91. Dealing With Change And Different Expectations

Change. We have talked on it from a number of angles, but this time around, let's go into the changes you actually want to make in your relationships. Maybe it is an old pattern in communication, a tendency to shut down, a habit of trying to "fix"...whatever it is, this is something you actually want to be different moving forward. What does that process look like? Because yes, it is a process, and can be quite a long one. E reflects on the process of change when it comes to her relationship with anger and how that has taken years, and is still ongoing. Sometimes "letting go" is something you will be doing for quite some time. What is a change you are actively working on or want to be working on in your relationships? Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or YouTube (@queerloverelationships). Want to work with E one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to work with Li one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to become a certified relationship coach? Love Mastery info here! Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

Change is going to happen in relationships, so DEAL WITH IT. Whoa, actually not taking that aggressive approach, but let's be real, change happens and will continue to happen so how do you approach this in relationships? Especially when new agreements and expectations are coming along with the change, as well as the big emotions that are swimming around you in this experience. We talk on common blocks to change, as well as some practical tips to help you navigate these new experiences with a bit more grace. Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or YouTube (@queerloverelationships). Want to work with E one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to work with Li one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to become a certified relationship coach? Love Mastery info here! Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

Waiting for the other shoe to drop? Feeling on edge around there only be challenges in your relationship and nothing good to focus on? Let's talk all about it. What can you do to start training your brain to find the wins, even when challenges are present? (especially when challenges are present) What gets in the way of letting things be good when they are genuinely good in a dynamic? P.S. Ready to get certified as a relationship coach? Enrollment for the 2026 cohort of Love Mastery is open and ready to get your application! Check out all the info here!Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or YouTube (@queerloverelationships). Want to work with E one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to work with Li one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to become a certified relationship coach? Love Mastery info here! Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

You know that feeling when you are ABSOLUTELY certain that what is happening in your relationship is unfair and you are determined to make it fair and ensure that justice is reached and you are willing to defend yourself to the ends of the Earth to make it all happen?! Well, that is what we are talking on, friends.And not just that, but the weirdness that comes when there is actually nothing to do about an unfair situation and how something being unfair does not automatically mean that something is wrong or bad (we know, hot take). All this and a sandwich shop analogy to show why acceptance in tough situations is key!P.S. Curious about getting certified as a relationship coach? Enrollment has begun for the 2026 cohort for the Love Mastery Coaches Certification. Get all the info and apply here!Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or YouTube (@queerloverelationships). Want to work with E one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to work with Li one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to become a certified relationship coach? Love Mastery info here! Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

"I want to feel secure in my relationship." A goal that we hear all the time from clients so let's break it down - what are the components of a truly secure attachment in relationships? If you are interested in learning more around what we go over today, we mention the work of Emotionally Focused Therapy, founded by Dr. Sue Johnson. P.S. Open enrollment for the Love Mastery Coaches Certification is happening now for the 2026 cohort! Find all the goods and apply here!Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or YouTube (@queerloverelationships). Want to work with E one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to work with Li one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to become a certified relationship coach? Love Mastery info here! Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

This is something we speak to from different angles across all the topics we go over on the podcast, so why not just be super direct and talk about what exactly is a healthy relationship? We are going to the basics with this one!Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or YouTube (@queerloverelationships). Want to work with E one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to work with Li one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to become a certified relationship coach? Love Mastery info here! Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

Whether this is completing the past with a relationship long gone, or completing the past in a current relationship around an ongoing issue, your ability to liberate yourself from the charge of those experiences will make a huge difference for your relational wellbeing. What does it even mean or feel like when we say completing the past? We go over different examples and how you can tell when something is not complete, as well as how to be in that uncomfortable space in a partnership where you feel complete about something but they don't. It's tough work, but meaningful, as always. Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or YouTube (@queerloverelationships). Want to work with E one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to work with Li one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to become a certified relationship coach? Love Mastery info here! Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

Look, there are plenty of pros to the advancements in technology, especially when it comes to communication. AND it is also important to recognize where these advancements are actually making it difficult for us to connect with others and with ourselves in a very human way. We go over the common challenges that intimate relationships run up against as the world gets more tech-centric, as well as some of the pitfalls that can happen when AI is too heavily relied on. What are you facing in your relationships when it comes to the role that these different advancements play? How are you intentionally staying connected to your own humanity and to the humanity of others in your life? Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or YouTube (@queerloverelationships). Want to work with E one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to work with Li one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to become a certified relationship coach? Love Mastery info here! Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

What is the long game? How does discernment come into play? And exactly how much patience do you actually need to say that you successfully attempted to play the long game?We go over the ins and the outs with these questions and more from what we have experienced ourselves, and from what we have learned with clients in this realm!Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or YouTube (@queerloverelationships). Want to work with E one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to work with Li one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to become a certified relationship coach? Love Mastery info here! Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.

Boundaries will inevitably come up in your self-development/personal growth work. It is a buzz word that often draws people into this realm of exploration, but how do we use boundaries for the purpose of expanding our personal growth?A fine question that we go into today and use examples from our own lives, and from the sessions we have with clients as they navigate relational challenges. Send us a textSending you so much love!Love our show? Please rate and review! And share it with as many friends as you think would benefit! You can follow us on TikTok, IG or YouTube (@queerloverelationships). Want to work with E one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to work with Li one-on-one? Sign up for a Discovery Session! Want to become a certified relationship coach? Love Mastery info here! Find out more on our Linktree. Until next time, keep loving y'all.