294: Why They Act Interested, Then Disappear... (The REAL Reason)

In this episode Matthew and Audrey sit down for a review of the last quarter of the year and dive into the hidden forces that shape our relationships with others and ourselves.  They also discuss the perfectionism that keeps us from connection, overthinking texts, and the emotional blocks that hold us back in our relationships. Plus, they answer a listener's question on whether showing interest in someone inevitably drives them away, and how to strike the balance between authenticity and attraction. Topics include: Why the fear of being "too much" makes us play small in dating and friendships The truth about why people pull away when we show interest—and how to handle it How perfectionism sabotages your communication and creates disconnection A simple but powerful quarterly reflection exercise to reset your year Why overthinking texts can ironically make you seem distant or cold The invisible difference between "connecting" and "protecting" modes in life How to be more warm, proactive, and magnetic in your communication What it really means to “create the culture” in your relationships --- 💬 Feeling stuck knowing what to say? Download our free guide: 9Texts.com → 9 ready-to-use messages that spark interest, build attraction, and move things forward. 📅 Want live coaching, Q&As, and a supportive dating community? Join the Love Life Club: JoinLoveLife.com 📩 Have a question or want to send us your Matthew AI answers? Email: [email protected]

Why do amazing people—kind, self-aware, emotionally intelligent—keep falling for partners who can’t meet them halfway? In this week’s video, we uncover the five reasons behind this painful cycle and how to finally break free. From the scarcity mindset to the addictive highs and lows of unstable relationships, we’ll explore why we settle for less and how to rewrite the story we tell ourselves about love. If you’ve ever felt stuck between the chaos of unhealthy relationships and the “dullness” of safe ones, this video is for you. Learn how to break the patterns that keep you tethered to the wrong people, and start creating the love life you truly deserve. --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

Have you ever found yourself stuck thinking about an ex who’s no longer in your life? It’s a painful trap, but one that so many of us fall into when we tie our worth to someone else’s story instead of our own. In this episode, we uncover the mindset shift that frees you from this cycle and helps you reclaim your confidence. By focusing on the one thing you truly own—yourself—you can start building a life that feels fulfilling, no matter what’s happening around you. If you’re ready to let go of what’s holding you back and invest in your own happiness, this episode is your guide. Don’t miss it! --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . .  → http://www.AskMH.com

Why do great dates sometimes lead to radio silence? In this new Love Life episode, Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen dive into the mystery of why someone might pull away after what seemed like a perfect first (or second, or third) date.    From the elusive “spark” to deeper compatibility issues, you’ll learn surprising reasons why people choose not to pursue another date—and how to avoid taking it personally.    --- 💬 Feeling stuck knowing what to say? Download our free guide: 9Texts.com → 9 ready-to-use messages that spark interest, build attraction, and move things forward. 📅 Want live coaching, Q&As, and a supportive dating community? Join the Love Life Club: JoinLoveLife.com 📩 Have a question or want to send us your Matthew AI answers? Email: [email protected]

Have you ever sent a text and immediately wished you could take it back—or worse, been met with silence? In this week’s new video, I’m sharing 7 texts that not only greatly increase your chances of a reply, but also build real attraction. These aren’t your run-of-the-mill messages, either. They’re crafted to create tension and spark desire. Whether you’re tired of ghosting, lukewarm responses, or conversations that fizzle out, these texts will help you go from being someone they kind of like to someone they can’t stop thinking about. --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

How do you know if someone’s really over their ex? Sometimes you meet a person who ticks all your boxes, but they also haven’t 100% gotten over the heartbreak of their last relationship. Of course, the first questions you ask yourself are: “Is this a huge red flag? Does it mean they are emotionally unavailable? Should I walk away?” This is a really important topic in today’s video, and my answer to this probably isn’t what you’d expect. Give it a watch to find out the signs you can look out for to discern whether someone is truly a bad bet or if they have real potential. --- ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com ►► Get 24/7 coaching from Matthew AI: AskMH.com   

Are you stuck in a cycle of tolerating disrespect or avoiding tough conversations?  In this episode of Love Life, Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen dive into why so many of us stay in challenging relationships—whether romantic, familial, or platonic—for far too long, and how to reclaim your power by setting boundaries and addressing the issues. You’ll learn how to stop obsessing over someone else’s actions and start focusing on why you’re allowing it, plus practical tools for having those difficult conversations you’ve been avoiding.  🎯 Topics include: Why we ignore our needs in the early stages of relationships. How to have tough conversations about what matters to you. The power of teaching others how to treat you—and when to walk away. Why people-pleasing tendencies can leave you feeling invisible in your own relationships. How to break free from unhealthy dynamics and create space for mutual respect. If you’ve ever struggled to stand up for yourself or felt stuck in a one-sided dynamic, this episode will give you the clarity and confidence to take action. — 👉 Try Matthew AI for just $7 (only until April 25th): AskMH.com   

How do you flirt without looking desperate? When you meet someone you’re into, it can feel like walking a tightrope—you want to show interest, but not come off as too eager. In this week’s episode, I share five subtle-yet-powerful flirting techniques that create attraction . . . without the fear of looking desperate or risking rejection. (Plus, I reveal a playful way my wife flirted with me early on that left a lasting impression—and it’s something you can easily try yourself.) --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

We all know we won’t connect with everyone we meet . . . but one of the most frustrating situations we can find ourselves in is one where we feel an initial spark and a connection, but things just don’t seem to progress. And in the end, they end up fading as we feel a lack of momentum. Rather than giving in to our desire to double down on communication, there’s a simple shift we can make on a date that allows unique attraction to grow. And it’s the kind of thing that will leave them thinking of us long after the date has ended . . . If you’d like to learn what this ingredient is and how you can add it to your next date, don’t miss this week’s brand-new episode. --- ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com

Are you walking away too fast—or staying when you shouldn’t? In this episode, Matthew Hussey shares an honest look at how we misread red flags in dating in an interview with Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu). You’ll learn how to spot real red flags vs. amber lights, when to pause instead of panic, and how the right relationship can help you heal. 🎯 Topics include: The difference between a red flag and an “amber light” 🚦 How fear and past hurt can make us overreact or shut down 😬 The danger of going into dating like an "assessor" rather than a present and open human being. Why empathy without boundaries can be dangerous—and how to balance compassion with standards. How relationships can be healing if you show up the right way 💞 Whether you’ve been burned in the past or just want to date with more emotional intelligence, this one’s for you. 👇 Try Matthew AI for just $7 (limited time): AskMH.com