Building A Gratitude Muscle: Daily Practices Comparable To Physical Training - Ali Abouzalam (ep. 1000)

Born into a vibrant blend of Mexican‑Catholic and Palestinian‑Lebanese Muslim traditions, Ali grew up surrounded by prayers, blessings, and a family that constantly reminded him to thank God for everything. After a period of spiritual drift in college, a simple daily ritual—reciting the “guardian‑angel” prayer while cruising with his car’s sunroof open— sparked a powerful gratitude practice that transformed his energy, mood, and outlook.Seeing the impact on his own life, Ali turned his practice into a public movement. He began filming his sunroof shout‑outs on Instagram, inviting followers to share three things they’re grateful for. The idea evolved into a street‑level project: armed with a camera and a concise, hostage‑negotiator‑tested pitch, he’s interviewed over 300 strangers— from pedestrians to homeless individuals— asking them what gratitude means, whether they have a practice, and what three things they’re grateful for today.Through these conversations Ali discovered that gratitude is universal, yet rarely framed as a daily habit. People most often thank other people, the weather, or basic comforts; the most grateful voices often come from those with the least material security. He distills his insights into practical takeaways: treat gratitude like a muscle—write, speak, meditate, or even thank yourself in the mirror—and keep challenging yourself to find gratitude in the hard moments.In this episode you’ll hear Ali’s origin story, the birth of DAT Grat, the surprising lessons from his street interviews, and his actionable advice for building your own gratitude practice—whether you’re a believer, a skeptic, or somewhere in between. Tune in, open your own “sunroof,” and discover how a few minutes of heartfelt thanks can reshape your day, your relationships, and ultimately, the world.Stay grateful, stay curious, and let’s get started.Resources:Ali's IG: https://www.instagram.com/aliabouzalam/Head to Aquatrushower.com and get 20% off AquaTru Shower today with promo code SHGRATITUDE. Your skin and hair will thank you.Head to https://AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code GRATITUDE to get UP TO $250 off today!Thank you so much for listening to The Gratitude Podcast! Please rate and review us everywhere you listen to podcasts, including Spotify & Apple Podcasts.Timestamps:00:29 – Introduction of guest: Ali Abuzelam – entrepreneur, podcaster, MMA fighter, founder of DatGrat01:02 – Ali’s powerful gratitude practice on Instagram & street interviews teaser01:58 – Ali shares his childhood: mixed Mexican‑Catholic & Palestinian/Lebanese‑Muslim family02:51 – Early family prayers: gratitude before/after meals, before/after travel, “bless you” customs03:24 – Father’s early lessons: “All my family will go to hell” → Ali’s search for truth04:26 – Ali’s wide‑spanning spiritual studies (Bible, Quran, Tao, Buddhism) & discovery of gratitude’s universality04:54 – The “Ángel de la Guarda” (guardian‑angel) prayer routine with his mother05:21 – College life → loss of spiritual practice → feeling of void after graduation05:56 – Re‑discovering the guardian‑angel prayer on Dallas commutes; shift to thanking what he already has06:40 – Turning gratitude into an energetic practice (opening the sunroof, shouting thanks)07:12 – Sample gratitude script: basics (senses, body) → specific blessings (business, family)08:17 – Colleagues notice Ali’s elevated energy & happiness when he practices gratitude08:49 – Realizing the practice fuels his mood; missing it lowers his energy09:09 – Host relates to Ali’s multi‑faith background & common core of love & gratitude09:45 – Ali’s father’s Muslim perspective: constant thanks to Allah, five‑daily prayers11:55 – Contrast: gratitude to God vs. gratitude to people; pragmatic blend of spiritual & everyday practice13:43 – Birth of “Daily Action Towards Gratitude” (DAT Grat) on Snapchat/Instagram14:05 – Viral sunroof videos + “three things you’re grateful for” prompts from followers14:45 – Treating gratitude like a muscle: daily workouts, MMA, yoga analogies15:35 – Naming the movement: “DAT Grat” = Daily Action Towards Gratitude16:13 – Recognizing gratitude is seen as a “Thanksgiving‑only” act, not a daily practice16:33 – Designing street‑interview questions: definition, practice, three things today17:36 – Crafting a pitch using hostage‑negotiator technique (“start with a no”)18:17 – Explaining the mission: inspire 1 billion people by 2030 to practice gratitude18:49 – Support from Toastmasters friend; team grows to >300 street interviews in 14 months19:38 – Unexpected ad‑read (AquaTrue Shower) – example of ad insertion in the episode20:38 – Interview insight: most people’s gratitude list focuses on other people & weather21:23 – Homeless interview findings: those with the least often show the most gratitude22:05 – Description of Fort Collins, CO setting & local homeless community23:08 – Why scarcity breeds deeper gratitude – hard‑wired desire for more vs. appreciation of basics24:51 – Pain & suffering as catalysts for greater thankfulness26:03 – Call to action: develop a daily gratitude habit instead of waiting for hardship27:16 – Practical tip: start with 1 minute a day; consistency builds gratitude “muscle”28:24 – Analogy: gratitude practice is like fitness – find your personal “vehicle”29:10 – Ali’s preferred method: vocalizing gratitude in the car (sunroof, “thank you God/Universe”)29:27 – Mirror gratitude: speaking thanks to yourself in the reflection30:20 – Other modalities: journaling, meditation, outward gratitude (expressing thanks to others)31:02 – Emphasizing flexibility: experiment, switch methods, keep challenging the practice37:01 – Gratitude in difficult situations (e.g., friend’s suicide) – grieving first, then finding lessons38:50 – Choosing gratitude over victimhood to build resilience and future happiness40:29 – Closing: where to find Ali (Instagram @AliAbuzlam & @DatGrat, YouTube link)Experience more abundance on georgianbenta.com/abundanceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Debra shares her raw, bumpy journey from a thriving yet unhealthy theater career in Chicago, through the cut‑throat world of Hollywood, to discovering a sustainable blend of creativity and self‑care.Together they unpack:What gratitude really means – not just a feeling, but a daily action habit that combats our brain’s negativity bias.The “tortured artist” myth – why you don’t have to suffer, stay up all night, or live on fumes to be creative, and how viewing an artist as an athlete can transform performance.Practical, bite‑sized habits – from a morning glass of filtered water and “just putting on your shoes” exercise mindset, to night‑time screen‑off rituals and the power of positive questioning.Balancing multiple life buckets – why spreading value across career, relationships, hobbies, and health shields you from setbacks and fuels gratitude.Real‑world gratitude tools – gratitude lists, three‑thing‑daily reflections with kids, and the simple question‑shift that rewires your brain toward abundance.Debra also reveals the people who inspire her gratitude—her surviving childhood friends, healthy parents, and even the unexpected comforts of the pandemic—and highlights a real‑life role model, Tom Hanks, whose earned humility exemplifies grateful living.Whether you’re an actor, a creator, an entrepreneur, or anyone seeking a healthier, more grateful mindset, this conversation offers a roadmap to thriving without “kicking your ass.” Tune in, take notes, and get ready to reboot your gratitude practice—one small habit at a time.Stay tuned. Stay grateful. Keep seeking.Resources:Debra's website: https://www.debrawanger.com/Head to Aquatrushower.com and get 20% off AquaTru Shower today with promo code SHGRATITUDE. Your skin and hair will thank you.Head to https://AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code GRATITUDE to get UP TO $250 off today!Thank you so much for listening to The Gratitude Podcast! Please rate and review us everywhere you listen to podcasts, including Spotify & Apple Podcasts.Timestamps:02:03 – Introduction of guest Debra Wenger (author, actress, singer, coach, speaker)03:15 – Debra’s early life: Chicago theater roots, early acting success but unhappiness04:23 – Turning point: health‑coach certification, deep dive into nutrition, sleep, stress, exercise05:01 – Mission to help actors & creatives find balance so work doesn’t “kick your ass”06:43 – Debra defines gratitude as both an action and a feeling; training the mind to focus on positives08:54 – Why creatives struggle with gratitude: the “tortured artist” myth & darkness of the creative process10:15 – Athlete metaphor: treat your body as an instrument, prioritize rest, recovery & coaching11:57 – Balancing dark projects with self‑care; healthy habits boost creative output13:53 – Exhaustion from perfect‑making; compare creative marathon to a physical marathon15:28 – Long‑term thinking: protect your future self by maintaining health now16:43 – (Ad break) AquaTrue shower‑water filtration promotion18:33 – Choosing work environments that support health, sanity & family life20:30 – Personal gratitude story revisited: surviving loss, pandemic challenges, family blessings22:35 – Daily gratitude practice with kids: “three great things” list23:45 – Small daily habits for success; habit‑building mindset24:16 – Morning hydration habit (filtered water) to start the day “winning”24:52 – Exercise habit: put on shoes/workout clothes first, focus on starting rather than outcome25:38 – Sleep habit: phone reminder to power down screens an hour before bed27:25 – Accountability: sharing commitments with friends/coach boosts follow‑through28:45 – Power of positive questioning; re‑frame thoughts to trigger grateful answers31:18 – Example of gratitude in Hollywood: Tom Hanks as a grateful, hard‑working artist34:55 – Avoid “single‑basket” identity; derive worth from multiple life areas (relationships, hobbies, contribution)38:17 – How to find Debra’s book The Resilient Actor and contact infoExperience more abundance on georgianbenta.com/abundanceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

After applying the principles from Shawn Achor’s The Happiness Advantage to his own life, he realized that gratitude isn’t just an innate trait – it’s a skill you can cultivate. Determined to fill the gap he’d felt in his own schooling, Ash launched Growing With Gratitude with a mission to embed a culture of gratitude across the whole school ecosystem.In this conversation we’ll explore:Why teaching gratitude early matters – building resilience, joy and mental‑health foundations for the next generation.How the program works – from the “Daily Habits of Happiness Wheel” web app to hands‑on activities like gratitude trees, jars, and the “Stop‑Think‑Appreciate” sticker system that turn abstract concepts into tangible classroom experiences.The power of habit – why the classic “three‑things‑I’m‑grateful‑for” list can become a chore and how creative variations keep kids engaged.Real‑world impact – evidence‑based results from pilot schools, adoption in over 40 countries, and the holistic approach that involves parents and teachers as role models.Ash’s personal grit – how gratitude helped him transition from a full‑time PE teacher to running his program full‑time, and the daily practices that keep him grounded.Top reading recommendations – Shawn Achor’s The Happiness Advantage and the Dalai Lama & Desmond Tutu’s The Book of Joy.Whether you’re an educator, parent, or anyone looking to embed gratitude into daily life, Ash’s story offers practical tools, inspiring anecdotes, and a clear roadmap for creating happier, more empathetic classrooms—and ultimately, a more compassionate world.Stay tuned, hit that follow button, and let’s dive into the world of gratitude with Ash Manuel. Resources:Ash's website: https://ashmanuel.com/Head to Aquatrushower.com and get 20% off AquaTru Shower today with promo code SHGRATITUDE. Your skin and hair will thank you.Head to https://AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code GRATITUDE to get UP TO $250 off today!Thank you so much for listening to The Gratitude Podcast! Please rate and review us everywhere you listen to podcasts, including Spotify & Apple Podcasts.Timestamps:01:00 – Ash’s mission: Helping children, teachers, and families start life with gratitude and a giving mindset.01:59 – Origin story: Ash discovered gratitude’s link to success while researching property investing; inspired by Sean Achor’s The Happiness Advantage.02:41 – From personal habit to school program: Turning daily 2‑10‑minute gratitude habits into a scalable primary‑school curriculum.03:44 – Program overview: Growing with Gratitude creates a whole‑school culture of gratitude using the “Daily Habits of Happiness Wheel” web app (95 % online).04:54 – The power of early teaching: Cultivating gratitude, kindness, empathy, and mindfulness early builds lifelong happiness and resilience.05:19 – Redefining success: Parents’ true success is a child’s happiness, not just academic or career milestones.06:08 – Holistic approach: Involving students, teachers and families so gratitude practices reinforce each other.07:02 – Teaching the mind: Gratitude isn’t innate—it can be taught; the program also teaches reframing and positive thinking.07:53 – Reframing tough days: Turning “bad” experiences into perspective shifts (e.g., focusing on family, health).09:01 – Favorite gratitude quote: Oprah Winfrey – “Be thankful for what you have; you end up having more.”10:22 – Money vs. mindset: Happiness comes from internal perspective, not how much you own.12:30 – When gratitude feels hard: Acknowledge negative emotions, then consciously find something to be grateful for (e.g., comparing to those worse‑off).14:58 – Gratitude as a coping tool: Using practiced gratitude habits to bounce back during tough times.16:44 – Daily practice impact: Regular gratitude, kindness, empathy, and reflection become a mental toolkit.18:19 – Personal gratitude journey: Shift from “I was grateful” to actively cultivating gratitude over the last six years.20:03 – Turning passion into full‑time work: Using gratitude to transition from a nine‑to‑five job to running the program.21:59 – Teaching gratitude to children: From simple “3‑things‑I’m‑grateful‑for” lists to more engaging activities.23:24 – Creative activities demo: Gratitude tree, gratitude jar, “Stop‑Think‑Appreciate” stickers, and other hands‑on tools.25:12 – Engaging the environment: Making gratitude visible and interactive rather than a purely mental exercise.26:22 – Advice to younger self: Plant gratitude seeds in primary school to protect teens and adults from later mental‑health challenges.28:58 – Gratitude vs. self‑criticism: How gratitude builds a stronger emotional foundation than beating yourself up.30:45 – Daily habits for the host: Teaching, creating lessons, and constant reframing keep gratitude alive for Ash.33:00 – People Ash is grateful for: Parents, partner, friends, mentors, authors, and the broader gratitude community.35:53 – Book recommendations: The Happiness Advantage (Sean Achor) and The Book of Joy (Dalai Lama & Desmond Tutu).37:44 – Global reach: Online, evidence‑based program used in 40+ countries; free resources plus full‑school packages.Experience more abundance on georgianbenta.com/abundanceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today I’m thrilled to sit down once again with a dear friend and purpose‑guide, Dr. Holly Woods—PhD in Human & Organizational Development, author of the brand‑new book The Golden Thread: Where to Find Purpose in the Stages of Your Life, and a true visionary for anyone who craves meaning.In our conversation we unpack a simple yet transformative idea: purpose isn’t a single, static destination; it’s a golden thread that weaves its way through every chapter of our lives. Whether we’re a curious toddler, a searching teen, a 30‑something stepping into our “subtle tier,” or a seasoned adult refining our impact, that thread shows up in different forms—if we’re willing to notice it.We’ll explore:Why purpose is a living, evolving expression of our soul, not just a job title or project.How gratitude is the catalyst that lets us see and follow the thread at every stage.Practical insights for anyone in their 30s or 40s—what that “subtle tier” looks like, how confidence builds, and how we can start owning our unique contribution.The power of parenting and mentorship in surfacing a child’s early purpose signals without forcing restrictive roles.Raw, personal stories of trauma turned into gifts, showing how challenges sharpen our purpose when we meet them with gratitude.The three people who have most shaped Holly’s journey, reminding us that every person we meet can act as a mirror, reflecting a part of our hidden gifts.If you’ve ever felt stuck trying to pin down “your purpose,” or if you’re curious about how gratitude can actually illuminate that hidden golden thread, this episode is for you. Grab a notebook, hit that follow button, and let’s dive deep together.Resources:Holly Wood's website: https://emergenceinstitute.net/Head to Aquatrushower.com and get 20% off AquaTru Shower today with promo code SHGRATITUDE. Your skin and hair will thank you.Head to https://AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code GRATITUDE to get UP TO $250 off today!Thank you so much for listening to The Gratitude Podcast! Please rate and review us everywhere you listen to podcasts, including Spotify & Apple Podcasts.Timestamps:02:12 – Podcast growth & the power of gratitude in personal evolution03:28 – Defining purpose – Purpose as a “golden thread” that runs through life04:55 – Purpose vs. expression – One purpose, many nuanced expressions across stages05:51 – Developmental stages – Purpose looks different for child, teen, adult, mature adult06:29 – Uncovering hidden purpose – Story‑mapping & the role of wounding07:22 – Book preview – “The Golden Thread: Where to Find Purpose in the Stages of Your Life”07:52 – Age vs. developmental stage – Why 30‑s/40‑s purpose is about skill/talent integration09:33 – What purpose isn’t – It’s not a job; it’s a soul‑driven expression10:21 – The “subtle tier” (30s) – Self‑knowledge, confidence, and emerging expression11:37 – Early childhood purpose – Kids express purpose unconsciously via curiosity & delight13:44 – Parenting & education – Guiding children to notice and nurture their innate purpose15:28 – Gratitude for non‑ideal upbringing – How challenges can still reveal purpose17:00 – Trauma as “gift” – Facing hardship sharpens the “gem” of our purpose19:33 – Linking gratitude & purpose – Gratitude turns painful events into purpose‑fuel22:29 – Using gratitude to uncover purpose – Finding blessings in disguise23:51 – The “three people” question – Who shapes our purpose and why we’re grateful24:17 – Daughters as teachers – Each child illuminates a different facet of her purpose25:20 – Father’s influence – Building confidence, hands‑on skills, and “building” mindset26:53 – Every person as a mirror – How each encounter reveals hidden aspects of self28:42 – Pandemic silver linings – Choosing gratitude amid isolation and new connections29:56 – Book & coaching details – How to find “The Golden Thread” and contact Dr. Woods32:07 – Gratitude for her name – Turning an embarrassing name into a playful gift34:40 – Discomfort as a catalyst – Uncomfortable moments point to shadow work and growth36:07 – Shared name awkwardness – Finding humor & purpose in everyday misunderstandingsExperience more abundance on georgianbenta.com/abundanceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today’s episode we sit down with a true renaissance man—civil‑engineer‑turned‑ultralight pioneer, author, philanthropist and, proudly, part‑time dishwasher. Glenn VanPesky grew up biking 4,200 miles across the United States, turned a childhood love of sewing into the iconic Gossamer Gear backpacks, and spent three decades balancing a demanding engineering career with a side‑business that never paid him a salary—yet has empowered countless hikers to travel lighter and freer.Glenn shares how a chance encounter with Ray Jardine’s Pacific Crest Trail Hikers Handbook sparked his obsession with shedding weight, how the simple act of sewing a custom bag for a neighbor turned into a thriving community of DIY backpackers, and why the lessons he learned on the trail—take less, do more—became the backbone of his bookBeyond the gear, Glenn explores the deeper currents of gratitude: appreciating not just what we have, but also the things we don’t have—peace, health, safety—and how ultralight backpacking flips our expectations, reminding us that happiness lives in minimalism, nature, and human connection. He reveals the surprising ways his engineered mindset taught him to focus on the journey rather than the finish line, and how that philosophy fuels his “gratitude fund,” a deliberate financial reserve that lets him respond instantly to strangers in need.From mounting a bike‑frame bag for a friend with respiratory issues, to washing dishes at a beloved local bakery, to funding a family’s final goodbye or a bucket‑list adventure, Glenn’s stories illustrate how small, intentional actions create outsized ripple effects.Join us as we unpack:The origins of Gossamer Gear and the power of DIY craftsmanshipThe psychology of gratitude—why we should celebrate the things we don’t want (war, disease, discrimination) as much as the things we do wantHow nature, especially the solitude of a lightweight trek, rewires our perspective on need, comfort, and purposePractical takeaways for building margin in time, resources, and mindsetA preview of Glenn’s upcoming book, Take Less, Do More: Surprising Life Lessons on Generosity, Gratitude, and Curiosity from an Ultralight BackpackerWhether you’re a seasoned thru‑hiker, an aspiring minimalist, or simply seeking a fresh lens on thankfulness, this conversation will inspire you to lighten your load, amplify your generosity, and rediscover the extraordinary in everyday life. Press play, and let’s get grateful together.Resources:Glen's website: https://www.glenvanpeski.com/Head to Aquatrushower.com and get 20% off AquaTru Shower today with promo code SHGRATITUDE. Your skin and hair will thank you.Head to https://AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code GRATITUDE to get UP TO $250 off today!Thank you so much for listening to The Gratitude Podcast! Please rate and review us everywhere you listen to podcasts, including Spotify & Apple Podcasts.Timestamps:02:07 – Glenn’s background: Early life, 4,200‑mile bike trek, engineering career, family04:32 – Boy Scouts & first exposure to ultralight backpacking via Ray Jardine’s book05:48 – Transition to ultralight gear: REI trip, discovering heavy internal‑frame packs, first prototype (≈5 lb base weight)07:31 – DIY sewing roots: Making his own packs (G1, G2, …) and sharing patterns online08:46 – From hobby to business: Demand for sewn packs, partnering with a cut‑and‑sew shop, founding Gossamer Gear09:53 – Running the company as a side‑business without taking a salary12:04 – Real‑world sewing stories: Customizing ski packs & bike frame bags; skill relevance in the AI era14:30 – Glenn’s definition of gratitude: Morning prayers, relationships, marriage, resisting consumer culture16:58 – Ultralight backpacking as a gratitude reset: Minimal gear, reliance on basic resources, appreciating modern comforts18:22 – Host reflection: Nature’s role in amplifying gratitude; shifting perspective after wilderness20:44 – Ad read – AquaTrue Shower (water filtration)23:02 – Ad read – AirDoctor air purifier (air‑quality benefits)24:09 – Gratitude matrix discussion (have vs. want; don’t have vs. don’t want) and creating a “don’t‑want‑we‑don’t‑have” list27:26 – Seeing the “silver lining”: Appreciating that things didn’t get worse (e.g., cold vs. cancer)31:06 – Higher‑perspective analogy: Mountain views, focusing beyond self, applying mindset to life goals33:37 – Book preview: Take Less, Do More – 15 lessons from ultralight backpacking; why writing the book mattered35:41 – Journey vs. goal: Engineering mindset, savoring the process, inevitable end of life38:13 – Prioritizing nature & exercise: Making time, seasonal adjustments, outdoor activity as natural workout42:28 – Urban nature alternatives & personal anecdotes (Echo Park, LA bike rides, grit exposure)45:58 – Wilderness for mental clarity: No phone, mind‑wandering, walking meditation, insights for business leaders49:59 – How to connect: Glenn’s website, book retailers, direct email contact51:11 – Philanthropy & dishwasher story: Volunteering at Sparrow Bakery, creating a “gratitude fund” with a set‑percentage giving plan54:20 – Impact of the gratitude fund: Funding emergencies & bucket‑list trips; encouraging listeners to set up similar intentional givingExperience more abundance on georgianbenta.com/abundanceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode we sit down with Dr. Donald McCoon, a renowned clinical psychologist, researcher, and champion of sustainable well‑being. Over two decades of work in mindfulness neuroscience (including collaborations with Dr. Richard Davidson) and a rich personal history of co‑housing, chronic illness, and family hardship have shaped his mission: to help us thrive on one planet’s worth of resources while nurturing our