181. Lent - Missing the Mark

Parenting has a way of bringing you to the end of yourself. There are seasons where the noise, the conflict, the exhaustion, and the constant needs of your kids can make you feel like you’re barely keeping your head above water. A lot of parents quietly assume that if things feel this hard, it must mean they’re doing something wrong. But the truth is that family life was never meant to be carried alone.In this episode of our Lenten Series, we talk about what it looks like to ask for help when parenting becomes overwhelming. Not in theory, but in the real, messy moments that every parent eventually faces. We walk through three places parents can turn for help when things feel difficult. First, we talk about going to your spouse and learning to lean on each other instead of trying to carry everything individually. Marriage is meant to be a partnership, and parenting becomes much heavier when we stop asking our spouse to step in with us.Second, we talk about seeking help from people who are just a little further ahead of you in family life. Parents whose kids are a few years older, who have already walked through the season you’re in. They don’t need to be perfect parents to offer wisdom. In fact, some of the most helpful guidance comes from people who have made mistakes and learned along the way. And finally, we talk about therapy—both for parents and for children—and why reaching out for professional help can sometimes be one of the most loving and responsible things you can do for your family.If parenting has felt heavier than you expected lately, this episode is an honest conversation about why asking for help is not weakness. It’s often the very thing that helps a family grow stronger.We wrote a Catholic sex book! Check it out: Order LOVEMAKING!  Our other booksGo To Joseph: 10 Day Consecration to St. JosephGo To Joseph For ChildrenSUPPORT OUR APOSTOLATEThank you all for your ongoing support. We love what we do and pray that it is a blessing to you and your families. If you are benefitting in some way from what we're doing read and subscribe to our Substack: https://twobecomefamily.substack.com/Our ApostolateAbout UsConnect with us and send us a message on InstagramYouTube ChannelSupport the showSupport the show

This is part 3 of our Lenten series, where we’re walking with Catholic parents through the real struggles of family life during the season of repentance, mercy, and renewal.Parenting often feels like a daily examination of conscience. We lose our temper. We forget a commitment. We say the wrong thing, again. Many Catholic parents quietly carry guilt and shame after these moments, fearing that repeated missteps mean they are failing their children or falling short of God’s call.In Missing the Mark, we explore failure, sin, and imperfection through a deeply Catholic lens. Lent reminds us that “missing the mark” is part of the human condition, but it is never the final word. Through humility, repentance, and grace, our failures become invitations to growth rather than sources of despair. If you’ve ever worried about being a “bad parent,” struggled with shame after losing patience, or wondered how holiness is possible in the chaos of family life, this episode is for you.We wrote a Catholic sex book! Check it out: Order LOVEMAKING!  Our other booksGo To Joseph: 10 Day Consecration to St. JosephGo To Joseph For ChildrenSUPPORT OUR APOSTOLATEThank you all for your ongoing support. We love what we do and pray that it is a blessing to you and your families. If you are benefitting in some way from what we're doing read and subscribe to our Substack: https://twobecomefamily.substack.com/Our ApostolateAbout UsConnect with us and send us a message on InstagramYouTube ChannelSupport the show

Why does parenting feel so overwhelming, even when we’re trying to do everything right? In this episode of Two Become Family, we explore how much of our stress, guilt, and burnout as parents comes from aiming at the wrong goal. When success is measured by calm children, good behavior, or having everything under control, everyday family life can quickly feel like failure.“Changing Our Aim” invites Catholic parents to rediscover the virtue of magnanimity, the call to live with a greatness of soul that aims beyond perfectionism and control. Rather than shrinking our expectations out of fear or comparison, magnanimity helps us set our sights on the true goal of parenting: forming hearts for love, virtue, and holiness. Through the lens of Lent, we talk honestly about missing the mark, feeling discouraged, and how re-aiming our hearts allows God’s grace to do the real work.This episode lays the foundation for the entire Lenten series by reframing parenting not as performance, but as participation in God’s slow, faithful work of transformation in family life.In this episode, we discuss:•Catholic parenting during Lent•What magnanimity really means for parents•Why control and perfection increase parental burnout•How changing your aim reduces guilt, shame, and comparison•Raising children with faith, hope, and trust in GodSupport the show

