Case Study: The Science Behind Attachment Parenting with Eli Harwood

How can parents cultivate a healthy balance between responsiveness and setting boundaries? Today, I’m joined by Eli Harwood from Attachment Nerd. Eli's expertise in attachment theory sheds light on the complexities of parenting in today's world. Eli and I delve into the essence of secure attachment, exploring its profound impact on children and parents alike.Today, we’ll explore the various attachment styles, from avoidant to resistant and even disorganized, and dissect how our childhood experiences influence our parenting styles. Eli will share her four strategies for transforming your parenting journey: show up, listen up, light up, and make up.In this Episode:Attachment parenting styles and their impactWhat is secure attachment: trust, regulation, and supportParenting challenges: emotions, boundaries, and repairRecognizing and addressing inherited attachment patternsStrategies: Show up, listen, light up, make upAim for 30% synchronicity in interactionsImportance of ongoing research and learning🔗 Find out more about Eli and Attachment Nerd here: https://attachmentnerd.com/🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my 30-Day Connected Parenting Challenge, starting April 15th: https://peaceandparentingla.com/30day-challenge-newOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out http://mylifeinabook.com and use code PEACE at checkout for 10% off. Create an unforgettable gift for your mom this Mother’s Day.* Redeem your welcome offer at https://byheart.com/podcast and use code PEACE for a limited time.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have you ever felt like you were losing the bond with your child? Or struggle to navigate their strong will without resorting to traditional methods of discipline. Today, I want to share my personal experiences with my daughter Esme, whose unwavering spirit challenged me to rethink my approach to parenting.Parenting my daughter has been a challenging journey. Her strong will and refusal to conform led to moments of frustration and doubt. However, I have witnessed a remarkable transformation in my relationship with Esme by adopting connection-based parenting. By shifting my focus to nurturing our bond, I have created an environment of understanding and empathy in which she has thrived.In this Episode:The challenges of parenting a strong-willed childTransitioning from traditional to connection-based parentingThe impact of connection on parent-child relationshipsHow to navigate defiance and maintain empathyThe importance of nurturing individuality and autonomy🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my 30-Day Connected Parenting Challenge, starting April 15th: https://peaceandparentingla.com/30day-challenge-newOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out http://mylifeinabook.com and use code PEACE at checkout for 10% off. Create an unforgettable gift for your mom this Mother’s Day.* Redeem your welcome offer at https://byheart.com/podcast and use code PEACE for a limited time.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Are you worried about the kind of friends your child spends their time with? Do you fear that these bad influences might lead them astray? Join me as I sit down with Anna, a fellow parent who shares her concerns about her children's friendships during their tween years. We discuss practical strategies for empowering our children to trust their instincts, navigate peer pressure, and set healthy boundaries. Let's explore how we can help our children stand up for themselves and make better choices in their friendships.In this Episode:Parenting from fear vs. connectionEmbracing empathy in guiding children's choicesFostering open communication and understandingNavigating peer pressure with resilienceCultivating deeper family connections through support🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my 30-Day Connected Parenting Challenge, starting April 15th: https://peaceandparentingla.com/30day-challenge-newOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out http://mylifeinabook.com and use code PEACE at checkout for 10% off. Create an unforgettable gift for your mom this Mother’s Day.* Redeem your welcome offer at https://byheart.com/podcast and use code PEACE for a limited time.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Ever felt caught in the crossfire of sibling battles, unsure how to step in without taking sides? As parents, we yearn for peaceful homes where our children thrive together. But when it comes to resolving conflicts between siblings, finding the balance between intervention and neutrality can feel like navigating a minefield.Today, I delve into the transformative power of neutral intervention in sibling conflicts. I’ll explore practical strategies for defusing tension and fostering understanding between siblings without inadvertently fueling the fire.In this Episode:How neutral intervention fosters understanding and harmonyEmpathy empowers children in conflict resolutionReframe your approach to conflict resolutionCreate a harmonious sibling dynamic rooted in empathyHow to guide children to express themselves authentically🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my 30-Day Connected Parenting Challenge, starting April 15th: https://peaceandparentingla.com/30day-challenge-newOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out http://mylifeinabook.com and use code PEACE at checkout for 10% off. Create an unforgettable gift for your mom this Mother’s Day.* Redeem your welcome offer at https://byheart.com/podcast and use code PEACE for a limited time.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

How do you navigate traditional parenting methods when they don't align with your child's temperament? Today, I sit with some of my longtime clients, Danielle and Neal, who discuss their parenting journey with their highly sensitive and strong-willed son, Jack. They tried traditional discipline methods such as timeouts and taking toys away, but these did not work for Jack. As a result, Danielle and Neal sought alternative approaches and eventually discovered Peace and Parenting.Danielle and Neal share the significant role that working on their childhood issues played in their journey. They also discuss which techniques worked for them, the impact of setting limits without punishments, and the importance of understanding your child and parenting style.In this Episode:Challenges and Traditional Parenting FailsDiscovering a New Approach to ParentingThe Impact of Coaching on Parenting and Personal GrowthThe Evolution of Parenting: From Struggles to SuccessReflections on Parenting Techniques and Setting Limits🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my 30-Day Connected Parenting Challenge, starting April 15th: https://peaceandparentingla.com/30day-challenge-newOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out http://mylifeinabook.com and use code PEACE at checkout for 10% off. Create an unforgettable gift for your mom this Mother’s Day.* Redeem your welcome offer at https://byheart.com/podcast and use code PEACE for a limited time.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Are you spending your time parenting, or is parenting spending your time? Today on Peace and Parenting, I delve into Pam Leo's profound wisdom, exploring the intricate balance between meeting our children's emotional needs and managing their behaviors.Drawing from my own personal experiences, I share the transformative power of filling our children's cups with love. From navigating sibling rivalry to taming the spirited soul, we explore how investing in connection yields dividends of resilience and harmony in the years to come.In this Episode:Pam Leo's wisdom on parenting prioritiesConnective parenting vs. traditional methodsInvesting time in connection reaps long-term benefitsNavigating challenges with empathy and playTools and resources for embracing connective parenting🔗 Join my Connected Parent Mastermind designed for parents who want to strengthen their connection with their children, experience more love, and reduce frustration.🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my 30-Day Connected Parenting Challenge, starting April 15th: https://peaceandparentingla.com/30day-challenge-newOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out http://mylifeinabook.com and use code PEACE at checkout for 10% off. Create an unforgettable gift for your mom this Mother’s Day.* Redeem your welcome offer at https://byheart.com/podcast and use code PEACE for a limited time.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Are you ever mortified in public when your child’s voice rockets through the mall? Today, we unpack the nuances of communication, tantrums, and the genuine distress many parents face.It's a scene familiar to many—a peaceful outing shattered by a sudden outburst from a toddler. Cherry, a mom from my Instagram followers, joins me in sharing her dilemma of dealing with her son's screams in public. This opens a world of parenting concerns centered around societal norms and effective communication. Together, we explore the delicate art of understanding your child's unique signals. I guide her through the thorny paths of public judgment, childhood expression, and the profound power of connection over correction.In this Episode:Responding to a toddler's screams with playThe stigma around public outbursts in childrenReflecting on parental reactions to yellingUsing affection to address behavioral issuesHow to use playful interaction as a parenting tool🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my 30-Day Connected Parenting Challenge, starting April 15th: https://peaceandparentingla.com/30day-challenge-newOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out http://mylifeinabook.com and use code PEACE at checkout for 10% off. Create an unforgettable gift for your mom this Mother’s Day.* Redeem your welcome offer at https://byheart.com/podcast and use code PEACE for a limited time.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

When we punish and discipline our children, are we truly teaching them respect, or are we inadvertently instilling fear? We have been conditioned to believe that respect is synonymous with obedience. But is that really what respect is all about? Today, I want to challenge this conventional thinking and urge you to reconsider your parenting approach. From my own experience as a parent, I have realized that respect cannot be forced upon our children. It is something that is earned through genuine connection, kindness, and empathy. While punishments and rewards may seem effective in the short term, they do not necessarily foster respect. Join me as we explore the complexities of respect in parenting and discover how nurturing genuine connections can lead to organic respect from our children.In this Episode:• Rethinking respect beyond obedience and fear• Earning respect through genuine connection and empathy• How punishments and rewards hinder organic respect• How mutual respect fosters healthier parent-child relationships• Nurturing respect: The keys to peaceful parenting🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my 30-Day Connected Parenting Challenge, starting April 15th: https://peaceandparentingla.com/30day-challenge-newOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out http://mylifeinabook.com and use code PEACE at checkout for 10% off. Create an unforgettable gift for your mom this Mother’s Day.* Redeem your welcome offer at https://byheart.com/podcast and use code PEACE for a limited time.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Could your pursuit of a "perfectly" behaved child be disrupting the peace in your home? This episode will unravel the intricate dance between setting boundaries and forging bonds of connection.As parents, we tend to focus on controlling our children's behavior and enforcing consequences when they make mistakes. However, what really matters is creating an environment where our children feel safe to make mistakes without fear. By showing empathy toward our children's behavior, we can establish a foundation of trust that is unbreakable. Today, I have invited Shauna, one of my Instagram followers, to share how loosening the reins of strict parenting has allowed her to build more authentic relationships with her children. We will discuss how to set boundaries without resorting to punishment, but rather through the warmth of connection. You will learn how to turn homework time into a fun activity and how to handle difficult school transitions with compassion. These methods have the potential to transform challenges into opportunities for growth.🔗 Check out my FREE Guide to Play🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my 30-Day Connected Parenting Challenge, starting April 15th: https://peaceandparentingla.com/30day-challenge-newOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out http://mylifeinabook.com and use code PEACE at checkout for 10% off. Create an unforgettable gift for your mom this Mother’s Day.* Redeem your welcome offer at https://byheart.com/podcast and use code PEACE for a limited time.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Are we unwittingly damaging our children by repeating the mistakes of our own upbringing? Today, I'm diving into a question that plagues many of us: Are we ruining our kids? This thought can grip us in moments of frustration and self-doubt. But let me tell you something: You're not alone, and you're definitely not ruining your kids.As parents, we're often held to impossible standards, haunted by our own childhood traumas, and bombarded with societal pressure to be flawless. But here's the truth: It's okay to make mistakes. In fact, it's human. I've been there—I've yelled, lost my cool, and felt like I'm failing. But here's the thing: It's not about being perfect. It's about being willing to grow and change.In this Episode:Embracing imperfection is essential for growthBreaking the cycle of generational traumaCultivating self-compassion in parentingRecognizing the impact of unresolved issuesSeeking help is a courageous step🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my 30-Day Connected Parenting Challenge, starting April 15th: https://peaceandparentingla.com/30day-challenge-newOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out http://mylifeinabook.com and use code PEACE at checkout for 10% off. Create an unforgettable gift for your mom this Mother’s Day.* Redeem your welcome offer at https://byheart.com/podcast and use code PEACE for a limited time.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy