Unpacking Fawning, the Misunderstood Trauma Response with Dr. Ingrid Clayton

We’ve all heard of fight, flight, and freeze, but what about the fourth F of trauma responses? It’s called fawning and we have Dr. Ingrid Clayon join us to discuss what it looks like (leaning in even when you’re uncomfortable, needing to please), why we fawn in childhood, relationships, the workplace, etc., and how to break these patterns. We discuss how fawning compares and contrasts to people pleasing, and how fawners have trouble finding healthy relationships, saying no, recognizing their own anxiety, and being honest in therapy. And Ingrid offers advice for getting curious about the trauma responses that could be holding you back, recognizing and not sabotaging healthy partners, and speaking up when you don’t like something. Before Ingrid joins us, we have a SHOW ANNOUNCEMENT, Ashley gives a family/health update, and Rayna is making new friends. Enjoy!  Follow Ingrid on Instagram at @ingridclaytonphd and get her book Fawning. Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Function: Our first 1000 listeners get a $100 credit toward your membership at https://functionhealth.com/gge or use code GGE100. Smart Mouth: Get a special discount on your next SmartMouth purchase at www.smartmouth.com/gge. ZBiotics: Get 15% off your first order at https://zbiotics.com/gge with code GGE. Rocket Money: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions at https://rocketmoney.com/gge. Saks Fifth Avenue: Head to Saks Fifth Avenue or saks.com for inspiring ways to elevate your personal style. AG1: Get a free frother with your first purchase of AGZ at https://drinkagi.com/gge.

Welcome back to The Snack – a lighter serving of Girls Gotta Eat. This week, we’re talking about: Spit-Gate at the Eagles vs. Cowboys game Phillies Karen  Man getting stuck on the American flag  VMA highlights (Mariah, Gaga, Sabrina, etc.) The insane Unknown Number documentary Headlines: Luigi x Shein, Tr*mp’s bday card to Epst*in, new hot celeb couples  Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Function Health: Our first 1000 listeners get a $100 credit toward their membership at https://functionhealth.com/GGE or use code GGE100. Saks Fifth Avenue: Head to Saks Fifth Avenue or saks.com for inspiring ways to elevate your personal style. Bilt: Get points by paying rent at https://joinbilt.com/gge.  Skims: Get our favorite bras and underwear at https://skims.com/gge. Live Conscious: Get 15% off at https://liveconscious.com with code GGE. Addyi: Learn more at https://addyi.com/. 

It’s a spicy one full of sex toys, dating advice, and taboo questions answered. We’re joined by our Head of Product for Vibes Only and sex toy expert Sally Cotching, and are sharing what it’s really like to run a sexual wellness company, from designing vibrators to product testing to recruiting penises for r&d. AND we’re debuting our three new products, including one highly anticipated drop that will take your intimacy to the next level (literally). We’re also answering questions like “Can I get addicted to my vibrator?”, “How do I introduce toys into the bedroom with a partner?” and “Does my pussy need a skincare routine?” But it’s not all about Vibes; we’re also chatting with Sally about her dating history (including a rough breakup) and the experiment and strategy that led her to find her current boyfriend. She also opens up about dating someone who is grieving and knowing how and when to wait if they aren’t ready for a relationship, and we’re discussing why the height filter could be holding you back from finding your person. Before Sally joins us, Ashley reveals an ongoing saga between her and her roommate, Rayna reflects on her best summer ever, and we discuss couples who prank each other. Enjoy! Follow Sally on Instagram at @sallycotching, and shop the products we’ve created at vibesonly.com. Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order at https://quince.com/gge.  Rocket Money: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions at https://rocketmoney.com/gge. Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping at https://nutrafol.com with code GGE10. Liquid IV: Get 20% off your first order at https://liquidiv.com with code GGE.  Cakes Body:  Get 20% off your first order at http://cakesbody.com with code GGE.

Welcome back to The Snack – a lighter serving of Girls Gotta Eat. This week, we’re talking about: False alarms: Kris Jenner and Corey breaking up, Pam Anderson and Liam Neeson, Tr*mp being MIA, Dave Bautista's new gf Cardi B on trial Ed Kelce’s comments on Taylor and Travis’s engagement Love is Blind UK recap + doppelgangers Headlines: Sydney Sweeney and Scooter Braun, Miley’s done dating hot guys, new Vogue editor, JordOn Hudson trademarking Gold Digger, and Jessica Simpson flying coach with her ex Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit https://girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Article: Get $50 off your first purchase of $100 or more at http://article.com/gge. Bilt: Get points by paying rent at https://joinbilt.com/gge. Addyi: Learn more at https://addyi.com. Helix: Get 27% off at https://helixsleep.com/gge.

We're rereleasing a classic episode that's been known to change lives, and we hope you enjoy relistening or listening for the first time! Amy Chan, founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, joins us to map out the path from heartbroken to happy. We discuss actions to take in the first weeks post-breakup when you feel like you're gonna die, recognizing your dating patterns and changing them, how to stop toxic relationship fantasizing, and more. Enjoy!  Follow Amy on Instagram at @MissAmyChan and check out her Breakup Bootcamp. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more.

