Why Explaining Yourself Doesn't Always Work

I missed seven calls from my son in nine minutes. There was a time when he avoided me because he didn’t know which version of me he’d get. How did that change?If you know the mom you want to be, but when frustration builds something else comes out—and apologizing hasn’t stopped the pattern—this episode is for you.I talk about the gap between knowing and doing, and why replacing one behavior with another wasn’t enough for me. I break down the four things that can hijack your best intentions. Then I walk you through my Regulation Blueprint.You’ll leave with a way to start identifying what’s underneath your reactions and a framework for working through it—without pretending the impact isn’t real or deciding you’re a terrible mom. Work TogetherClose the gap between how you want to respond to your kids and what you actually do. Join The Regulated Mama Membership: tunisharenee.com/membershipReady to work with me privately? Apply hereStay connectedWant to stay in touch? Join my email list to get my Mindful Mondays newsletter, hear about my offers, and stay connected with me beyond this episode. Join here: tunisharenee.com/listInstagram: @vvslifecoachThis content is NOT SPONSORED.I am not a licensed therapist, doctor, or mental health professional. I'm an educator with over 2 decades of experience and a multi-certified life coach. The insights and strategies I share are based on my personal experiences and years of coaching. They’re meant to guide, inspire, and support your journey, but they’re not a substitute for professional advice.If you’re experiencing mental health challenges, please seek help from a licensed therapist or healthcare provider.

You may not be as overwhelmed by everything you have to do as you think. In this episode, I’m sharing what I realized was wearing me out before the hard moments even happened.LinksClose the gap between how you want to respond to your kids and what you actually do. Join The Regulated Mama Membership: https://tunisharenee.com/membershipHelp me create content. Take the survey. https://tunisharenee.com/surveyWant to work with me privately? https://tunisharenee.com/apply

I told my son he could tell me anything. But when he did, my reactions taught him to think twice.Being his mom didn’t automatically make me someone he felt safe talking to. In this episode, I share three ways I made it harder for my son to open up, the patterns I repeated from my own childhood, and what changed when I got honest about my part in our relationship.LinksClose the gap between how you want to respond to your kids and what you actually do. Join The Regulated Mama Membership: https://tunisharenee.com/membershipHelp me create content. Take the survey.https://tunisharenee.com/surveyWant to work with me privately?https://tunisharenee.com/apply

Listen in as my son and I go live on Instagram answering the questions that I’ve gotten from other people’s children.LinksClose the gap between how you want to respond to your kids and what you actually do. Join The Regulated Mama Membership: https://tunisharenee.com/membershipHelp me create content. Take the survey.https://tunisharenee.com/surveyWant to work with me privately?https://tunisharenee.com/apply

Join the Regulated Mama: https://tunisharenee.com/membershipIn this episode, we're talking about how to own the ways you've hurt your child without making those mistakes your identity—and why being accountable doesn't require you to live in guilt until your teen sees you differently.Because your teen can be hurt. You can have been wrong. And neither automatically means you're a bad mom.

https://tunisharenee.com/membershipIn this episode, I break down the difference between losing your temper and using your anger. I talk about something I call petty anger and give you 3 things to think about the next time you feel angry so that you can be more in control of how you respond.If you want to work toward being the master of your emotions with support, join me inside The Regulated Mama membership.

Ready to go further? The Regulated Mama Membership is for moms building a new life for themselves, new dynamics with their kids, and a new legacy of healthy relationships that everybody wants to be a part of, even when things are hard. https://tunisharenee.com/membership=======================Have you ever looked completely fine on the outside while everything on the inside felt off? In this episode I get honest about a season where I went quiet, felt overly emotional about everything, and had to admit my life was out of whack, even though I wasn't losing my temper with anyone.In this episode, we discuss:Have you ever looked completely fine on the outside while everything on the inside felt off? In this episode I get honest about a season where I went quiet, felt overly emotional about everything, and had to admit my life was out of whack, even though I wasn't losing my temper with anyone.In this episode, we discuss:The real definition of regulation I use, and why it has nothing to do with staying calmWhy regulation can look completely different than what you'd assume it looks likeThe three steps to help you find your way back to it when things feel off

Today, we're talking about why feeling heard is about more than finding the right words.LinksHelp me create content. Take the Content Survey.https://tunisharenee.com/surveyHate the way Motherhood feels and ready to work with me?https://tunisharenee.com/apply

Becoming a regulated woman changed how I parent, work, communicate, and see myself.🔴 Ready to become a more regulated mom and woman? Start here ➡️ https://tunisharenee.comLinksHelp me create content. Take the Content Survey.https://tunisharenee.com/surveyHate the way Motherhood feels and ready to work with me?https://tunisharenee.com/apply

Welcome to Feminine AF. Each episode will cover a new topic within the world of Christian motherhood–intentionally developing ourselves into the stewards of our teenage children that God has called us to be. We focus on restoring our joy in motherhood, increasing closeness with our kids, and bringing more peace into our lives.Today, we're gonna talk about how to start fixing the damage caused by being overly critical of your teenage or adult child by changing yourself instead of trying to change your child.LinksHelp me create content. Take the Content Survey.https://tunisharenee.com/surveyWant to know how you could be unintentionally pushing your teen away?https://tunisharenee.comHate the way Motherhood feels and ready to work with me?https://tunisharenee.com/apply