Active Passivity and Apparent Competence

If you've been using DBT for awhile, you know that it can become difficult to maintain momentum and desire to keep using skills consistently. In this episode, Kate and Michelle discuss four common challenges that can arise as barriers to regular skill use: not thinking about DBT enough, feeling willful about using skills, struggles to establish a consistent routine with skills, and feeling burnt out by trying to do too much DBT at once. For each challenge, they share helpful tips on how to overcome it. Support the showMagic Mind is a mental performance shot designed to help you maintain focus and reduce stress with less caffeine than a cup of coffee, B vitamins and other all natural ingredients. Use our promo code to get 48% off your first subscription OR 20% off a one-time order at https://www.magicmind.com/DBT20 by using code DBT20 (make sure to use all caps!) at checkout. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandmeOur book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandmeYou can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcastCheck out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

Kate and Michelle discuss active passivity and apparent competence by first explaining each concept in-depth, followed by sharing personal examples and skills that can help with shifting into a place of healthier balance when struggles with these states take place. Support the showMagic Mind is a mental performance shot designed to help you maintain focus and reduce stress with less caffeine than a cup of coffee, B vitamins and other all natural ingredients. Use our promo code to get 48% off your first subscription OR 20% off a one-time order at https://www.magicmind.com/DBT20 by using code DBT20 (make sure to use all caps!) at checkout. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandmeOur book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandmeYou can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcastCheck out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about establishing daily habits, coping when a therapist cancels therapy sessions, making DBT accessible, and being triggered when you're the parent of a toddler.Support the showMagic Mind is a mental performance shot designed to help you maintain focus and reduce stress with less caffeine than a cup of coffee, B vitamins and other all natural ingredients. Use our promo code to get 48% off your first subscription OR 20% off a one-time order at https://www.magicmind.com/DBT20 by using code DBT20 (make sure to use all caps!) at checkout. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandmeOur book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandmeYou can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcastCheck out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

Kate and Michelle talk about their personal reactions to the 2024 election results. They share different DBT skills for the emotions of fear, disgust, sadness and anger, and how DBT can help us both accept our emotions during this time and use them for positive action. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 1:06:07-1:06:13.If you want to purchase the book "A Day in the Life of Marlon Bundo", you can purchase it here: https://www.amazon.com/Tonight-Oliver-Presents-Marlon-Bundo/dp/145217380X/Support the showMagic Mind is a mental performance shot designed to help you maintain focus and reduce stress with less caffeine than a cup of coffee, B vitamins and other all natural ingredients. Use our promo code to get 48% off your first subscription OR 20% off a one-time order at https://www.magicmind.com/DBT20 by using code DBT20 (make sure to use all caps!) at checkout. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandmeOur book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandmeYou can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcastCheck out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about what to do when you're judging your partner, high anxiety, coping with a partner's drinking, and fears about a therapist "firing you." TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 38:45-39:06.Support the showMagic Mind is a mental performance shot designed to help you maintain focus and reduce stress with less caffeine than a cup of coffee, B vitamins and other all natural ingredients. Use our promo code to get 48% off your first subscription OR 20% off a one-time order at https://www.magicmind.com/DBT20 by using code DBT20 (make sure to use all caps!) at checkout. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandmeOur book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandmeYou can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcastCheck out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

Kate and Michelle are joined by Lynn Gray to discuss her personal experiences with mental health stigma from mental health providers. She reads aloud an article she wrote for Medium and talks about what can be done within the therapist community to start changing perceptions of mental health diagnoses to be more accepting and less damaging to clients. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 15:03-15:22 and from 22:14-22:15.Support the showMagic Mind is a mental performance shot designed to help you maintain focus and reduce stress with less caffeine than a cup of coffee, B vitamins and other all natural ingredients. Use our promo code to get 48% off your first subscription OR 20% off a one-time order at https://www.magicmind.com/DBT20 by using code DBT20 (make sure to use all caps!) at checkout. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandmeOur book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandmeYou can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcastCheck out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about workplace burnout, being emotionally sensitive, feeling depleted after therapy sessions, and emotions that won't go away. Support the showMagic Mind is a mental performance shot designed to help you maintain focus and reduce stress with less caffeine than a cup of coffee, B vitamins and other all natural ingredients. Use our promo code to get 48% off your first subscription OR 20% off a one-time order at https://www.magicmind.com/DBT20 by using code DBT20 (make sure to use all caps!) at checkout. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandmeOur book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandmeYou can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcastCheck out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about long-standing family conflict, continuing to use skills after a group is finished, struggles with motivation, and differentiating between "reason" mind and wise mind. Support the showMagic Mind is a mental performance shot designed to help you maintain focus and reduce stress with less caffeine than a cup of coffee, B vitamins and other all natural ingredients. Use our promo code to get 48% off your first subscription OR 20% off a one-time order at https://www.magicmind.com/DBT20 by using code DBT20 (make sure to use all caps!) at checkout. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandmeOur book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandmeYou can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcastCheck out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

TRIGGER WARING: at 19:33, 31:50, 44:45, 1hr 12minMichelle is joined by Diana Partington, who is a DBT facilitator, author, and podcaster. Diana reads an excerpt from her book and talks about what inspired her to write it, her newly launched podcast, and the webinars she offers. She talks with Michelle in-depth about how Buddhism brings in elements of radical acceptance and provides invaluable teaching about how Buddhism can deepen the use of DBT. Diana's website: https://dbtforlife.com/Diana's book: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Life-Skills-transform-Lotus/dp/B0CW2ZKB5S/You can find Diana's podcast "Suffering Optional" on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/suffering-optional/id1767018426) or Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/2pcJyyW5wc2LEO130ZZpMx)You can find her webinar offerings here: https://dbtforlife.com/services/Sign up for the DBT Insider email list here: https://dbtforlife.myshopify.com/products/dbt-insider-subscription-first-month-free-cancel-at-any-time-in-the-first-monthSupport the showMagic Mind is a mental performance shot designed to help you maintain focus and reduce stress with less caffeine than a cup of coffee, B vitamins and other all natural ingredients. Use our promo code to get 48% off your first subscription OR 20% off a one-time order at https://www.magicmind.com/DBT20 by using code DBT20 (make sure to use all caps!) at checkout. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandmeOur book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandmeYou can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcastCheck out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]

Michelle is joined by Dr. Jesse Finkelstein, co-founder of TheraHive. They discuss the unique services TheraHive offers and how TheraHive aims to overcome some of the larger systemic barriers many clients face to accessing formal DBT resources. Throughout the episode, they highlight the importance of making DBT approachable and talk about ways this can be done.RELEASE DATE: October 9, 2024Support the showMagic Mind is a mental performance shot designed to help you maintain focus and reduce stress with less caffeine than a cup of coffee, B vitamins and other all natural ingredients. Use our promo code to get 48% off your first subscription OR 20% off a one-time order at https://www.magicmind.com/DBT20 by using code DBT20 (make sure to use all caps!) at checkout. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandmeOur book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandmeYou can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcastCheck out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)If you need support/have questions, email us at [email protected]