mental health, relationships, and the Earth itself.Together we explore:Co‑housing as a modern‑tribal model – how intentional community design (shared courtyards, common houses, “commons”) fosters real connection, reduces loneliness, and teaches us to live cooperatively.The “avoidance vs. connection” dilemma – why our culture defaults to light‑hearted, surface‑level interaction, and how we can replace it with skillful, emotionally‑rich dialogue.Gratitude as a gateway to love – viewing gratitude not just as a feeling but as an act of extending ourselves for mutual spiritual growth, even toward those whose politics differ from our own.Practical tools for handling unpleasant emotions – swapping criticism for compassionate complaints, embracing the GRL framework (Grace, Repair, Learn), and cultivating the “four thriving strategies” that keep relationships resilient.From personal practice to planetary health – a look at permaculture, holistic management, mob‑grazing, and the social technologies we need to distribute power equitably—within ourselves, with each other, and with the planet.Dr. McCoon also shares a sneak‑peek of his 10‑week “One‑Planet Thriving” training, designed to move listeners from zero to one in sustainable well‑being skills.If you’re ready to shift from avoidance to authentic connection, deepen your gratitude practice, and discover how small community changes can ripple into global impact, hit play—and stay tuned for actionable insights that will help you love yourself, love others, and love the planet a little more each day.Resources:Donal's website: https://oneplanetthriving.com/gratitudeHead to Aquatrushower.com and get 20% off AquaTru Shower today with promo code SHGRATITUDE. Your skin and hair will thank you.Head to https://AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code GRATITUDE to get UP TO $250 off today!Thank you so much for listening to The Gratitude Podcast! Please rate and review us everywhere you listen to podcasts, including Spotify & Apple Podcasts.Timestamps:01:53 – Dr. McCune’s background: 20 years in mindfulness & neuroscience; private practice & 16 years of co‑housing.02:36 – Personal hardships: child’s leukemia, wife’s chronic pain, and cultural fragility.04:09 – “Be there for each other” – mental health, relationships, and the planet as one.04:49 – civilization’s unsustainable experiment & the need to shift culture.05:43 – Listener question: “What is co‑housing?”06:05 – Co‑housing explained: intentional, cooperative communities (public vs private balance).07:19 – Design features: shared courtyards, cars outside, commons that promote safety & interaction.08:20 – Cultural challenge: avoiding unpleasant emotion limits cooperation.09:01 – Need for resilience: avoiding conflict vs. skillful disagreement.09:29 – Link to gratitude: people who annoy us often become sources of gratitude.10:31 – Tribal roots vs. modern loneliness paradox.13:13 – Loneliness epidemic driven by avoidance strategies.14:07 – “Thriving strategies”: connect early, often, skillfully (Y‑axis model).14:31 – Emotional bond components (Sue Johnson): accessibility, responsiveness, engagement.15:19 – Moving from light‑and‑easy to emotionally nourishing connections.15:41 – Four avoidance strategies vs. connection strategies.16:43 – Gratitude fuels the creation of meaningful bonds.17:33 – Handling unpleasant emotions: language traps & self‑criticism.18:05 – Criticism vs. complaint: criticism attacks character, complaint addresses behavior.19:42 – Other language traps (whining, “Debbie Downer”) and gender bias in emotion.20:39 – GRL framework: Grace → Repair → Learn for mistake recovery.21:55 – Avoiding the “four horsemen” (criticism, defensiveness, etc.) in relationships.22:28 – Skillful disagreement: engaging with unpleasant emotion constructively.24:26 – Working definition of gratitude: appreciative connection that borders on love.25:04 – Gratitude as an extension of love & spiritual growth (Peck & hooks).25:28 – Political polarity challenge: loving the person while disagreeing on beliefs.26:29 – Bridge building through shared human moments (e.g., children’s forts).27:22 – Desired interaction ratio: many pleasant to few unpleasant exchanges for resilience.28:02 – Extending gratitude/love to the planet, soil, and all species.29:11 – How to keep living this integrated, interdependent way; role of the podcast.29:54 – Gratitude & love as core virtues for personal and planetary health.31:18 – Using appreciation to forge deeper neighborly relationships.35:02 – Personal story: revealing true feelings to a trainer and the impact of avoidance.36:06 – Balancing appreciation with the capacity to be present for others’ pain.37:02 – Leveraging technology & knowledge for a healthier planet.38:25 – Introducing permaculture (Lawton, Holmgren) as a regenerative model.39:46 – Holistic management & mob grazing as ecosystem‑restoring practices.40:30 – Two critical shifts: early, skillful reality‑connection + equitable power distribution.41:03 – Mutual influence as the healthy relational model (Gottman insight).41:20 – Interdependence with other species; soil health as planetary foundation.42:02 – Social technology needed to activate solutions; avoiding other‑izing.42:32 – Hate behaviors, not people; “hate the behavior, love the person.”42:45 – Spiritual wholeness: integrating body, emotions, thoughts, and “soul.”43:17 – Empowerment: we already have tools; it’s up to us to apply them.Experience more abundance on georgianbenta.com/abundanceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today’s episode we sit down with the dynamic Jade Simmons—classically trained concert pianist turned keynote speaker, author, and creator of transformative live experiences. Jade’s mission? To remix the way we think about purpose, proving that it isn’t a distant, lofty “super‑hero” calling but a daily, renewable energy that fuels gratitude, bold action, and real impact.Starting with a simple yet powerful choice—taking the feeder road instead of the highway—Jade illustrates how slowing down can unlock the very purpose that makes us want to serve, not just succeed. She shares how she moved from “the piano girl who talks” to a global speaker who uses music to cement her messages, and reveals the core insight from her book Purpose: The Remix: “Your purpose isn’t what you do; it’s what happens in others when you do what you do.”We dive deep into:Purpose vs. Passion – why passion burns out and purpose never runs dry.Finding Your Outbreak Effect – practical questions to discover the ripple you create in others.The Freedom of Showing Up Boldly – from wardrobe dilemmas to corporate stages, how purpose dictates you show up big and different every time.Gratitude’s Twin: Self‑Criticism – reframing inner stinginess as a barrier to generosity toward ourselves.Everyday Superheroes – why purpose isn’t reserved for the world’s famous figures; it lives in each of us, from a grocery‑store checkout to a high‑stakes conference.Resources:Jade's website: https://jadesimmons.com/Go to AquaTru.com now for 20% off using promo code GRATITUDE.Thank you so much for listening to The Gratitude Podcast! Please rate and review us everywhere you listen to podcasts, including Spotify & Apple Podcasts.Timestamps:04:02 – Turning inspiration into action: moving audiences beyond “awesome” feelings04:19 – Classical piano background: White House, Supreme Court performances04:51 – Shift to speaking: the “piano girl who talks” and using music as a teaching tool05:11 – Introduction of her book Purpose the Remix05:57 – Definition of purpose: “what happens in others when you do what you do”07:14 – Purpose frees you from codependency and gives you permission to impact08:18 – Purpose as personal freedom: serving without worrying about critics09:17 – Service vs. passion: purpose leads, passion follows and can burn out you10:07 – Purpose as renewable energy: feeling “spent” (fulfilled) instead of burnt out11:37 – Purpose aligned with enjoyment: successful people do what they love even unpaid12:30 – Coaching method: start with curious investigation of how you already operate13:41 – Listening to feedback: discover recurring themes that reveal your impact14:16 – Using purpose to thrive in uncomfortable settings (networking, gyms, grocery stores)15:01 – Purpose is an all‑time companion, not confined to a role or tool16:34 – Gratitude vs. self‑criticism: gratitude is generosity to self, criticism is stinginess17:35 – Purpose as a personal blueprint: eliminates insecurities and validates expertise19:01 – Aligning appearance with purpose: show up bold and distinct, not muted20:15 – Purpose transcends titles (e.g., CEO) and lives in the ground‑floor impact you create21:40 – Authentic gratitude style: calming voice attracts listeners who need calm22:40 – Different delivery styles attract different audiences; authenticity wins24:23 – Personal presence creates calm and clarity for others; early “peacemaker” trait25:45 – Boldness is a daily choice; committing to show up big and bold27:14 – Debunking superhero myth: everyday purpose isn’t only for world‑changing icons28:58 – Owning purpose, uncovering the “outbreak effect” that you trigger in others30:56 – Align thoughts, speech, and behavior with gratitude; practice self‑grace32:21 – Curiosity and deep listening reveal the “treasure” inside each person34:22 – Superhero narratives limit us; purpose works for everyone, not just heroes35:21 – Seeing and amplifying others’ hidden strengths, “big people” mindset36:07 – Vision: help a billion people uncover and walk in their purpose38:08 – Event‑planner story: showing up matters, even small audiences can be life‑changing40:32 – Presence awareness: synchronicities and intentional living in the moment41:51 – Feeder‑road anecdote: choosing a slower path to cultivate gratitude and rest42:39 – Purpose beyond job/title: making the best of who we’re created to be44:18 – Interconnectedness of technology and purpose: gratitude for the unseen contributorsExperience more abundance on georgianbenta.com/abundanceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today’s episode we sit down with Dr. Craig Dyer—a trauma‑surgeon, author, and global humanitarian whose life reads like a series of improbable, yet profoundly grateful, chapters. From being given up for adoption in Monterey, surviving a twisted intestine in high school, and enduring the loss of both parents, Craig turned every hardship into a stepping stone toward medicine. He recounts his climb from a freshman‑year heart‑attack loss to a grueling bicycle crash, a skull fracture, and his father’s battle with stage‑four lung cancer—all while navigating the relentless demands of a surgical residency.Craig’s story doesn’t stop at the hospital doors of the United States. He takes us to the rugged villages of Honduras, where he’s performed dozens of hernia, gallbladder, and organ‑repair surgeries in makeshift operating rooms—sometimes with a shop‑vac for suction and a dwindling CO₂ tank. He shares unforgettable moments: a Honduran patient braving a treacherous river just to thank him, a scrub nurse whose tears turned into renewed purpose, and a mysterious light that appeared in a dim closet during a marathon of cases.Through these vivid anecdotes, Craig illustrates how small acts of kindness—buying a coffee for the person behind you, holding a door, or offering a listening ear—create a ripple of gratitude that fuels both giver and receiver. He also reflects on the cultural contrasts he’s witnessed, the power of faith in the face of death, and the “miracles” that happen when preparation meets unexpected grace.Join us as we explore:The roots of Craig’s gratitude—how early life challenges forged an empathic, resilient mindset.Life‑or‑death lessons from the operating table, both in the U.S. and in low‑resource settings.Stories of gratitude in action, from a patient’s daring river crossing to the quiet heroics of a Honduran well‑builder.The science‑and‑spirit dialogue that shapes Craig’s view of medicine, faith, and the universe.If you’ve ever wondered how a surgeon can stay humble, hopeful, and endlessly grateful amid the chaos of trauma and tragedy, this episode is your invitation to listen, reflect, and maybe even pay it forward—one cup of coffee, one act of kindness, at a time.Resources:Dr. Craig's website: https://www.craigthayer.net/Go to AquaTru.com now for 20% off using promo code GRATITUDE.Thank you so much for listening to The Gratitude Podcast! Please rate and review us everywhere you listen to podcasts, including Spotify & Apple Podcasts.Timestamps:01:55 – Gratitude Foundations – Craig explains gratitude as humbling, recognizing life’s gifts beyond personal effort.02:52 – Early Life & Adoption – Birth, adoption, Catholic baptism, and the “blessed” start to his life.04:32 – Family Crisis – Discovery of his mother’s alcohol problem and first AA meeting at age 11; lessons in empathy.05:33 – Health Challenge – Twisted intestine in junior year of high school; early fascination with anatomy & helping others.06:28 – College Tragedy – Mother’s sudden death, a bicycle accident, and his father’s stage‑four lung cancer.07:48 – Solo Senior Year – Navigating college alone after his dad’s death; gratitude for a supportive grandmother.08:40 – Book‑Writing Journey – How a conference, a mentor, and the Rev app led to his first book (≈1½ years).09:41 – Resilience & Tenacity – “Never give up” mindset; identifying his gifts of healing, teaching, and empathy.10:33 – Defining Gratitude Moment – Water‑polo bus story: helping an intoxicated man get help; realization of his own “gift” from his mother’s struggle.12:54 – Life‑Lesson Insight – Connecting theory (classroom) with real‑world compassion; gratitude for lived education.13:40 – Patient Near‑Death Experience – Colon‑leak patient’s “wake‑up” after life‑threatening complication.15:22 – Judge’s Aneurysm Story – Long ICU stay, family devotion, and the profound impact on both patient and caregivers.16:50 – Simple Acts of Kindness – Buying coffee for the driver behind you; the reciprocal glow of gratitude.18:38 – Honduras Mission Overview – Performing ~44 hernias & 4 gallbladders in 4½ days; impact ripple effect on a community.20:34 – “Gray Gringo” Encounter – Honduran crossing a dangerous river to thank Craig; gratitude crossing cultural borders.22:29 – Water‑Well Non‑Profit – Wife’s project delivering clean wells; women’s labor‑intensive water collection.24:26 – Community Collaboration – “Brigade” model: working with pastors, locals, and low‑fee participation.25:20 – Well‑Builder Perspective – Tile‑layer realizes his well supplies fresh water for ~5,000 people daily.26:24 – Cultural Nuance Example – Patient rides a horse home after a minor skin‑lesion removal; adapting to local customs.27:10 – Patient Faith & Perception – Families viewing surgeons as “miracle‑makers”; importance of humility.28:28 – European WWII Footprint – Personal family history; symbolic “left foot in France, right foot in America” moment.29:56 – Water‑Purifier Ad Spot – Introduction of Aquatru (brief sponsor read).31:49 – Tribute to Sacrifice – Honoring those who fought for freedom; gratitude for historical sacrifices.33:45 – Empathy & Altruism – Discussion of human altruism vs. animal behavior; why we risk ourselves for others.36:30 – Risking Life in Honduras – Craig’s perspective on putting his safety on the line for humanitarian surgery.37:25 – Scrub‑Nurse Miracle – Unexpected scrub nurse saves a surgery; emotional validation of her worth.43:15 – Gallbladder Surgery Miracle – CO₂ tank reads zero yet pressure stays high; “plan B” saves a complex case.45:38 – Unexplained Light Photo – Mysterious illumination captured in a closet; “miracle” moment of awe.46:55 – Science & Faith Dialogue – Reconciling medical science with spirituality; viewing nature as God’s creation.49:38 – Historical Science Context – Pre‑Darwin blend of science & philosophy; modern-day faith “leap.”Experience more abundance on georgianbenta.com/abundanceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Celeste opens up about the hidden mental load of motherhood and the rise of the “mommy wine culture” that, for many, became a coping shortcut. She recounts how a panic attack and the looming threat of postpartum depression jolted her from a cycle of daily drinks to a sober lifestyle.From that fear‑fueled wake‑up call, Celeste discovered a richer, more sustainable source of calm: gratitude, self‑care, and community. She walks us through the pivotal moment when she realized sobriety wasn’t a punishment but a gift, how setting boundaries re‑engineered her relationship with herself and her family, and why listening to our bodies is the first step toward true self‑awareness.We also get a sneak peek at her upcoming book, It’s Not About the Wine: The Loaded Truth Behind Mommy Wine Culture, a deep dive into why so many parents turn to alcohol and—more importantly—how to break free.Whether you’re a parent feeling the weight of endless responsibilities, someone curious about a sober life, or simply looking for a fresh perspective on gratitude, this conversation offers actionable insights, heartfelt honesty, and a reminder that the most profound change often begins with a single, courageous decision.Stay tuned, grab a glass of water (or tea), and get ready to be inspired. Resources:Celeste's website: https://www.celesteyvonne.com/Go to AquaTru.com now for 20% off using promo code GRATITUDE.Thank you so much for listening to The Gratitude Podcast! Please rate and review us everywhere you listen to podcasts, including Spotify & Apple Podcasts.Timestamps:01:48 – Becoming a New Mom – The fear, uncertainty, and lack of parenting experience at birth.02:26 – Alcohol Shifts with Motherhood – From social drinking to using wine as a coping tool for baby’s colic, reflux, and stress.03:35 – Imposter Syndrome & “Mommy Needs Wine” Meme – Pressure to be the “good mom” and the rise of the wine‑culture joke.04:06 – Vicious Cycle of Drinking – Drinking to feel confident, then waking up worse; early signs of postpartum depression/anxiety.05:17 – Realization & Turning Point – Counting down to the next drink, feeling broken, deciding to quit.06:18 – Life After Sobriety – Growing confidence, deeper connection with children, hope for other mothers.07:58 – Gratitude & Feeling Emotions – How gratitude works alongside feeling and processing other emotions.08:49 – Fear‑Driven Motivation – Panic attack that scared Celeste straight; fear as the spark for Day 1 sobriety.10:03 – Foundations of Sustainable Sobriety – Gratitude, self‑care, education about alcohol, and community support.11:31 – Surface vs. Deep Gratitude – Why addiction blocks genuine, embodied gratitude.13:05 – First Deep‑Gratitude Moment – Seeing a peer’s sober‑week shout‑out, realizing sobriety could be a prideful achievement.15:30 – Avalanche of Positive Changes – Improved relationships, health, anxiety reduction, stronger bond with kids.16:50 – Mind‑Shift from “Have to” to “Get to” – Reframing sobriety as liberation, not deprivation.19:19 – Redefining Self‑Care – Moving beyond bubble baths to boundaries, quiet time, runs, therapy, and community.21:38 – Setting Boundaries as Self‑Care – Examples with partner, social events, and children; why it’s transformative.24:32 – Self‑Awareness & Evolving Needs – How self‑care changes across life stages; importance of knowing oneself.26:59 – “Put Your Oxygen Mask First” – Caring for self to be a better parent; breaking the martyr‑parent myth.28:17 – Relearning Body Signals – Listening to physical cues after years of drinking; rebuilding trust with the body.31:35 – Habitual Thinking & Its Impact – How habits blind us to our needs; the need to consciously prioritize self.34:17 – From Self‑less to Self‑Aware Parenting – Teaching children self‑awareness by modeling it oneself.38:45 – Leading by Example – How personal sober coping inspires others; ripple effect on family and community.40:45 – Emotional Tone in the Home – Contrast between alcohol‑induced “roller‑coaster” mood and steady, grateful presence.43:12 – New Survival Strategies – Replacing alcohol with healthier ways to cope; benefits for mom and kids.44:51 – Book Promotion – It’s Not About the Wine – exploring mommy‑wine culture and pathways out of the trap.45:57 – Core Book Message – Sobriety as liberation, not deprivation; practical tools for parents.47:56 – Current Gratitudes – Celeste’s gratitude for sobriety, family, health, self‑care, and movement.49:08 – Closing Call‑to‑Action – Share the episode with someone who might need it; keep seeking gratitude.Experience more abundance on georgianbenta.com/abundanceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today’s episode we sit down with Nellie Harden, a marine‑science‑turned‑family‑wellness expert, mother of four teen daughters, and the founder of NellieHardin.com. Neli brings a unique blend of biology, psychology, faith, and culture to the table, and she’s on a mission to help families rebuild the foundation of worth, esteem, and confidence that many of us never received as children.Together we unpack:The five core human needs—to be seen, heard, loved, to belong, and to have purpose—and how unmet needs surface as “outside‑in” behaviors (slam doors, disrespect, isolation, lying).Why the world pushes us toward outside‑in validation (likes, comments, social approval) and how parents can deliberately flip the script to live “inside‑out.”The four roadblocks that keep us from meeting those needs: perfectionism, comparison, identity‑shifting, and people‑pleasing.Practical tools—the power of reflective questioning, the HALT acronym (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired), and the transformative habit of journaling (including shared parent‑child journals).Real‑life parenting moments: from a teen’s “rude” text to a drummer’s “rage‑drumming,” and how turning “you‑are” statements into “I‑am” reflections can reshape identity.Finding gratitude in the crevices—how even the darkest situations hold hidden joy, illustrated by a war‑torn flower that blooms against cement.If you’re a parent, caregiver, or anyone craving deeper connection and a gratitude‑first mindset, this conversation delivers actionable insights and heartfelt stories that will inspire you to ask the right questions, pause before you react, and create a home where every family member feels truly seen and heard.Grab a notebook, press play, and let’s dive into the inside‑out journey toward more grateful, purpose‑driven living.Resources:Neli's website: NellieHardin.comGo to AquaTru.com now for 20% off using promo code GRATITUDE.Thank you so much for listening to The Gratitude Podcast! Please rate and review us everywhere you listen to podcasts, including Spotify & Apple Podcasts.Timestamps:03:10 – Parenting the teenage years: four daughters, developmental challenges04:32 – The “worth” chase: why many young people (especially women) hunt for validation05:15 – Healing while parenting: building a solid self‑esteem foundation as an adult06:26 – Turning personal growth into a mission to help other families07:16 – Gratitude paradox: families are both our biggest blessing and challenge08:19 – Real‑life example: handling a daughter’s disrespect with a reflective text09:38 – “Four corners of a square”: each child needs unique guidance beyond hearing10:41 – Home behavior as rehearsal for world‑wide interactions11:19 – Drumming out frustration: distinguishing personal stress from interpersonal conflict12:26 – Gratitude practice: ask “What was great today?” to shift perspective13:38 – Power struggles & the five universal human needs (seen, heard, loved, belong, purpose)14:18 – Deep dive into the five needs that drive behavior15:14 – Peeling back behaviors to identify which need is unfulfilled15:36 – Society’s grooming toward “outside‑in” living (likes, comments, attention)16:16 – Feeling invisible, silenced, unloved – common pain points for younger generations16:50 – “Belong to many, belong to none”: the paradox of over‑involvement17:47 – Finding purpose & joy that wake you up each morning18:25 – Awareness as the first step: recognize which need is missing19:58 – Roadblock #1 – Perfectionism20:43 – Roadblock #2 – Comparison21:48 – Roadblock #3 – Identity shifting (the “chameleon” effect)22:09 – Roadblock #4 – People‑pleasing22:44 – Journaling: a powerful tool to unload thoughts and gain clarity23:14 – Example: writing down negative self‑talk to test its truth24:22 – Shared journaling between parents & kids to foster mutual understanding25:46 – Pause before courageous conversations: importance of calm26:31 – Brain science: stress shuts down the frontal lobe, leaving us in fight‑or‑flight27:29 – Overcoming the “journal = homework” mindset28:50 – Create distinct journaling rituals (time, senses, environment)30:28 – Use prompt‑filled journals to guide entry, especially with children31:04 – Power of questions: they steer direction and emotional state32:01 – Starter question: “Am I operating at my best right now? Why? What can I do?”34:44 – HALT acronym: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired – not the time for big decisions35:37 – Scheduling tough talks: choose moments when energy and focus are high36:55 – Gratitude becomes harder when in HALT states; self‑care first37:46 – How to connect with Nili: visit NellieHardin.com for resourcesExperience more abundance on georgianbenta.com/abundanceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy