Parenting Your Inner Child

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life, and you will call it fate.” -Carl JungWe often think of the inner child as a sentimental image of a younger version of ourselves waiting to be hugged. Psychologically speaking, we can also understand our inner child to be our current nervous system running a program based on its earliest education in safety. Before we had language, before we had philosophy, before we had a coherent self, the body was learning and the brain was developing until 25 years old, based on inherited and formative experiences. It was coding whether love was reliable, whether anger was dangerous, whether needs were welcome, whether silence meant peace or threat. In this sense, the inner child is not the past. The inner child is the past still firing through the present as psychological reflex.

You can watch the video of this episode on patreon: https://patreon.com/kindmind Complexity often belongs to the ego’s attempt to secure itself. It multiplies contingencies, roles, narratives, defenses, explanations, plans, possessions, and rehearsed identities. In ordinary times we may mistake this for sophistication. But in moments of real trial, the soul needs simplicity. Breath. Presence. Love. Sanctuary. Prayer. One next step. So simplicity is a return to essence under pressure.

Breathing reveals the essential work of awakening: when respiration runs on the midbrain’s automatic rhythm, much of life follows suit—thoughts, emotions, and behaviors moving mechanically while the mind mistakes this automaticity for authentic presence. This shared inertia is what mystics call sleep, a collective trance so pervasive that few feel any urgency to question it. Awakening requires sacred friction—the meeting of the body’s habitual impulse towards mechanical life with the mind’s intentional counter-impulse towards consciousness. In the simple act of choosing a breath, command shifts from the automatic to the aware; two forces meet, and sparks of self-remembering appear.

The name of my first book is LOSSLESSNESS and it is coming soon! Join us on Patreon to stay informed first about its release. Paid members will receive a free copy: https://patreon.com/kindmind We do not need a reason to love, but always invent one to hate.

My first book is close to completion. Join us on patreon as a free or paid member to stay up to date (and paid members will receive a free copy of the book) https://patreon.com/kindmind Many people today share this disorienting intuition: time feels faster, memories feel less stable, and the world itself seems cartoonishly chaotic or strangely unreal. While some interpret this sensation through speculative micro and macro ideas—such as quantum timeline fractures or distorted cultural echoes like the Mandela Effect—the more immediate explanation may be psychological rather than cosmological.A profound civilizational shift is underway, marked by the mass migration or shoehorning of daily life into virtual space. As sustained reading declines, screen time expands to most waking hours, and story immersion gives way to endless scrolling, the texture of lived experience is being fundamentally altered.

Join us on Patreon for more content and connection: https://patreon.com/kindmind Valentine's Day can mean more than a commercialized celebration of romance. Beneath its familiar gestures—hearts, chocolate, roses, keys, and arrows—lie sacred symbols about devotion, sacrifice, and transformation. St. Valentine, whether as a historical martyr or a mystical archetype, represents love as an act of defiance against fear, a secret initiation into spiritual surrender, and a bridge between the earthly and the eternal. 

Join us on Patreon for more content and connection! https://patreon.com/kindmind Many mental health struggles can be understood as ruptures in the relationship between time and self. Depression often pulls memory inward, organizing experience around what happened to me, while anxiety sends imagination forward, preoccupied with what might happen to me.Rumination and worry emerge from the same system that evolved to protect us across time, yet they become exhausting when trauma, shame, or uncertainty prevent emotional experiences from being fully integrated and induce overestimation of threats.What we call symptoms are often the psyche’s attempts to stabilize identity and restore coherence under conditions of overwhelm.Healing unfolds as the frame of identity gradually expands beyond the weight of a solitary narrative - aka the story of my life. Spirituality, understood as lived presence and connection rather than belief or dogma, correlates with recovery because it loosens the burden of self-centrality and revives a sense of belonging and circulation within something larger. This reorganization allows past experience to become instructive and future possibility to feel approachable. 

Join us on patreon: https://patreon.com/kindmind Speed narrows perception. Stillness restores it. Inspired by the wisdom that when thought settles, reality becomes visible, this conversation is a meditation on slowness as a way of seeing—truly seeing. Through the symbolism of the Winter Solstice, the costs of productivity culture, and the quiet metaphysics of perception, we explore how slowing down reveals what haste conceals. When motion softens and even the mind grows still, the real world comes back into focus.

You can watch videos and access more content on Patreon: https://patreon.com/kindmind Grace, in the deepest spiritual sense, is the spontaneous, unearned, and transformative presence of divine love. Across wisdom traditions and within sacred texts, grace is understood as not achieved by will, but recognized in surrender as the undoing of effort. It is the final confirmation that the seeker and the sought have always been one, a moment when striving ceases, and the essence of being gently reveals itself as the adornment of reality.

Join us on Patreon and access bonus content and give feedback and input for future shows: https://patreon.com/kindmind “Religious people often prefer to be right rather than compassionate,” wrote Karen Armstrong. “Often, they don’t want to give up their egotism. They want their religion to endorse their ego, their identity.” Her words reveal how easily the sacred fire of conscience can be co-opted by institutions. What begins as moral clarity can harden into moral pride. The impulse to defend Truth turns into the desire to be seen as its defender.Neuropsychologist Mario Martinez offers a biological parallel to this spiritual insight. He notes that righteous anger — the kind born from compassion and dignity — strengthens the immune system and enlivens the body. It activates the nervous system briefly and cleanly, as though sharpening the moral blade without rusting the psyche. Self-righteous anger, however, corrodes from within. Fueled by insecurity and judgment, it floods the body with stress hormones and inflammation. One fire illuminates; the other consumes.