Episode 294: The Meaning You Give Things

In this episode, we’re having an honest conversation no one else in your life probably will — about the subtle, everyday ways we create our own suffering, and how to gently pull yourself out of that negative spiral.You’ll learn how to:Spot the stories your mind automatically tells you — and understand where they really come fromChoose thoughts that open the door to growth, self-love, and peaceAnd rewire your reactions so you stop repeating old emotional patterns that keep you stuckThis isn’t about toxic positivity or pretending everything’s fine.It’s about reclaiming your emotional power — learning to see yourself and your life through a lens that brings healing instead of hurt.If you’re ready to feel lighter, calmer, and more in charge of how you experience your life, this one’s for you.Also mentioned in this episode: The Well Made Woman: Lead Your Life Masterclass Series. We start October 21 and you'll have lifetime access to the recordings if you cannot join us live each day. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/lyl/

In this episode, we’re exploring the idea of Emotional Wealth — treating YOU as the primary asset in your life.Just like investing in property or stocks for long-term gain, emotional wealth is built by consistently investing in how you think, how you feel, and how you choose to respond… no matter what’s happening around you.We’ll talk about:Why emotional maturity is a long-game investment, not a quick emotional hitWhat it means to see yourself as an asset that increases in value over timeHow to stay steady when life throws disruptions, disappointments, or emotional stormsAnd why building emotional wealth is legacy work — something your children will inherit through the way you live, feel, and handle lifeThis isn’t about being positive all the time.It’s about becoming emotionally abundant — able to feel deeply, recover quickly, and move through life with grounded confidence.If you've ever wanted to feel unshakeable, more at peace, and truly proud of who you're becoming — this conversation will shift the way you see emotional growth forever.Mentioned in this Episode: The Well Made Woman Lead Your Life Masterclass --> Learn More Here: https://drchavonne.com/lyl/

Do you ever feel like you’re always on edge—snapping quicker than usual, running on fumes, or just carrying a quiet sense of tension that never seems to go away?In this episode, we’re breaking down what’s really happening beneath the surface when you feel like you’re at your limit. You’ll learn how to:Identify what’s actually fueling your reactivity (and why your mind keeps spinning there)Reclaim your focus and calm by auditing where your attention is goingGround yourself through simple, embodied self-care—so you’re not just managing stress but truly restoring your peaceShift from constant problem-solving to genuine problem-healingIf you’ve been feeling stretched too thin, reactive, or stuck in survival mode—this episode will help you slow down, tune in, and finally exhale.And if this resonated with you, I want to invite you to my private workshop, The Well Made Woman: Lead Your Life. Here we will go deep into how to live more authentically, feel fulfilled, and rise resilient without losing yourself. You can learn more and apply to join us here: https://drchavonne.com/lyl/

In this episode, we’re exploring a different way of looking at your life and your marriage: the belief that it all works out for you.We’ll dive into:Why releasing timelines and deadlines might be the key to more patience and peaceHow every obstacle can become an opportunity to grow into the version of yourself who can have what you wantAnd how learning to loosen control and open yourself up creates the space for more joy, more ease, and even more of God’s presence in your lifeIf you’ve been tired of forcing things, rushing things, or stressing over why it hasn’t happened yet—this conversation will help you see your challenges through a whole new lens.For more help and support making this perspective your way of LIVING, I invite you to consider working with me directly in one of my coaching programs. To learn more, go to: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Over the past week, I released a special video series called The Mindsets for a Happier, More Connected Marriage. And in case you missed it — or just prefer to listen on the go — I’m bringing the full series to you here on the podcast.In this series, I walk you through 5 powerful mindsets that can completely change the way you and your spouse communicate and connect.Because the truth is, it’s not just about what you say. It’s about the mindset you bring into every conversation.These 5 mindsets will help you: Break out of the same old arguments Reignite your closeness and intimacy Build communication that feels safe, kind, and productiveSo whether you’ve been following along with the videos or this is your first time hearing the series, I know you’ll walk away with practical shifts you can start using right now in your marriage.And...Early Enrollment for The Marriage UpGrade is open NOW. See what bonuses and special incentives I have for you by joining the VIP list here: https://drchavonne.com/tmu-waitlist/

Have you ever caught yourself thinking… “We’re just stuck in the same patterns”?Maybe you’re tired of the arguments that go nowhere…Or feeling like roommates who just handle the day-to-day stuff but don’t really connect anymore.You can have more than a marriage that just “functions.” You deserve one that feels fulfilling—where you enjoy each other, laugh together, and feel like true partners.In this week’s episode of the podcast, I’m sharing what it really takes to build that kind of marriage. After listening, you’ll walk away with::: A way to get clear on what you actually want in your relationship (beyond just knowing what’s not working):: How to stop repeating the same old habits and start showing up differently:: Why your growth matters just as much as your partner’s (and what that looks like in real life):: Simple shifts that make intimacy and connection easierThis episode will lay out the steps necessary to create a marriage you actually love living in.Also mentioned in this Episode: The Marriage UpGade is opening up for Early Enrollment September 23-30. This is my signature couples program designed to guide and coach you to creating a more fulfilling marriage - one with easier communication, deeper connection, and more passion and intimacy. Get all the details here: https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/

You’ve built success everywhere else—your career, your family, your home life looks great on the outside.But behind closed doors, it feels like constant miscommunication, emotional distance, or like you’re just roommates passing in the night.In this episode, I’m breaking down why even high-achieving couples struggle in marriage, the common patterns I see that quietly erode connection, and the key shifts that help you communicate better, laugh more, and feel like a team again.If you’ve ever thought, “We should be happier than this,” you’ll want to listen in.And if you'd like my proven process designed to address your unique marriage challenges, I invite you to learn more about my signature couples coaching program, The Marriage UpGrade. You can learn more here: https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/Early Enrollment opens September 23-30.

When it comes to your marriage, progress doesn’t come from one big breakthrough conversation or waiting for your partner to suddenly change. Progress comes from habits.Not the once-in-a-while things you do when you’re on your best behavior, but the predictable patterns you fall into over and over again.In this episode, we’re talking about how to recognize these habits for what they are, and—more importantly—how to start changing them so you can create a different experience in your marriage.You’ll learn:How to spot the patterns that keep pulling you both back into the same fights.Why self-awareness is the first step in shifting your behavior.What it takes to experiment with new ways of responding—and why that matters.How to create systems and structures (like code words or marriage check-ins) that make new habits stick.And why celebrating small wins is just as important as the big breakthroughs.If nothing changes about what you do, nothing changes about what you experience. But once you start shifting your habits, you’ll not only make progress—you’ll transform who you are to each other.

In this episode, we’re breaking down why managing your emotions is the key to making real progress in your marriage. You’ll learn:Why emotions are physical sensations that will pass—and how to ride that wave instead of getting pulled under.How to see emotions as signals guiding you to something important.What it looks like to truly take responsibility for your own feelings—without blaming or offloading them onto your partner.Why “you can’t heal what you won’t feel” (and how to practice that in a safe, grounded way).And how staying centered in your emotions actually makes it more likely that your partner will hear you.If you’ve ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same fights, or why the same feelings seem to hijack your progress—this episode is going to show you a new way forward.And for more personalized support using my proven process to making progress in your marriage, I invite you to work with me in one of my coaching programs. To learn more, visit my website: DrChavonne.com

In today’s episode, we’re digging into the simple but transformative truth that your thoughts create your results. Not just in your to-do list, but in the way you feel about yourself, your partner, and your relationship.I’ll show you how to spot the thoughts that are quietly working against you, and how to start choosing thoughts that bring you closer to the peace, connection, and love you really want.By the end of this episode, you’ll know:How to recognize the kinds of thoughts that keep you stuck in overwhelm, disconnection, or resentment.A simple way to reframe your thinking so it actually supports what you want in your marriage.Why “choosing a better thought” isn’t fake positivity—it’s a skill that can change the emotional climate of your relationship.What to do when your negative thoughts feel true and how to shift without dismissing your reality.This is the work that changes you first—and when you change, your marriage begins to change too.And if you are looking for help to develop the right thoughts and actions that ultimately create a better marriage, I invite you to work with me in one of my coaching programs. You can learn more on my website: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/