EPISODE 111: "Why Do I Feel Out of Control With Food… Even Though I Know Exactly What to Do?"

If you've tried everything — calorie counting, macros, keto, starting over every Monday — and still feel out of control around food… this episode is your turning point.   Coach Steph Miramontes and I are pulling back the curtain on my 6-week signature program, Outsmart Overeating, and showing you exactly how we help women stop binge and emotional eating for good.   This isn't about more rules. It's about fixing the real problem: your inner psychology.   Because if you know what to do but can't seem to do it… that's the work.   Inside this episode, I walk you through the step-by-step process we use to help you feel calm, in control, and consistent around food... without tracking, restriction, or "getting back on track."   Here's what you'll learn:   Why dieting is keeping you stuck in the binge/restrict cycle The 6-week roadmap to rewire your thinking, habits, and identity How to eat like a naturally thin person (without food rules) The self-sabotage patterns running in the background—and how to stop them What real accountability and coaching should actually look like   If you're ready to lose weight for the last time — and finally feel normal around food — the Outsmart Overeating program will show you how to get there. Click here for the details.   Got questions? You can contact Coach Steph or me on Instagram.

Ever feel like you know exactly what to do with food… but still can't seem to follow through?   In this episode, Steph and I break down the real reason you still feel out of control around eating and it's not what you think.   If you've tried every plan, tracked every calorie, and still find yourself "starting over Monday," this conversation will feel uncomfortably accurate… and incredibly relieving.   We're talking about what's actually driving overeating underneath the surface—and why more discipline, stricter rules, and better meal plans keep failing you.   Here's what we get into:   Why your problem isn't food... it's the psychology underneath your eating patterns The habit loop that quietly drives nighttime overeating and "I don't care anymore" moments How emotional eating is really your brain trying to solve stress, exhaustion, and overwhelm Why all-or-nothing thinking keeps you stuck in the "good all day, lose control at night" cycle The self-sabotage pattern that shows up right when things start going well What actually changes when you stop focusing on willpower and start changing your thought patterns   If you're done spinning in circles, this episode will show you what needs to shift and what you can start doing today.   Want help breaking this cycle for good? Join the Outsmart Overeating Interest List for early access and exclusive bonuses when the doors open April 20–23.   You can also connect with Leslie & Steph on Instagram.     If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but also lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type  

What happens after you stop dieting?   In this episode, I'm catching up with former client Melanie -- 2 years after finishing our program -- and what she shares will challenge everything you think you need to lose weight and keep it off.   She spent 35 years stuck in the restrict → binge → "start over Monday" cycle… and now? She's down 40 lbs, maintaining effortlessly, and living a life that actually includes food, travel, and fun.   No tracking. No food rules. No starting over.   Here's what we get into:   Why restriction was the real reason she couldn't stop overeating How learning true hunger (not "it's time to eat") changed everything The simple habit that helped her stop mindless snacking immediately How she eats what she wants without losing control What to do when you feel the urge to overeat (in real time) How she maintains her weight while traveling the world (yes, really)   This isn't another "try harder" conversation.   It's a real-life example of what happens when you stop relying on willpower and finally learn a way of eating you can sustain for life.   If you're tired of starting over… this episode will show you a better way.   You can also connect with Leslie & Steph on Instagram.   Be the first to know when we're opening the doors to our signature psychology-based weight loss program, Outsmart Overeating (and get exclusive access to early bird discounts and fast action bonuses), join the Interest List.      If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but also lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type    

If you feel like the urge to eat comes out of nowhere... whether you're stressed, bored, tired, or even just finished eating—this episode is going to change the way you see it.   Because the real issue isn't the food. It's the thoughts driving the urge.   In this episode, I break down exactly how your thoughts → feelings → actions are keeping you stuck in the overeating cycle... and the simple, repeatable method we use with clients to interrupt it in real time.   No more white-knuckling. No more "starting over tomorrow." Just practical tools you can use today to respond differently to any urge.   Here's what you'll learn:   Why urges to overeat can hit anytime—and what's actually causing them The 5-step "Mind Shift Method" to interrupt emotional eating in the moment How to catch the subtle thoughts that trigger overeating (before it happens) What to think instead so you can shift your behavior without willpower How to "shorten the gap" and get back on track immediately after a slip   This isn't about controlling food.   It's about learning how to think in a way that makes overeating stop feeling automatic.   Press play and you'll walk away with a clear, actionable process to handle the next urge, no matter when it shows up.   You can also connect with Leslie & Steph on Instagram.   Be the first to know when we're opening the doors to our signature psychology-based weight loss program, Outsmart Overeating (and get exclusive access to early bird discounts and fast action bonuses), join the Interest List.      If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but also lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type

Ever had that moment where you think, "screw it," and suddenly you're elbow-deep in cookies you didn't even really want?   In this episode, we're breaking down what's actually happening in that split second and why it has nothing to do with willpower, discipline, or "being good."   Here's the truth: it's not the cookie. It's the story you tell yourself after the cookie that sends you spiraling.   If you're tired of being "perfect" all day only to feel out of control at night, this one's going to hit home and more importantly, give you a way out.   What you'll learn:   Why all-or-nothing thinking is the real trigger behind overeating How labeling foods "good" or "bad" keeps you stuck in the binge/restrict cycle The hidden reason one "slip" feels like total failure Why self-criticism backfires (and what actually works instead) 3 simple, practical strategies to stop the spiral in the moment   You'll walk away with tools you can use today... like asking better questions, making your "next best decision," and breaking the habit of "starting over tomorrow."   No more food drama. No more starting over. Just a smarter way forward.   You can also connect with Leslie & Steph on Instagram.     Be the first to know when we're opening the doors to our signature psychology-based weight loss program, Outsmart Overeating (and get exclusive access to early bird discounts and fast action bonuses), join the Interest List.      If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but also lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type

If you're "good" with food all day… and then somehow end up standing in the kitchen at 9pm thinking, "Why am I eating this? I'm not even hungry…" this episode is for you.   In this conversation, Coach Steph and I unpack the real reason nighttime eating feels so out of control (hint: it's usually notabout willpower). In fact, the late-night pantry raids many women struggle with are often the predictable result of what's happening earlier in the day.   Translation: the problem isn't that you lack discipline. It's that the strategies you've been taught are quietly setting you up to fail.   If you're tired of ending your nights feeling guilty, frustrated, and promising yourself you'll "be better tomorrow," this episode will show you a smarter way forward.   Inside the episode, we cover:   Why undereating earlier in the day is one of the biggest drivers of nighttime overeating The hidden role of mental exhaustion and emotional depletion in late-night snacking Why banning "trigger foods" often makes cravings 10x worse How to reintroduce foods you love without losing control around them Simple ways to separate food from relaxation at the end of the day A powerful "closing the kitchen" ritual that dramatically reduces nighttime grazing   Most importantly, you'll walk away with practical strategies you can start implementing tonight to finally break the cycle.   You can also connect with Leslie & Steph on Instagram.     Be the first to know when we're opening the doors to our signature psychology-based weight loss program, Outsmart Overeating (and get exclusive access to early bird discounts and fast action bonuses), join the Interest List.      If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but also lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type

Tired of dieting, calorie counting, and rigid food rules that never seem to work? This episode is your shortcut to freedom around food.   We break down how to reconnect to your body's natural hunger and fullness signals, so you can finally lose weight without dieting or obsessing over every bite.   By tuning into your own body, you'll stop relying on:   Counting calories or weighing your food Following strict meal rules or "safe" foods Consulting apps like MyFitnessPal before every meal Obsessing over every bite or feeling out of control   We'll give you actionable tools to start using today, including:   How to notice early hunger signals before you reach "starving mode" How to recognize true fullness instead of stopping because your plate is empty How to eat like a naturally thin person, without fear or guilt How to regain trust in your body and finally enjoy meals   If you're ready to ditch dieting forever, stop obsessing about food, and feel truly in control around meals, this episode is your roadmap.   You can also connect with Leslie & Steph on Instagram.     Be the first to know when we're opening the doors to our signature psychology-based weight loss program, Outsmart Overeating (and get exclusive access to early bird discounts and fast action bonuses), join the Interest List.      If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but also lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type

If you've ever finished dinner, felt physically full… and then found yourself standing in the pantry 20 minutes later looking for "a little something," this episode is for you.   This isn't happening because you're "addicted to sugar." It's a predictable response to dieting.   In this episode of the Outsmart Overeating Podcast, Coach Steph and I break down exactly why you still want to eat after you're full and what to do about it. We're talking about the real reason your brain won't move on after meals (even when you've hit your macros).   You'll learn:   The difference between fullness, satiety, and satisfaction (and why most dieters only hit one) How restriction amplifies cravings and creates "last supper" energy Why food noise is usually a scarcity problem, not a discipline problem The simple shift that quiets urges and reduces nighttime grazing How to build satisfaction into your meals so they actually end   Most importantly, you'll walk away with practical tools you can start using today to stop the pantry prowling and finally feel calm around food.   If you're successful in every area of your life except this one… this conversation will change the game.   You can also connect with Leslie & Steph on Instagram.     Be the first to know when we're opening the doors to our signature psychology-based weight loss program, Outsmart Overeating (and get exclusive access to early bird discounts and fast action bonuses), join the Interest List.      If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but also lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type

If you feel "in control" around food all day… until the second you finally sit down at night and end up in the pantry, this episode is for you.   Because the problem isn't that you need more discipline.   It's that food has quietly become your most reliable way to cope with stress, boredom, loneliness, resentment, exhaustion (and let's be honest… the mental load of holding everything together all day).   In this episode, Steph and I break down why smart, successful women — who can manage careers, households, and families — still feel powerless around food at 8pm… and why years of dieting have actually trained your brain to rely on food for emotional relief.   More importantly, we'll show you exactly how to start changing that today, without calorie counting or starting another "plan."   You'll learn:   Why emotional eating isn't a character flaw, it's conditioning How dieting increases food obsession (and binge urges) The dopamine loop that keeps you stuck in the eat → guilt → repeat cycle How to interrupt the habit loop driving overeating A simple "delay, don't deny" strategy to reduce cravings How to build a personalized "relief menu" that doesn't involve food The identity shift that makes weight loss inevitable (without dieting)   If you're tired of constantly trying to "get back on track"… this episode gives you an entirely new track. 🎧   You can also connect with Leslie & Steph on Instagram.     Be the first to know when we're opening the doors to our signature psychology-based weight loss program, Outsmart Overeating (and get exclusive access to early bird discounts and fast action bonuses), join the Interest List.      If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but also lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type

If you've ever gone all in on a new diet on Monday… only to be Googling something completely different by Saturday because this one "isn't working," this episode is for you.   Inside this conversation, Coach Steph Miramontes and I are unpacking the real reason so many smart, motivated women feel stuck in the cycle of starting over, getting off track, bingeing on the foods they've been avoiding, and then blaming themselves for their "lack of discipline."   Spoiler Alert: it's not because you need more willpower.   We're talking about program hopping and why constantly chasing the next plan (keto, fasting, macro tracking, clean eating, repeat…) keeps you trapped in guilt, shame, and frustration. In this episode, we discuss what to do instead if you actually want your eating habits to change for good.   You'll also learn:   Why starting a new plan feels productive (but is often avoidance in disguise) The dopamine trap that keeps you jumping from one strategy to the next How perfectionism + all-or-nothing thinking sabotage consistency When it's time to stick it out vs. when it's actually time to pivot 4 practical ways to stop program hopping and follow through -- starting TODAY   If you're burned out from tracking, tired of "getting back on track," and ready to feel calm around food again… this one's a must-listen.   You can also connect with Leslie & Steph on Instagram.     Be the first to know when we're opening the doors to our signature psychology-based weight loss program, Outsmart Overeating (and get exclusive access to early bird discounts and fast action bonuses), join the Interest List.      If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but also lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type