From "Nice Guy" to Sexually Confident Man (How-To) – with Traver Boehm

Why are so many men feeling lost when it comes to sex & dating? From porn, performance pressure, social isolation, fear of rejection, lack of good role models, a hyper-sexualized society and the lingering impacts of MeToo - modern men are facing a perfect storm of challenges that are very difficult to navigate - and are rarely talked about...🔴 - You can also watch this episode on Youtube.Today I'm joined by Caitlin V (a renowned sexologist and men’s coach) for a deeper look at what’s actually going on beneath the surface.IN THIS EPISODE:0:00 Welcome & Intro6:26 The State of Modern Men (in Sex & Dating)8:33 Impact of MeToo and Porn on Men’s Intimacy11:35 Pornhub Searches Reveal a Deeper Longing for Connection15:19 The Hard Truth About Dating18:03 What Happens When Women Start Initiating?20:30 The Fantasy of Dominance: Why Simple Gender Roles Seduce Us22:54 The Male Confidence Crisis24:27 Dating as a Life-Transforming Journey28:13 Better Sex Is a Skill: (Why You SHOULD Practice)29:04 Where Most Men Get Stuck32:03 The Truth About Erections & Emotions34:01 The Antidote to Anxiety in Bed39:16 Semen Retention & Sexual Discipline42:03 Can Semen Retention Hurt You? (Research Discussion)47:04 The Power & Importance of Ejaculation55:02 Squirting: What's the Deal With This?01:01:11 Squirting, Shame, and the Trap of Goal-Oriented Sex01:07:15 Caitlin’s New Music-Responsive Sex Toy: Pleasure Beyond VibrationCONNECT WITH CAITLIN :🔸 Caitlin's Youtube Channel🔸 Caitlin's New Music-Responsive Sex Toy🔸 Caitlin's WebsiteWORK WITH TAYLOR:🔸 Liberate Your Lifeforce Retreat (August, 2025)🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course (September, 2025)🔸 Advanced Somatics & Leadership Training for Men (October, 2025):🔸 FREE 7-Day Semen Retention ChallengeSupport the show

What if the sexual polarity practices meant to ignite your sex life are actually killing your connection? In today's episode we explore the shadow side of polarity work - and how you can move beyond it to build incredible charge in your relationship.🔴 - You can also watch this episode in Youtube.You'll hear about how Londin and her partner almost ruined their relationship by practicing masculine/feminine polarity... and you'll hear how they bring polarity in now - in new and healthy ways that help their relationship and sex lives truly thrive.Also - if you're a man who likes women - we dive into what you can realistically expect from a women in conscious relationship, and why sacred sex starts with structure. It's a great episode, and I hope you thoroughly enjoy it. If you do, please share it with a friend. Let's spread the good word of relational intentionality! :)-TaylorWORK WITH LONDIN :🔸 Londin's Website🔸 Londin's Next In-Person Couples Workshop🔸 Londin's InstagramWORK WITH TAYLOR:🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course🔸 Liberate Your Lifeforce Retreat (August, 2025)🔸 Advanced Somatics & Leadership Training for Men (October, 2025): 🔸 FREE 7-Day Semen Retention ChallengeEPISODE TIMES & TOPICS:00:00 Welcome to the Sex Upgraded Podcast!  01:40 Londin Winters' Background  06:37 The Dangers of Polarity Work  14:32 Alpha/Omega VS Masculine/Feminine Polaritry16:36 The Woman’s Role: Leading With Love & Color25:49 How to Become a Woman Worthy of Sexual Worship31:24 Sex as a Living Prayer  36:15 Energetic Agility for Women39:38 Why Scheduled Intimacy Unlocks Deeper Trust 51:55 EXERCISE: The Seer and Feeler Dynamic That Melts Walls56:50 Why Men Shut Down Emotionally—and What Helps 1:02:19 Why Women Don’t Trust "Providing Alone"1:06:22 EXERCISE: The "I Want" Practice That Revives Erotic Fire1:10:04 Reclaiming Desire & Consent After #MeToo 1:14:12 Embodied Transmission VS Online LearningSupport the show

In this episode: ✅ Why embodiment is the real key to sexual mastery, deep love, and trustworthy leadership. There's a reason most men aren't having the sex, impact, or depth of connection they truly want in life — and it's probably not what you think.In this episode with John Wineland, we'll explore something far more powerful than any mainstream sex technique — something that's usually missing from most men’s lives: embodiment.🔴🎥 - You can also watch this episode on Youtube.WE EXPLORE:✅ Why embodiment is the real key to sexual mastery, deep love, and trustworthy leadership✅ How most men unconsciously sabotage their efforts at this✅ The link between your nervous system's capacity and your ability to hold real power (emotional, sexual, and energetic)✅ How to powerfully lead as a man — in life, in sex, and in service to the world (embodied leadership)✅ Why in-person men's groups can be so transformationalLet's get into it!-TaylorWORK WITH JOHN :🔸 John's Podcast🔸 John's Teacher Training🔸 John's InstagramWORK WITH TAYLOR:🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course🔸 Liberate Your Lifeforce Retreat (August, 2025)🔸 Advanced Somatics & Leadership Training for Men (October, 2025): 🔸 FREE 7-Day Semen Retention ChallengeEPISODE TIMES & TOPICS:00:00 Introduction 02:00 What Is Embodiment?08:36 Sticking Points for Men in Embodiment15:33 The Deeper Mission: Love17:20 The Transformational Power of Group Men’s Work21:51 Embodiment vs. Strategy and Physiological Transformation28:05 Polarity and Sacred Intimacy Explained33:33 Intimacy as a Missing Ingredient in Modern Life37:11 Should You Do Polarity Work, Therapy, or Workshops?39:07 Relationships as a Conscious Choice and Required Skills44:36 Childhood Wounds and Relationship Dynamics50:09 The Power of an Open Heart in Masculinity52:46 Bringing the Heart into Sex55:57 Energetic Penetration Explained59:29 Final Reflections and Overview of John’s Programs#menswork #embodiedleadership #leadershipdevelopmentSupport the show

Most men don’t realize what porn is actually costing them… until it’s already showing up in their sex life, motivation, or relationships. *(And, you're not alone, I struggled with this too). I highly recommend listening if you've EVER questioned your use of or relationship with porn...🔴 🎥 - You can also watch this episode on Youtube here.In today's episode, Jeremy (who is a full time Porn Addiction Recovery Coach for men) and I dive into:✅ - How watching porn (even when it seems “normal”) can quietly drain your vitality, confidence, sexual performance and your connection to what really matters... ✅ - How to help you identify whether or not you have a problematic and/or addictive relationship with porn...✅ - What to do about it - how to stop watching porn (if you want to)✅ - How to create a healthy and thriving life & sex life without porn--------You'll hear personal stories from both of us... (we were both addicted), you'll get new ways to think about sex and arousal, and you'll get practical tools you can start using today - to transform any behavior you want INTO a healthy choice that supports the life you want to live.To be very clear: this conversation is NOT going to shame you or guilt trip you - it's here to help us men navigate one of the most alluring and destructive forces on the planet (porn). For that, we need awareness, compassion, discernment and strength.Thanks for being here. Let's get into it!-Taylor-----WORK WITH JEREMY :🔸 Unhooked Academy (90-Day Porn Reboot)🔸 Youtube🔸 InstagramWORK WITH TAYLOR:🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course (September 2025)🔸 Liberate Your Lifeforce Retreat (August, 2025) 🔸 Advanced Somatics & Leadership Training for Men (October, 2025)🔸 FREE 7-Day Semen Retention ChallengeEPISODE TIMES & TOPICS:00:00 Welcome to the Sex Upgraded Podcast01:12 Jeremy’s Story: From Porn Addiction to Mindful Manhood  03:39 How Porn Warps Sex, Intimacy & Motivation  07:27 Waking Up: Recognizing the Addiction Pattern  11:27 Lust vs. Desire: One Drains You, One Fuels You  14:58 The Subtle Costs of Porn You’re Not Noticing  24:33 Why Willpower Alone Doesn’t Work  28:49 Addiction is a Coping Mechanism, Not a Moral Failing  33:30 Build Strength Through Mindfulness & Equanimity  39:30 Jeremy’s Meditation Practice That Changed Everything  47:02 A Simple, Daily Mindfulness Practice for Recovery  53:47 The Porn Test: Are you Addicted?59:57 Porn, Objectification & Reclaiming Conscious Eros  1:06:01 Why Men Need Brotherhood (Now More Than Ever)  1:12:30 The Antidote to Numbness is... Connection1:17:57 Final Reflections & Resources to Go Deeper  Support the show

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right” but still not getting the sex, connection, or fulfillment you want ⚠️ - this conversation might blow something wide open for you.🔴 🎥 - You can also watch this interview on Youtube.In today’s episode, I interview Traver Boehm about the Nice Guy archetype — where it comes from, how it messes with your sex life, and what it really takes to reclaim your confidence, power, and desire as a man (and why WOMEN WANT THIS).Traver doesn’t hold back. You'll hear raw personal stories, practical mindset shifts, and deep truths about what makes a man truly attractive — to women, to the world, and most importantly, to himself.This is one of those episodes that might sting a little, especially if you see yourself in the patterns we’re talking about. But it’s also packed with insight, clarity, and actionable guidance that can help you start showing up with more honesty, sexual confidence, and grounded presence — starting now.CONNECT WITH TRAVER:🔸 Instagram🔸 Kill the Nice Guy Course🔸 Uncivilized PodcastWORK WITH TAYLOR:🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course 🔸 Liberate Your Lifeforce Retreat (August, 2025)🔸 Advanced Somatics & Leadership Training for Men (October, 2025)EPISODE TOPICS:0:00 Intro01:28 What the “Nice Guy” Archetype Actually Means  04:00 Why Being ‘Nice’ Doesn’t Get Your Needs Met  06:04 Traver’s Origin Story: Where Nice Guys Come From  11:59 Attachment VS Authenticity: The Conflict16:14 Covert Contracts: The Hidden Deals That Sabotage Sex & Connection  20:26 The “No Women in the World” Thought Experiment  24:58 Story: Not Needing Anything Makes You Magnetic  32:50 Real vs. Fake Intimacy: What Happens When You Self-Source First  35:45 ACTION STEP: How to Make Your Life Amazing40:54 Wants vs. Needs vs. Longings – A Reframe for Men  51:20 The Role of Brotherhood and Men’s Groups in Healing  01:06:57 Why Porn Hooks Nice Guys – And What It’s Really Doing to You#menswork #mensmentalhealth #mensgroupSupport the show

So many men get it wrong in the bedroom... Trying to be nice... Unsure of how to take the lead... And even ashamed of their own desire... If you've ever felt these ways, you’re not alone (and I have to regularly work on this too). In this episode, Layla Martin and I dive deep into how you can sexually unleash your primal masculine energy - in a way that’s bold, conscious, attuned, and deeply sexy.🔴 🎥 You can also watch this episode on Youtube.In this episode you'll discover why women crave a man’s powerful presence - one that combines focus, strength, desire, the ability to ravish with care... And you'll discover how to embody it in a way that transforms your sexual relationships and ignites desire.You'll also learn a transformative practice Layla calls “fuck and kill to consciousness,” which will probably be really confronting for you - in a good way... It's an exercise to help you integrate your raw, primal instincts and channel them into connection, confidence, sexual pleasure and leadership in the bedroom.This episode is your invitation to stop holding back, to own your power unapologetically, and show up as the man you’re truly capable of being — magnetic, present, powerful and unforgettable. Join us!❤️‍🔥 CONNECT WITH LAYLA:🔸 The Tantric Mastermind for Couples (Upcoming in 2025)🔸 Layla’s Youtube Channel🔸 Layla’s Podcast "This Tantric Life"🔸 Layla’s Instagram🔱 CONNECT WITH TAYLOR:🔸 The Orgasmic Mastery Course (February 2025)🔸 Taylor’s Youtube Channel🔸 Taylor’s Podcast "Sex Upgraded"🔸 Taylor’s Website#sexualleadership #menshealth #personalgrowthSupport the show

Ever felt stuck in your sexual self-mastery journey? Have you tried all kinds of techniques but feel like you’re still missing something? If so, this episode is for you. You'll learn the #1 reason most men struggle to see real progress in their sexual growth - and how you can overcome it.HINT: techniques alone won’t get you there. You've got to dive into the deeper emotional and psychological layers under the techniques - to create a strong foundation for the techniques to rest on top of - and by doing so, you’ll unlock the true sexual growth, confidence, pleasure, and connection you desire.🔴 🎥 You can also watch this episode on Youtube.❤️‍🔥 CONNECT WITH LAYLA:🔸 The Tantric Mastermind for Couples (Upcoming in 2025) 🔸 Layla’s Youtube Channel🔸 Layla’s Podcast "This Tantric Life"🔸 Layla’s Instagram🔱 CONNECT WITH TAYLOR:🔸 The Orgasmic Mastery Course (February 2025)🔸 Taylor’s Youtube Channel🔸 Taylor’s Podcast "Sex Upgraded"🔸 Taylor’s Website#personalgrowth #menshealth #sexualhealthformenSupport the show

As a man, if you want incredible sexual experiences, you MUST learn how to embody alpha consciousness - so you can sexually lead from that place. In this episode you'll learn practical ways to do that - in sex, in dating, and in solo-cultivation practices too.🔴 🎥 You can also watch this episode on Youtube.❤️‍🔥 This episode is part 2 of the Sexual Polarity episodes with Justin Patrick Pierce. You can listen to the first interview here: https://youtu.be/aTwQST3CMc0 👉 I recommend listening to part one BEFORE you listen to this episode, because you'll learn lots of fundamental sexual polarity concepts that will help you to get the most out and apply the techniques of this second interview.EPISODE TOPICS:00:00 Intro & Welcome04:08 Alpha Consciousness Fundamentals10:40 Authentic Confidence VS "Mainstream" Confidence19:10 Embodying Alpha & Omega Consciousness27:23 Posture, Refinement, Service & Impact34:40 Intro to Sexual Yoga36:20 Alpha Practices with Your Partner53:24 Three Practical Techniques to Create Sexual Polarity01:03:11 Completing the Energetic Circuit in Sex🔱 JUSTIN'S LINKS:🔸 Website: https://www.justinpatrickpierce.com/🔸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinpatrickpierce/🔱 TAYLOR'S LINKS:🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course: https://www.taylorjohnson.life/orgasmic-mastery-course/🔸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taylorclarkjohnson🔸 Sex Upgraded Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLijj64iRfquV67jfmCuQoDHHA8T52Vhp5#longtermrelationships #relationshipadvice #menssexualhealth Support the show

If you want to have amazing sex in a long-term relationship (consistently), you've got to understand HOW TO BUILD SEXUAL POLARITY. ❤️‍🔥 This interview is part 1 of a 2-part series to teach you a new model of sexual polarity, that you can start using today to build sexual charge in your relationship. Part 2 will come out in a couple of weeks. 🔴 🎥 You can watch the video version of this episode here on Youtube.EPISODE CHAPTER LIST:00:00 Intro & Welcome02:46 Justin's Backstory (in the Pick Up Artist World)08:26 Justin's Long-Term Relationship Success with Londin Winters11:05 The THREE Ways of Relating with our Partners11:41 Navigating Relationship Dynamics for Thriving Intimacy20:21 The PROBLEM with "Masculine" and "Feminine" Terminology34:27 Exploring Consciousness and Self-Integration46:31 Developing Emotional Resilience in Relationships53:01 What IS Sexual Practice?56:55 How to Build Sexual Polarity in Relationship01:04:58 PRACTICE: How to Build Sexual Energy With Your Partner🔱 JUSTIN'S LINKS:🔸 Website: https://www.justinpatrickpierce.com/🔸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinpatrickpierce/🔸 Couples Retreat (Aug 22-25): https://kripalu.org/presenters-programs/yoga-intimacy-spiritual-path-intimate-relationship🔱 TAYLOR'S LINKS:🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course: https://www.taylorjohnson.life/orgasmic-mastery-course/🔸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taylorclarkjohnson🔸 Sex Upgraded Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLijj64iRfquV67jfmCuQoDHHA8T52Vhp5#longtermrelationships #relationshipadvice #monogamy Support the show

Have you ever felt a primal stirring within - a draw to the wild that seems at odds with our digital, modern world? If so, this episode is for you. The wild man archetype is important, and together we'll explore HOW TO INTEGRATE THE WILD MAN into our every day life. Including sex, business, relationship, community, etc...🔴 🎥 You can watch the youtube version here.EPISODE TIMES & TOPICS****(Add 2 minutes to each of these times because of the added intro clip describing my upcoming workshop).0:00 Intro2:32 The Wild Man Archetype Defined9:20 What is an Archetype?13:17 Wild Man & Work: Practical Example 15:53 Wild Man & Sex: Personal Story from Taylor21:36 There's a Rising Anxiety in Society...25:58 Healthy VS Unhealthy Wild Man34:27 Integrating the Wild Man into Sex & Relationship38:35 Integrating the Wild Man into Work39:53 Embodying the Wild Man AND King Archetype41:07 Importance of Council in Personal Growth48:38 The Importance of IN-PERSON Men's Work51:59 The Importance of FUN in Men's Work53:15 European Shamanic Traditions (Jeremy's New Book) ---------------🔶 CONNECT WITH JEREMY:2024 Wild Man RetreatJeremy's WebsiteJeremy's New Book🔶 CONNECT WITH TAYLOR:Taylor's Upcoming Retreat (July 2024)Taylor's WebsiteTaylor's InstagramSupport the show