birthday blues....

Welcome to the first episode of SEASON 4!!On this episode you will find me rambling about my brother and father in law.It is so great to be back.

That's life, and like good 'ol Frank said, I can't deny it.There I was, minding my own business and BOOM like a storm out of the blue, a hurricane or tornado I wasn't prepared for, I am reminded...girl, you got some baggage!!!Just when I think I am doing ok, this journey of no contact with toxic family reminds me..this is not easy. And just when I think I have healed....oh bless my heart.....Song:'That's Life" Frank Sinatrahttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TnlPtaPxXfcDon't you dare look back. You have come too far. Keep walking.

You guys, I don't even know what to say about this episode except...you may feel dizzy after listening!! I am legit ALL over the place as I talk about my brother, my relationship with him growing up, what lead to me going no contact with him and the fallout of emotions I feel because he is not in my life.This no contact journey sucks sometimes.Sending so much love, hugs and healing to those of you who will resonate with this episode.Song:I Love You, I'm Sorry~Gracie Adamshttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uxjhN_DonfwKeep walking folks. You are not alone.

On this episode we get down to the basics. The down and dirty, cold hard truth reminders about our toxic families. Things like:~No, they don't miss us~No, they have not changedI rattle off a list of reminders as to why we are on this no contact journey to begin with and I hope that reminds you and empowers you to keep walking. I would love to hear from YOU! What is a a cold hard truth about your toxic family that would help others to keep walking?Let's get chatting in the comments!You are LOVED and you are GOLD!Thank you for being here. Sorry you are, but know that you fill and heal my soul.Song:Gold: Britt Nicolehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p9PjrtcHJPo

Whale, another one bites the dust.Not gonna lie, I digress a bit about a recent situation cus another bitch reared her ugly head and left my life.But, the main point of this episode is because it got me thinking. Well shit, this keeps happening...between my family, and bitches disguised as friends, it's easy to think that we are surrounded by 'drama.' Is it ME??I had some epiphanies and we chat all about it!Spoiler alert..no, we do not start drama....Song:'Bless Your Heart'~Megan Moroneyhttps://youtu.be/gJrCLjGIxXs?si=62Eg819epOh_MMN8

Hey girl heyyyy....guess what, just when I think I'm all good and I don't have any other issues lurking around in the shadows..BOOM...issues show up like, bitch, yes you do.On this episode of the podcast we discuss things like:~spending to the edge~making rules for ourselves~buying something new, but not using it right away~having a plan b or escape plan~grocery shopping as if a hurricane was coming~Jumping back into a relationship after a fallout as if nothing happened~constant self-criticism and critique~assuming the worst of peopleOh you don't have any issues? Well then, consider this episode a confidence booster for ya.Song:"You Will Be Found"~ Natalie Grant & Corey Asburyhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjipTBGNTYEYou are not alone and you are certainly not the villain for walking away from you toxic family.Keep walking friend.

Welcome to Season 3!!!!!On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we chat about celebrating our birthday while we are no contact with our toxic family.Some years I am happy and some years I am fromp...This year, I am fromp. But, we are jumping right in and discussing all of the emotions that are associated with this no contact with toxic family journey.You are not alone friend.Song:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PyfYvLeG0tc

Yup.That's right, my father was just diagnosed with stage 4 cancer.Did anyone in the clown circle call me to let me know?nope.Am I going to break no contact?nope.What am I going to do? Talk about the fuckery with all of you.Song:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D5drYkLiLI8

Join me as I chat with Marie Birtel. She is author of the book,"I Love You When..."This fictional narrative sheds light on the oftenoverlooked area of covert narcissism in families. Through the main character,Emma, readers are given a glimpse into theprofound effects and insight into this subtle and insidiousforce. The story emphasizes that healing from narcissistictrauma is not only possible but crucial to breaking the cycleof abuse in future relationships."I love you when..." is a story of hope, self-discovery, andfreedom.To learn more about Marie, visit her website:http://www.mariebirtel.com/Order the book, "I Love You When..." :https://amzn.eu/d/aNv0KRWConnect with Marie:https://www.instagram.com/i_am_maryc/

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we are going to talk about six things we are NOT going to embrace this year. 1. Minimize, belittle or downgrade ourselves to make someone feel better. 2. Thinking that loving our family more would have made things different. 3. Saying yes to things we don't want to do. 4. Beating ourselves up for saying no to things we do not want to do. 5. Embracing where we are on this journey and the mood we are in. 6. Not giving people who fuck up and keep on trucking a second chance. Song: Phil Collins, 'I Don't Care Anymore' https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xLpfbcXTeo8