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On this episode: Nate sees in color. Aaron had a Bob Ross birthday party. AND a “shi**y painting prize” is offered! This week, Nate and Aaron talk to Ryan Soave. Ryan is a trauma and mindfulness expert, licensed mental health counselor, speaker, and consultant. He leads others to healing, self-discovery, and personal formation using neuroscience, somatic therapy, and ancient wisdom. Ryan shares his journey as a recovering alcoholic in 12-step. The topic of alone and lonely is discussed with depth, focused on feeling different, earning equality, and unknown expectations. And a friendly reminder that you can’t be too dumb but you can be too smart in recovery, meaning: you can’t think your way sober. Ryan discusses the practice of learning to experience pain and stress in the moment and how it leads to deeper joy. All this and more! Links: Ryan Soave YouTube Ryan Soave Instagram Ryan Soave WebsiteNov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens RetreatIf you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   Ryan Soave Home Page - Ryan Soave You’ve Mastered Success—Now, Let’s Master Peace Get Ryan’s Free Course Identify limiting beliefs, boost emotional resilience, and change how you handle challenges—in just six days. Book a 1:1 Consultation Get personalized guidance from Ryan Soave, a leader in emotional resilience and personal growth. Together, you’ll create a path to thriving in your relationships, career, and […]   https://ryansoave.com/     Samson House Store 2025 Samson Summit — Samson House Store Join us for an unforgettable weekend to explore your story, deepen your relationships, and live out your story as fully as God intended. When: November 7-9, 2025 Where: Camp Glorieta , a 2,400-acre campus located about 15 miles southeast of Santa Fe, New Mexico lodging options are available.     Samson House Store Wild & Sacred Journey — Samson House Store Join us during the Samson Summit on November 7-9, 2025, for The Wild and Sacred Journey , a transformative weekend retreat designed exclusively for women to reconnect with the wild, playful, and sacred aspects of themselves. This experience weaves together moments of creative expression and deep reflection.

On this episode: Aaron, Nate, Justin, and Alec all hang out. This week, Nate, Aaron, Justin, and Alec interview Nate Larkin, wait, what?!?. Nate Larkin is the host of the Pirate Monk Podcast, yes this very one! He is also an author, speaker, Silas, former pastor, and writes engineering papers and some other stuff. Nate shares more of his story and thoughts on relapse, from experience. They discuss how and why relapse happens, even the speed. Clues to a possible relapse include, but are not limited to: letting safeguards down, justification, lack of rest, ignoring feelings, not asking for help. The discussion also includes: how long to support another in recovery, and steps to heal, grow, and continue down the path.Books: Samson and the Pirate Monks: Calling Men to Authentic Brotherhood, by Nate LarkinNov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens RetreatIf you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   Samson House Store 2025 Samson Summit — Samson House Store Join us for an unforgettable weekend to explore your story, deepen your relationships, and live out your story as fully as God intended. When: November 7-9, 2025 Where: Camp Glorieta , a 2,400-acre campus located about 15 miles southeast of Santa Fe, New Mexico Lodging Options available.     Samson House Store Wild & Sacred Journey — Samson House Store Join us during the Samson Summit on November 7-9, 2025, for The Wild and Sacred Journey , a transformative weekend retreat designed exclusively for women to reconnect with the wild, playful, and sacred aspects of themselves. This experience weaves together moments of creative expression and deep reflection.     Samson Society Help Us Reach More Men - Samson Society This site, built and maintained by Samson House, is an effort to turn the computer or smartphone—which has often served as an instrument of destruction—into an instrument of healing. Through this site and the Samson app, men all around the world are being invited into the kind of authentic conversation that actually meets our deep … Continue reading Est. reading time 1 minute

