The Assumption is Wrong

In this episode of Speaking of Spade, I’m diving into the lived experience of being the eldest daughter — the responsibilities we carry, the roles we’re assigned, and the woman we become along the way. This conversation is about growth, pressure, wisdom, and the lessons learned through navigating expectation, leadership, and self-discovery.If you are (or were raised by) an eldest daughter, this episode will resonate deeply. We unpack identity, emotional labor, resilience, and the quiet strength so many eldest daughters develop early in life — especially within Black families and communities.This episode is for women learning to honor who they’ve been while stepping into who they’re becoming🎓 Join my September Master Class: https://luma.com/n1uvp99f

In this episode, we break down the illusion of sisterhood through the lens of a Spade. Every table looks friendly until the cards are dealt. Not everyone sitting with you is your partner, and not every move is meant to be played out loud.We talk about how women are often divided—not as punishment, but as strategy. Some separations are necessary to sharpen discernment, strengthen spiritual intelligence, and teach you when to hold your cards close versus when to trust your partner.This conversation is about:• False alliances vs real alignment• Spiritual initiation through isolation• Knowing when to cut, when to bid, and when to walk away from the table🎓 Join my September Master Class: https://luma.com/n1uvp99f

On today’s episode of Speaking of Spade, we break down why leaving people in the “Assumption Era” is a powerful form of self-protection and personal growth. We talk boundaries, emotional maturity, spiritual alignment, and how silence can become a tool for clarity instead of conflict.This episode also dives into the meaning of Year 9 energy—the completion cycle. It’s the year to end relationships, habits, and patterns that no longer serve you, stop performing for the world, and step into a more aligned version of yourself.If you’re ready for transformation, honest conversations, and real accountability, this episode is for you.🎓 Join my September Master Class: https://luma.com/n1uvp99f

You Are Stuck in Arrested Development, GET OUT NOW!Are you actually growing or just getting older? In this episode, we unpack arrested development, the patterns keeping you emotionally stuck, and why it’s time to stop letting an outdated version of you run your life.It’s time to recognize the cycle, take accountability, and GET OUT NOW.🎓 Join my September Master Class: https://luma.com/n1uvp99f

This month is all about the switch — a shift in energy, mindset, and the way we move through the world. 🌬️In this episode, we’re talking about releasing what’s beyond our control and finding peace in our inner world. It’s time to stop carrying the weight of everything happening outside of us and start aligning with what truly matters.Let this be your reminder to ground, breathe, and trust the process. 🍂Tune in for grounded insights, spiritual clarity, and that gentle nudge your higher self’s been whispering about all month long.

This week’s energy is pure bliss in motion 🌸Mercury has shifted into Sagittarius, and it’s giving truth, expansion, and unfiltered clarity. It’s that cosmic reminder to speak boldly, live freely, and let joy lead the way.In this episode, I’m unpacking:✨ How to align with this week’s blissful frequency🔥 What Mercury in Sagittarius means for your communication and mindset💖 How to flow instead of force your way through this energyTake a breath, grab your tea, and tune in for your weekly energy reset — a space to heal, reflect, and remember who you are.

TW: Get your tissues ready! As we unlock our new norm, it’s time to stop expecting hardship.

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Today’s episode we gather here to gain Gods strategy. I think we all need to focus on the present moment. The energy of jealously is strong, but baby if God is with you…WHO CAN BE AGAINST YOU? Spotify has the uncut versions with no music so enjoy. ✨ If you like it with music, check out my YouTube.

Today’a episode we realized we play in our own face more than anything. As the dark feminine energy arises, we take a stand to allow her to speak. The need of boundaries wasn’t just for close relationships. They were for everyone. When you look at the energy, you realize how many people don’t have self awareness. You never gave a fuck about what somebody that hated how much they loved you said. You are power. Spotify has the uncut versions with no music so enjoy. ✨ If you like it with music, check out my YouTube.