271: Why It’s Actually Good to “Settle” in Love | Feat. Oliver Burkeman

How do you stop obsessing over someone you’ve recently started dating? When someone seems to tick all our boxes, it can be hard to NOT become flooded with thoughts of a possible future together. We anxiously wait for their text. We put them on a pedestal . . . and as a result, potentially push them away. In this week’s episode, I share 5 things you can do to stop falling for someone too quickly. By following these steps, you’ll be able to keep your value and actually enjoy dating instead of getting stuck in anxiety. ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com    

Over my career, I’ve had so many people ask me how to get someone to actually call them. We seem to live on our phones these days, and yet, it feels like no one wants to pick them up and actually have a conversation. We're all good with texting, posting on social media, or sending messages, but when it comes to hearing someone’s voice? Well, that seems like too much to ask. Or is it? I've seen people make this way more complicated than it needs to be, so let’s simplify things. If you're tired of texting endlessly and want to create a real connection through conversation, here are 3 killer techniques to get them to pick up the phone and call you... --- ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com

Today it's my pleasure to sit down with the excellent Oliver Burkeman (@oliverburkeman), author of the new book "Meditation for Mortals", which I've found myself recommending to all my friends and family as his work has hugely influential on me in recent years. We sit down to discuss: - Why "settling" in relationships is necessary - How to find your Life Task - How to get over perfectionism - The power of intuition vs. reason - Being more present in your life + acceptance - Giving up on the illusion of "arriving" - How to get through difficult things, anxiety, and deal with your flaws And more! ►► Grab a copy of Oliver's wonderful new book Meditation for Mortals ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com

THIS is one of the top reasons why a breakup can feel so raw . . .   You may have only recently let your guard down and shown your real feelings, only to have the other person end things. This can feel especially painful because it’s like they’ve rejected you for who you truly are at your core.   But it doesn’t have to feel that way, because it’s not actually true. And in today’s new episode, I explore 5 different mindsets that can ease heartbreak and restore confidence so you can find the right person faster. ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com

When you’re in love and someone decides to end the relationship, it’s natural for your brain to go into "panic mode." Why are they doing this? How can I be the person they want? What can I say to win them back? If you allow these swirling thoughts to take over, you’ll likely end up pushing them further and further away. Now, I’m not here to tell you whether or not you should give things another try with your ex. There are many factors to consider, which we can talk about another time. But what I do know is that if you want to have a real chance of reconnecting, you must understand this important truth before taking the next step... --- ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com

This week, I answered your questions live on a host of dating topics! Come join and listen in! :)  ►► Learn What It Takes to Get Real, Lasting Commitment. Watch the Limited-Time Replay of Casual to Committed now at: http://www.LoveLifeReplay.com

Tired of dating the wrong people? When we really want to find a relationship, saying “no” to the people who don’t align with our core values can feel scary . . . especially when we’re not meeting a lot of people we connect with. We may even start to loosen our standards and become attached to someone who’s only giving us crumbs. In today’s episode, I dive into the subtle-but-profound difference between those who successfully find love, and those who continue to remain in limbo. You’ll also learn how to cultivate the right culture in your life to attract a lasting, fulfilling relationship (plus I share a story from my younger days as a DJ). Let me know your thoughts in the comments! ►► If You’re Ready to Escape the Maze and Discover What It Takes to Get Real, Lasting Commitment Watch the Limited-Time Replay of Casual to Committed now at . . . → http://www.LoveLifeReplay.com

Have you ever been hurt badly by someone in love? Those wounds can stay with us a long time. They can stop us from taking chances again in love. They can make us afraid of getting close to someone again…  Afraid of being vulnerable again… Afraid of letting someone in… Because if the result of letting our guard down and choosing to love someone is that we give up all of our power, then why bother, right? Sure, we may be giving up the special experience of being in love, but at least we don’t have to experience those dreadful lows. If you can relate to this, today’s episode is for you. You’ll hear me doing a live demonstration with someone who is going through exactly this issue. And what I tell her may be exactly the words you need to hear right now. This episode isn’t a pep talk. It’s a rational, practical strategy for how to navigate your love life after someone has hurt you, or broken your heart or your trust (or all 3). ----- ►► Discover the Biggest Reason Why People Struggle to Get Commitment, and How You Can Avoid “Relationship Limbo” Once and for All. Watch the reply of my FREE Masterclass, "From Casual to Committed" before it expires at . . . http://www.LoveLifeReplay.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com

This week Stephen sits down with Matt and Audrey to talk about all things commitment (including some questions about their own relationship!)  Topics include: Why people fear commitment Why choosing your partner feels so high stakes What makes sharing your life feel harder in 2024 Why we hold back emotionally Deciding if your standards are too high or too low How to know if you're compatible What flaws should you accept in a partner Whether you’re sick of superficial situationships or want to learn how to grow closer in your relationship, this is for you! ►► Discover the Biggest Reason Why People Struggle to Get Commitment, and How You Can Avoid “Relationship Limbo” Once and for All. Watch my FREE Masterclass, From Casual to Committed at → http://www.LoveLifeTraining.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com

Why is it that we seem to be attracted to certain people who only give us scraps of attention? It often happens when we tell ourselves that someone is so rare and desirable that they’re worth holding on to even if they don’t want the same things as us. In today’s episode, I’ll show you the trap that many people end up falling into, plus one key quality that results in more commitment. Whether you’re sick of superficial situationships or want to learn how to grow closer in your relationship, this is for you! ►► Discover the Biggest Reason Why People Struggle to Get Commitment, and How You Can Avoid “Relationship Limbo” Once and for All. Register Now for my FREE Masterclass, From Casual to Committed at → http://www.LoveLifeTraining.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com