How Our Story Affects Our Sexuality, with Kate Aldrich

Today we’re diving into how our personal stories shape our sexuality and our experiences with sex. Joining Bonny and J for this important conversation is Kate Aldrich, a marriage coach and mentor with an emphasis on Story Work. Sponsor Want to advertise with us? We're specifically looking for women-owned businesses who'd like to get the word out to our many listeners. You can find out more HERE. From the Bible For you created my inmost being;     you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;     your works are wonderful,     I know that full well. Psalm 139:13–14 I meditate on your precepts     and consider your ways. Psalm 119:15 [Hagar] gave this name to the Lord who spoke to her: “You are the God who sees me,” for she said, “I have now seen the One who sees me.” Genesis 16:13 Resources Aldrich Ministries Coaching Network Still Becoming One - Kate & Brad's podcast Episode 74: Getting Comfortable with Your Body Episode 181: Your Sexual Story, with Dr. Carol Tanksley Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We’d love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from J. Parker about the benefits of kissing to both you and your marriage.  _____ We’d love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Jess Seitz, occupational therapist and vaginismus recovery specialist, of Pain-Free Intimacy joins us to talk about how wives can address sexual pain they currently have or may have in the future. Sponsor Better Help can match you to the right therapist for you. Get 10% off your first month with our discount code. Just head to https://betterhelp.com/4CW. From the Bible Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 2 Corinthians 1:3–4 I will praise You because I have been remarkably and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, and I know this very well. Psalm 139:14 (HCSB) I remain confident of this:   I will see the goodness of the Lord   in the land of the living. Psalm 27:13 (the verse J couldn't think of in the moment!) “I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten—   the great locust and the young locust,   the other locusts and the locust swarm— my great army that I sent among you. You will have plenty to eat, until you are full,   and you will praise the name of the Lord your God,   who has worked wonders for you; never again will my people be shamed." Joel 2:25–26 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. Ephesians 5:31–32 Resources Jess's website, Pain-Free Intimacy Contact Jess for personal coaching Finding a Good Gynecologist - Hot, Holy & Humorous Foreplay – Webinar Shop for Lube at a Christian-based Marital Aid Store | Married Dance How Menopause Impacts Your Sex Life - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 118: Sex Is for You Too The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. Episode 168: Learn About Your Body (Quickie) Episode 224: Integrating Body & Soul, with Francie Winslow When It Hurts: Maintaining Sexual Intimacy While Dealing with Pain | The Forgiven Wife Episode 177: Addressing Sexual Pain, with Debby Wade Is Sex for You Like Going to the Dentist? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We’d love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from J. Parker about how to start praying about the sexual intimacy in your marriage. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! _________ Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We’d love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

With J out, Chris and Bonny tackle what they wish they'd known about their own sexuality long ago. Learn from their hard-earned insights! Sponsor Get matched the right therapist for you wish Better Help! And with our special link, get 10% off your first month.  From the Bible The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge,     for the ears of the wise seek it out. Proverbs 18:15 Resources What I Wish He Knew . . . | The Forgiven Wife Episode 195: Explaining Women’s Sexual Response Episode 175: Seasoned Wives’ Wisdom for Young Wives Episode 32: Advice for Our Newlywed Selves Understanding Your Sex Drive – Webinar Replay - STILL ONLY $5 (but price going up soon) Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We’d love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from J Parker about The Golden Trio (hint: it's about helping women have orgasms, or better orgasms!) Here are a couple additional resources for you: Its Choicest Fruits | The Forgiven Wife Of Garden, Fragrance, and Fruit | The Forgiven Wife Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! You can support this podcast by joining us on Patreon.

Tara Buchanan of the Behind Our Smiles marriage podcast joins us to talk about the impact of childhood trauma—big T and little t—on sex in marriage and how to help your husband heal. Sponsor Better Help can help you connect with the right therapist. Use our special link and get 10% off your first month: https://www.betterhelp.com/4cw From the Bible The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18 Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me. Psalm 27:10 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 2 Corinthians 1:3–4 Jesus went through all the towns and villages, teaching in their synagogues, proclaiming the good news of the kingdom and healing every disease and sickness. Matthew 9:35 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3 Resources Behind Our Smiles marriage podcast Behind Our Smiles website Episode 216: When She Wants Sex More - Sex Chat for Christian Wives w/Tara's first appearance on our show! Overcoming Childhood Sexual Abuse: One Powerful Story - Hot, Holy & Humorous How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage by Milan and Kay Yerkovich Episode 122: Self-Care for Wives Strong Wives - Bonny's coaching site The Higher Desire Wife: Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives by J. Parker Sensate Focus Therapy | Cornell Health Everything You Need to Know About Sensate Focus Touch by Linda Weiner, LCSW | YouTube Couples Recovery and FANOS Check-in - Bethesda Workshops The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk MD Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence—from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith L. Herman MD Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We’d love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

We've had some unexpected challenges! Take a listen. PREORDER THE MASTERCLASS HERE! Only $25. From the Bible We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps. Proverbs 16:9 (NLT)   Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We’d love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker    

We tackle listener questions today from a wife who doesn't even want to want sex, a woman wanting to know how to prepare for her wedding night and marriage, and a wife who can't seem to get all the way there with orgasm. Sponsor Mismatched desire in your marriage? Let’s talk about what it means, why it happens, and how to grow closer through it. Sign up for our new masterclass on Sexual Desire Differences today! From the Bible That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:24 Resources Episode 209: Pursuing Sexual Growth Intimacy Mentoring - Honeycomb & Spice Email Chris about Intimacy Mentoring Episode 191: What Is Sexual Betrayal and How Can You Address It? Build True Intimacy: Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time by Dan Drake, Joanna Raabsmith, and Matthew Raabsmith The Intimacy Pyramid Sensate Focus Therapy | Cornell Health Everything You Need to Know About Sensate Focus Touch by Linda Weiner, LCSW | YouTube Sexual Clarity for Christian Women • Strong Wives Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters by Dr. Juli Slattery God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories about God, Love, and Relationships by Dr. Carol Tanksley Why Isn't Sex Like What You See in Movies? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 146: The Spectrum of Sexual Desire - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Understanding Your Sex Drive – Webinar Replay – ONLY $5! Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Episode 231: Choosing a Lube (Quickie) Virgin Bride Guidebook: Wedding Night Answers by Bonny Logsdon Burns Preparing for the Wedding Night - Hot, Holy & Humorous Wedding Night Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous What I Wish I'd Known Before the Wedding Night - Hot, Holy & Humorous Sex for the Clueless Bride - The Marriage Bed Sex for the Clueless Groom - The Marriage Bed How Menopause Impacts Your Sex Life - Hot, Holy & Humorous Mindfulness & Meditation During Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Bezwecken – DHEA Oval Suppositories Bezwecken OstaDerm-V Crème (Vaginal Dryness & Menopausal Atrophy Vaginitis Support) Help For Vaginal Dryness • Bonny's Oysterbed7 (with more about DHEA) Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy without Hormones | The Forgiven Wife Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We’d love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives And if you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show.Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about measuring sexual growth. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! You can support this podcast by joining us on Patreon.