Welcome back to The Snack – a lighter serving of Girls Gotta Eat. This week, we’re talking about: Taylor and Travis’s engagement and all the reactions Selena Gomez’s bachelorette  Ashley’s bachelorette  Justin Bieber impersonator and thirst traps Gwyneth Paltrow biography and Ben Affleck tea Cracker Barrel rebrand and backlash Headlines: Gap’s commercial in response to American Eagle, Burning Man disaster, Love is Blind UK S2 Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Julie Care: Find Julie at CVS, Walgreens, Walmart, Target, Amazon and GoPuff in all 50 states. No age restrictions and no ID required. Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order at https://quince.com/GGE.  The Roses: In theaters everywhere August 29.

We loved chatting with wellness journalist and podcaster Liz Moody, and you do not want to miss this jam-packed episode of insightful and actionable advice on life, love, and career. Liz shares her story of having so much anxiety she couldn’t leave the house, and how she overcame it with evidence-based, small steps. We discuss how to have deeper relationships with friends and romantic partners – the conversations you have (and how to level them up), what you share about yourself and how it connects you to people, how to actually be there for a friend in need, and the concept of “bidding” and how it strengthens a partnership. Liz defines and explains “psychological richness” and how to have and recognize this in your own life and in others’, and we discuss what we think is going to make us happy vs. what actually makes us happy and why people aren’t fulfilled when they achieve “the thing.” We also talk about the things that drain your energy, actions to improve your energy, and tips for cutting back on scrolling. Before Liz joins us, Ashley pops off about a shirt she is sick of seeing, Rayna was traumatized taking out the trash, and we break down a shocking cheating email from a listener. Enjoy!  Follow Liz Moody on Instagram @lizmoody and listen to The Liz Moody Podcast.  Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Julie Care: Find Julie at CVS, Walgreens, Walmart, Target, Amazon and GoPuff across all 50 states. No age restrictions and no ID required, ever.  Rocket Money: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions at https://rocketmoney.com/gge. Skims: Get our favorite bras and underwear at https://skims.com/gge.  Hungry Root: Get 40% off your first box and free item in every box for life at https://hungryroot.com/GGE with code GGE. Ollie: Get 60% off your welcome kit when you subscribe at http://ollie.com/gge.

Welcome back to The Snack – a lighter serving of Girls Gotta Eat. This week, we’re talking about: Labubu heists Capri pants  Leonardo DiCaprio’s “emotional age”  And Just Like That series finale  The Summer I Turned Pretty  Taylor Swift’s New Heights interview  And then we chat with Kaitlyn Bristowe about the new show she’s hosting, Are You My First?, her current relationship and why it’s different from her previous ones, and we share our virginity stories.  Watch Are You My First? on Hulu and listen to Kaitlyn’s podcast Off the Vine. Follow her on Instagram at @kaitlynbristowe. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: The Roses: In Theaters Everywhere August 29. Get tickets now. Boll & Branch: Get 15% off plus free shipping on your first set of sheets at http://bollandbranch.com/GGE. Live Conscious: Get 15% off at https://liveconscious.com with code GGE. Cakes Body:  Get 20% off your first order at http://cakesbody.com with code GGE.

If you’ve ever wondered – Is my sex life with my partner normal? Should we be having more sex? How much sex is everyone else having? – this episode is for you. We gathered a ton of data from our audience about the stages of their relationships and how often they’re having sex. We discuss how your sex life changes when you move in with someone, get married, and have kids, plus we break down the reasons couples aren’t doing it and what gets in the way most. And we also talk about scheduling sex – who’s doing this and why, and does it lead to more/better intimacy? Before we get into the topic, we’re talking about shopping for Indian attire for Ashley’s wedding, why Rayna crashed out right before we recorded, and an update on Azul’s teeth. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Julie Care: Find Julie at CVS, Walgreens, Walmart, Target, Amazon and GoPuff across all 50 states. No age restrictions and no ID required.  Wix: Go to https://wix.com to start building your website today. Skims: Get our favorite bras and underwear at https://skims.com/gge. Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first order and free shipping at https://nutrafol.com with code GGE10. Helix: Get 27% off at https://helixsleep.com/gge.

Welcome back to The Snack – a lighter serving of Girls Gotta Eat. This week, we’re talking about: Recent beefs: Zach Bryan, Alix Earle, Todd Chrisley Hunting Wives is the most unhinged and horniest show on Netflix Taylor Swift going on her boyfriend’s podcast  White House renovation Instagram location violation + new features Headlines: Anna Delvey bunny-gate, Christiano Ronaldo’s engagement ring, AOL update Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: The Roses: In theaters everywhere August 29. Get tickets now. Shopify: Go to https://shopify.com/gge and start building your own empire today. Boulevard: Get 10% off your first year subscription when you book a demo at http://joinblvd.com/gge. Addyi:  Learn more at https://addyi.com.