431 | Matt Wade | Relational Healing in Being Known

On this episode: Aaron, Mark, and Jason start the show at 9:05pm Tennessee time. Mark talks about sharing his story in a co-ed setting. Our Guest: Nate and Aaron talk with Ian and Tamara Dowling. Ian gets excited and talks fast. He shares about how his childhood abuse and introduction to pornography shaped his view of relationships. They discuss the importance of seeking healing for yourself and not to save a relationship. Ian and Tamara share how their marriage has healed and grown as they have experienced healing in therapy and intensives. They also discuss the financial hardships and how it led them to begin Lit Path Ministries to give scholarships and help others on their healing journeys. Links:   Lit Path Ministries Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Our Guest: This week, Aaron interviews Matt Wade. Matt’s life started as a small boy. He’s now a couples counselor specializing in EFT therapy. Matt discusses his journey of not being supported in becoming a pastor and how he had more of a passion for ministry than a passion for Jesus. He shares how his childhood abuse led to promiscuity to find acceptance and love. Matt encourages us with the healing that occurs in relationships once there is empathy for one another. Intimacy is established where there is no secrecy. Matt leads us to engage our spouse in curiosity, not judgement. Links:   Unstuck Therapy Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Our Guest: Aaron has a talk with Trent Dollyhigh. Trent is from Mayberry. Yes, that Mayberry. He grew up with whistling, fishing, violence and pornography. Trent was also youth pastor to Andrew Bauman. He shares that Andrew was a student of his and now he is a student of Andrew. Trent discusses how unresolved trauma is usually repeated, and the value of understanding an abuser's history. In his ministry, Trent “helps men die a good death so they can live a good life.” Finally, he addresses why having intelligence is not enough to heal. Links:   Be Vulnerable Mentoring Christian Counseling Center Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Pablito is not Nate, and Rob is back from retirement. Together, they compare improv to recovery. Our Guest: Aaron and Tim Ice interview Joel Roberts. Joel shares his transition from military career to becoming a therapist. He discusses how our culture and church are not characteristically raising men to be husbands and fathers, and how important it is to pursue growth in those areas. Understanding why it is important of share your story from the perspective of villain, victim, and hero. Links:   Deeper Stories Counseling Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: This week Aaron goes solo. Our Guests: Daniel Weiss and Josh Glaser. Josh is executive director at Regeneration Ministries where he works with parents, equipping them in the digital age with kids. Daniel comes from Focus on the Family, where he specialized in healthy sexuality for families and now, he equips leaders to promote Gospel-centered sexuality in the church. Together, these gentlemen co-authored a book to parents from parents titled: Treading Boldly Through a Pornographic World: A field Guide for Parents. The book helps parents get involved in discussions about the body and sex with their children. It also helps the parents address their own sexual stories. Finally, it helps parents understand why this is important, addressing what is the good in all of this. Links:   Josh Glaser, Regeneration Ministries Daniel Weiss, Sexual Integrity Leaders, Inc. Book:  Treading Boldly Through a Pornographic World: A field Guide for Parents. Events: 2024 Samson Summit If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate and Aaron made it back from England. Aaron gets up at 2am. Our Guest: Aaron and Nate have a discussion with Justin, Jason, and Mark. Nate is anxious about going to a group intensive lead by Andrew Bauman and wants the guys to give him the lowdown. Justin, Jason, and Mark share what they experienced as they recently went through the retreat together. They share how recovery is more than an intellectual fix or sobriety. The group discusses why it's important to have multiple avenues in the process of recovery. How recovery is an adventure and not a death march. Links:   Andrew Bauman 4-Day Retreats Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate is travelling. Aaron hosts solo and has many sub points. Our Guest: Dr. Joel Muddamalle. Joel resides in North Carolina via Chicago. He co-hosts a podcast with Lysa TerKeurst and Jim Cress called Therapy and Theology. Joel shares his journey of trauma to arrogance then humility. He guides us to see how safe curiosity brings us to humility and back to our own humanity. Joel also shows us that we can have peace and rest via codependency on God. He gives some practical exercises on sharing with others to help us see ourselves in truth to overcome the lies of our past. Links:   Joel Muddamalle Therapy and Theology Podcast Books:  The Hidden Peace: Finding True Security, Strength, and Confidence Through Humility Weakness is the Way: Life with Christ Our Strength by: J.I. Packer Events: 2024 Samson Summit If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate and Aaron talk about Father's Day in England and time zone challenges. Aaron smokes everything, even asparagus. Our Guest: Returning guest Michael Johnson became a marriage expert as a single person and felt led to start a marriage ministry after 10 years in his own marriage. The discussion includes seeing beyond the obvious by supplementing feelings with facts. How to reprogram your sex drive by keeping dating out in the open. Michael shares why its so easy to fall for the wrong person. Fun facts include stats about arranged marriages and love marriages being basically equal in happiness and success, and that your sex drive is good. Links:   Future Marriage University Book: Date Like You Know What You Are Doing Book: Fit To Be Tied Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Aaron gets socks, and Nate just got back from recovery church. Our Guest: Matthew & Joanna Raabsmith are founders of Renewing Us Recovery, where they help couples renew and repair relationships affected by sexual addiction, infidelity, and betrayal. Matthew shares his journey from youth pastor back to seminary where he and Joanna learned of the connection between therapy, psychology, and faith. He also talks about his road to recovery from sexual addiction through the 12-step process, and later to helping other couples in the healing process. Matthew & Joanna share the importance of having community -- males, females, and couples -- to go deep together. Links:   Renewing Us Recovery Free stuff from Matthew & Joanna Book: Building True Intimacy Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Aaron has been writing. He turns one book into several books. Nate and Aaron also discuss the gospel, recovery, and dealing with the internal parts. Our Guest: Fausto Estrada shares how his story of addiction took him from Honduras to a place of healing in Calgary, Alberta, Canada. He shares that reading more books, getting married and having kids did not cure his addiction. He became involved in Prodigals International. After much success, he translated the material to take to those in need in Spanish speaking cultures. Links:   Prodigals International - en Español Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.