Peace First, Pleasure Follows

We discuss health challenges, family activities, work, etc. that can disrupt sexual intimacy in your marriage and how  to address it. Sponsor Better Help assesses your needs, matches you to a licensed mental health professional, and provides a platform for professional counseling done securely online. Use our link to get 10% off your first month. From the Bible "I have the right to do anything," you say—but not everything is beneficial. "I have the right to do anything"—but not everything is constructive. 1 Corinthians 10:23 Resources Episode 155: Sex for Busy Moms Struggling with Sex in Marriage? Here's What To Do First. - Hot, Holy & Humorous (about seeing a healthcare provider) It's Hard to Write About Sex When You're Not Having Any - Hot, Holy & Humorous (w/ideas of what to do instead) How Do You Manage Sex When Your Schedules Are Different? | The Forgiven Wife Episode 212: What About Masturbation? Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate here. If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker 

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns on how gratitude can soften our hearts and lead to improved sexual connection.. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!  

Through the years, we've encouraged wives to grow in the area of sexual intimacy. But how can we support our husbands to mature in their understanding and experience? We discuss. Sponsor Everylove Intimates has a great Date Night Subscription box and also sells quality lingerie and single-night date boxes. Check them out! From the Bible You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered 1 Peter 3:7 (NASB) Proverbs 5–6 Song of Songs Resources 3 Things Your Wife Wants You to Know About Her Sex Drive - Knowing Her Sexually What Else Does Your Wife Want You to Know About Her Sex Drive? - Knowing Her Sexually Why I Sometimes Don't Care about the Orgasm - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 182: Pray About Your Sex Life (Quickie) Episode 117: Prayer and Sex Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker I Worked on Sex, and Then He Got Angry | The Forgiven Wife The Respect Dare: 40 Days to a Deeper Connection with God and Your Husband by Nina Roesner Episode 127: Flirting with Your Husband, with Lisa Jacobson and Phylicia Masonheimer Home - Knowing Her Sexually Knowing Her Sexually | Podcast on Spotify Jimmy on Relationships - YouTube Java with Juli Podcast - Authentic Intimacy Home - Intimate Covenant Knowing Her Sexually Episode 71: Sexual Trauma, the Goal of Sex, and the Value of Afterglow, with Matt Schmidt Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference by Shaunti Feldhahn & Dr. Michael Sytsma Episode 92: What Research Tells Wives About Sex, with Shaunti Feldhahn Understanding Your Sex Drive – Webinar Replay - ONLY $10! Understanding Her Sex Drive – Webinar Replay - ONLY $10! Helping Your Wife Want to Have Sex - Webinar Replay - Knowing Her Sexually ($10) Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure - Webinar Replay - Knowing Her Sexually ($10) Spicing Up Your Bedroom - Webinar Replay - Knowing Her Sexually ($10) Unwanted Sexual Behaviors Coaching - Aldrich Ministries Knowing Her Sexually Episode 66: How to Really Connect with Your Wife, with Brad Aldrich, LMFT Episode 241: How Our Story Affects Our Sexuality, with Kate Aldrich Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate here. If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from J Parker about penis size. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

We discuss what sexual confidence is, what influences it, and how to have the confidence God wants you to have in your marriage. Sponsor Better Help assesses your needs, matches you to a licensed mental health professional, and provides a platform for professional counseling done securely online. Use our link to get 10% off your first month. From the Bible But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22–23 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. Genesis 2:25 "'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one flesh." Mark 10:7–8 As far as the east is from the west, So far has He removed our wrongdoings from us. Psalm 103:12 (NASB) Resources Episode 243: Sex Is For You Too, Two Episode 114: Pursuing Playfulness in Sexual Intimacy Am I Obsessed with Sex? No. Are You? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Sexual Healing and Wholeness – Introduction to My Story | The Forgiven Wife Sexual Disintegrity – My Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness #1 | The Forgiven Wife Sexual Stewardship – My Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness #2 | The Forgiven Wife Sexual Invocation – My Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness #3 | The Forgiven Wife Webinars - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Masterclass: Sexual Desire Differences - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate here. If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns with ways to help your body feel peace in order to create space for pleasure. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! **Note: This episode was previously released but with audio problems. Those issues have been corrected.**

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns with ways to help your body feel peace in order to create space for pleasure. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

We address the messiness of sex—what contributes to it, what's normal (and what's not), and how to deal with the mess. Sponsors Join podcast co-host J. Parker and Brad & Kate Aldrich of Aldrich Ministries Coaching Network for a 7-day cruise starting Valentine's Day 2027! Click HERE to learn more about this opportunity to sail to better intimacy. Married Dance is a Christian-friendly sex toy store, with a nudity-free, marriage-focused environment and discreet billing and shipping. Check them out HERE. From the Bible Husband I have come to my garden—my sister, my bride. I gather my myrrh with my spices. I eat my honeycomb with my honey. I drink my wine with my milk. Narrator Eat, friends! Drink, be intoxicated with love! Song of Songs 5:1 (HCSB) Resources Why Are You Leaking After Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Spiritual Fulfillment by Clifford & Joyce Penner Episode 101: Enjoying Sex, with Joyce Penner Female Ejaculation: Is It Real? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Sexual Intimacy & Your Period: Tips for Wives - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 202: What Women Ask Us (In Person) - Sex Chat for Christian Wives (we address anal sex in this episode) Episode 184: The Power of a Shower (Quickie) Love Mop Premium Cotton After Care Towel | Amazon Liberator Fascinator Throw | Married Dance Dental Dam Cunnilingus Barrier | Married Dance goodwipes pH Balanced for Feminine Hygiene | Amazon healthy hoohoo Feminine Wipes, Individually Wrapped | Amazon Sliquid Splash Gentle Feminine Wash | Married Dance Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate here. If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from J. Parker on how to make wearing lingerie work for you (whether or not your husband cares). Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

We answer listener questions about the struggle of having sexual intimacy after miscarriage, grieving the long lack of intimacy, whether a wife should self-pleasure after her husband's betrayal shut down sex, and how to maintain sexual intimacy with adult kids living at home. Sponsor Join podcast co-host J. Parker and Brad & Kate Aldrich of Aldrich Ministries Coaching Network for a 7-day cruise starting Valentine's Day 2027! Click HERE to learn more about this opportunity to sail to better intimacy. From the Bible The Message Paraphrase of 1 Corinthians 7:3–6: Certainly—but only within a certain context. It's good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it's for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I'm not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence—only providing my best counsel if you should choose them. Resources The Higher Desire Wife: Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives by J. Parker Episode 255: When Same-Sex Arousal Enters Marriage, with Vicki Tiede Better Help Therapy Network Studying the Psalms: Lament — InspiritEncourage Episode 116: Lament As A Healing Practice After Betrayal (1/2) - HopeForWives: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal Episode 117: Lament As A Healing Practice After Betrayal (2/2) - HopeForWives: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal Episode 212: What About Masturbation? - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Hope For Wives Podcast: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal The Sarah Society Sexual Clarity for Christian Women • Strong Wives What Will the Kids Think? | The Forgiven Wife Making Love When You Have Teens in the Home - Hot, Holy & Humorous The Joy of Earbuds | The Forgiven Wife Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate here. If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker