113 | The Hidden Damage of Shrinking Yourself (And What It Means for the New Year)

🔥 1. Shrinking Often Disguises Itself as “Being Wise” You tell yourself: “I’m just being patient.” “I’m still learning.” “I’ll start when I’m more confident.” “I don’t want to rush God.” But wisdom doesn’t produce paralysis. And preparation that never leads to action is not obedience — it’s avoidance. Biblical Truth: Ecclesiastes 11:4 — “Whoever watches the wind will not plant.” Waiting for perfect conditions keeps seeds in your hand instead of in the ground. 🔥 2. The Emotional Cost of Shrinking Yourself Shrinking doesn’t make you peaceful — it makes you resentful. Hidden effects include: quiet frustration low-grade anxiety comparison self-doubt feeling behind questioning your purpose Your soul knows when it’s meant for more — even if your fear argues otherwise. Biblical Truth: Jeremiah 20:9 — “His word is in my heart like a fire… I am weary of holding it in.” What God places inside you will eventually demand expression. 🔥 3. Shrinking Is Not the Same as Surrender Surrender says: “God, I’ll do it Your way.” Shrinking says: “God, I’ll do it if it feels safe.” One leads to growth. The other leads to stagnation. God never asked you to erase yourself — He asked you to deny sin, not identity. Biblical Truth: Galatians 1:10 — “If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” People-pleasing and purpose rarely coexist. 🔥 4. What Shrinking Looks Like in the New Year As the year resets, shrinking sounds like: “This year I’ll just observe.” “I’ll wait and see what happens.” “Others are already doing it better.” “Maybe next season.” But the new year doesn’t require a new personality — it requires new obedience. Biblical Truth: Isaiah 43:19 — “See, I am doing a new thing!” God’s new thing often requires you to show up differently than before. 🔥 5. Stewardship Requires Visibility You can’t steward what you refuse to use. Your voice. Your ideas. Your leadership. Your business. Your influence. Buried gifts don’t multiply. Biblical Truth: Matthew 25:25–26 — The servant who hid his talent wasn’t praised for being careful — he was corrected for being fearful. Key Takeaways Shrinking feels safe but produces stagnation Humility and invisibility are not the same God doesn’t prepare you just to keep you hidden Your frustration may be a signal, not a flaw Obedience often feels uncomfortable before it feels peaceful Introverts don’t need to be louder — they need to be braver The new year isn’t about doing more — it’s about showing up Let’s Take Action 📝 1. Name Where You’ve Been Shrinking Write down: One area of your life you’ve been holding back One idea you’ve delayed One gift you’ve minimized Clarity breaks fear. 🗣️ 2. Replace the Shrinking Script Old thought: “I’m not ready.” New truth: “God wouldn’t nudge me if I wasn’t capable.” Say it daily. 📅 3. Choose One Brave Step for the New Year Not ten. Not five. One. Examples: Post the thing Launch the offer Raise your price Start before you feel confident Tell someone what you really want Momentum starts small. 📖 4. Pray This Prayer “God, show me where I’ve been hiding out of fear instead of trusting You. Give me courage to steward what You’ve placed in my hands — especially when it stretches me.” 🌿 5. Declare This Truth “I am not behind. I am not invisible. I am not too much. I am being prepared — and I am willing to step forward.” What's Next --> Why Your Content isn't Converting: a 10 Minute Self-Audit for Christian Women <--

In this episode, we explore the common feelings of loneliness experienced by Christian entrepreneurs and provide practical strategies to combat isolation. Discover how to build a supportive network, intertwine faith and business, and find fulfillment on your entrepreneurial journey. Key Takeaways: Isolation of Entrepreneurship: Understanding the solitary nature of running a business.Solution: Seek coworking spaces, local business groups, community groups like cupsofcoco.com/community and attend networking events to meet other entrepreneurs. Lack of Understanding: The challenge of friends and family not fully understanding your entrepreneurial journey.Solution: Join online communities or forums for Christian entrepreneurs to find support and advice. Intertwining Faith and Business: The struggle of integrating faith with business practices in a secular marketplace.Solution: Connect with other Christian business owners through faith-based networks and seek mentorship. Spiritual Struggles: Addressing doubts about your calling and ethical dilemmas in business.Solution: Spend regular time in prayer and scripture, and attend church or small groups for spiritual support. Practical Steps to Combat Loneliness: Build a Support Network: Actively seek relationships with other Christian entrepreneurs and join groups. Invest in Personal Relationships: Nurture relationships with family and friends by sharing your entrepreneurial journey with them.Focus on Your Spiritual Life: Dedicate daily time for prayer, meditation, and scripture reading, and participate in church activities. Find Accountability Partners: Choose someone who shares your values and understands your business challenges to hold you accountable.Let's Take Action: Reflect on the sources of your loneliness and identify which solutions resonate with you.Implement one or two strategies this week to build your support network and integrate faith with your business. Share your progress and experiences with us on social media using the hashtag #LikelyLoser What's Next: 1. FREE Top Ways To Get Clients 2. FREE 10-Minute Content Plan 3. JOIN a Like-Minded Community 4. START An Online Business To Email Us: [email protected]

KEY TAKEAWAYS 🔥 1. Feeling Behind Is a Symptom of Comparison — Not Calling Most women don’t arrive at “I’m behind” on their own — it comes from watching others move faster, louder, or more visibly. But God has never measured your life against someone else’s timeline. He’s committed to your race, your development, your capacity. Biblical Truth: Galatians 6:4 — “Each one should test their own actions… without comparing themselves to someone else.” Comparison produces anxiety. Calling produces focus. 🔥 2. Preparation Seasons Usually Feel Like Delay Seasons God often builds character before He builds platforms. He strengthens roots before He reveals fruit. Preparation seasons feel slow, hidden, humbling — but they’re not punishment. They’re protection. They’re formation. They’re divine strategy. Biblical Truth: Isaiah 60:22 — “At the right time, I the Lord will make it happen.” If God is preparing it — it cannot be late. If God is preparing you — you cannot be behind. 🔥 3. Hidden Seasons Grow What Public Seasons Depend On The parts of your life no one sees often determine the success of the parts everyone sees. Private maturity leads to public stability. Quiet obedience leads to loud impact. Inner healing leads to outer influence. Hiddenness is not the enemy — it’s the incubator. Biblical Truth: Luke 2:52 — “And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature…” Even Jesus had a preparation season that lasted 30 years before His ministry launched. 🔥 4. God Won’t Rush You Into Places Your Character Isn’t Ready For Sometimes the delay is not about timing — it’s about capacity. God loves you too much to let success crush you. He will fortify the foundation before He adds a second story. He will refine motives before He increases influence. He will strengthen identity before He multiplies impact. Biblical Truth: Psalm 37:23 — “The Lord directs the steps of the godly.” Not leaps. Not shortcuts. Steps. 🔥 5. What Looks Like Detours Are Often Divine Alignments Breakups. Job shifts. Unexpected moves. Closed doors. Sudden pauses. These often feel like setbacks, but they are frequently the clearest evidence of God’s direction. He’s not blocking you — He’s guiding you. He’s not delaying you — He’s positioning you. Biblical Truth: Romans 8:28 — “All things work together for good…” If it worked at all, it’s working for you. 🔥 6. Your Pace Is Not a Problem — It's a Prophetic Clue If something is taking longer than you expected… there’s usually a reason. God trains warriors differently than He trains spectators. He develops leaders differently than He develops followers. He builds foundations differently for women who will carry nations. You’re not slow. You’re strategic. Biblical Truth: Habakkuk 2:3 — “Though it linger, wait for it; it will certainly come and will not delay.” If God authored it, it’s on schedule. LET’S TAKE ACTION  Identify the area where you feel “behind.” Write it down. Name it honestly. Ask God: “What are You preparing me for in this area?” Wait. Listen. Journal the impression. Choose one small act of obedience you can take today. Preparation responds to direction, not pressure. Limit comparison triggers for the next 7 days. Mute accounts, reduce scrolling, delete apps if needed. Speak this declaration daily: “I am not behind. I am being prepared. My timeline is safe in God’s hands.” What's Next: 1. FREE Top Ways To Get Clients 2. FREE 10-Minute Content Plan 3. JOIN a Like-Minded Community 4. START An Online Business To Email Us: [email protected]

Key Takeaways 🔥 1. You Were Conditioned to Shrink — Not Called To Many Christian women learned early that “quiet” meant “good,”“agreeable” meant “holy,”and “self-sacrificing” meant “Godly.” So you learned to: avoid conflict stay small not disrupt the room apologize for taking up space But shrinking wasn’t discipleship — it was survival.And survival-mode cannot build a Spirit-led life or business. Biblical Truth:2 Timothy 1:7 — “For God has not given us a spirit of fear… but of power, love, and a sound mind.”You weren’t given fear. You were given power and love — both at the same time. 🔥 2. Softness and Strength Were Designed to Coexist You don’t have to choose between being nurturing or bold.Between compassion and conviction.Between gentleness and leadership. Jesus embodied both: He wept. He corrected. He comforted. He overturned tables. Your softness doesn’t dilute your strength — it anchors it. Biblical Truth:Matthew 11:29 — Jesus describes Himself as “gentle and lowly,” yet He walked in undeniable authority.Gentleness is not weakness; it’s Spirit-controlled strength. 🔥 3. Shrinking Yourself Creates Spiritual and Emotional Exhaustion When you hold back your voice, skills, and power to keep the peace, it feels holy… until it doesn’t. Symptoms of shrinking: chronic resentment emotional exhaustion feeling invisible low confidence questioning your purpose waiting for permission you already have You can’t carry out your calling while constantly dimming the very gifts God gave you. Biblical Truth:Matthew 5:14 — “You are the light of the world.”Light was meant to be seen, not hidden under fear or false humility. 🔥 4. The Signs You’re Apologizing for Your Power (Without Realizing It) Most women don’t shrink loudly — they shrink quietly. It sounds like: “It’s not a big deal, really…” “I don’t want to bother anyone…” “I’m not an expert or anything…” “It’s just a little side thing…” Charging less than you know it’s worth Downplaying your achievements Making yourself smaller to make others comfortable These habits don’t honor God — they handicap the assignment He gave you. Biblical Truth:Romans 12:6 — “We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us.”Grace was not given for you to minimize it. It was given for you to use it. 🔥 5. Godly Strength Doesn’t Look Like The World’s Version Strength doesn’t mean loud, bossy, aggressive, or dominant. In the Kingdom, strength looks like: confidence that doesn’t need applause boundaries that honor your peace leadership built on service charging with integrity showing up consistently without performing making decisions without guilt Strength rooted in God is steady, not showy. Biblical Truth:Joshua 1:9 — “Be strong and courageous… for the Lord your God is with you.”Your strength doesn’t come from personality — it comes from Presence. 🔥 6. You Can Walk in Power Without Feeling ‘Prideful’ A lot of women confuse confidence with ego — so they choose tiny. But here’s what’s true: Confidence is agreement with God. Pride is agreement with self alone. Shrinking is agreement with fear. Walking in your power means saying:“God, if You put this in me, I won’t deny it.” Biblical Truth:Philippians 1:6 — “He who began a good work in you will bring it to completion.”You are not completing yourself — God is completing His work through you. 🔥 7. Practical Ways to Be Soft + Strong Starting Today This is where the change becomes lived, not just learned. Try these: • The One Honest Sentence PracticeSay the truth out loud once a day:“I’m good at this.”“My gift matters.”“This is what I want.” • Interrupt Your Shrinking PatternsWhen you catch yourself apologizing or minimizing,replace the apology with a clear statement:“Thank you.”“This is what I offer.”“This is my rate.” • Let Your Softness Lead Your StrengthYou don’t need to force energy.Let your empathy, intuition, and discernment shape how you show up. • Choose One Area to Stop Playing SmallYour pricing.Your content.Your boundaries.Your voice.Your decisions. Let’s Take Action These steps help your listeners move from knowing they have power… to actually walking in it. 📝 1. Identify Where You’ve Been Shrinking Take 5 quiet minutes and reflect honestly. Ask yourself: Where have I been downplaying my gifts? Where have I been saying “sorry” when I really meant “thank you”? What part of my life or business have I been hiding or minimizing? Circle one area you’re ready to stop shrinking in. 🗣️ 2. Say the Brave Sentence Out Loud Pick one sentence of truth and speak it daily. Examples: “My gift is valuable.” “I am allowed to take up space.” “God put power in me on purpose.” “I don’t have to apologize for who I am.” Say it out loud — your voice needs to hear your voice. 💰 3. Make One Confidence-Based Decision Today Choose ONE small step that reflects your strength: Raise a price. Post without overthinking. Apply for the opportunity. Tell someone your real boundary. Share your offer boldly. Stop giving discounts that were fear-based. This creates micro-momentum. What's Next: 1. FREE Top Ways To Get Clients 2. FREE 10-Minute Content Plan 3. JOIN a Like-Minded Community 4. START An Online Business To Email Us: [email protected]

  Key Takeaways: 🔥 1. Struggle Isn’t Holy — It’s Just Familiar Many women grew up seeing struggle normalized.Sacrifice became identity.Pain became proof of faithfulness. But Scripture does not say, “Blessed are the burnt-out.”Jesus Himself regularly rested, retreated, and said no.Your worth is not measured by how much you can endure. Biblical truth:Matthew 11:28 — “Come to me, all who are weary… and I will give you rest.”Rest is not a reward — it’s a birthright. 🙅‍♀️ 2. God Doesn’t Receive Glory from Avoidable Suffering There’s a difference between persecution for righteousness…and suffering because we refuse boundaries, rest, or wisdom. Many women say,“I’m being tested,”when actually…you’re just overwhelmed and unsupported. God is glorified when His daughters thrive — not when they collapse. Biblical truth:John 10:10 — Jesus came that you may have life abundantly, not life barely scraping by. ✨ 3. The Enemy Loves When You’re Exhausted Exhaustion isn’t spiritual maturity — it’s spiritual vulnerability. When you’re tired, you’re more likely to: • Doubt God• Isolate yourself• Make emotional decisions• Lose vision• Settle for less Burnout is not an attack from God — it’s often a lack of boundaries the enemy exploits. Biblical truth:1 Peter 5:8 — “Be alert and of sober mind.”You can’t stay alert when you’re constantly drained. 💛 4. God Actually Invites You Into Ease, Rest & Renewal God gave you: • The Sabbath• The Holy Spirit• Community• Wisdom• Boundaries• Prayer• Work-life rhythm Not so you could survive…but so you could flourish. Biblical truth:Psalm 23 — He leads you beside still waters, not chaos. 🌱 5. You Are Allowed to Want Ease, Support, and Overflow Desiring stability doesn’t make you less Christian.Desiring joy doesn’t make you selfish.Desiring comfort doesn’t make you weak. You were never created to carry everything alone.Strength and suffering are not the same thing.Grace and grind are not synonyms. 🙌 Let’s Take Action: ✔️ 1. Identify Where You’re Romanticizing Struggle Ask yourself: Where am I choosing hard when God never asked me to? What story am I telling myself about suffering? What am I scared will happen if life becomes easier? Write it down. ✔️ 2. Invite God Into Your Rhythm Pray:“Lord, show me where I’m carrying things You never assigned.”Then listen. He will highlight where you need: • Rest• Boundaries• Delegation• Simplicity• Support ✔️ 3. Set One Boundary This Week Choose one area of life or business where struggle has become your default.Then set a boundary that protects your peace.This is spiritual warfare — not selfishness. ✔️ 4. Declare This Truth “My suffering is not my identity.God is glorified when I am whole.” Say it aloud until it sinks into your spirit. What's Next: 1. FREE Top Ways To Get Clients 2. FREE 10-Minute Content Plan 3. JOIN a Like-Minded Community 4. START An Online Business To Email Us: [email protected]

I am still on vacation, celebrating my birthday! So let's look back at an episode... In this episode, we focus on the crucial question: How can you get people to buy what you're offering? We'll explore the fundamental elements of the customer journey, with a special emphasis on the key factors of liking, knowing, and trusting. Key Takeaways: The "Like" Factor In the opening segment, we discuss the importance of being visible. Relatability, authenticity, and positive experiences contribute to the "like" factor, influencing clients to connect with your brand emotionally. Building the "Know" Factor Moving on to the "know" factor, the up-close-and-personal stage of personally getting to know your community with consistent messaging, and effective storytelling, contributes to clients knowing your brand and what you stand