431. The Surprising Reason You Can't Get Anything Done

Maybe you're getting in your own way. I've learned a lot from my own lived experiences as a wife, mom, traveler, and woman who has started multiple businesses. Here's what I know: You can have all the energy in the world and the desire to grow, but self-sabotage can still derail you. The internal tug-of-war between who you are and who you're becoming can keep you from doing the work you need to get to the next level. In this episode you'll discover the signs of self-sabotage and the steps you can take to start being decisive and taking action right away. In this episode, you will learn about: How I went about writing a book the wrong way (and what I'd do differently now). What self-sabotage looks like when pursuing your biggest goals. What the velocity gap is and how it helps women grow their business with speed. The reasons we tend to procrastinate and how to finally start taking action. The three types of self-sabotage most women face, especially those pursuing success. How you might look busy but not be actually getting anything done. How the interrupt triangle can help you disrupt self-sabotage in real time. Using speed as your super power and why self-sabotage needs to leave today.     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here. Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

This is a love letter to remind you what's important this holiday season. Let's take a moment to reflect on who you are, what you've gone through this year, and what you're ready to step into next. And this holiday season, before you pour into anybody else, take a moment to honor yourself. You've spent a whole year building, stretching, and showing up. Women and mothers hold a lot of invisible labor. Many days, without applause. But what's different this year is that you learned to hold boundaries and give yourself credit for the work you've done. You held to your boundaries and acknowledged your accomplishments. You've come a long way, and that's worth honoring this Christmas Day. In this episode, you will learn about: What I really want you to know this holiday season. A reminder that you are doing incredible and you are enough. How you've grown this year and why we're taking a moment to honor that. Permission to no longer be the woman who settles or shrinks. The gift your past self wouldn't let yourself receive (but now you will). How your kindness, softness, and rest is your strength. What I want you to remember about yourself this Christmas day. How this is only the beginning of the amazing things to come next year.     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here. Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

In 2026, there's no space for pretending about things that don't matter. As I share the changes I'm making next year, I hope to plant a seed in helping you consider how you want to show up next year. Planning how you're going to show up in every room is just as important as thinking ahead about your structure, plans, and strategies. Your success isn't going to be accidental, it's going to be intentional, and on your own timeline. In this episode, you'll hear why comparison is a waste of time and how not caring what people think is the ultimate power move. You'll also find out why taking action now is so much better than waiting for the perfect moment. In this episode, you will learn about: One thing I highly suggest as we approach end of year reflections. What happened this morning that made me reflect on how I'm showing up. The perception of success for midlife women and why it's never too late. How your success triggers others (and why it has nothing to do with you). How to know if you're pretending to care about the wrong goals. Why you shouldn't be afraid to share your goals, especially if it's because of others. The number-one thing you need in order to achieve a goal. What showing up for you in the new year looks like (even when it's hard). Why I'm letting go of unrealistic parenting standards next year.     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here. Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

Throw your people pleasing aside so you can finally get what you want. Not only have I experienced being a people pleaser, but it's also something I see among family and friends. This desire to please everybody is actually leaving you broke, and keeping you from the life you really want. It's time to show up as you are, learn to say no, and stop choosing being liked over being wealthy. In this episode, I'm sharing how you can disassociate yourself from people pleasing behaviors, along with micro-actions you can take to change your mindset and step into the type of money you want to make. In this episode, you will learn about: The true consequences of getting what you want (and how to be okay with it). What handling a toxic employee taught me about people pleasing. Where people pleasing might be showing up in your business, and what it costs you. Why you don't need to be nice to be respected in business. How being afraid to say no is keeping you from saying yes to the right things. Why you need boundaries and rules if you want to make more money. How the way you view wealthy people could be keeping you from getting rich. The micro-actions you can take right away to rewire your brain to be wealthy. What you can identify right now to start moving in the right direction.     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here. Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

Genuine confidence isn't about being perfect. In this episode we're joined by globally recognized confidence coach Erika Cramer. Having overcome trauma, foster care, and early widowhood, Erika empowers women worldwide. She helps them smash through their limitations and feel confidently in alignment with their work, community, and mission. Erika shares not only what she's learned about confidence, but what she's experienced in growing her own. It's not about doing it perfectly, and it's definitely not about pleasing other people. The key to confidence is trusting yourself and knowing who you are. In this episode, you will learn about: How long Erika studied confidence, and the definition she walked away with. What confidence actually looks like in real life (when it's done well). What tall poppy syndrome is and how this mindset impacts confidence. Why nothing is "too much" or "not enough" if it feels like it fits you. The tendency to downplay ourselves and how to get past it. Why "fake it 'til you make it" is definitely not the answer to confidence. Where confidence is breaking down for female founders (and what to do about it). What it means to be a wild woman: Being fully expressed and magnetic in who you are and who you want to be.     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here.   Connect with Erika: @thequeenofconfidence www.thequeenofconfidence.com  Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

This is how I'm preparing for 2026. In 2025, I proved a lot to myself. I created a successful, profitable event with over 300 women in attendance. I was able to be more confident and more bold because I stopped caring what anyone else thought or said about me. I've learned that when I show up confidently and unapologetically, it gives other women permission to do the same. This realization is shaping what I'm focusing on next year to be the best version of myself, including offline and on social media. In this episode, you will learn about: How I've learned to be comfortable with the success I have. How I offended someone recently (and why it's inspired me to show up more, not less). What creating a life by design might look like for you and why you should go for it. How a content ecosystem will allow me to go bigger with my impact and visibility. The therapy I started a few months ago and how much it's helped me. How I'm approaching relationship building next year differently. The importance of collaborative relationships for building faster and easier. Why I'm setting up my business to be able to run without me. Why you shouldn't feel guilty creating space for yourself.     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here. Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

What can happen when you let go of an old identity? Alli Webb founded Drybar, a blowout-only salon that disrupted the industry and transformed how women relate to their hair. Alli is also a best-selling author and recently launched Messy, a hair care line that helps women dry-style their hair. At the time Alli sold Drybar, she had so much going on in her business and personal life. What followed after the difficulties she faced was a journey back to herself. Today, she shares what led her to starting Messy, and the pivots she's still making in her business even now. In this episode, you will learn about: Where our best ideas come from (especially for creative people). The moment she really felt the pull to start a dry-styling haircare line. Who you should take feedback from, and when it doesn't matter. Alli's philosophy of hiring slow and firing fast in her businesses. A story she's never told before and how it relates to second-guessing ourselves. How being decisive builds confidence in women and why it's so important. The pressure for women to be soft and why we don't need to apologize all the time. Her secret to maintaining close friendships and what those look like. What it means to be a wild woman: Messy hair, making quick decisions, and living on the edge.     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe  here.   Connect with Alli: @alliwebb www.alliwebb.com  Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

Being married to an entrepreneur can be so amazing, but it has its challenges too. When you choose someone who lives life fast-paced and focused on building businesses, it's easy to lose yourself in the weeds. But when you figure out how to make it work for your family, being married to an entrepreneur can actually be your superpower. I'm revealing three marriage rules that helped my husband Dan and I stay united (especially when times got tough) and the marriage myths that almost broke us. I'll also explain how a balanced nervous system helps my marriage, business, and day-to-day life with my family. In this episode, you will learn about: The identity I used to think we had to portray as a couple. How to stop resentment before it gets the chance to build. The dangerous myths no one warned us about (and how they almost broke us). How becoming a mom changed the way I approach entrepreneurship. The biggest advantages of being married to an entrepreneur. Why keeping score isn't a great strategy for your marriage (and your nervous system). How Dan and I grow together, even when it's on our own individual timelines. What you can do with your partner to start connecting this week. 4 Questions to Ask as You Sit Down With Your Partner: 1. What part of my identity have I been neglecting for our success? 2. What support do I need that I haven't been asking for? 3. Where am I over-performing to compensate for something? 4. What's one thing I need to reclaim as mine alone? Mentions: www.reneewarren.com/playbooks      Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here. Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

What's the secret to making a great event come together? Today I'm chatting with my friend and event co-host Anita Guerini. Together, we hosted The Pink Skirt Project event in 2025 with over 300 women in attendance. It was a magnetic experience that changed lives, and we can't wait to do it again. In this conversation, we're sharing how we shattered the blueprint for running an event like this for the first time, and how we're going even bigger and bolder next year. In this episode, you will learn about: Why we decided to go big with our first event, and how it paid off. What actually made our event a sold-out success. Why I hid my true self for so long in business (and the moment that liberated me). How opening up a safe space for vulnerability creates major impact. The detailed planning process behind putting a first-time event together. What the energy of the room was like that morning and what it meant to me. The secret sauce The Pink Skirt Project brings and how it can influence your circle. Why we love out-of-the-box marketing tactics and how we embrace it. What we're most excited about for The Pink Skirt Project 2026.     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here.     Connect with Anita: @anitabestlife www.anitaguerini.com  Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

This is the energy protection truth that changed everything for me. When your nervous system is overwhelmed, you miss out on money, opportunities, and so much more. The reality is that the exhausted brain makes cheap decisions, and inconsistency is expensive. This is why protecting your energy is so important. I used to wonder why I was always exhausted and burnt out, but then I figured it out. In this episode, I'm sharing three strategies for creating more energy. You don't scale your business by doing more, you scale by getting rid of what's draining you. In this episode, you will learn about: The hard-learned lesson I got about protecting my energy. How exhaustion compromises your decision-making abilities. The momentum tax you're paying when you're not checking your energy. How energy creation can feel counterintuitive (even when it really works). Why you need to stop doing the work you're good at, and what to do instead. How the white space in your calendar creates greater revenue generation. Why doing nothing is not a reward, it's actually mandatory. An exercise for conducting an energy audit and how to do it most effectively.     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here. Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com