On this episode: Aaron is preparing people for unfamiliar conversations with curiosity. And it’s a hot Thursday in August for Nate. This week, Nate and Aaron talk to Lisa Sharon Harper. Lisa is the founder and president of Freedom Road, a consultant group. She is also a theologian, activist, speaker, podcaster, author, college faculty, and trainer. Lisa helps us understand different perspectives, with illustrations from the show Roots, Plato, and Genesis One. She leads us to consider where we find our ID in our Christianity and politics, and which is first. Lisa also gives a fascinating history of flip flopping politics in the United States. And a final consideration that you don’t have to join a political party to be on “God’s side”. Other topics include the exclusion of James, 500 crucifixions per day during Jesus’s time, dehumanization, race division laws, and more.Links: Freedom Road Freedom Road PodcastBooks: The Very Good Gospel: How Everything Wrong Can Be Made Right Fortune: How Race Broke My Family and the World - and How to Repair It All Toward a Global Idea of Race, by: Denise Ferreira da SilvaSept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens RetreatIf you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   FreedomRoad.us Home • FreedomRoad.us We consult, coach, train and design experiences that help groups in multiple sectors become just as they do justice. (87 kB) https://freedomroad.us/     FreedomRoad.us Freedom Road Podcast Archives • FreedomRoad.us (87 kB) https://freedomroad.us/category/freedom-road-podcast/          

Onthis episode: Aaron is formal and calls people. Nate is cool and discusses a stuffed animal fashion show. This week, Nate and Aaron talk to Phillip Wire. Phillip is 2016 teacher of the year, in his district, and an author. He discusses some of the good, and unfortunately, the bad of how schools got “trauma informed.” Three life disruptions, including less sleep, less exercise, and less face-to-face interaction are issues facing students as well as many other people and industries. Phillip discusses the fascinating role of “environmental therapy” and how we can heal and grow outside of paying a therapist. He guides parents to have honest conversations about technology with kids and to lead by example. Phillip has many suggestions of how to “make things better,” and also reminds us to experiment because there’s not “one-size-fits-all.” All this, and more! Links: Phillip Wire Facebook Author Page BrickBooks: The Kids Are Not Alright: The Real Roots of Today's Youth Mental Health Crisis Trauma-Informed Tragedy: How Schools Got Trauma Part Right—And Part Wrong Stolen Focus: Why You Can’t Pay Attention—and How to Think Deeply Again, by Johann HariSept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens RetreatIf you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   facebook.com Log in or sign up to view See posts, photos and more on Facebook.   Brick LLC Brick - Do More of What Matters Brick LLC

On this episode: Aaron wears two pairs of pants and is rude to magicians. Nate rustles up someone. This week, Nate and Aaron talk to Mark Greene. Mark is a Texas native living in Manhattan, NY, who has learned to make friends and is guiding us. He imparts some startling statistics that may motivate you to make friends. Mark shares how he meets guys in the park, modeled after another group he saw. Guys pair up and walk and talk! He lets us know that understanding ourselves happens in relationship, and that there is strength in numbers. And the big question: if you are only doing purposeful work, is real friendship happening? All this, and more!Links: Walking Talking Men Walking VideoBooks: Deep Secrets: Boys’ Friendship and the Crisis of Connection, by: Niobe WaySept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   walkingtalkingmen.org WalkingTalkingmen.org Real, Lasting, Local Friendships for Men (318 kB) https://walkingtalkingmen.org/     NBC News Walk-and-talk group aims to fight loneliness among men NBC News's Joe Fryer speaks to the co-founder of a "walk-and-talk" group that aims to fight loneliness, an epidemic growing particularly among young men. The group meets twice a week in New York City's Central Park to chat about their lives and make meaningful connections.    https://www.nbcnews.com/now/video/walk-and-talk-group-aims-to-fight-loneliness-among-men-244199493900     Samson House Store Samson European Retreat: RAV 47 — Samson House Store September 12-14, 2025 • Mellow Mountain Hostel • Ehrwald, Austria 38 hours + 5 meals + 3 Samson meetings + 1 mountain ascent = 47 lives changed forever.   Samson House Store 2025 Samson Summit — Samson House Store Join us for an unforgettable weekend to explore your story, deepen your relationships, and live out your story as fully as God intended. When: November 7-9, 2025 Where: Camp Glorieta , a 2,400-acre campus located about 15 miles southeast of Santa Fe, New Mexico Lodging Options available.                               