for. Earning the "Trust" Factor Trust is the cornerstone of any successful customer journey. This hinges on making the pitch and prioritizing transparency. Clients who trust your brand are more likely to make a purchase. Navigating Touchpoints Across the Journey The customer journey is a series of touchpoints. We break down key touchpoints and discuss how to strategically navigate them, ensuring a seamless and persuasive experience for clients at every stage. Implementing the LKT Factors in Your Strategy In the final segment, we provide actionable tips for incorporating the like, know, and trust factors into your marketing and sales strategy. These insights will empower you to create a customer journey that naturally leads to conversions. What's Next: 1. FREE Top Ways To Get Clients 2. FREE 10-Minute Content Plan 3. JOIN a Like-Minded Community 4. START An Online Business To Email Us: [email protected]

Key Takeaways: 💡 1. The Danger of Platform Obsession Let’s be honest: most entrepreneurs secretly crave validation more than impact. The world teaches us that influence = followers, but the Kingdom measures impact in fruit, not fame. Ask yourself: Are you chasing applause or assignment? If your worth fluctuates with your follower count, you’ve made people your source instead of God. 📖 Galatians 1:10 — “Am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God?” 🌱 2. God Didn’t Call You to Be Popular—He Called You to Be Purposeful Popularity fades, but purpose multiplies. Jesus didn’t chase crowds—crowds came because He served people with truth, compassion, and power. You don’t need to be seen by everyone to be used by God. You just need to be faithful to the someones He’s already placed in front of you. Ask: “Who am I called to build, not impress?” 🤍 3. Building People Starts with Solving Real Problems If your content, offer, or message isn’t helping someone get free, it’s just noise. Start with service, not strategy. Who are you equipping, encouraging, or elevating through your work? People don’t remember your reels—they remember how you made them feel seen, safe, and supported. Guide Questions: What pain point can I help someone overcome this week? What transformation can I lead them toward? How can I listen more deeply before I teach or sell? 🔥 4. When You Build People, Platforms Build Themselves Here’s the paradox: when you stop striving to be “seen,” your authenticity shines brighter. Your audience grows naturally because you’re not performing—you’re pouring. You’re no longer shouting “look at me!” You’re declaring “look at God!” That’s the difference between ego-driven business and Kingdom-led business. 📖 Matthew 6:33 — “Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” 🙏 5. Your Faithfulness Is Your Marketing Every DM answered, every client prayed for, every message of encouragement—it all counts. You don’t need a viral moment to grow—you need consistent, Spirit-led service. God promotes those who steward what they already have well. If you take care of the few, He’ll trust you with the many. 📖 Luke 16:10 — “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much.” What's Next: 1. FREE Top Ways To Get Clients 2. FREE 10-Minute Content Plan 3. JOIN a Like-Minded Community 4. START An Online Business To Email Us: [email protected]

In this popular episode, first I'll spill what you DON'T actually need to make money in your business. Then, I'll unveil a powerful 4-step guide that will set you on the path to securing your very first clients. Get ready to take actionable steps toward business success! Key Takeaways: 1. Who Is My Target Audience? 2. Will My Target Audience Buy This? 3. How Will I Talk About This Offer? And What Issues Does It Address? 4. How Will I Get People To Buy It? (aka sell the transformation) What's Next: 1. FREE Top Ways To Get Clients 2. FREE 10-Minute Content Plan 3. JOIN a Like-Minded Community 4. START An Online Business To Email Us: [email protected]

Key Takeaways 💡 1. God Doesn’t Give Out “Cute Ideas” — He Gives Assignments Your business isn’t random or something you “just stumbled into.” It’s part of your purpose — a divine assignment meant to impact others. Stop minimizing it because it doesn’t look like someone else’s success story yet. If God trusted you with it, that means it’s supposed to grow, not sit half-finished on your to-do list. 💼 2. You Can’t Pray for Clients and Treat It Like a Hobby Prayer without stewardship keeps you stuck. God blesses faith in motion — not procrastination disguised as “waiting on God.” There’s a difference between surrender and slacking off. You can pray for provision, but you still have to show up like the CEO. ⚖️ 3. Hobby Energy Keeps You Broke and Busy You know you’re treating it like a hobby when: You only work on it when you “feel like it.” You avoid structure or goals because “it’s supposed to be fun.” You don’t track money, clients, or results — because that feels too serious. That kind of inconsistency confuses both you and the people you’re called to serve. 🧭 4. Stewardship Looks Like Strategy Taking your business seriously doesn’t mean you’re being “worldly.” Systems, structure, and marketing are not anti-faith — they’re tools that amplify your obedience. If you want to multiply, you need methods. Honor what God gave you by planning, tracking, and showing up even when no one’s clapping yet. 🙅🏽‍♀️ 5. Humility Doesn’t Mean Hiding “Playing small” isn’t holy — it’s disobedient. You can be humble and bold. Stop calling fear “humility” when it’s really just avoidance. When you downplay your gifts, you’re not protecting your faith — you’re burying your talent. (See Matthew 25:14–30) 🌱 6. Growth Happens When You Treat It Like a Business Start setting real goals (income, client, and spiritual goals). Establish a routine and boundaries like a professional, not a hobbyist. Invest in yourself — time, learning, accountability, or mentorship. Get comfortable with consistency, even when it’s quiet. 🔥 Let's Take Action Pray over your business like you’re in partnership with God, not waiting on Him to do it all. Ask, “How can I show up differently if I truly believe this came from God?” Let obedience, not outcomes, drive your effort. Decide today: you’re done “dabbling” — you’re building something divine. What's Next: 1. FREE Top Ways To Get Clients 2. FREE 10-Minute Content Plan 3. JOIN a Like-Minded Community 4. START An Online Business To Email Us: [email protected]

Key Takeaways: 💡 1. The Misuse of “Faith” in Business “I don’t need a funnel—God will send the right people.” Sounds holy. Feels humble. But often? It’s fear, laziness, or confusion dressed up as spirituality. 👉 God partners with action. Always. 📖 James 2:17 – “Faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.” ⚙️ 2. What is a Funnel (Biblically & Practically)? A funnel is NOT sleazy sales manipulation. It’s simply a structured path that leads people from interest → transformation. Jesus even used funnels: Taught the crowds (awareness) Discipled the 12 (nurture) Sent the 3 to deeper places (conversion/leadership) Funnels are ministry structure. Look up 3-12-72 principle-> wild 🚫 3. The Consequence of “Winging It” in Business Without funnels, you experience: Inconsistent sales Confusing messaging Burnout from constant posting No follow-up process Clients slipping through the cracks Lack of systems = Lack of stewardship. And God does NOT bless chaos. 📖 1 Corinthians 14:40 – “Let all things be done decently and in order.” 📦 4. Funnels Are Simply Stewardship Praying for clients but not building containers for them is like Noah praying for safety—but refusing to build the ark. Funnels = Arks. God sends the rain. You build the boat. You’re not replacing faith—you’re preparing for what faith expects. 🎯 5. The Three Funnels Every Christian Entrepreneur Needs (Yes, even the “anti-tech” ones.) ✅ Visibility Funnel – How people find you (content, podcast, SEO, etc). ✅ Nurture Funnel – How people build trust with you (emails, community, lead magnets, etc). ✅ Conversion Funnel – How people buy from you (sales page, webinar, sales call) No funnels? Then your business is relying on vibes, not vision. 🛠️ 8. How to Build a Funnel with Kingdom Values Make it: ✨ Clear (not confusing) ✨ Helpful (not manipulative) ✨ Prayer-led (not pressure-led) ✨ Focused (not scattered) ✨ Aligned with your calling (not trends) 🙌 Let’s Take Action: Audit Your Current Process: Do you actually have a way people go from stranger → client? Or are you hoping they just “figure it out?” Pick ONE Funnel to Build This Month: Stop trying to do all three at once. Start with the weakest area. Pray for Strategy, Not Just Sales: “God, show me how to build what You can bless.” He’s not silent—you’re just not asking the right questions. Commit to Being a Faithful Steward Stewardship is spiritual maturity. Systems are worship when done in obedience. What's Next: 1. FREE Top Ways To Get Clients 2. FREE 10-Minute Content Plan 3. JOIN a Like-Minded Community 4. START An Online Business To Email Us: [email protected]