Parenting has a way of exposing our limits. The moments we lose our temper, feel overwhelmed by the noise, or realize we don’t have the patience we hoped we would can quickly turn into shame. In this episode, we begin our Lenten journey by reclaiming humility, not as self-condemnation, but as truth. Humility isn’t thinking less of yourself; it’s seeing yourself clearly and letting God meet you there.We talk honestly about why parenting feels so personal when we fall short, why our culture equates control with competence, and how humility frees us from the pressure to be perfect. Drawing from real parent struggles, Catholic wisdom, and lived experience, this conversation reframes failure as the starting point of grace,not the end of the story.This episode sets the foundation for the entire series: Lent doesn’t ask parents to try harder, but to lower their defenses, tell the truth, and let God work in the middle of the mess.In this episode:Why feeling overwhelmed doesn’t make you a bad parentHow humility opens the door to grace instead of shameWhat Lent teaches us about letting go of controlHow honest self-assessment leads to freedom, not discouragementSupport the show

Getting married is more than planning a wedding — it’s preparing for a lifelong vocation.In this episode, we walk engaged couples through the conversations and habits that build a strong, lasting marriage. From finances and family expectations to conflict resolution and shared life vision, we explore the practical and spiritual foundations every couple needs before saying “I do.”We also discuss how to recognize the difference between genuine discernment and emotional attachment, how to surface hidden concerns before they become future wounds, and why praying together is one of the most powerful ways to stay aligned.In this episode we cover:• The essential pre-marriage conversations• Building a shared vision for your future• Navigating disagreements in a healthy way• Recognizing red flags early• Money, family, and expectations• Creating a meaningful prayer life togetherWhether you’re newly engaged or seriously discerning marriage, this episode will help you prepare not just for a wedding day — but for a lifetime together.Support the show

Living with PCOS can feel overwhelming, confusing, and deeply isolating, especially when you’re told to “just lose weight” or given unclear answers about fertility and hormones.In this video, I share the non-expert guide to living with PCOS, from personal experience, research, and walking this journey alongside my spouse.This is not medical advice, but an honest breakdown of what PCOS looks like in everyday life, how it affects marriage and fertility, and what helped us move forward.In this video, you’ll learn: • My personal struggle with PCOS and the emotional toll it took • What PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome) is and how it shows up in daily life • How PCOS is diagnosed and why it’s often missed or delayed • Why PCOS affects weight gain and weight loss differently • How PCOS impacts marriage, intimacy, and fertility • How couples can navigate PCOS together instead of letting it create distance • Why finding a NaPro / restorative reproductive doctor changed everything • What to do next if you’ve been diagnosed with PCOSIf you’ve ever wondered: • “Why is my body not responding like it should?” • “Is infertility inevitable with PCOS?” • “How do we stay united as a couple through this?” • “What happens after the diagnosis?”This video is for you.Support the show

Is marrying young too soon?In this honest conversation, we tackle the 5 core questions every couple faces before tying the knot — from emotional readiness to financial responsibilities and future growth as individuals and partners. Whether you’re in a serious relationship or thinking about the future, this video helps you feel less alone in making such a big decision. 💍🔥 What we cover in this episode:Why this mattersAre we emotionally mature enough?Should we wait to travel or build careers?What if our parents are right?What happens if we change in our 20s?Is it financially responsible to marry young?We wrote a Catholic sex book! Check it out: Order LOVEMAKING!  Our other booksGo To Joseph: 10 Day Consecration to St. JosephGo To Joseph For ChildrenSUPPORT OUR APOSTOLATEThank you all for your ongoing support. We love what we do and pray that it is a blessing to you and your families. If you are benefitting in some way from what we're doing read and subscribe to our Substack: https://twobecomefamily.substack.com/Our ApostolateAbout UsConnect with us and send us a message on InstagramYouTube ChannelSupport the show

Can Natural Family Planning actually damage a marriage?Many couples quietly struggle with NFP — feeling disconnected, frustrated, or even resentful — and wonder if something is wrong with them, their marriage, or the Church’s teaching.In this episode, we respond honestly and pastorally to five of the most common objections to Natural Family Planning and offer practical guidance for couples who want unity, intimacy, and peace — not pressure or guilt.In this episode, we cover:1️⃣ “Feeling that NFP doesn’t really work — it’s too complicated or unreliable.”2️⃣ The emotional and sexual strain caused by long abstinence periods.3️⃣ What to do when spouses disagree on when or why to use NFP.4️⃣ Is NFP basically the same as contraception?5️⃣ How to navigate marriage when one spouse struggles to accept NFP.Rather than defending NFP with theory alone, we focus on how NFP is lived inside real marriages — including communication, sacrifice, desire, resentment, and love. This conversation is especially for couples who feel exhausted by oversimplified answers and want something deeper, more human, and more faithful.If you’re asking: • Why does NFP feel so hard in our marriage? • Is abstinence damaging our intimacy? • Are we using NFP for the right reasons? • How do we stay united when we disagree?— this episode is for you.We wrote a Catholic sex book! Check it out: Order LOVEMAKING!  Our other booksGo To Joseph: 10 Day Consecration to St. JosephGo To Joseph For ChildrenSUPPORT OUR APOSTOLATEThank you all for your ongoing support. We love what we do and pray that it is a blessing to you and your families. If you are benefitting in some way from what we're doing read and subscribe to our Substack: https://twobecomefamily.substack.com/Our ApostolateAbout UsConnect with us and send us a message on InstagramYouTube ChannelSupport the show

What does every married couple need to understand about sex—especially when conversations online say things like “men don’t need sex”?In this episode, we unpack 5 essential truths about sex in marriage that are often misunderstood, oversimplified, or argued about without enough clarity. While it’s true that no one needs sex to physically survive, reducing sexual intimacy to something optional—or purely personal—can quietly damage a marriage over time.We explore why sexual desire isn’t just about pleasure, release, or pressure, but about desiring the spouse as a whole person. We also address the real fears many people carry into conversations about sex—fear of being used, objectified, or reduced to a body—and why those fears are sometimes justified and sometimes misplaced.Most importantly, we present a vision of marital sexuality that’s bigger than both obligation and autonomy. When rightly understood, male sexual desire can reflect Christ’s self-giving love and pursuit of His Church, transforming sex from a battleground into a place of unity, trust, and mutual gift.In this episode, we cover: • Why men don’t need sex to survive—but marriages do need sexual intimacy • How sexual desire goes beyond pleasure and points toward the spouse as a person • Why the phrase “men don’t need sex” can confuse the lived experience of male sexuality • How fear of being used or objectified shapes misunderstandings about sex • How male desire, properly ordered, can mirror Christ’s love for His ChurchWe wrote a Catholic sex book! Check it out: Order LOVEMAKING!  Our other booksGo To Joseph: 10 Day Consecration to St. JosephGo To Joseph For ChildrenSUPPORT OUR APOSTOLATEThank you all for your ongoing support. We love what we do and pray that it is a blessing to you and your families. If you are benefitting in some way from what we're doing read and subscribe to our Substack: https://twobecomefamily.substack.com/Our ApostolateAbout UsConnect with us and send us a message on InstagramYouTube ChannelSupport the show

In this episode, we expose 5 modern lies about sex that are quietly destroying marriages, even Christian ones. We dig into why couples experience disconnection, resentment, and confusion around intimacy, not because they don’t love each other, but because they’ve absorbed cultural messages that distort the truth about sex, marriage, and the human person.We’ll break open the myths many couples believe:• that sex is mainly about individual pleasure instead of relational meaning and self-gift• that sex is a “need” you require to feel complete or healthy• that sex is the primary or only form of intimacy in a relationship• that sex becomes optional or unnecessary in a long-term committed marriage• that sexual autonomy and personal desire should be prioritized over unity and harmonyYou’ll learn why these lies lead to loneliness, emotional distance, and frustration between husbands and wives—and what Scripture, Catholic tradition, and real experience reveal about the true purpose of sex: union, vulnerability, communion, and sacrificial love.If you want a richer marital intimacy—not just more frequency—this conversation will challenge the assumptions shaping your expectations. Whether you’re dating, engaged, newly married, or decades into marriage, this episode will help you rediscover sex as a spiritual, emotional, and relational gift—not a commodity, pressure, or performance.We wrote a Catholic sex book! Check it out: Order LOVEMAKING!  Our other booksGo To Joseph: 10 Day Consecration to St. JosephGo To Joseph For ChildrenSUPPORT OUR APOSTOLATEThank you all for your ongoing support. We love what we do and pray that it is a blessing to you and your families. If you are benefitting in some way from what we're doing read and subscribe to our Substack: https://twobecomefamily.substack.com/Our ApostolateAbout UsConnect with us and send us a message on InstagramYouTube ChannelSupport the show