The Love Language That Matters MOST w/ Dr. Gary Chapman

⛓️ If you’ve been stuck in the same cycle and can't seem to break free, this might explain why… This is what's actually driving unwanted behaviors (spoiler: it’s not just a lack of discipline.) There are deeper patterns at play: the way your brain solves discomfort, the condition of your body when stress is high, and the hidden role of shame that quietly keeps people stuck. When you understand these three layers, things start to click in a whole new way. Resources: Adam's FREE Porn Recovery Assessment: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/porn-recovery-focus-group Ted Talk Lisa Feldman: https://www.ted.com/talks/lisa_feldman_barrett_you_aren_t_at_the_mercy_of_your_emotions_your_brain_creates_them Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

❤️ You know the five love languages… but what if you’re still missing each other? Hear Dr. Gary Chapman explain why many couples feel frustrated even when they’re trying to love their spouse well. Sometimes it’s not the language that’s wrong - it’s the dialect, the timing, or the agenda getting in the way. We talk about personality differences, empathy in communication, the two stages of romantic love, and one simple question you can start asking your spouse this week to reconnect. Resources: Dr Gary Chapman's Books www.5lovelanguages.com DYMC Cruise: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/dymc-cruise Previous episode w/ Dr. Gary Chapman: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-young-married-couple/id1494555036?i=1000507436880 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

👵🏻👴🏼 What do couples married 61 years know about love that the rest of us don’t? Karissa’s Papa gave us some pretty great marriage advice just days before he passed away. Wisdom forged through decades of faith, family, hardship, laughter, and unwavering commitment. His number-one piece of advice may sound simple, but it has the power to transform the spiritual, emotional, and even physical connection in your marriage. ♥️ Resources: Monthly Live Date Night at DYMC https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/monthlylivedatenight Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

💡 Ever had a moment in your marriage where something just clicked? In this episode, we sit down with marriage expert and bestselling author Dr. Emerson Eggerichs to talk about the powerful “light bulb moments” that can completely reframe the way couples see each other. What if the issue you keep arguing about isn’t actually about who’s right and who’s wrong? What if it’s just… different shades of right? Are you accidentally treating a preference like a moral issue? Could there be a “third option” that honors both of you? If you’ve ever wondered why the same conflict keeps resurfacing in your marriage, this conversation might be the breakthrough you’ve been looking for. Resources: 🚢 Get in on the DYMC Cruise happening in spring of 2027! https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/dymc-cruise Love and Respect Ministries https://www.loveandrespect.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

💔 Ever felt like quitting your marriage… even though you promised you never would? In this powerful conversation with Lindsey Maestas, we talk about the silent resentment, exhaustion, and disconnection that can creep in during the early years—and what to do before you “burn your own house down.” Lindsey shares how sleep deprivation, unmet expectations, and poor communication nearly unraveled her relationship, and the surprising shifts that brought friendship, intimacy, and joy back to life. If you’ve been feeling stuck, unseen, or just worn out, this episode will both challenge and equip you. Resources :📖 Don't Burn Your Own House Down by Lindsey Maestas (workbook available) https://a.co/d/09anf8My 🎙️ Living Easy Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/living-easy-with-lindsey/id1481805272 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

❤️‍🩹 What if the real problem in your marriage isn’t “communication”… but resistance? Join us as we interview Dr. David Burns to unpack why so many couples say they want a better relationship—yet subtly fight the very change that would heal it. Are you truly willing to let go of being right? Could the breakthrough you’re praying for be on the other side of owning your part? If you’ve ever felt criticized, misunderstood, or stuck in the same fight on repeat, this episode will challenge and equip you in the best way. Resources: Feeling Great App https://www.feelinggreat.com Feeling Good by David Burns https://a.co/d/07STA9Xc Feeling Good Together by David Burns https://a.co/d/05hYPoCz Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

🕯️🏡 If you’ve ever wanted to be “that house” - the one that gathers people, builds community, and makes everyone feel welcomed - but hosting somehow turns into stress, tension, and resentment between the two of you… tune in. Abby Turner Kuykendall (author of Let the Biscuits Burn) joins Karissa to talk about the real emotional obstacles behind hospitality in marriage: mismatched expectations, introvert vs. extrovert dynamics, unspoken resentment, and the pressure to make everything look perfect. You’ll walk away with practical ways to plan ahead, delegate without bitterness, and shift your mindset from entertaining to truly loving people well. Are you hosting to impress… or to serve? Resources: Abby's website https://abbykuykendall.com Let the Biscuits Burn by Abby Kuykendall https://a.co/d/0726oALl Abby's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abby.kuykendall?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

💘😅 Valentine’s Day is supposed to feel romantic… so why does it leave so many couples feeling more discouraged than connected? Listen in as Adam and Karissa break down three surprisingly common reasons Valentine’s Day can actually make your marriage feel worse - even if you’re not “in crisis.” What would change if you talked about Valentine's Day Expectations before the day arrives instead of hoping it magically works out? You’ll walk away from this with simple conversation starters that can help you stop dreading Valentine’s Day and start using it as a chance to actually reconnect. Resources: Shop all DYMC Card Decks HERE https://www.amazon.com/stores/DearYoungMarriedCouple/page/F43B8EB3-1B18-40CF-8510-B409AE625D90?lp_asin=B07PMYDMV3&ref_=ast_bln&store_ref=bl_ast_dp_brandLogo_sto Get our FREE Valentine's Day Intimacy Menu HERE https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/pl/2148741723 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

✨ What if the reset your marriage actually needs isn’t a new system, habit, or goal - but a clearer focus? In this episode, we sit down with O.S. Hawkins to talk about what it looks like to strip away the noise, the pressure, and the expectations and come back to the center: Jesus. ♥️ We explore why strong marriages are built from the inside out, how your relationship with God shapes every other relationship in your life, and why family has always been at the heart of God’s design. This conversation is thoughtful, grounding, and a powerful reminder of what really matters for your marriage and your walk with Christ. Resources: Free resources, books, and devotionals available at https://www.oshawkins.com/books Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

🌱🔥 What if the things you’re avoiding talking about are the very things shaping your kids the most? Hear us sit down with Kristen Miele of Sex Ed Reclaimed to talk about the quiet ways intimacy fades in marriage, how kids sense more than we think, and why silence around sex and sexuality leaves a lasting mark. This conversation reframes awkward moments as sacred opportunities for discipleship. When hard questions come up, will your kids come to you first? This episode challenges, equips, and invites you to lead with honesty instead of fear. Resources: Sex Ed Reclaimed: https://www.sexedreclaimed.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices