How Self Sabotage Is Misguided Self Care

I once heard a quote which is self sabotage is simply self care misguided. So let's unpack this together.  I am in Bali this week with Margaret Hays organising our Bariatric Babes Luxe Bali Retreat in August 2024. Please check it out here. Spots are filling.  https://www.bariatricdietitian.com.au/bali-retreat This is the last episode of season 2. I will be back in season 3.  Thank you so much for listening.  Please stay in touch: Facebook > https://www.facebook.com/georgiebeames Instagram > georgiebeamespsychologist I truly appreciate you x

Let me share the hack, but it’s probably not what you think. It’s not about control it’s not about food itself but it’s more about shifting your identity towards V2.0, it’s not what you’re doing it’s more about the person you are BE-ING.  It's something that I have personally been working on, and that's gratitude and appreciation.  In this episode I share 3 simple hacks that I recommend trying out and let me know how you go! If you want more strategies, next month in the Club we are working on the distractor saboteur. This is the part of us that is overly focussed on everyone else needs.  Come out as people pleasing or even control - controlling your food, exercise, household or others.  It’s where your energy is directed externally - and nothing is directed internally. This leads us to get our needs met from food.   If you are not priortising yourself - I invite to join the club before Oct 1st and come and work on this eating saboteur together.  The club is a lot less that what you are spending on your go to foods over a 6 month period. Click to get the discounted price!  

I've seen a theme of WLS patient's not priortising themselves after surgery.  This might be staying up too late and not getting enough sleep, not doing all the things they know will help them such as meal planning, prepping. Or continuing with their V1.0 old eating habits.   They're caught up in a rut.  Making easy and fast eating choices. They maybe eating their way through the day or night. Weight regain sneaks up and up, and this negatively affects our mental health negatively. If this resonates, listen to my 3 steps on where to start.  I do have an opportunity for women to priortise themselves and priortise their WLS journey.  The WLS journey isn’t a side gig - it’s the main gig. Bariatric Dietitian Margaret Hays and myself have a Luxe Bariatric Retreat in August 2024. There is plenty of time to book and save.  It will be a combination of learning new skills and new tools on your WLS journey as well as rest and rejuvenation.  Click here for more.   

We all have an Inner Mean Girl. It’s the part of us that is judgemental, critical harsh.  Nothing is every good enough. She might come out when you see your reflection in the mirror.  Or when you are getting dressed each morning.  Or maybe comes out in a work meeting or a parenting moment, or maybe she comes out after you eat half the block of chocolate.  She might tell you - you’re a failure, you're not good enough, you’re undeserving.  And then can you guess what might happen next -  you eat. If you have a strong Inner Mean Girl that you want to soften, I invite you to a $7 trial (2 weeks) where we will do a deep dive on your Inner Mean Girl.  Grab Your $7 Trial Here.     

Have you noticed EVERYONE is talking about weight loss medications? This prompted Bariatric Dietitian Margaret Hays and myself to unpack this and provide some food for thought (pardon the pun).  In this episode we unpack what you might wish to consider before meds and if you are currently on weight loss meds, what you might consider as you come off them. Free Food Cravings Challenge > https://challenge.georgiebeames.com/food-cravings-challengehtqsj06k Follow Margaret Hays here >  https://www.instagram.com/bariatricdietitian.margaret/

So many women tell themselves the narrative that they are relaxing and eating…maybe the whole day has been about everyone else. Then it;s night time, the tv on and the chocolate or chips come out. You tell yourself you’re relaxing but you are really numbing out. The main difference is that relaxation is when our awareness is in our body. When you are truly relaxed, you are often you aren’t thinking about food at all.  Numbing out is quite different. Our awareness is in our head.  Disconnecting, unplugging, not thinking not feeling…food goes hand in hand with their saboteur.  The numbing Part that disconnects. It doesn’t want to feel or think…do anything to feel nothing. If this resonates, we have a FLASH SALE for 48 hours only to work on this Numbing Saboteur together in the Reverse the Relapse Club. This is such an affordable way to do this powerful work.  Check it out here > https://georgiebeames.clickfunnels.com/flash-sale-clubdlsot11x  

Many of us are guilty of asking for other weight loss surgery patient's before and after photos. I get the positive intention behind them.  Let’s dig deeper because maybe this can help you and you can help others… What is underneath the before and after photos? When you think about it, it is nothing more than some strangers before and after photos that has nothing to do you with you.  It has nothing to do with your journey.  Why do we all want them? Listen to learn more.  My vision is for women to have access to this information about themselves, the awareness and the tools to change…so that they can see it’s not them, it's just a PART of them. I will show you how to work with your parts to create balance in your system in the Club.  When there’s balance - V2.0 baby! Come and join the Reverse the Relapse Club and let's work on this together :)  Click to Join today. 

After thousands and thousands of hours working with Weight Loss Surgery Patients, I have identified 6 key Eating Saboteurs: Rebel Inner Mean Girl Numbing Defeatist Rewarder Avoider We all have these Saboteurs, but there will probably be 1 preomindate saboteur that comes out to play everytime you head to the fridge or pantry.  In this episode, I unpack each Saboteur and if you need help to identify your eating saboteur you can take the QUIZ here.  My vision is for women to have access to this information about themselves, the awareness and the tools to change…so that they can see it’s not them, it's just a PART of them. I will show you how to work with your parts to create balance in your system in the Club.  When there’s balance - V2.0 baby! Last chance to join the Reverse the Relapse Club before July 1st and grab an extra month for free!!! Click to Join today. 

We all have a part of us that avoids things.    But how might it play out specifically with your eating and weight?   Avoidng gives us short term relief, but leads to longer term pain.  I see the avoidance part playing out in 1 of 3 ways for women who struggle with their eating and weight:   Avoiding there’s a problem in the first place. Often we can be in denial that we have a problem in the first place. Maybe we have our head in the sand around our weight regain, and our eating habits.  We continue to stay in denial, until we are in enough emotional or physical pain to admit to ourselves that we have a problem and we need to address it.  Avoiding the things we know that will really help us.  We know that we have a problem, but we are Avoiding all the things that can really help us. Maybe we are avoiding exercise, avoiding meal planning and prepping, avoiding getting help and support whether that’s with a psychologist or dietitian or avoiding an appoint with your surgeon. Avoiding personal responsibility through fantasy thinking - this where we tell ourselves a story that our eating and weight will magically fix itself in the future, but we don’t make any changes to our eating.  This looks like  a narrative around “I’ll start again tomorrow” I’ll be good tomorrow…which means we take ourselves off the hook today with any personal responsibility around our food choices and it becomes a bit of magical thinking that tomorrow will be different today. And of course tomorrow is the same as day.  We avoid through delay. But the thoughts/feelings/behaviours remain the same.   Listen to learn more plus meet your avoider!!   If the avoider is in charge and you want help to move this part out of the drivers seat and put your V2.0, come and book in a 1 on 1 reset session.    Special price.    Limited spaces available.      Your Personalised Control Reset  

In this episide I chat with Glennis Winnet, the creator and CEO of Formulite.  I believe in her mission to provide superior products for WLS after surgery, especially busy women on the go to prioritise their health.  Feel free to check out the formulite products here.  https://formulite.com.au/ Please note that I am not an affiliate. I believe in Glennis and what she is doing and I love supporting Badass CEO women who share V2.0 goals for their clients !!