Why Men Keep Losing Control

Dr. K and Dr. Micaela dive into the side of ADHD most people don’t hear about. The everyday quirks, emotional struggles, and hidden habits that go far beyond “not paying attention.” They explore how ADHD shows up in piles of clutter (“doom piles”), impulse-driven conversations, and difficulty filtering what really matters. The discussion digs into: Why focus often collapses before big deadlines or events The link between ADHD and social anxiety, rejection sensitivity, and “ADHD guilt” How emotional regulation and chronic boredom fuel cycles of shame Why masking drains energy and damages relationships Practical coping strategies from timers and structured breaks to unmasking safely with trusted people This episode reframes ADHD as more than distraction—it’s about emotions, identity, and the way your brain interacts with the world. Dr. Micaela's ADHD Adulting Workshop: https://bit.ly/4mI2bGG HG Coaching : ⁠https://bit.ly/46bIkdo⁠ Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: ⁠https://bit.ly/44z3Szt⁠ HG Memberships : ⁠https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf⁠ Products & Services : ⁠https://bit.ly/44kz7x0⁠ HealthyGamer.GG: ⁠https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. K takes a break while Dr. Micaela steps in to dive deep into ADHD, what it really is, how it’s misunderstood, and why it shows up in ways you may not expect. She breaks down the brain science behind executive function, emotion regulation, and social anxiety, showing how ADHD overlaps with everyday struggles people chalk up to laziness or personality flaws. Topics include: Why sleep issues often mimic or worsen ADHD symptoms The link between ADHD and social anxiety (fear of negative evaluation) How emotional reactivity and “ADHD guilt” show up after social interactions Practical strategies for self-acceptance, self-regulation, and breaking the spiral of shame This episode blends clinical insight with real talk about living with ADHD and offers encouragement for anyone learning to work with their brain, not against it. HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3Szt HG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. K takes a hard look at anger, violence, and why some men seem to lose control. Using the Raja Jackson situation as a case study, he unpacks how hurt, ego, and value systems can pile up until anger explodes. Dr. K breaks down: How “perceived value systems” shape what we see as respect or disrespect The hidden role of hurt and egocentric thinking before anger even shows up Why some violence is “reactive” rather than psychopathic Red flags that make someone prone to abuse Why men, in particular, are socialized to convert fear or sadness into anger It’s a deep dive into the psychology of rage, how it develops, and what it takes to break the cycle whether in yourself or in people you know. HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3Szt HG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. K sits down with Jeremiah Brown who is a model, creator, and Love Island alum. He talks about what it means to live “too online” and how it can wreck your sleep, focus, and mental health. Jeremiah shares his journey from day trading to modeling, how Love Island shaped his perspective, and why building community through his book club has become so meaningful. The conversation dives into insomnia, dopamine cravings, discipline, and the challenge of actually applying self-improvement lessons in real life. Topics include: What being “terminally online” really looks like The link between insomnia, dopamine, and bad routines Jeremiah’s path from trading and teaching to full-time modeling Building habits, book clubs, and applying lessons instead of just consuming them Whether you’re stuck in late-night scrolling or chasing endless self-improvement content, this episode offers practical takeaways on how to reset your habits and focus on what really matters. HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3Szt HG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. K breaks down the hype around dopamine detoxes and social media breaks—and why they don’t actually solve the problem. Drawing on his background in addiction psychiatry, he explains that detoxing only pauses the cycle temporarily; if you go back to the same habits, nothing changes. Instead, Dr. K explores the neuroscience of dopamine, how technology hijacks our survival systems, and why balance is about building real-world rewards, not chasing quick fixes. Topics include: Why “dopamine detoxes” are a myth The neuroscience of withdrawal and tolerance How social media and video games mimic survival rewards like achievement and community Why balance means creating real-world alternatives, not just unplugging for a week Practical tips: protecting your morning dopamine, building sustainable habits, and shifting cravings toward healthier activities This is a thoughtful look at why tech is so addictive and how to reclaim your brain from it. HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3Szt HG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. K explores why so many people feel stuck in dissatisfaction—and how deeper practices like meditation and Vedic psychology can help. Rather than just focusing on surface-level self-improvement, he breaks down the inner journey of facing suffering, understanding the mind, and building resilience. On his iPad, Dr. K walks through Vedic psychological models that explain why we get trapped in cycles of frustration, self-criticism, and comparison. He then shows how meditation, properly understood, is not about escape but about transforming how we relate to our thoughts and emotions. Topics include: Why modern life leaves so many feeling empty The Vedic psychology framework for understanding the mind How meditation actually works as a journey, not a quick fix Breaking free from cycles of dissatisfaction and finding deeper meaning This episode offers both practical insights and a philosophical lens to rethink why you struggle and how meditation can become a tool for real change. Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3Szt HG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Puer Aeternus: https://bit.ly/3G8KUGL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this candid conversation, Dr. K talks with Alexandra and Andrea Botez—sisters, chess streamers, and co-creators of @BotezLive. Which is about growing up competitive, finding their voices online, and supporting each other through the ups and downs of fame. They open up about their family history, early rivalries, and how streaming changed their relationship. Topics include: How sibling rivalry pushed them to excel (and sometimes clash) The challenges of building a career in the public eye Navigating burnout, criticism, and high expectations Balancing independence with family loyalty Why they see each other as “ride-or-die” partners today It’s an honest, funny, and heartfelt look at the bond between sisters who’ve turned competition into connection. Both on and off the chessboard. HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3Szt HG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. K sits down with fitness creator @Scottykfitness to explore what it really takes to grow—physically, emotionally, and mentally. They talk through struggles with identity, confidence, and the internal roadblocks that get in the way of becoming your best self. Topics include: How childhood experiences shape adult insecurities The connection between physical fitness and mental resilience Breaking free from fear, shame, and self-judgment Why the “best self” isn’t a destination, but a practice Real stories about growth, setbacks, and showing up authentically It’s a grounded, motivating conversation about personal development from two people who’ve done the work. This episode is perfect for anyone looking to level up in life, not just the gym. HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3Szt HG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special episode, Dr. K is joined by Dr. Kirk Honda and Dr. Michaela Thordarson for a head-to-head comparison of how real therapists and AI (ChatGPT) respond to mental health questions. Together, they react to anonymous community submissions and live prompts, discussing whether AI can truly replicate the depth, nuance, and humanity of therapy. Topics covered include: - A mother struggling to reconnect with her adult children - The limits of therapy for people with deep, unmet emotional needs - What happens when someone feels therapy has “failed”The difference between validation and real change - Whether AI-generated empathy can ever match real human insight - You’ll hear the doctors critique AI’s answers, reflect on their own therapeutic styles, and debate where AI might help or harm in mental health care. A thoughtful, honest look at what therapy is (and isn’t) in a world where AI is changing everything. HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3Szt HG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this powerful episode, Dr. K talks with developer and content creator The Primeagen about burnout, emotional growth, and breaking generational cycles. What begins as a conversation about work stress evolves into a deep, personal discussion about fatherhood, loss, and the struggle to show up when life feels overwhelming. Topics include: Prime’s experience with burnout in the tech world and how rediscovering passion helped him recover The emotional impact of losing his father at a young age and discovering pornography as a child Navigating grief, parenting with intention, and trying to be the father he never had A vulnerable exploration of emotional suppression, introspection, and the challenge of expressing feelings Reflections on what it means to be a “good parent” in a world full of imperfect choices This episode is honest, raw, and full of meaningful moments—perfect for anyone thinking about healing, parenting, or how past pain shapes present purpose. HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3Szt HG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices