Episode 3: Romance, Limerence, PDA, and Trauma

Send us Fan MailAs part of my burnout healing Repairing the NET series I talk about how viewing every aspect of my life through the lens of “relationship” has lifted roadblocks that I otherwise couldn’t get though.Relationship applies to how I help my kids troubleshoot, and explains why I would rather back off from tasks that are too difficult for now in order to preserve our relationship to that task for when our capacity grows.Support the showNeed help understanding PDA? Find training and free materials from myself and Sally Cat here at: pda-insiders.com

Send us Fan MailAs part of my “Repairing the NET” burnout recovery I mention how I find that an 80/20 ratio in my life as a way to feel balanced long-term 💕how 80/20 applies to my projectsusing 80/20 to find low-stress community environments“Stacking” 80/20 (like the golden ratio) as I adjust to unexpected stressorsSupport the showNeed help understanding PDA? Find training and free materials from myself and Sally Cat here at: pda-insiders.com

Send us Fan MailBurnout healing is a complex process, and it helps me to picture PDA individuals as tightrope walkers whose safety net is damaged and broken. In order to safely walk again, we desperately need a proper net underneath.“Rebuilding the net” is a concept I have used to troubleshoot the many angles that PDA people need support in order to discover their best selves.Want personalised support for PDA from the lived-experience perspective: pda-insiders.com/coachingSupport the showNeed help understanding PDA? Find training and free materials from myself and Sally Cat here at: pda-insiders.com

Send us Fan MailThis week’s live is directed at complications surrounding raising PDA kids alongside siblings (who may or may not be PDA as well!)As a PDA parent with three PDA boys, Brook talks about:Complaints of unfairnessDiscerning if other siblings might also be PDA with a different presentationHandling conflicts safelyCreating a culture of equity to diffuse tensionsYou can attend these events live by joining our free PDA Insiders Hub trial!Support the showNeed help understanding PDA? Find training and free materials from myself and Sally Cat here at: pda-insiders.com

Send us Fan MailIn this episode I talk about how PDA can say or do shocking or provocative things when in distress. Many parents panic and feel ashamed, but I help break down how to best view these behaviours and help resolve them in a supportive way.This podcast was aired live in the circle app created by Sally Cat and Brook. If you want to join our community to discuss topics like this live, or ask your own questions in our private chat spaces, join now with a free trial: https://pda-insiders.circle.so/checkout/pda-insiders-hubSupport the showNeed help understanding PDA? Find training and free materials from myself and Sally Cat here at: pda-insiders.com

Send us Fan MailMe sharing my story as a misdiagnosed, PDA/autistic adult.Support the showNeed help understanding PDA? Find training and free materials from myself and Sally Cat here at: pda-insiders.com

Send us Fan MailThis is an ongoing project as part of a book I'm working on with SallyCat's PDA to help explain PDA behaviors in part through the lens of trauma.We believe that the current understanding of Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn didn't encapsolate the range of behavior for PDA individuals, and that the realization will speak to how all humans react when they go trough trauma. Support the showNeed help understanding PDA? Find training and free materials from myself and Sally Cat here at: pda-insiders.com

Send us Fan MailIn this episode I share personal anecdotes around how I've learned to deal with trauma and PDA's impact on my romantic life, specifically how limerence effects some of us.Support the showNeed help understanding PDA? Find training and free materials from myself and Sally Cat here at: pda-insiders.com

Send us Fan MailIn this episode I try to tease apart different styles of demand avoidance.How do we tell the difference between ADHD, PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) or autistic demand avoidance?How does trauma or autism with EDA (extreme demand avoidance) fit into this conversation?Support the showNeed help understanding PDA? Find training and free materials from myself and Sally Cat here at: pda-insiders.com

Send us Fan MailIn my first ever episode I take time introducing myself and my experiences that contribute to what I do here with NoPressurePDA. I also share how PDA has personally impacted my life, and the ups and downs of trying to live without knowing my diagnosis. Finally I take some time trying to answer the question "What is PDA?" by reading through the description given by the current authority (The PDA Society, UK) and fleshing out that description with examples and some compare and contrast.Support the showNeed help understanding PDA? Find training and free materials from myself and Sally Cat here at: pda-insiders.com