#32: Askholes

Get your free taster of the Stop people Pleasing Reset programme here:  https://www.theshiftinside.com/tryreset/ How would you like to go from being ruled by your limiting beliefs to not only replacing them, but have a focus on the future and the life that you want to create?  How would you like to replace all the time you spend trying to fit in, but feeling like an outsider and resenting people for not accepting you? No.  And how about breaking the unhelpful invisible contracts you've had with others? Contracts that allowed them to walk all over you.  How would you like to finally honour your true nature? No matter what other people think.  How would you like to set stronger boundaries without feeling that it has to be going to war with other people?  What about neutralizing self sabotage, the self sabotage that says you're not allowed to stand up for yourself?  And getting rid of imposter syndrome and managing overwhelm.  Well, all this is available to you in the Stop People Pleasing Reset.  This is an online self study course that you just take at your own pace.  It's out now, but I have a special offer for you if you're listening  to this now at the end of June or beginning of July 2024.  I am offering a maximum of eight people the chance to  join me on two 90 minute Zoom calls.  Sun 21st July  at 8am UK, repeated at 8pm UK And Saturday 10th August at 8am UK, repeated at 8pm UK And what I'm going to do in these sessions is help you explore  your fear of boundary setting using two processes not covered in the online programme.  Here's The Deal  You  get the course and I want you to go through three modules.  - about half an hour to 40 minutes of video content each.  Give me full honest feedback and I will take you through these two powerful processes. Free Taster: https://www.theshiftinside.com/tryreset/ Details of the full programme: https://www.theshiftinside.com/thereset/

Be sociable…on your terms. Parties: most empaths and highly sensitive people have a biiiiiig problem with them, due to massive sensory overload. The noise. The crowds. The music.  Waaaay toooo muuuuch. But never fear, for Harriet is here!  Why should you have to carry all the overwhelm of the party, then reach a point where you can no longer stand it and just walk out, taking a boatload of guilt that doesn't belong to you? There is a better way, which I describe in this episode. Harriet Morris  Email info (at) theshiftinside dot com

Send me your most annoying narc phrases to decode! Email info (at) theshiftinside dot com The Stop People Pleasing Podcast is back :) Standing up to narcissistic behaviour starts with getting some distance…and what better way to do that than to decode the same old same old nonsense you've heard a million times before.  In this episode, I give you three translations of things that narcissists commonly say. Warning! The sarcasm level goes through the roof. My hope is that you will feel lighter and maybe even chuckle. What better way to stand up to these self-centred ego merchants than with a bit of humour 🙂 Cheers now Harriet Morris Wellness Coach helping empaths and HSPs stand up for themselves and navigate a world that doesn't understand them  

Have you ever thought that a powerful and liberating reframe to stop people pleasing is to focus on protecting your energy? You defocus on conflict and trying to change other people, and pivot to how you are showing up. This is completely independent of others' ideas and how much - or little- they agree or understand the new stopped people pleasing you. Sound good?  In this episode I explore three very different ways to do this. My email address is info {at} theshiftinside.com - use the subject line PROTECT Check out The Motivational Fasting podcast.

https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/ has all the details about the September Stop People Pleasing group coaching Launchpad. Today I talk about a question I used to ask myself when I was mired in people pleasing, and give you a MUCH better alternative. Find out what it is in this minisode. Doors close for the launchpad at 9.30pm UK time tonight 31st August.

Heads up! https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/ Places are now open for the September group coaching programme. Today we discuss empath confidence. Many pieces of advice around improving your sense of self are written by , and for, non empaths...and are likely yo leave you feeling inadequate. The truth is that you need tailor-made ideas for dealing with a world that is not set up for you. I give you some ideas for developing this skill.   Launchpad Group Coaching Programme Find out more at https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/ In only 30 days, go from putting everyone else's needs before your own to honouring and standing up for yourself - without it being a struggle. What You Will Learn: *How to reduce overwhelm *Rock solid empath confidence *How to stop wasting your energy living in reaction *Change how you show up with family and friends *How to say no to people without fear of conflict *How change the silent agreements you have with people, often without them even noticing! *Transform how you see yourself in a month *Share your fears in the welcoming environment of the group, gain inspiration from their wins - and have your achievements recognised *Work out if people around you are Well Meaning Energy Drainers https://www.stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/

https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/ has all the details of September's Stop People Pleasing launchpad group coaching programme. Starts Wed 1st :) Today a short story called The Lie, with a twist in the tale. You might not like the twist, but if you want to stop people's good intentions draining the life out of you, listen up!  Harriet Morris  info (at) theshiftinside.com

Heads up! https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/ Places are now open for the September group coaching programme. Episode #33 - The Empath Drama Triangle In this fourth part of this series on the key skills to stop people pleasing, we look at what the drama triangle is , and dive into its variant that every empath must learn about.   Launchpad Group Coaching Programme Find out more at https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/ In only 30 days, go from putting everyone else's needs before your own to honouring and standing up for yourself - without it being a struggle. What You Will Learn: *How to reduce overwhelm *Rock solid empath confidence *How to stop wasting your energy living in reaction *Change how you show up with family and friends *How to say no to people without fear of conflict *How change the silent agreements you have with people, often without them even noticing! *Transform how you see yourself in a month *Share your fears in the welcoming environment of the group, gain inspiration from their wins - and have your achievements recognised *Work out if people around you are Well Meaning Energy Drainers https://www.stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/

Today in installment #3 of our series on developing the key skills for stopping people pleasing, we discuss Askholes, and especially emotional ones. What are they? And why does recognising them matter in this area of life? All is revealed today. Harriet Morris  Ex People Pleaser in Chief Email: info (at) theshiftinside dot com

Today is the second part of this week's series on the key skills of stopping people pleasing.  Today I reframe oversensitivity as hyperreactivity and explain why it is a much more useful and kind way to think about this issue. Harriet Morris info {at} theshiftinside.com https://www.stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/