On this episode: Nate shares an article about how smart phones keep us addicted to novelty, validation, and stimulation. This week, Nate and Aaron talk to Michael Long. Michael is an author, lecturer, physicist, play/screen/speech writer, and former comedian. He discusses the meaning of and the good and bad of dopamine. He shares how porn, serial dating, and the over usage of technology are all dopamine grabs. Comparing dopamine to gasoline, both can be good and bad. Michael shares that there is hope and that living beyond one’s self is key. He shares several exercises to help us tame dopamine and use it effectively for a full life. Also, Michael will show up at your book club meeting, listen to find out how!Contact: Taming The MoleculeBooks: Taming the Molecule of More: A Step-by-Step Guide to Make Dopamine Work for You, by: Michael E. Long THe Molecule Of More: How a Single Chemical in Your Brain Drives Love, Sex, and Creativity - And Will Determine The Fate of the Human Race, by: Daniel Z Lieberman MD, Michael E. Long, et al.Sept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens RetreatIf you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   Tamingthemolecule Home | TamingTheMolecule The follow-up book to The Molecule of More, Taming the Molecule of More shows you how to improve your life--problems with dating, long-term relationships, career dissatisfaction, doomscrolling, online shopping, online gaming--with practical steps to find real happiness and greater meaning.   Samson House Store Samson European Retreat: RAV 47 — Samson House Store September 12-14, 2025 • Mellow Mountain Hostel • Ehrwald, Austria 38 hours + 5 meals + 3 Samson meetings + 1 mountain ascent = 47 lives changed forever.   Samson House Store 2025 Samson Summit — Samson House Store Join us for an unforgettable weekend to explore your story, deepen your relationships, and live out your story as fully as God intended. When: November 7-9, 2025 Where: Camp Glorieta , a 2,400-acre campus located about 15 miles southeast of Santa Fe, New Mexico lodging options are available.                      

On this episode: Nate is still in his car. Aaron sleeps in a Prius and shares that weird is not an emotion.This week, Nate and Aaron talk to Steve Shields . Steve is a hope dealer who also is a counselor, speaker, recovery coach, founder, board member, probably some more cool stuff too. Steve thinks, as a counselor, most of therapy is a waste of time. He shares his story of being “thanked for not having problems” growing up, and his intro to porn. Sharing how when performance doesn’t work how important it is to double down and perform harder. Steven explains how ibuprofen and porn do the same thing. The guys discuss how its common to hit rock bottom multiple times or being the prodigal son multiple times, and how power and accountability are connected.Links: Accepted Life Unashamed Unafraid Podcast Steve Shields EmailSept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens RetreatIf you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   Accepted Therapy and Coaching Accepted Therapy & Coaching MORE THAN A THERAPIST. Healing is possible, and healing can happen today. Take the first step towards a healthier, happier, and more whole life. Written by Justin Martin Time to read Less than a minute Feb 13th, 2024   unashamedunafraid.com Unashamed Unafraid A podcast unashamed about sexual addiction recovery and unafraid of coming unto Christ for healing. Hope. Love. Compassion. Education. Healing.     Samson House Store Samson European Retreat: RAV 47 — Samson House Store September 12-14, 2025 • Mellow Mountain Hostel • Ehrwald, Austria 38 hours + 5 meals + 3 Samson meetings + 1 mountain ascent = 47 lives changed forever Ways to get to the venue     Samson House Store 2025 Samson Summit — Samson House Store Join us for an unforgettable weekend to explore your story, deepen your relationships, and live out your story as fully as God intended. When: November 7-9, 2025 Where: Camp Glorieta , a 2,400-acre campus located about 15 miles southeast of Santa Fe, New Mexico Lodging Options available.     Samson House Store Wild & Sacred Journey — Samson House Store Join us during the Samson Summit on November 7-9, 2025, for The Wild and Sacred Journey , a transformative weekend retreat designed exclusively for women to reconnect with the wild, playful, and sacred aspects of themselves. This experience weaves together moments of creative expression and deep reflection.                  It’s 7:56 AM for Kevin Addams

Kevin Addams  6:30 AM On this episode: Nate sits in a car and attempts to get in touch with his grief. Aaron is home and asks Nate questions.This week, Nate and Aaron talk to Doug Lynam. Doug is a former Marine and Monk, an Enneagram expert, speaker, and coach. Doug shares his story of rebellion that led to becoming a marine for approval from his dad. Then a monk to piss his dad off. And how all this lead to Doug becoming an expert in finances and the Enneagram. Doug has made the Enneagram easier to understand, practical, and applicable. Listen along as 4 pillars of finance are shared that can make your life better.Book: Taming Your Money Monster: Nine Paths to Money Mastery with the Enneagram From Monk to Money Manager: A Former Monk’s Financial Guide to Becoming a Little Bit Wealthy—-and Why That’s OkaySept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   Samson House Store Samson European Retreat: RAV 47 — Samson House Store September 12-14, 2025 • Mellow Mountain Hostel • Ehrwald, Austria 38 hours + 5 meals + 3 Samson meetings + 1 mountain ascent = 47 lives changed forever Ways to get to the venue     Samson House Store 2025 Samson Summit — Samson House Store Join us for an unforgettable weekend to explore your story, deepen your relationships, and live out your story as fully as God intended. When: November 7-9, 2025 Where: Camp Glorieta , a 2,400-acre campus located about 15 miles southeast of Santa Fe, New Mexico Lodging Options Available.     Samson House Store Wild & Sacred Journey — Samson House Store Join us during the Samson Summit on November 7-9, 2025, for The Wild and Sacred Journey , a transformative weekend retreat designed exclusively for women to reconnect with the wild, playful, and sacred aspects of themselves. This experience weaves together moments of creative expression, deep reflection.

On this episode: Nate flies solo while Aaron finishes his epic road trip. Nate performs a wedding and shares his wife, Ali’s health update. This week, Nate and Robert Wolgemuth talk about the end. Robert has written a lot of books, he is also a publisher and business man. He shares that we need to have four pallbearers planned, perhaps not who you think. Robert guides us through things to consider in loving consideration of those we care about in our lives.Book: The Finish Line: Dispelling Fear, Finding Peace, and Preparing for the End of Your Life, by: Robert WolgemuthSept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens RetreatIf you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   Samson House Store Samson European Retreat: RAV 47 — Samson House Store 38 hours + 5 meals + 3 Samson meetings + 1 mountain ascent = 47 lives changed forever     Samson House Store 2025 Samson Summit — Samson House Store Join us for an unforgettable weekend to explore your story, deepen your relationships, and live out your story as fully as God intended. When: November 7-9, 2025 Where: Camp Glorieta , a 2,400-acre campus located about 15 miles southeast of Santa Fe, New Mexico Lodging Options are available.     Samson House Store Wild & Sacred Journey — Samson House Store Join us during the Samson Summit on November 7-9, 2025, for The Wild and Sacred Journey , a transformative weekend retreat designed exclusively for women to reconnect with the wild, playful, and sacred aspects of themselves. This experience weaves together moments of creative expression and deep reflection.     Samson Society Help Us Reach More Men - Samson Society This site, built and maintained by Samson House, is an effort to turn the computer or smartphone—which has often served as an instrument of destruction—into an instrument of healing. Through this site and the Samson app, men all around the world are being invited into the kind of authentic conversation that actually meets our deep needs.

On this episode: Aaron learns where to stick the dynamite on his Prius road trip. Nate takes off the facade.This week, Nate and Aaron talk to our guest, Jason Mellard. Jason is a Texas transplant via South Carolina and Japan. He talks about growing up with sexual and physical abuse from a pastor father. Jason talks about how his father delivered a message that let him know he was not important. He shares his thoughts and understanding of USSA and defines what it means to him. Jason talks about his own struggles with shame, confusion, how he felt his body was not his own, and how he wasn’t one of the guys. Jason is also a podcaster and coach. He created the https://ownyouridentitynow.com/ssaquiz/to help guys struggling with identity, fear, shame, and judgement.Links: Own your Identity Podcast and Coaching SSA QuizSept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens RetreatIf you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   Samson House Store Samson European Retreat: RAV 47 — Samson House Store 38 hours + 5 meals + 3 Samson meetings + 1 mountain ascent = 47 lives changed forever     Samson House Store 2025 Samson Summit — Samson House Store Join us for an unforgettable weekend to explore your story, deepen your relationships, and live out your story as fully as God intended. When: November 7-9, 2025 Where: Camp Glorieta , a 2,400-acre campus located about 15 miles southeast of Santa Fe, New Mexico Lodging Options Available.     Samson House Store Wild & Sacred Journey — Samson House Store Join us during the Samson Summit on November 7-9, 2025, for The Wild and Sacred Journey , a transformative weekend retreat designed exclusively for women to reconnect with the wild, playful, and sacred aspects of themselves. This experience weaves together moments of creative expression and deep reflection.