1903 || real manifestation

Your brain is adaptable as heck, and it's adapting to our behavior whether we realize it or not. Why not get involved?don't diedon't let shame drivedon't future trip on the negativesbe gentle plan for a future version of you where it is all going rightPlan a mental escape/mini-vacation for yourself to practice considering your future in a positive light. Then take some action to get yourself there. Additional sources:BBC mini documentary on realigning a brain in 6 weeks BBC "you're not stuck with the brain you're born with" https://www.refreshpsychiatry.com/post/brain-power-boost-10-proven-strategies-to-enhance-neuroplasticityHow to retrain your brain blog post https://www.reddit.com/r/socialskills/comments/wxe08w/is_there_like_a_psychological_way_to_trick_your/https://bigthink.com/technology-innovation/you-can-train-your-brain-to-become-more-confident/Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Read Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOKSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your brain is adaptable as heck, and it's adapting to our behavior whether we realize it or not. Why not get involved?Mindfulness changes your brain structure, in just a few weeks.THE SOURCES:BBC mini documentary on realigning a brain in 6 weeks BBC "you're not stuck with the brain you're born with" https://www.refreshpsychiatry.com/post/brain-power-boost-10-proven-strategies-to-enhance-neuroplasticityHow to retrain your brain blog post https://www.reddit.com/r/socialskills/comments/wxe08w/is_there_like_a_psychological_way_to_trick_your/https://bigthink.com/technology-innovation/you-can-train-your-brain-to-become-more-confident/Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Read Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOKSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's about consistency, not perfection. 10 Proven Strategies to Enhance Neuroplasticity 1. Embrace Continuous Learning2. Aerobic Exercise3. Mindfulness Meditation4. Nutritious Diet5. Adequate Sleep6. Socialize7. Reduce Stress8. Novel Experiences9. Brain-Training Games10. Artistic EndeavorsTHE SOURCES:https://www.refreshpsychiatry.com/post/brain-power-boost-10-proven-strategies-to-enhance-neuroplasticityHow to retrain your brain blog post https://www.reddit.com/r/socialskills/comments/wxe08w/is_there_like_a_psychological_way_to_trick_your/https://bigthink.com/technology-innovation/you-can-train-your-brain-to-become-more-confident/BBC mini documentary on realigning a brain in 6 weeks Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Read Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOKSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if you focused on all the things you wanted, rather than what you didn't? We are pattern making machines. What you tend to, you help thrive. Your attention is the most valuable resource you have, use it wisely when you can. We don't notice the progress because it's everywhere. We notice the terrible stuff because of cognitive biases, which is fair. But doomerism is a dangerous and slippery slope.Practice intentional, conscious, stubborn optimism.Observe, don't absorb. Embody a calm confident purposeful alignment. Build positive tracks in your brain. "Aim to understand only that which you wish to experience" - BIZ on Tiktok You cannot passively absorb new skills. You need to be fully focused, attentive, and mentally engaged. Imagine how powerful you'll become when you engage in the good (your hopes), rather than keeping yourself so focused on the bad (your fears). ADDITIONAL SOURCES: How to retrain your brain blog post https://www.reddit.com/r/socialskills/comments/wxe08w/is_there_like_a_psychological_way_to_trick_your/https://bigthink.com/technology-innovation/you-can-train-your-brain-to-become-more-confident/BBC mini documentary on realigning a brain in 6 weeks Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Read Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOKSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Doomerism is an epidemic (by design) so it's time we push back against it. The future is only hopeless, if you give up hope. If you believe “Everything’s broken, and nothing matters." You're right. If you believe "Everything's broken, and everything matters." You're also right. Wars don't end when one side destroys the other, it ends when one side gives up. Giving up, means losing the war. Hopelessness is the problem. Treat it as one. THE SOURCES:https://www.revitalizewellnesscounseling.com/blog/nihilism-and-doomerismhttps://www.mindjournal.blog/what-does-meliorism-meanNatasha Bedingfield UnwrittenOptimism is rebellionhttps://gracecounsellingandtherapy.in/blog/overcoming-cynicism-and-hopelessness-about-the-future/Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Read Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOKSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We don't notice the progress because it's everywhere. We notice the terrible stuff because of cognitive biases, which is fair. But doomerism is a dangerous and slippery slope. Practice intentional, conscious, stubborn optimism. Pick a lane and take some action. Build hope strategically. You can make a difference, which will change the way you think and feel, which will make you even more effective in your actions, which will continue to spiral upward until you realize you have made a huge difference and things were never doomed. THE SOURCES:https://www.mindjournal.blog/what-does-meliorism-meanNatasha Bedingfield UnwrittenOptimism is rebellionhttps://gracecounsellingandtherapy.in/blog/overcoming-cynicism-and-hopelessness-about-the-future/Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Read Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOKSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Choosing to look at the future as something you have a say in, is punk as fuck. Meliorism: The belief that the human condition can be improved through concerted effort.The belief that there is an inherent tendency toward progress or improvement in the human condition.https://www.mindjournal.blog/what-does-meliorism-meanNatasha Bedingfield UnwrittenOptimism is rebellionhttps://gracecounsellingandtherapy.in/blog/overcoming-cynicism-and-hopelessness-about-the-future/Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Read Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOKSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

True safety doesn't come from a partner promising they will never hurt you (a promise no human can permanently guarantee). True safety comes from promising yourself that if your boundaries are crossed, you love yourself enough to walk away. Unfortunately there is no cheat code to finding a better relationship that is safe in every way. Being a human being, having a human experience means you’re not bigger than the program. “You are loved just for being who you are, just for existing. You don't have to do anything to earn it. Your shortcomings, your lack of self-esteem, physical perfection, or social and economic success - none of that matters. No one can take this love away from you, and it will always be here.” — Ram DassTHE SOURCES:Eliza Day on Fearing being Judged National Library of Medicine Research on exposure based therapy ShineMommyShine on Believing the Judgement Anxiety Specialists on Why the Fear of Judgement is not about other people Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Read Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOKSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’ve been thinking a lot about trust and consideration and love. Naturally, I’ve been very bitter about some things going on in my personal life and it convinced me for a second there that I didn’t love or trust the world around me and that I would never trust another human again. Wen in reality, I didn’t hate the world around me I hate the internal process I wasn’t allowing myself to fully experience. One way Ive been combatting this line of thinking is through reality checks and one of the most important reminder for myself lately is that I dont actually distrust everyone and everything. Every time I get in my car I Trust the manufacturer, the guy who does my brakes, my oil changes, the guy who makes the roads. Maybe I dont know or trust them in intimate ways, but ti doesn’t mean I don't have some love and compassion and appreciation for the version of that person who made the road or changed my tires or did my oil. Some people are really fucking… not smart… and some people really fucking annoying and some are a combination of dumb and annoying. We have to love them anyway. Perfection is not a prerequisite for human connection or emotional care. Every human being has limitations, mistakes, and vulnerabilities; expecting flawlessness is unrealistic. A person's intrinsic value and capacity for belonging do not depend on constant performance or error-free conduct.Plenty of flawed people are in real, loving relationships. Do I believe they don’t deserve to be loved just because they are flawed? I try my best to be perfect, because in some way it makes me feel like I can get away from being abandoned or cheated on or lied to or hurt. But that’s not how any of this works. Part of what makes falling and being in love so magical and deep and beautiful is that it is inherently a risk. You are putting your faith in another person. And sometimes those people will disappoint you. Sometimes those people will disappoint themselves. There’s nothing you can do about that. But being hotter (or richer or cooler or more botoxed or whatever) won’t protect you from that. Meg Thee Stallion, Beyonce, Dolly, Sandra Bullock, Halle Berry, Eva Longoria, Reese Witherspoon, Shakira, Robert Pattinson, Every Kardashian, Nia fucking Long, and these are just the publicized ones. Nobody is safe from heartbreak and being disappointed by a person. We often weaponize self-improvement. We try to become the hottest, smartest, or most flawless version of ourselves as a subconscious shield. But you can't save yourself from other people's weaknesses + mistakes. You can only CHOOSE to love yourself despite it all. “You are loved just for being who you are, just for existing. You don't have to do anything to earn it. Your shortcomings, your lack of self-esteem, physical perfection, or social and economic success - none of that matters. No one can take this love away from you, and it will always be here.” — Ram DassTHE SOURCES:Eliza Day on Fearing being Judged National Library of Medicine Research on exposure based therapy ShineMommyShine on Believing the Judgement Anxiety Specialists on Why the Fear of Judgement is not about other people Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Read Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOKSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you’re afraid of someone else judging you, you are only afraid of the confirmation of things you already believe about yourself. I am never offended by a claim I know is untrue. You can call me a liar, and I won’t flinch - because I know I am not a liar. You can say I’m unfunny, but I know for a fact that is not true at all. But the second you say something that I have some prior belief in, it triggers my defenses. It feels like a confirmation of my worst fears. If I suspect I’m unlovable, and someone says I’m unlovable, it triggers that fear and feels like a confirmation of something I already “knew”. So when we shield ourselves from the judgement of others, we’re not actually protecting ourselves from these judgements or these fears, You still experience those fears just the same. In fact, you cosign them, by not allowing the judgments to come without agreeing with them. If I don’t let myself be seen because I think I’m too ugly or dumb or whatever, you adopt that fear as an identity and you make choices in accordance to those ideas and you live your entire life within these boundaries you create for yourself. The thing is, these may have absolutely no basis in reality. And they’re definitely not things you WANT to believe. So in an effort to protect yourself, you actually work from a place that confirms your worst fears, and as a result, created life that aligns with your greatest fear about yourself. Whereas, if you put yourself out there anyway, it trains your brain that it’s safe to do so. It proves to yourself that you were wrong. If you're afraid of being judged socially, speak up, deliberately go to the social event anyway. Don't reinforce the insecurity. Don't shrink your comfort zone. Don't build your life around your insecurities. THE SOURCES: Eliza Day on Fearing being Judged National Library of Medicine Research on exposure based therapy ShineMommyShine on Believing the Judgement Anxiety Specialists on Why the Fear of Judgement is not about other people Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Read Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOKSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.