasm, all for just $555.What You'll Learn:Why painful sex is never “just part of the deal”What your body is really trying to tell you through painHow pelvic floor tension affects your sex life—and how to release itWhy Kegels might actually be making things worseHow to know if your vaginal dryness is hormonal, emotional, or hydration-relatedWhen to see a pelvic floor therapist (and how to make it affordable)How trauma shows up in the bedroom—and what kind of support actually helpsWhy hydration, arousal, and lube are your bestiesCelebrate my Golden Birthday with Me: https://sexinspanglish.hbportal.co/public/67f2e9843d210000258ccdadResources & Links:Book your Sales Call (formerly known as the Quicky Call) hereSubscribe to receive Golosa Gossip - A weekly email series empowering mujeres to get in touch with their bodies, own their pleasure and where we discuss all the cochinadas our abuelas didn’t tell us about.How to Write Sex Scenes Without Boring Your Readers Let’s Connect:Share this episode with your amiga, una vecina, and una cochina who needs to hear it! And, be sure to rate and review to get this show to more listeners that want to enjoy sex sin vergüenzaFollow me on Instagram ⁠@sexinspanglish⁠ for more tips, stories, and inspiration on owning your pleasure and boosting your sexual confidence.Got thoughts or questions? Submit your question to the ⁠anonymous question box⁠! Your questions might even end up answered on the podcast - anonymously of course!

53 | Vulva Hygiene & Vaginal Maintenance Pt. 2: What You’re Putting On Your Body MattersEpisode Summary:In this second part of the vulva hygiene and vaginal maintenance series, we’re diving into what you’re putting on your body—and how it impacts your vulva and vaginal health.From leggings and panties to lotions and laundry detergent, I’m breaking down the everyday things that could be throwing off your balance. If you’ve ever dealt with BV, yeast infections, irritation, or just wanna take better care of your body, this episode has everything you need to know.What You’ll Learn:Why tight-ass leggings and non-breathable fabrics might be messing with your pHWhat to look for in panties, swimsuits, and PJs so your vulva can actually breatheWhy 100% cotton matters How your laundry detergent might be contributing to BV, yeast infections, or irritationWhere you shouldn’t be putting scented lotions, oils, or creams—even if they smell bombHow to wash and dry your vulva in a way that actually supports your healthWhy reusing the same towel isn’t the best idea (especially if you're prone to infections)My favorite affordable vulva-safe brands Resources & Links:Book your Sales Call (formerly known as the Quicky Call) hereSubscribe to receive Golosa Gossip - A weekly email series empowering mujeres to get in touch with their bodies, own their pleasure and where we discuss all the cochinadas our abuelas didn’t tell us about.How to Write Sex Scenes Without Boring Your Readers Let's Connect:Share this episode with your amiga, una vecina, and una cochina who needs to hear it! And, be sure to rate and review to get this show to more listeners that want to enjoy sex sin vergüenzaFollow me on Instagram ⁠@sexinspanglish⁠ for more tips, stories, and inspiration on owning your pleasure and boosting your sexual confidence.Got thoughts or questions? Submit your question to the ⁠anonymous question box⁠! Your questions might even end up answered on the podcast - anonymously of course!

52 | Vulva Hygiene & Vaginal Maintenance: Your No-BS Guide to Feeling Good Down ThereEpisode Summary:If you’ve ever felt confused about how to care for your vulva or vagina (or didn’t even know there was a difference), this episode is for you. I'm breaking down exactly what you should and shouldn’t be doing when it comes to vaginal and vulva hygiene—without shame, fear, or the medical gaslighting that so many of us are used to. Whether you're dealing with chronic yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis, or just want to feel more confident in your body, this is your no-BS guide to vulva and vaginal maintenance.What You'll Learn:The difference between the vulva and the vagina—and why it mattersWhat actually goes inside your vagina (and what absolutely shouldn’t)How to safely use sex toys, menstrual products, and body partsThe link between chronic infections and everyday habits (like what your partner eats 😳)How to support your vaginal health with food and live culturesTips for preventing infections before they startResources & Links:Book your Sales Call (formerly known as the Quicky Call) hereBook your Quicky Call (free 30 minute coaching call) hereSubscribe to receive Golosa Gossip - A weekly email series empowering mujeres to get in touch with their bodies, own their pleasure and where we discuss all the cochinadas our abuelas didn’t tell us about.How to Write Sex Scenes Without Boring Your Readers Let’s Connect:Share this episode with your amiga, una vecina, and una cochina who needs to hear it! And, be sure to rate and review to get this show to more listeners that want to enjoy sex sin vergüenzaFollow me on Instagram ⁠@sexinspanglish⁠ for more tips, stories, and inspiration on owning your pleasure and boosting your sexual confidence.Got thoughts or questions? Submit your question to the ⁠anonymous question box⁠! Your questions might even end up answered on the podcast - anonymously of course!

51 | Podcast Notes: Rejuvenation for Mind-Blowing Sex – The Key to Lasting Energy and PleasureEpisode Summary:If you’re constantly exhausted, running on fumes, and struggling to feel present during intimacy, you might be missing a key ingredient: rejuvenation. In this episode, I dive deep into what rejuvenation actually means, why it’s essential for sustaining pleasure and energy, and how to build the skill of rejuvenation into your daily life. You’ll learn how to assess your energy levels, identify what your body actually needs, and implement small but powerful changes that will help you show up fully – in and out of the bedroom.What You'll Learn:✅ The difference between rest and rejuvenation – and why you need both✅ How to assess your energy levels using the Rejuvenation Radar✅ The four essential categories of rejuvenation: sleep, food, hydration, and hygiene✅ Why most people are running on empty without realizing it – and how to fix it✅ How to create your own Rejuvenation Recipe to feel more energized, connected, and ready for pleasure✅ The surprising connection between self-care, energy levels, and libidoResources & Links:Book your Sales Call (formerly known as the Quicky Call) hereBook your Quicky Call (free 30 minute coaching call) hereSubscribe to receive Golosa Gossip - A weekly email series empowering mujeres to get in touch with their bodies, own their pleasure and where we discuss all the cochinadas our abuelas didn’t tell us about.How to Write Sex Scenes Without Boring Your Readers Let’s Connect:Share this episode with your amiga, una vecina, and una cochina who needs to hear it! And, be sure to rate and review to get this show to more listeners that want to enjoy sex sin vergüenzaFollow me on Instagram ⁠@sexinspanglish⁠ for more tips, stories, and inspiration on owning your pleasure and boosting your sexual confidence.Got thoughts or questions? Submit your question to the ⁠anonymous question box⁠! Your questions might even end up answered on the podcast - anonymously of course!

50 | Rest for Better Sex: How Rest Affects Your Libido and DesireShort Summary:In this episode, we explore the powerful connection between rest and your sex life. We dive into how relaxation can directly impact your libido, desire, and overall sexual well-being. Learn why relaxation isn't just about sitting on the couch but a skill that can be cultivated to enhance your intimacy. If you've struggled with turning your mind off during sex or feel disconnected, this episode is for you.What You'll Learn:The importance of relaxation in your overall well-being and its effect on your sex driveHow the ability to relax can transform your sexual experiences and intimacyWhy many women struggle to relax, especially if they were raised in culturally demanding householdsPractical tips to help you build the skill of rest and integrate it into your daily lifeHow relaxation can help you overcome common sex-related struggles like low libido, infrequent orgasms, and drynessResources & Links:Book your Sales Call (formerly known as the Quicky Call) hereBook your Quicky Call (free 30 minute coaching call) hereSubscribe to receive Golosa Gossip - A weekly email series empowering mujeres to get in touch with their bodies, own their pleasure and where we discuss all the cochinadas our abuelas didn’t tell us about.How to Write Sex Scenes Without Boring Your Readers Let’s Connect:Share this episode with your amiga, una vecina, and una cochina who needs to hear it! And, be sure to rate and review to get this show to more listeners that want to enjoy sex sin vergüenzaFollow me on Instagram ⁠@sexinspanglish⁠ for more tips, stories, and inspiration on owning your pleasure and boosting your sexual confidence.Got thoughts or questions? Submit your question to the ⁠anonymous question box⁠! Your questions might even end up answered on the podcast - anonymously of course!

49 | How to Embrace Rest and Rejuvenation for the Best Sex of Your LifeShort Summary:In this episode, we explore the powerful connection between rest and rejuvenation and the quality of your sex life. Learn how prioritizing rest can increase your sexual energy, improve your mood, and enhance intimacy. We dive into strategies to rest your body and mind for better sex, both in the bedroom and beyond.What You’ll Learn:The critical link between quality rest and stronger sexual energyHow sleep and relaxation improve sexual performance and orgasmsCreating a rejuvenating environment that fuels intimacyPractical techniques for deep rest and relaxation that boost desireReal-life examples of how mastering rest transforms sexResources & Links:Book your Sales Call (formerly known as the Quicky Call) hereBook your Quicky Call (free 30 minute coaching call) hereSubscribe to receive Golosa Gossip - A weekly email series empowering mujeres to get in touch with their bodies, own their pleasure and where we discuss all the cochinadas our abuelas didn’t tell us about.Operation Orgasm - A self-paced online program teaching you the only tool you'll ever need to have mind-blowing sex on demandHow to Write Sex Scenes Without Boring Your Readers Let’s Connect:Share this episode with your amiga, una vecina, and una cochina who needs to hear it! And, be sure to rate and review to get this show to more listeners that want to enjoy sex sin vergüenza.Follow me on Instagram ⁠@sexinspanglish⁠ for more tips, stories, and inspiration on owning your pleasure and boosting your sexual confidence.Got thoughts or questions? Submit your question to the ⁠anonymous question box⁠! Your questions might even end up answered on the podcast - anonymously of course!

48 | Beyond the Bedroom: Navigating the Intersection of Holistic Health and SexualityShort Summary:In this episode, we dive deep into the intersection of holistic health and sexuality. Discover how understanding your body on a deeper level, including your energy, cycle, nutrition, and mental health, directly impacts your sexual well-being. Learn how to nurture your body to create a strong foundation for mind-blowing sex, and why it's crucial to view your body holistically. This episode offers valuable insights for embracing a balanced approach to both your sexual and overall health.What You'll Learn: How holistic health affects your sexuality and overall well-being. The connection between understanding your body and enhancing your sexual experience. Practical strategies for tuning into your body’s needs, including energy, nutrition, and mental health. How to use cycle tracking and body awareness to improve both your physical and sexual health. The importance of rest and rejuvenation for mind-blowing sex. Why holistic self-awareness is essential for better intimacy and self-empowerment. Resources & Links: Book your Sales Call (formerly known as the Quicky Call) here Book your Quicky Call (free 30 minute coaching call) here Subscribe to receive Golosa Gossip - A weekly email series empowering mujeres to get in touch with their bodies, own their pleasure and where we discuss all the cochinadas our abuelas didn’t tell us about. Operation Orgasm - A self-paced online program teaching you the only tool you'll ever need to have mind-blowing sex on demand How to Write Sex Scenes Without Boring Your Readers Let’s Connect: Share this episode with your amiga, una vecina, and una cochina who needs to hear it! Follow me on Instagram⁠@sexinspanglish⁠ for more tips, stories, and inspiration on owning your pleasure and boosting your sexual confidence.Got thoughts or questions? Submit your question to the⁠anonymous question box⁠! Your questions might even end up answered on the podcast - anonymously of course!