Episode 127: Weaving the Web of Co-Authenticity — Navigating the Friction of Real Relationships

Links:One Thread At A Time: A Somatic Mini-Course For Shifting Relational PatternsLindsey Lockett's Instagram @iamlindseylockettLindseyLockett.comIn this episode, I’m joined by Drew Wild for a raw and layered conversation about what it really means to be authentic — especially in relationships that are shaped by trauma, addiction, and nervous system dysregulation.We dive into the web of relational dynamics — how our survival patterns play out in intimacy, how addiction can be a form of self-regulation, and why co-authenticity (not just self-authenticity) is essential for real connection.We unpack the difference between rupture and harm, the danger of bypassing emotional truths, and why vulnerability isn’t just a buzzword — it’s a necessary practice for relational healing.This isn’t a fluffy convo about “better communication.” It’s a deep dive into the messy, sacred, uncomfortable work of being seen, staying open, and choosing truth over performance — even when rejection or disconnection is on the table.We talk about:— The nervous system’s role in how we relate— Why couples work is such potent terrain for transformation— How to tell when it’s time to stay … or go— Letting go of surface-level “connection” and choosing depth instead— Confronting self-abandonment, emotional shutdown, and the protective parts of us that avoid intimacy— What it takes to build trust through conflict and disagreementThis episode is a wide, honest, and unfiltered exploration of relational healing — woven with metaphor, emotion, and lived experience. If you’re craving deeper connections, more honesty, and a map for navigating relational complexity… this one’s for you.

In this episode, Lindsey Lockett dives into the frustrating reality that many people face in their healing journey: why does healing still feel so damn hard? Even after years of therapy, self-work, nervous system education, and deep intellectual understanding, many still feel stuck in the same patterns. Lindsey challenges the mainstream approach to healing, revealing that it’s not a lack of knowledge that’s holding you back—it’s your nervous system.She explains how your body, not your mind, determines whether healing is possible and how perfectionism, pressure, and an overemphasis on cognitive awareness can keep you on an endless healing hamster wheel. If you've ever felt like you're doing all the "right things" but still aren’t seeing the change you want, this episode is a must-listen.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:🔹 Why your nervous system may actually be blocking your healing.🔹 The difference between knowing about healing and actually embodying it.🔹 How trauma, safety, and familiarity shape your nervous system’s resistance.🔹 The four key areas necessary for true healing: cognitive, somatic, energetic, and relational.🔹 Why healing isn’t about eliminating triggers or always being regulated.🔹 The difference between genuine safety and perceived safety in the body.🔹 How healing needs to feel like permission, not pressure.🔹 Why your healing journey is NOT about perfection or “finishing” healing.Special Invitation:Join Lindsey for her FREE Masterclass on February 27th at 12 Noon Central: "Why Your Nervous System Won’t Let You Heal (Yet)". This live workshop will go deeper into the blocks that keep you stuck, how to shift from intellectualizing healing to embodying it, and practical tools for moving forward.🔗 Sign up here: https://LindseyLockett.com/heal/Connect with Lindsey:🌐 Website: LindseyLockett.com📸 Instagram: @iamlindseylockett

In this deeply insightful and raw conversation, Lindsey Lockett and Kat Lee come together tounpack the complex layers of codependency—what it feels like in the body, how it shapes our relationships, and how we can begin to break free from its patterns.Drawing from personal experiences, childhood conditioning, and real-life relationship dynamics, Lindsey and Kat dive into:Why codependency often shows up infamily relationships and partnershipsHowchildhood survival responses (like fawning, people-pleasing, and dissociation) shape adult relational patternsWhatcodependency feels like somatically in the bodyThenuanced difference between genuine support and codependent enmeshmentThe importance ofboundaries, personal responsibility, and differentiation in healing from codependencyHowauthenticity is the antidote to codependencyResources & Links:🔗Follow Kat Lee:Instagram |Website🔗Follow Lindsey Lockett:Instagram |Website🔗Check Out Lindsey’s Book:Nourish Your Nervous System –Click here

In this powerful episode of the Nourish Your Nervous System series, Lindsey Lockett dives deep into what she calls the climax of the series: Authenticity. Authenticity isn't just about being true to yourself—it’s the entire point of nervous system healing. It’s what lies beneath layers of conditioning, survival patterns, and emotional malnourishment. When we uncover our authenticity, we reclaim our power, our freedom, and our true voice. Join Lindsey as she unpacks why living inauthentically feels terrible, how trauma and conditioning disconnect us from our real selves, and why nourishing your nervous system is the foundation for standing in your truth. Resources & Links: 🔗 Get Lindsey’s Book: Nourish Your Nervous System – Click here (Includes eBook & 7.5-hour audiobook)🔗 Connect with Lindsey: Website | Instagram | YouTube

In this episode of the Nourish Your Nervous System series, Lindsey Lockett dives into one of the most essential yet misunderstood aspects of nervous system healing: emotional nourishment. Many of us have been conditioned to judge, suppress, or intellectualize our emotions rather than fully feeling and embodying them. But true healing requires a shift from avoidance to presence, from judgment to curiosity. Join Lindsey as she unpacks why emotions are not the problem, how childhood trauma conditions us to suppress our authentic feelings, and why embracing the full spectrum of emotions—without labeling them as "good" or "bad"—is critical to nervous system regulation. Resources & Links: 🔗 Take the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Test: Click Here🔗 Book: Nourish Your Nervous System (eBook & Audiobook) – Get it here🔗 More from Lindsey: Website | Instagram | YouTube Support the Podcast: 💖 Love this episode? Leave a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify! Your support helps spread this healing work to more people.

In this episode of The Holistic Trauma Healing Podcast, Lindsey Lockett continues her Nourish Your Nervous System series with part 10, exploring the topic of ancestral nourishment. While acknowledging that ancestral healing is an area where she still feels like a student, Lindsey shares her personal experiences with genealogy, ancestral trauma, and connection to those who came before us. She dives deep into how ancestral trauma is passed down through generations, from emotional wounds to adaptive survival patterns like addiction, scarcity mindset, and chronic illness. Lindsey also explores the historical impacts of colonization, Christianization, and systemic overculture trauma on our collective and individual nervous systems. Through personal stories, thought-provoking insights, and practical steps, this episode offers a powerful reflection on how we can nourish our relationship with our ancestors, honor their struggles, and embrace the resilience that allowed us to exist today. 8 Practical Ways to Connect with Your Ancestors: 1️⃣ Research your ancestry and build a family tree using resources like Ancestry.com or FamilySearch.org2️⃣ Ask living relatives to share stories and write them down for future generations3️⃣ Display photos of ancestors in your home to honor them4️⃣ Visit gravesites or ancestral lands and leave small offerings5️⃣ Call on your well-in-spirit ancestors for guidance, protection, and support6️⃣ Create an “ancestor plate” at special family meals and offer a portion of food to them7️⃣ Hold onto meaningful heirlooms like jewelry, tools, clothing, or art8️⃣ Choose a symbolic sign (e.g., a hummingbird, number, or object) to represent an ancestor’s presence Resources Mentioned: 🌿 Lindsey’s book Nourish Your Nervous System – ⁠Download the eBook + audiobook⁠ for $19.99 📖 It Didn’t Start With You by Mark Wolynn – Get the book📖 Ancestral Medicine: Rituals for Personal and Family Healing by Dr. Daniel Foor – Get the book📖 Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker – Get the book Stay Connected: ✨ Follow Lindsey on Instagram: ⁠@iamlindseylockett⁠ and ⁠@authenticitywitch⁠ 🎙 Subscribe to the podcast: ⁠Spotify⁠ | ⁠Apple Podcasts⁠ | ⁠YouTube⁠ ⭐ Leave a review! Your ratings help more people discover the show.

In this powerful episode of The Holistic Trauma Healing Podcast, Lindsey Lockett continues her Nourish Your Nervous System series with Part 9: Relational Nourishment. Humans are deeply relational creatures, just like pack animals, and the health of our relationships directly impacts our nervous system regulation, emotional well-being, and overall resilience. Lindsey explores how emotional abandonment, modern disconnection, and trauma patterns shape our relationships and why nourishing, reciprocal connections are essential for healing. She shares insights from Pete Walker’s Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, her personal experiences, and practical tools to build conscious, supportive relationships. If you’ve ever struggled with finding your people, setting boundaries, or communicating vulnerably in relationships, this episode is for you. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: 📖 Nourish Your Nervous System by Lindsey Lockett – Get the eBook & Audiobook📖 Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker – A must-read for trauma healing.📖 Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Compassion by Marshall Rosenberg – Learn conscious communication techniques. Connect with Lindsey: 📲 Instagram: @iamlindseylockett🌎 Website: www.lindseylockett.com If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with Lindsey on Instagram. Your support helps spread this message of healing and relational nourishment!

