291 Timing The "Birds and Bees" Conversation

0:55  Final episode 1:10  Next step - FBI Dads: The Podcast 1:15  Thank you to each and every one, even if you only listened to one episode 2:30  I hope it saves even one marriage 3:10  Having a father in the home improves to odds of success for the kids 3:45  I hope the FBI Dads podcast helps give parents tools they need 4:00  Thanks to all the people that have helped make this possible 7:30  FBI Dads, at my kid's school, grew from 6 dads to 155 dads (consistently) 8:05  Now it's morphed to a virtual meeting 8:25  A brief overview of FBI Dads meeting 10:05  There are 3 things a parent should tell their child every single day 12:00  Kids are intuitive, they know what's important 13:00  Magic happens when they have conversations around important things 14:15  "Look what MY dad said about ME!" 15:35  I was told "dads don't want to be involved"... I proved them wrong! 16:20  I find the dads at the kid's sporting events, but they often fall short when it comes to saying "I Love You" 17:40  I know a LOT about being fatherless, and I know having an involved father is MUCH better 18:20  I don't plan on ever stopping my mission to help dads get involved 19:00  See you on FBI Dads: The Podcast

1:25  I've been thinking about this leadership podcast for a while 1:40  If you "lead" your household, you will create leaders 2:03  Let them KNOW they are leaders 3:35  Wait, stop, think... don't just follow, you are a leader 3:10  I've recorded 300 podcasts, I'm a self-motivated leader 3:30  I lead things at school 3:55  I lead my clients to success. 4:10  I bring organizations at school together 4:40  I'm on the board of the Sock-it-to-em sock campaign foundation 5:15  As I'm recording this, I'm pulling up to the car pickup line 6:00  My son wanted to run for class vice-president 6:40  Help them believe early on that they ARE a leader 7:45  I grew up in survival mode, I didn't have the luxury of "frivolous" knowledge 8:50  I was more concerned about meals than leadership 10:20  Let your kids know they are loved unconditionally through words and actions 10:30  Let them know that they are safe 11:00  More is shown through your actions than can possibly be conveyed in words 12:50  "I want both", here's the deal... then back it up 15:05  Leaders follow through on their promises 15:10  I love that YOU, the listener, are working to learn and get better 16:05  This podcast has helped me pay more attention and get better

1:00  Glenn Lundy: 3:00  Intentional activities 4:00  Productivity and fulfillment 4:30  Principles of success in parenting: #1 morning routine 5:05  TheMorning5.com  Download Glenn's free ebook 5:15  Glenn's BIG 5 things to do every morning 5:40  The typical car business routine... is failing them 7:45  The "67 Day Challenge" 8:15  That's how long it takes to have a physiological change 10:10  Structure and morning routines are the bedrock of parenting 11:07  Preparing for the trip vs surprise 14:45  I never know God's plan but I know it's good 15:03  I know I'm not powerful enough to keep my kids on course or knock them off of it 18:30  Even with COVID: you can NOT take a kid off their path 21:20  We've created generations of sheep following others instead of leading 24:00  Don't plant the seeds in your children, water them 25:00  You can either be a consumer or producer. Start producing 26:25  You need to come to an FBI Dads breakfast to understand 27:25  "How do kids spell LOVE?" 29:15  Kids will love those that serve them with what they need 30:10  Just 15 minutes a day with a child can be all they need 31:30  We can argue or we can say yes 33:35  Talk to them as if they understand now 34:45  Go the GlennLundy.com to find all the ways to get in touch with Glenn 35:50  Glenn's Facebook group has raised over $700k for various causes 41:00  Are you 100% in sync and integrity? If so, your spouse will follow and support

0:55  This is MY goal "The respect of my adult children" and no thing or no fling will get in the way 1:15  Examples of HOW that looks along the journey 3:00  We're getting close to the end of this podcast series 3:15  "FBI Dads" podcast is starting 2012 3:45  There is a certain group of people that have a higher level of success 4:00  The Jewish phenomenon 4:45  Education: flexibility, options, knowledge 5:40  The 5 to 6 year jumpstart 6:10  Culturally, Jewish people declare their children to be adults much earlier 7:10  Then expectations are set options are laid out and plans are made 7:45  Professions, schools, grades, money, scholarships become part of the planning 8:45  At 13, they start acting like an adult with intention 9:05  When you're treated like an adult, you start acting like an adult 10:40  No one did it for me, but I want to break the cycle 11:00  I want to be the one to guide and encourage my children 12:10  I don't need to be Jewish to follow the things they do 13:12  You may want to start planning

1:03  Children change every day and I have to learn and adjust 1:20  "FBI Dads" podcast is coming in 2021 3:20  Last night me 9 year old had a meltdown about internet service 4:02  Internet "Glitchy" made him a little internet "_itchy" :/ 5:05  Voices escalated back and forth, tensions are rising 7:05  After the baseball game, wind down... and it starts up again 8:00  My challenge as a dad... I love my kids but I also must support my wife 9:40  Certain words can be damaging, it's a tough balance 10:40  I had to explain what happened and smooth things over 12:01  Coaches like to bring up challenges and successes 13:10  Acknowledge to people around you that help you along the road 13:40  Parents should "huddle up" at night and get on the same page

1:00 3-year-old jumping and sticking the landing 1:30  Baseball with the 9-year-old 2:25  Energy is everything, highest energy wins 3:45  One by one they gave him a tap 4:40  Things started going our way and the energy got higher 5:55  I'm NOT a baseball fan, but I am a fan of competition etc. 7:00  Technical advice in the middle of a game? 7:50  Up 9-5 and the closer is brought in 9:05  Momentum going into last night's game 11:05  Then the batting order got switched up 12:10  When you ARE there, be fully present 13:05  This show is my documentation of my journey 13:40  Episode #300 will be the last podcast 14:15  Next is "FBI Dads" podcast (Fathers Being Involved) 15:25  Thank you for being part of my journey so  far

1:00  I LOVE Halloween 2:05  Halloween was always big in my home growing up 2:50  COVID style... leaving the candy out? Bagged? 3:12  The value in Halloween IMHO is the interactions 4:10  The value is in the questions, gifts, leaving comfort zone 5:15  Ask, get rewarded, learning to face possbile rejection 6:10  Children are being taught to get the reward without effort 8:40  Go, do nothing, get gifts is not the lesson I want for my kids 9:10  Practice is important! 10:30  Virtual learning vs Face to Face learning 11:00  It's about the experience NOT the result!

1:25  My fault, I don't like to ask for help 2:10  We cleaned up part of a road near our home 2:30  "Adopt a Road", elderly and needs help 3:10  We asked the city for help 3:45  We did our part, we helped the city 5:10  Neighbors saw us and thanked us on Nextdoor.com 5:35  But now most everything we need is being taken care of 6:45  People pay attention, a spark can create a fire 9:25  We need leaders to allow followers to do their work

0:55  Kids learn from our examples... Do YOU litter? 1:25  Do we pick up litter when we see it? 2:02  My boys, even at young ages, pick up litter in the park 2:25  "Why do others throw trash on the ground?" 3:20  Follow through, lead by example, whatever it is 4:02  A small area by the train tracks by my house 4:25  Beer and booze bottles and cans and lack of respect 4:50  Respect for our bodies and the planet 5:35  Lack of respect, does it lead to other problems? 6:03  Consequences, following rules, incarceration, picking up trash 7:18  "Dad, why do WE have to do it?" 7:30  If we see something wrong and don't do our part, WE are part of the problem 8:40  Look in the mirror and ask what you are modeling to your kids 9:05  What are the long term implications? I think about these things

1:00  Most of us dread this conversation 1:35  We just got back from a cabin retreat 1:55  On a hayride we heard about pumpkins, birds and bees 2:45  One of the parents had just had "the conversation" 3:30  Do I want a 10 year old telling my son or should I? 4:10  I usually research how to do these things 5:00  The boys are busting each other's chops 6:00  Here's my gut, I'll give him what he needs to know 6:25  First, it comes from a place of love and intimacy  7:25  "You did that to her?!?!" 8:20  Remember, kids have access to the internet 9:02  I'll be the one sharing this because of XXX 9:55  When it comes from a parent first, they will come to us too