The Easy One

When self-abandonment doesn’t look like abandoning yourself.What if it looks like being easy-going, understanding, kind, considerate, and the most flexible person in the room?This episode of The Reckoning Series, I unpack one of the biggest blind spots I uncovered over the last year. After decades of putting people pleasing in the past, I had no idea that MO of being “the easiest going person in the room” was screwing me at the same time as being qualities I genuinely loved about myself.Because being the most understanding person in the room can also make you the easiest person in the room to disappoint.In this episode, I explore:The subtle ways self-abandonment can hide inside socially rewarded qualities.How fawning as a trauma response is so much more than people pleasing.The difference between understanding someone’s behaviour and overriding your own experience of it.Why being “easy” can leave you feeling unseen, overlooked or strangely lonely inside relationships.The invisible expectation that people who love us should automatically know what we need.Why love doesn’t have to be perfectly reciprocal, but mutuality still matters.How I’m learning to let myself be known earlier instead of making myself easier.What it means to stay with yourself when someone disappoints you, misunderstands you or leaves.Why the biggest change in my current reckoning isn’t that I’m hurting less. It’s that I’m disappearing less.Where the goal isn’t becoming harder to leave, but less willing to leave ourselves.I’d genuinely love to know what this episode brings up for you.And how do you include yourself in the equation moving forward?Go DeeperKeep your eye open for a companion essay for this episode over on my Substack, Being Here Fully, where I’m writing through more of The Reckoning as I live it.And if you’re inside your own crossroads, unraveling or identity shift and want some deeper support exploring what’s underneath it, my Integrate sessions offer space for exactly that.Thanks for being here fully, with me.Resources:Integration SessionsFollow Keri-Anne on SubstackFollow Keri-Anne on Instagram

What happens when the version of you who knew how to handle everything suddenly can't?After a long absence from HumanAF, I'm coming back a bit differently.For the first time, it's just me and the mic. No guest. No old Facebook Live. No neatly packaged lesson from the other side. I'm talking from inside a year that dismantled more than I expected and forced me to reconsider who I am, how I've been living, and what I actually want to carry forward.A catalytic loss. Midlife. Perimenopause. Aging parents. Kids growing up. Relationships changing. Career and financial uncertainty. A nervous system that finally said, we're not doing this anymore.I didn't survive it and return to who I was.I became someone else. I am becoming someone else.And the next series of episodes explore the messy middle of discovering that some of what you thought was personality, strength, love, responsibility, or simply "who you are" may also have been how you learned to survive, stay connected, and remain valuable.What we get into:Why healing doesn't make us immune to being human, and why coming undone doesn't mean we've failed.The difference between understanding change and actually living differently when it disappoints people or disrupts what once felt safe.What happens when your body and nervous system stop cooperating with the life you've been forcing yourself to maintain.Why distance can sometimes give you enough quiet to finally hear your own experience.Moving from "How do I fix this?" toward the much more interesting question, "What is this showing me?"Learning to notice what remains true, what you've outgrown, and what you consciously want to pick back up.A different understanding of self-trust. Less about becoming unfuckablewith. More about learning how to stay with yourself when life fucks with you.There’s no triumphant comeback or tidy transformation at the end of this one.I'm still in it. That’s real life.But aliveness is returning. So is curiosity, possibility, creativity, and my desire to express myself which is huge. Not because I've forced myself back into functioning, but because I'm finding my way back into relationship with myself.If you're somewhere between who you were and whoever the hell you're becoming, this conversation is for you.Maybe you don't need to figure it all out yet.Maybe you just need enough room to notice what's here.Resources:Integration SessionsFollow Keri-Anne on SubstackFollow Keri-Anne on Instagram

Questions and Topics explored: Stepping into Telepathy: Ahsaki reveals her experience of telepathy through caregiving and navigating her parents’ illnesses, transforming the way she listens and communicates. From Empathy to Sovereignty: How intuitive work can be clouded by hypervigilance, trauma, and people-pleasing—and how clarity and boundaries help us reclaim our power. Faces Of The Devine Feminine & Life Stages: The transition from nurturing to the freedom of midlife and how it shifts our intuitive focus inward to share our wisdom outwardly. Shadow Work and Self-Knowing: The transformative process of releasing old patterns, integrating the wisdom of shadow, and experiencing deeper freedom for the soul. Intuition as Connection: Exploring intuition as a multifaceted, expansive channel for self-trust and clarity, and how it can guide our relationships and life’s path. In this week’s episode (Part 2 of 2), Keri-Anne Livingstone is joined again by her longtime friend and renowned psychic and intuitive mentor, Ahsaki Kai. In this transformative episode, Ahsaki reveals her journey into telepathy, a truth she’s long resisted but has fully embraced through caregiving and evolving communication with her parents. Keri-Anne and Ahsaki discuss how intuition can be clouded by hypervigilance, shadow work, and trauma, and the vital role of self-regulation and boundaries in accessing deeper clarity. Exploring the shift women experience from nurturing to reclaiming sovereignty in midlife, this episode offers powerful insights into embracing intuitive wisdom, healing old wounds, and reclaiming your power with purpose.   About Ahsaki: Ahsaki Kai is a gifted spiritual mentor, intuitive healer, and clinical hypnotherapist with decades of experience guiding clients to profound breakthroughs and soul-aligned clarity. Using her innate psychic abilities, energy work, and hypnotherapy, Ahsaki specializes in helping clients overcome obstacles, heal past wounds, and unlock their unique potential. Known for her precision and transformative impact, Ahsaki has supported individuals and groups through life-changing results. She has helped clients save millions, guided entrepreneurs to expand their businesses with purpose, and led women from deep despair to newfound clarity and purpose. Her work empowers spiritual and holistic practitioners to embody their gifts, align with their soul’s calling, and thrive both personally and professionally. Resources: Visit Ahsaki’s websiteJoin Ahsaki’s Monthly Membership, The Ascension ProjectConnect with Ahsaki on IG: @AhsakiKaiAcademy Tap-In, To Trust Yourself: The next round starts January 26th 2025! Learn more and sign up here. Join the Anchor and Align: Weekly Reset Guide NewsletterThe Radical Acceptance Facebook GroupFollow Keri-Anne on InstagramApply to be featured on HumanAF Additional Resources: Ashley Zahabian’s research and more information on Reality Integration Therapy™ (RIT)

Questions and Topics explored: What it really means to “trust yourself” and how self-trust grows over time. The power of naming your dreams and speaking them into existence. Navigating fear, grief, and uncertainty when pursuing bold goals. How disappointment and failure are stepping stones, not dead ends. The connection between dreaming and intuition, and how to clear emotional clutter to receive guidance. The magic of community and why collaboration is a key to amplifying your vision. Insights into Megan’s upcoming Dream Big Summit and how it’s creating a transformative space for dreamers and visionaries. In this inspiring episode of The Human AF Podcast, I sit down with Megan Hale—former therapist, coach, podcast host, and now founder of the Dream Money™ platform—to dive into the transformative power of dreaming big. Megan shares her journey from healing professional to visionary entrepreneur and breaks down the courage, resilience, and trust it takes to bring ambitious visions to life. We explore how to navigate the discomfort of growth, redefine failure, and trust your instincts—even when the path feels uncertain. Megan and I also discuss the importance of integrating your past experiences, building resilience through life’s toughest challenges, and allowing your dreams to evolve in unexpected ways. Whether you’re wrestling with self-doubt or ready to leap into something bigger, this conversation is packed with wisdom, heart, and practical takeaways.   About Megan: Megan Hale is a former therapist turned business strategist, coach, and founder of Dream Money™, a platform helping entrepreneurs align their businesses with their values and goals. With over a decade of experience empowering others, Megan’s work centers on creating impactful, sustainable businesses that serve the greater good. As a speaker, author, and visionary leader, she’s passionate about helping people trust themselves, dream bigger, and create lasting change in their lives and the world. Resources: Visit Megan’s WebsiteJoin Ahsaki’s Monthly Membership, The Ascension ProjectConnect with Megan on IG: @meganhaleco Join Us at the Dream Big Summit on March 7th, 2025! Join the Anchor and Align: Weekly Reset Guide NewsletterThe Radical Acceptance Facebook GroupFollow Keri-Anne on InstagramApply to be featured on HumanAF

Questions and Topics explored: How Keri-Anne’s and Ahsaki’s intuitive journeys began, and how their friendship shaped their work. Debunking myths around intuition: It’s more than lighting candles and hearing voices. What is shadow work and the role is plays in connecting to your intuition. How Ahsaki helped Keri-Anne tap into her intuition amidst the chaos of being “stuck” in Morocco with her family when the pandemic hit. Unique ways intuition manifests for everyone, and why comparison is unnecessary and harmful. Seeing Intuition as a multifaceted system or “highway” for information to be channelled through the body, emotions, thoughts, and external signs. Connections between science, spirituality, neurodivergence and connect to your intuition. Personal responsibility in aligning with your intuitive path, even when it challenges societal norms. In this week’s episode (Part 1 of 2), Keri-Anne Livingstone is joined by her longtime friend and renowned psychic and intuitive mentor, Ahsaki Kai. Together, they begin an expansive conversation about demystifying intuition—what it truly means to be intuitive, how it works, and the essential role shadow work plays in clearing the way for the transformative power of soul-aligned living. This episode is filled with personal stories, insights, and actionable advice to help listeners connect with and trust their inner knowing. Ahsaki shares her journey from a background in social work and mental health to becoming an intuitive mentor, while Keri-Anne reflects on how major life events opened her up to her own intuitive abilities. Together, they invite listeners to explore, trust, and align with their unique intuition as a path to self-discovery and transformation.   About Ahsaki: Ahsaki Kai is a gifted spiritual mentor, intuitive healer, and clinical hypnotherapist with decades of experience guiding clients to profound breakthroughs and soul-aligned clarity. Using her innate psychic abilities, energy work, and hypnotherapy, Ahsaki specializes in helping clients overcome obstacles, heal past wounds, and unlock their unique potential. Known for her precision and transformative impact, Ahsaki has supported individuals and groups through life-changing results. She has helped clients save millions, guided entrepreneurs to expand their businesses with purpose, and led women from deep despair to newfound clarity and purpose. Her work empowers spiritual and holistic practitioners to embody their gifts, align with their soul’s calling, and thrive both personally and professionally. Resources: Visit Ahsaki’s websiteJoin Ahsaki’s Monthly Membership, The Ascension ProjectConnect with Ahsaki on IG: @AhsakiKaiAcademy Tap-In, To Trust Yourself: The next round starts January 26th 2025! Learn more and sign up here. Join the Anchor and Align: Weekly Reset Guide NewsletterThe Radical Acceptance Facebook GroupFollow Keri-Anne on InstagramApply to be featured on HumanAF Additional Resources: Jill Bolte Taylor’s My Stroke of Insight Ted TalkThe Telepathy Tapes: A podcast exploring the intersection of autism, intuition, and human potential.

Questions explored: What is ‘Unmasking?’ The two sides to self-exploration and development The difference between grief and loss The importance of community and circle when exploring and expressing emotions Viktor Frankl’s perspective of “space between stimulus and reaction.” TW: Grief, Sexual Abuse  This week’s episode of the HumanAF Podcast is a continuation of Keri-Anne and her close friend and ADHD life coach, Michelle McIntosh’s conversation surrounding emotions.   Michelle starts the conversation with her personal experience of unmasking and discovering Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), highlighting the validation that came with understanding this aspect of herself. Keri-Anne expands on this to highlight the importance of self-exploration, emphasizing that it offers an opportunity to acknowledge vulnerabilities in relationships. It can be challenging to embrace, especially when met with the possibility of losing relationships with those who may not be ready to accept the resulting self-development. The silver lining is the possibility to deepen these connections to new heights.  Keri-Anne and Michelle emphasize the power of authenticity in breaking down walls and creating more meaningful connections through parts work: a concept which helps identify the values associated with different beliefs or behaviours.  Michelle’s mentions of Viktor Frankl’s perspective on the space between stimulus and reaction propelled the conversation towards emotional reactivity and the privilege that can surround emotional experiences such as grief. This episode will resonate deeply with anyone who has ever grappled with the complexities of their own emotions. Don’t miss out on this transformative and soul-stirring discussion!   About Michelle: Michelle McIntosh is a Certified Orton-Gillingham Practitioner and Executive Function Coach. Michelle’s journey took an incredible turn when she learned about her son’s ADHD diagnosis closely followed by her own ADHD diagnosis. This personal experience has ignited her passion for understanding the intricate world of ADHD from within. Michelle’s core belief is that there is no one-size-fits-all solution to navigating ADHD. It’s not just about planners and timers; it’s about uncovering YOUR unique path to success across all areas of your life. Michelle spends her days navigating the depths of the learning process, helping neurodiverse learners find clarity and progress. Resources: Visit Michelle’s websiteGet her FREE eBook, “So, You’ve Got ADHD. Now What?”Connect with Michelle on FB and IG: @courageousmindscoaching The Radical Acceptance Facebook GroupFollow Keri-Anne on InstagramApply to be featured on HumanAF

TW: Death, Grief  Questions explored: What is RSD? What does it mean to ‘unmask?’ The expression of grief does not have a timeline How can you be there for others while also making room for yourself, emotionally? In this week’s deeply moving episode of the HumanAF Podcast, host Keri-Anne is once again joined by her close friend and ADHD life coach, Michelle McIntosh. Together, they embark on an emotional journey as they revisit a profound conversation they had a few weeks ago, one that sparked a shared emotional experience. This candid discussion delves into the raw and authentic emotional challenges they both encountered during this pivotal exchange.  As experienced life coaches, they share that they, too, can struggle with maintaining the delicate balance of supporting themselves while being there for each other during this transformative event. They offer insight into the steps that paved the way for this emotional encounter.  Additionally, Keri-Anne and Michelle explore the intricate relationship between ADHD and emotional expression, drawing from their own experiences to shed light on this connection. This heartwarming episode is a poignant exploration of the trials of grief, the strength of resiliency, and the enduring power of love, even when faced with life’s most complex emotions. Join them for a heartfelt conversation revealing the shared humanity beneath their coaching roles. This episode will resonate deeply with anyone who has ever grappled with the complexities of their own emotions. Don’t miss out on this transformative and soul-stirring discussion!   About Michelle: Michelle McIntosh is a Certified Orton-Gillingham Practitioner and Executive Function Coach. Michelle’s journey took an incredible turn when she learned about her son’s ADHD diagnosis closely followed by her own ADHD diagnosis. This personal experience has ignited her passion for understanding the intricate world of ADHD from within. Michelle’s core belief is that there is no one-size-fits-all solution to navigating ADHD. It’s not just about planners and timers; it’s about uncovering YOUR unique path to success across all areas of your life. Michelle spends her days navigating the depths of the learning process, helping neurodiverse learners find clarity and progress. Resources: Visit Michelle’s websiteGet her FREE eBook, “So, You’ve Got ADHD. Now What?”Connect with Michelle on FB and IG: @courageousmindscoaching The Radical Acceptance Facebook GroupFollow Keri-Anne on InstagramApply to be featured on HumanAF

TW: Death, Miscarriage, Sexual Abuse As we settle into the solace of the winter season, Keri-Anne shares an intimate dive into deep learning around loss that came from the sudden passing of her father 2016.  Using this time of year to rest, restore, and reflect on all you’ve learned, this discussion offers nuggets of wisdom on: The transformative power of grief and loss.  How moments of confusion and despair can lead to profound insights. Embracing the cyclically nature of life and growth.  The role of acceptance and surrender in navigating life’s challenges.  The range of emotion and experience we have as humans to explore and express. How our unique relationships and experiences shape our understanding of existence.  May this episode inspire you to embrace the cycles of life, find meaning in the midst of WTF moments, and approach the new year with a sense of wonder and gratitude. Resources: Journey of Souls by Dr. Michael NewtonGet your FREE access to Values Masterclass (available till January 2024) The Radical Acceptance Facebook GroupFollow Keri-Anne on InstagramApply to be featured on HumanAF

In this groundbreaking episode, Keri-Anne invites you to view conflict through a lens of clarity, providing tangible tools and a profound exploration of conflict resolution and personal growth. She delves into: The Four Stages of Consciousness: Discover the journey of self-improvement through these stages, embracing it with humility. Finding Invitations in Adversity: Understand how your perception shapes your responses and where you choose to respond from. Cultivating Grace and Compassion: Learn the art of extending grace and compassion to yourself and others during conflicts. The Power of Inquiry: Explore somatic strategies and tangible exercises that bring significant change in simple yet profound ways. By the episode's conclusion, you'll possess practical tools and profound insights ready for immediate application. Transform your conflict resolution approach, both internally and externally, and experience more aligned and fulfilling outcomes. Resources: Get your FREE access to Values Masterclass (available till January 2024) The Radical Acceptance Facebook GroupFollow Keri-Anne on InstagramApply to be featured on HumanAF

Questions & topics explored: How do you discover your values? How do you honour them? Understanding how some honouring your values is a dynamic process; honouring one value over another in certain circumstances does not mean you value the latter less.  Acceptance of the process and all the intricate pieces of yourself is the key to finding balance. In this compelling episode, join Keri-Anne and her guest, Dawn Dodds, on a journey of self-discovery and transformation. Dawn shares her remarkable story of breaking free from overwhelm and over-responsibility to live a life that aligns with her true self. Discover the pivotal role of values in Dawn’s transformation journey. Learn how getting crystal clear on her values allowed her to untangle herself from the complexities of life and make courageous changes. Dawn provides practical examples and insights that you can immediately apply to gain clarity in your own life. Explore how Dawn used the breadcrumbs life left for her to create a new path. Her story is a relatable dance of knowing and not knowing, highlighting the importance of interrupting old patterns and embracing change. Dive deep into the idea of living with intention, shifting from a life of constant “doing” to one that values “being.” Dawn’s journey shows that risking the loss of parts of your identity can lead to a fuller, more connected human experience. This episode is a living, breathing case study of transformation, emphasizing the importance of values as the foundation of your journey. Discover how your inner and outer life continuously guide you toward a more connected and authentic self. Resources: Get your FREE access to Values Masterclass (available till January 2024)  The Radical Acceptance Facebook GroupFollow Keri-Anne on InstagramApply to be featured on HumanAF