Welcome back to the Holistic Trauma Healing Podcast! After a six-month hiatus, Lindsey returns with an empowering episode that delves into the concept of mental nourishment. In this continuation of the Nourish Your Nervous System series, Lindsey explores the impact of the voice in our heads, how it shapes our reality, and why cultivating awareness and curiosity is essential for self-healing. In this episode, Lindsey shares personal insights, client stories, and practical tools to help listeners: Understand the connection between the nervous system and the stories we tell ourselves. Recognize and challenge the critical inner voice with curiosity rather than judgment. Foster authentic relationships by replacing reactive patterns with thoughtful responses. Nourish mental well-being by being intentional about media consumption and social connections. Whether you’ve been on a journey of self-discovery or are just starting to explore mental nourishment, this episode provides actionable steps and inspiring reflections to support your growth. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: What is Mental Nourishment? Why it’s not about affirmations or positive thinking but rather cultivating self-awareness and curiosity. The Role of the Inner Voice: How the stories in our heads reflect our nervous system’s state. Ways to identify whose voice it might be (e.g., parents, caregivers, or cultural influences). The Power of Awareness: How slowing down and noticing the inner voice can shift patterns of reactivity into conscious responses. Examples of how Lindsey has used this practice in her personal and professional life. Transforming Relationships: Lindsey shares a compelling story of a couple she coached through communication challenges, illustrating how mental nourishment fosters emotional intimacy and authenticity. Practical Tips for Mental Nourishment: Steps to bring intentionality to social media consumption. Why living a “no news life” can support nervous system regulation. The importance of balancing the mind, body, and spirit for holistic well-being. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Lindsey’s eBook and audiobook, Nourish Your Nervous System: Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth: A must-read book on spiritual awakening Dr. Russ Kennedy’s The Anxiety RX: Insightful tools for understanding the mind-body connection. Connect with Lindsey: Website: lindseylockett.com Instagram: @LindseyLockett

In this episode of the Nourish Your Nervous System series, Lindsey explores the concept of spiritual nourishment, emphasizing that just as we are physical beings, we are equally spiritual ones. She opens up about the challenges of deconstructing harmful religious conditioning and shares her journey of rebuilding a personal, self-defined spirituality after growing up in a rigid evangelical Christian environment. Lindsey reflects on the process of breaking free from religious frameworks and cultivating a practice that feels authentic, intuitive, and open. Throughout the episode, she highlights the importance of conscious awareness as a foundation for healing and personal growth. By connecting with inner consciousness and embracing spiritual individuality, Lindsey demonstrates how shedding restrictive beliefs can create space for deeper self-trust and connection. She also shares practical tools for energetic hygiene, such as smudging, Reiki, and the "bubble practice," offering ways to maintain energetic boundaries and support spiritual well-being. Lindsey invites viewers to approach spirituality with openness, experimentation, and curiosity. Rather than relying on rigid traditions or external doctrines, she encourages a more nourishing relationship with personal intuition and consciousness, one that fosters healing, growth, and a sense of inner freedom. Links: ⁠⁠⁠Get ⁠⁠Nourish Your Nervous System⁠⁠ as an instant download + audiobook!⁠⁠⁠ The Witch's Oracle Cards Moonology Oracle Cards Keepers of The Light Oracle Cards Angels & Ancestors Oracle Cards ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find my FREE offers here⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find my LOW-COST offers here⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram⁠

In this episode of the Nourish Your Nervous System series, Lindsey discusses the importance of meeting your basic, physical needs. You know, the "boring and basic" stuff like eating enough and eating nourishing foods, prioritizing your sleep (she gives sleep hygiene tips BEYOND what the internet recommends), time in Nature, and tending to your environment. These are the often overlooked but foundational elements for trauma-healing and overall well-being. Like, if you aren't eating enough or getting enough sleep and time outside, you don't need more nervous system tools or another embodiment practice; you need food, sleep, and time outdoors. Each basic need is explored in detail, providing insights into how they contribute to a healthy nervous system and the importance of prioritizing them in the healing journey. Links: ⁠⁠Get ⁠⁠Nourish Your Nervous System⁠⁠ as an instant download + audiobook!⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Find my FREE offers here⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find my LOW-COST offers here⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram Blue light blockers F.lux app Chill Out Tincture (Discount code: LINDSEY15)