Desire Vs Desperation To Heal

Claire explains why she'll be taking a break from the podcast for a little while, and also offers her thoughts on breaks in romantic relationships.Email [email protected] for more info on her 1:1 COACHING SPECIAL OFFER and follow @clairetheheartbreakcoach on Instagram where she will continue to show up and serve valuable content daily!

This episode was inspired by Claire's favorite guilty pleasure, The Bachelor!After watching the hometowns episode of Joey's season, Claire found herself disturbed by the panicked fear of some of the women's family members who didn't want their daughter or sister to get their heart broken.Of course NO ONE wants to get their hearts broken or see a loved one get hurt, but at the end of the day, heartbreak is inevitable for most people, AND, if you lean in for the lessons, healing and growth that can always be found in it, dare Claire say that heartbreak CAN be a good thing??Tune in for 6 reasons why.Email [email protected] for her NEW CLIENT 1:1 SPECIAL.

The terror of getting your heart broken again is SO real, valid and NORMAL. Especially if it's been a long time since you've really liked someone, and/or have experienced trauma and heartbreak in your past.  In this episode, Claire walks you through eight steps you can take to navigate your fear of getting heartbroken again-- spoiler alert:It's not about getting rid of the fear.It's about navigating the fear while staying true to yourself.Get your pen and paper out! 

If you feel like you're "doing all the things" but still find yourself heartbroken, this episode is for you. Heartbreak can leave you feeling scattered, exhausted and blocked from thinking straight, as well as blocked on taking care of business in your life, whether it's personal or professional.This episode is NOT an invitation for you to shame or blame yourself if you hear some of the things you might not even realize you're doing which has been prolonging your pain...This episode was created for you to become even that much more aware of how else you might be getting in your own way, amidst all the brain fog and heartache.Healing heartbreak is NOT a linear process!  Be gentle and easy on yourself.  You're human.  Be patient.

This is one of those extra vulnerable episodes Claire shares as she turns 43. Usually her birthday episodes are about all the growth and reflection on how far she has come, since her rockbottom relationship, 13 years prior...But today she reflects on hitting her upper limit recently, finding herself highly irritable (even for her!) and recognizing how she is very much still a STUDENT of this work first-- not the teacher.If you relate to self-sabotaging, whether heartbroken or single and looking for love, take a listen.Link to Claire's Valentine's Course Special:  https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/thecourse-valentinesdayoffer

If Claire had a nickel for every time she fell into the trap of this limiting belief, or for when a client has felt this way!!You are not alone if you believe this falsity to be true.Yes.Falsity!In today's episode, Claire unpacks how it's possible to disprove the idea that guys (insert whichever gender pronoun applies) you want, don't want you.It's so important to diffuse this mean thoughts that don't serve you, and therefore greatly impact how you show up when you're looking for love.It's not as easy as it sounds, but don't let your past experiences in dating dictate how the future is going to go... Tune in to hear how!Link to Claire's Valentine's Course Special:  https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/thecourse-valentinesdayoffer

Today's episode piggy-backs off of last week's episode, Putting 1% More Effort Into Your Healing-Heartbreak Journey. (Episode 253)Finding love can feel very overwhelming, despite how much you know you want it.If you've been hurt before or alone for too long that the process of dating feels daunting, or you just despise the apps and you're not doing much to manage your resistance, chances are you'll let a lot of time go by, NOT taking action and then find yourself frustrated for still being alone.If this is you, it is Claire's hope that you'll be inspired to take just 1% more action, and follow some of her suggestions in this episode, one step at a time! Link to Claire's Valentine's Course Special:  https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/thecourse-valentinesdayofferEpisode referencesMy Heartbreak Story Episode 5

Claire gets it. You're heartbroken and just don't want to do anything.Showing up for work feels like a huge accomplishment and once you do, there's no energy left for anything else...But you're over feeling this way.You want to do something but everything everyone suggests feels too hard, too heavy, and too much.In this episode, Claire explains how she too found herself in a bit of a stuck, shutdown mode with her own personal goals, and offers how powerful things can shift by doing just a liiiiiltle bit more.She also makes suggestions on how you can put just 1% more effort into healing your heartbreak.Episode referencesMy Heartbreak Story Episode 5

This episode is inspired by two of Claire's clients this past week-- one who needed to step into her power as a budding entrepreneur, and another who celebrated owning her power with a new guy she was dating and really interested in.This is a must-listen if you feel like you are showing up for your dating life by doing all the things: swiping, dating, visualizing, etc, but aren't feeling like there's much momentum happening...It just might have to do with you not recognizing and harnessing your power!

This episode was inspired by one of Claire's group clients and a fellow coach, who presented the idea of exploring desire vs. desperation to heal heartbreak.Claire was curious about why her client didn't want to feel desperate to heal, and in this episode she explores why desperation to heal may not be such a bad thing, while desperation in the midst of singledom, wouldn't be what she'd recommend.  Referenced episodes5: My Heartbreak Story250: Discouraging Dating App Stats