You Say Fat Like It's a Bad Thing (Featuring Ronald Young Jr.)

On this weeks episode, we are joined by Danielle Young as we dive into the messy magic of 2000s media and how it shaped a generation’s relationship to storytelling, visibility, and critique. We talk “2000s starter pack,” revisit TV, music, tabloids, Myspace, and early YouTube while unpacking what that era taught them about being seen online as Black storytellers. We also reflect on how 2000s media still lives in our work today, what we refuses to replicate, and the “big Beyoncé note” she’d send to an industry that remains nostalgic for harmful narratives. TW - SA is mentioned at 1:04:00.  We want to hear from you! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: [email protected]. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Subscribe to the Unfit Professional here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Threads | Tik-Tok | Facebook  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Danielle: Instagram | Threads | Website See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this week’s episode, Jon and Joho sit down with Marquis the “Honey Bear,” for a conversation on visibility, creativity, and liberation. From bold fashion to viral, off-the-wall content, Marquis shares how he’s built a digital presence rooted in joy, style, and self-expression despite the pressures placed on Black, fat, queer bodies. They also get into his relationship with the Bear identity—exploring desirability, sexuality, and what it means to feel sexy on your own terms. Playful, affirming, and just a little messy, this episode is all about showing up fully and having fun while doing it. We want to hear from you! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: [email protected]. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here! Subscribe to The Unfit Professional here! Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Threads | Tik-Tok | Facebook  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Marquis: Instagram | TikTok | Website  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Jon and Joho sit down with writer and comedian Guy Branum for a powerful and hilarious conversation about the role of comedy as survival for queer folks. From turning trauma into punchlines to reclaiming joy in spaces not built for us, this episode dives deep into how humor becomes both a defense mechanism and a transformative tool. Guy opens up about his journey toward self-acceptance, using wit to challenge cis-normativity and anti-queer culture, and writing scenes that bring fat and queer representation to the forefront and a reminder that sometimes surviving means being funny — even when it hurts. We want to hear from you! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: [email protected]. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Threads | Tik-Tok | Facebook  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Guy: Instagram | TikTok | Thread See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What happens when men — cisgender and gender non-conforming — finally get honest about their bodies? This week, Jon and Joho sit down with Ronald Young Jr. to unpack body image, masculinity, and what healing really looks like in a cultural moment that feels like a 90s throwback. From childhood messaging to inner voice work, this conversation goes deep on body neutrality, self-acceptance, and the labor of unlearning toxic narratives. If you've ever been in a complicated relationship with your own skin, this episode is for you. We want to hear from you! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: [email protected]. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Threads | Tik-Tok | Facebook  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Ron: Instagram | Podcast | Website See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does it mean to be Black, gay, and free — all over the world? This week, Jon and Joho sit down with Nick, creator of Black, Gay, and Abroad, to talk Black gay travel, safety, and storytelling. From MTV and BuzzFeed to building his own agency and passport-stamping his way across Spain, France, Mexico, Costa Rica, and beyond — Nick is redefining what it looks like to move through the world as a Black gay man. We get into his iconic Yasss to Naur solo travel safety list, the art of long-form travel blogging in a short-form world, and why he went live from Puerto Vallarta during the El Mencho operation to counter the media narrative with truth on the ground. Travel tips, queer joy, and citizen journalism — this episode has all of it. We want to hear from you! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: [email protected]. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Threads | Tik-Tok | Facebook  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Nick: Threads | Instagram | TikTok   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week on B.F.F.: Black Fat Femme Podcast, Joho and Jon are joined by Tre'vell Anderson & Ray Love Jr. from the Seated Podcast for a deep dive into the Black moviegoing experience. Coming off the chaos of award season, the trio gets real about how Black and queer audiences find joy, connection, and meaning in cinema — even as Hollywood’s marketing still caters to whiteness and heteronormativity. From theater call-and-response moments to the rise of streaming culture, they explore what it would look like if Black, queer, and trans perspectives were treated as the default rather than the exception.  We want to hear from you! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: [email protected]. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow Seated Podcast! Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Threads | Tik-Tok | Facebook  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Tre'vell: Threads | Tik-Tok | Instagram Follow Ray: Threads | Tik-Tok | InstagramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In celebration of Women’s History Month, Joho and Jon dedicate this week’s episode to the Black trans women whose courage and brilliance helped shape movements for civil rights, LGBTQ+ justice, and social liberation — yet whose names are too often left out of mainstream narratives. Through stories of Frances Thompson, Lucy Hicks Anderson, and Mary Jones, this episode shines a light on resilience, survival, and truth-telling across centuries of systemic harm. Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: [email protected]. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Threads | Instagram | BlueSky | Tik-Tok  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  Treads | BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Jordan: Treads | Instagram | Website | Tik-TokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, we’re joined by the hilarious and brilliant Nicole Daniels! Jon and Joho sit down for a deep (and very funny) chat about how real life inspires Nicole’s unforgettable characters—from the overly earnest craft store lady to the nonprofit boss we all know too well—and what it takes to make comedy look effortless. They dig into the creative process, queerness in comedy, and how Nicole stays grounded while balancing her own identity with the ones she performs.  We want to hear from you! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: [email protected]. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Threads | Tik-Tok | Facebook  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Nicole Daniels:  Instagram | Tik-Tok See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week your BFF's are joined in the third seat by Nina Parker to talk what it means to set boundaries in the workplace (and in your life), talking about the missing recipes in today's media and why we all should be thinking BIG. YOU GOTTA THINK BIG BITCH!    We want to hear from you! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: [email protected]. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Buy Nina's Clothing here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Threads | Tik-Tok | Facebook  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tic-Tok Follow Nina Parker:  Instagram | Tik-Tok | ThreadsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week your BFF's unpack the thing we all can't stop talking about - yes, Netflix’s “America’s Next Top Model: Reality Check” documentary. We discuss our thoughts about the doc, Tyra's coat and why Tyra ain't the only one guilty in all of this. Plus, we discuss Grindr's new jab (get it?) at GLP-1's and why we all should have a problem with it.  Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: [email protected]. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Threads | Instagram | BlueSky | Tik-Tok  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  Treads | BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Jordan: Treads | Instagram | Website | Tik-TokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.