Ep 42: Ethics, Ego & Spiritual Bypassing in ENM 🎙️

In this milestone episode, we dive into a story that’s equal parts unexpected, vulnerable, and thrilling. Solo dates have always fascinated (and unsettled) us — the idea of stepping into new experiences alone, with all the possibilities and what-ifs. For Anna, that curiosity became very real during a recent work trip.What started as a simple evening away turned into an unforgettable adventure: an intriguing doctor, a flirtatious dinner, and a set of circumstances neither of us saw coming. In real time, we share the emotions, the anxieties, and the excitement of what happens when trust is tested — and when desire sparks in new ways.Join us for the full play-by-play: the lead-up, the encounter, and the raw reflections afterward. This episode is packed with honesty, vulnerability, and the sexy tension that comes when love and adventure collide.Tune in to hear how one solo date deepened our connection, challenged our comfort zones, and left us closer than ever. 💬❤️With love,Anna & Aiden 💕Email us! [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

We’re back, loves — and this one is packed. 💌 After taking a little break, we return with stories, lessons, and laughter from our latest adventures in love, dating, and the lifestyle.In our last episode, we made a bold offer: what if we could actually date you, our listeners? We thought it was a genius hack — bypass the apps, cut through the noise, and connect with amazing people who already know our vibe. Here we reveal what happened when we put ourselves out there…This foolishness taught us more than we expected about connection, vulnerability, and how sometimes it's big leap for people to really put themselves out there.Also, Superman nd Wonderwoman are back in our orbit — and things get complicated. From a surprise drink night out to political dealbreakers (yes, politics can be a major cockblock), we found ourselves balancing values and desire in ways we didn’t see coming. What started as a simple meetup turned into one of the hottest nights we’ve had in awhile… just not in the way we imagined. 😉We also take you inside an epic party that brought together our overlapping worlds — burners, ravers, tantra friends, poly folks, and a swirl of open-minded humans in one gorgeous mansion with DJs, fire dancers, cuddle piles, and secret playrooms. We share what went down, the surprises that came our way, and how being “fake swingers” in a mostly poly crowd taught us even more about our own preferences.This episode isn’t just about hookups and experiments. As usual, we dive deep into:Why trust and reassurance are the true foundation of open relationshipsHow to balance individuation with partnership without losing connectionWhy empathy (even in the lifestyle) matters as much as attractionAnd how “hacking love” is as much about growing as a couple and individuals, as it is about finding sexy fun!At the heart of it all? We’re here to explore love, intimacy, and the messy, hilarious, beautiful journey of connection — with plenty of laughs along the way. 💕With love,Anna & Aiden 💕Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast#CouplesGrowth #RetreatReflections #RelationshipGoals #ManifestingConnection #LoveBeyondBoundaries #OpenConversations #EmotionalIntimacy

So, we had a bit of a wild idea: What if some of you actually wanted to date us? 😳 Or at least hang out and be friends? 👫After 44 episodes of us sharing our amusing and often arduous journey of trying to find that elusive "unicorn" 4-way connection with a couple, we know the best connections come from friendship and shared energy, not necessarily dating apps.And we just realized that we have already have a massive group of potential friends out there who are listening to us all the time!So here's our pitch: You already know nearly everything about us. Our preferences, insecurities, sexual stuff, banter, health routines, weird jokes — you name it. 😅 Now, we’d love to meet some of you. 👀If you’ve ever listened and thought, “Damn, we’d totally vibe with them,” this is your chance to reach out. 💌We’re inviting couples to:📹 Make a short video together answering a few questions:Are you in the lifestyle (or curious)?What draws you to us / the podcast?Where do you live and can you travel? ✈️What hesitations and hopes do you have?👉 Send it to: [email protected], so you have some idea of what we look like, for fun we asked AI to generate an “approximate” photo of us. 🤖🧑‍🤝‍🧑 It got pretty close - we think! We’ve posted it to our Facebook group.Our keywords here are playful, vulnerable, and curious—less “sexy stranger hookup,” more “cool friends first, maybe more if it’s mutual.” ✨ Whether anyone bites or not, we promise to keep it fun and will respond to everyone who reaches out, We will also plan to share what happens in upcoming episodes. 🎧And if no one responds? Even funnier.So if you’re feeling curious, brave, and aligned with our vibe… we’d love to meet you. 💛With love, weirdness, and zero expectations,Anna & Aiden 💕Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast#CouplesGrowth #RetreatReflections #RelationshipGoals #ManifestingConnection #LoveBeyondBoundaries #OpenConversations #EmotionalIntimacy

We just wrapped our very first Hacking Love retreat in Nicaragua… and it went great! 🌴 Three incredible beginner couples said yes to a wild idea—five days with strangers in a beach house, exploring the edges of connection, vulnerability, and what’s actually possible in a relationship. 💕In this episode, we share our final night conversation with the group—what they feared coming in, what surprised them, and how they’re heading home changed. It was about talking, connecting, laughing, getting real, and building the kind of open, authentic relationships we all crave.We’re already dreaming up next year’s retreat—so if you’ve been listening, resonating, and wondering if a newbie retreat like this could be for you, send us an email so we can start gauging interest! 💫📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast#CouplesGrowth #RetreatReflections #RelationshipGoals #LoveJourney #EmpowerYourLove #ManifestingConnection #LoveBeyondBoundaries #OpenConversations #EmotionalIntimacy

Broadcasting from the sunny shores of Nicaragua 🌊☀️, Anna and Aiden tackle complexities in ethical non-monogamy head-on.In this episode, we unpack a listener's relationship dilemma, stirring a passionate response from Anna as she fiercely advocates for self-worth and setting boundaries. Meanwhile, Aiden brings his usual calm clarity 🧘‍♂️, offering thoughtful takes on trust, transparency, and what it really means to be in ENM. (Hint: it's the ethical part) 👀 💭We also rough up a controversial episode from a famous billionaire podcaster 🎙️🤑, exposing manipulation and the misuse of 'spirituality” in what is presented.as an ENM relationship .Tune in for an episode filled with heartfelt advice, fiery debates, and a sneak peek into our exciting Nicaraguan retreat 🌴✨.📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast#HackingLove #EthicalNonMonogamy #ENM #RelationshipTalk #OpenRelationships #PodcastCouple #ConsciousLove #NicaraguaVibes #LoveOutLoud #PolyTalk

What happens when the party ends? We get honest about the emotional hangover that hit us both—the letdown, the exhaustion, and the questions that linger after the fun fades. We open up about navigating big play parties as a couple, asking for what we need, and the sometimes awkward reality of fitting in when you’re not quite like everyone else. 😬From the highs of partying and connecting our friends, to the lows of feeling left out, meh vibes, and the struggle to balance self-care with social pressure, we’re sharing it all. We get real about the weirdness of party dynamics, the complexities of open relationships, and why sometimes you just need to do your own thing, take your own car and leave when you’re ready. 🚗✨If you’ve ever felt out of place in a crowd, wondered how to ask for what you want, or struggled with the morning after a big night out—this episode is for you. Join us for honest talk, laughter, and a reminder that even in the wildest spaces, it’s okay to just be yourself. 💕📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

Life’s been busy—family, work, and all the chaos that comes with it—but we’re here to dive deep into the real, messy, and beautiful side of love and relationships.This week, we unpack a listener’s email that had us both raising eyebrows: What happens when “ethical non-monogamy” starts to look less than honest? We talk red flags 🚩, jealousy, and why true partnership means being on the same team—not just doing your own thing just because you "can". We get real about trust, boundaries, and what to do when your partner’s desire for solo exploits start to feel like you’re being left behind.We also spill the tea on what was just about the wildest party we’ve ever attended and share what it’s like to be in a room where really anything goes. Plus, we dig into a surprising new study about infidelity and why so many people don’t regret cheating, even in happy relationships. 🤯Also—political talk in the lifestyle? 😱 🙉Tune in for real talk, wild stories, and a reminder that love is always a work in progress.Email us at [email protected] Live Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_Podcast https://www.instagram.com/hackinglove_podcast/

This week on Hacking Love, we’re diving into the surprisingly accessible (and way deeper than you think) world of Tantra-- and how it intersects with ethical non-monogamy 🌀🔥 If you thought Tantra was all gongs and slow-motion sex, think again. Here we discuss practical, grounded practices that can help you become more present in your body, connect more deeply to your partner, and even (yes, really) separate orgasm from ejaculation..We’re joined by our friend and longtime Tantra coach, ScottieO, whose journey from corporate burnout and sexual shame to the deepest of intimacy and connections, will blow your mind. Whether you're open, monogamous, poly, or just curious, we break down how Tantra can transform your intimacy, your healing, and your entire way of relating. Join us for a fast-paced introduction to Tantra, hear some wild stories and enjoy few “oh god” moments you’ll never forget. 😉As a bonus, learn how you can extend your own orgasms for hours and hours 🤯 - beyond anything you've ever imagined. 💥💥💥Learn more about Tantra and Scottie O at: EcstaticHearts.com.Tantric Couple's Retreat: ConsciousCoupling.net📩 Email us! [email protected] Live Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_Podcast https://www.instagram.com/hackinglove_podcast/

This week, we’re diving into what happens when exes reappear—and how to handle it in a healthy, honest, and open relationship. Aiden reconnects with a past girlfriend who once showed him love at a time when he really needed it, and we unpack everything—from unexpected closure to what it brought up for us emotionally (and erotically 😏). What does it mean when one of you flirts with someone else, and suddenly the other feels compelled to hit the apps five minutes later?We also get real about feeling competitive in swinging, and the awkward truth that sometimes all you want is a sexy side text to make you feel like all of this is worth it. 💬💦 Whether you’re an inactive slut (like one of us 🙋‍♀️) or processing beautiful old relationships, this one's a funny, sweet, and very raw look at exes, desire, and what it means to truly share everything.📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_Podcast

Hey guys! This episode is a no-filter deep dive into our time at a Wellness Retreat in El Salvador —a tropical playground of connection, curiosity, and just enough chaos. 🌴🍹Hosted by Naughty Gym's Scott and April, the retreat delivered everything from men’s and women’s connection circles 💬 to beach parties and a sexy ‘Kiss Me Orgasmic’ workshop 💋🔥 .🎙️ We finally upgraded our audio gear and recorded with our REAL voices - we may sound like completely different people now, but trust us, it's the real us!We also share the behind-the-scenes of our sandy, sexy cabana adventure 🏖️🫣, some cuddle puddle surprises 🤗, and what it was like shedding not just clothes, but prejudgements too And Aiden was thrilled to get to DJ for a mostly-naked dance floor at the Neon Glow party 🎧🍑The episode ends with wonderful interview with relationship coach Kel from Expansive Connection, who shares amazing insights on how to better communicate, navigate jealousy 🌀 and make non-monogamy feel less scary... and more expansive 💞.If you’re curious about what happens when you mix open hearts with open relationships in a tropical paradise—you’re gonna want to hear this one. 🎙️🌶️One more spot available on our Nicaragua mini-retreat for ENM newbies! See the FB group for details.📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_PodcastKel at Expansive Connection