367. The Science of Kindness and Belonging: Featuring Dr. Christopher Culver

What happens when we decide to be present, patient, and kind in the middle of one of the hardest stretches of the school year? In this week's episode of Aspire to Lead, Joshua Stamper welcomes back Dr. Christopher Culver to explore the science of kindness and belonging, the impact of chronic stress on educators, and why self compassion must come before we can sustain compassion for others.​Dr. Culver shares vulnerable pieces of his own story, including seasons of deep darkness and imposter syndrome, and explains how those experiences shaped his work on kindness, his bilingual children’s book about belonging, his new book Be the Light, and his Science of Kindness podcast. Listeners will gain practical strategies to lead with presence and patience, protect their own mental health in high stress seasons, and create school cultures where every person feels seen, valued, and included.About Dr. Christopher Culver:Dr. Christopher Culver is a proud product of Oklahoma education and has served educational communities for more than a decade as a classroom teacher, secondary principal, and most recently as a cabinet-level administrator. Dr. Culver is a product of a divorced family and split time between Tulsa & Wyandotte, OK and Fayetteville, NC during his childhood. Currently, Dr. Culver serves as a consultant with expertise in kindness, culture and understanding Gen Z/Gen A, and as an adjunct professor at Oklahoma City University, teaching future teachers and leaders. He is highly sought after and well known for his high-energy, passionate, engaging, and motivational professional development. Participants call him “engaging, charismatic, dynamic, and enthusiastic.” He has his pulse on today’s generation. Earning an EdD researching culture, motivation, and the collective impact on teacher retention, Dr. Culver is focused on spreading kindness, improving mindset, cultivating culture, and educating about Gen Z/A. He believes that if you cannot find the light, be the light! Keep shining, friends! Follow Dr. Christopher Culver: Website: www.orangesparrow.org Twitter (X): DrChrisCulver Instagram: DrChrisCulver Facebook: DrChrisCulver Linkedin: Dr. Christopher (Chris) Culver YouTube: DrChrisCulver Podcast: https://scienceofkindness.com/ — NEW Aspire to Lead Cohort: Join the March 1st Launch Ready to move from teacher to administrator? The Aspire to Lead Cohort is a monthly leadership program designed for educators pursuing administrative roles. Get expert training, peer accountability, interview prep, and a clear roadmap to advance your career. December 1st cohort launching soon. Limited spots available. READY TO JOIN? Apply for the Aspire to Lead Cohort: https://bit.ly/47xWzIu Limited spots available. Next cohort starts 3/1/26 📧 QUESTIONS? Email me: [email protected] — #1 New Release, "The Language of Behavior" is NOW Available! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DVT32KQ1?&linkCode=ll1&tag=aspirewebsite-20&linkId=d18e5a44a6582a22d15ee23193af7bb8&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl The Language of Behavior is an essential guide for school leaders committed to transforming their school culture and addressing student behavior through a more compassionate, effective approach. Drawing on their extensive experience in education, Charle Peck and Joshua Stamper challenge outdated disciplinary practices and offer a clear, trauma-informed framework that empowers educators to interpret student behavior as a form of communication. Through three core tenets—Consider the Environment, Explore the Root Causes of Behavior, and Respond...

This bonus Aspire to Lead episode brings you a featured segment from the Thriving Educators Summit, where Mitch Weathers facilitates a fast paced conversation with TJ Vari and Joshua Stamper about what it truly means to lead well in today’s schools, whether you are an aspiring leader, assistant principal, principal, or district administrator. The trio digs into mindset shifts from classroom to leadership, why every leader deserves a coach, how to build influence before you have a title, and why community based supports like the Aspire to Lead Cohort and Schoolhouse 302’s induction and coaching work are essential for combating isolation, burnout, and “trial by fire” leadership transitions.About T.J. Vari:Dr. T.J. Vari is the Assistant Superintendent of Secondary Schools and District Operations in the Appoquinimink School District. He is the co-author of Candid and Compassionate Feedback: Transforming Everyday Practice in Schools. T.J. is a former middle school assistant principal and principal and former high school English teacher. His master’s degree is in School Leadership and his doctorate is in Innovation and Leadership. He holds several honors and distinctions, including his past appointment as President of the Delaware Association for School Administrators and the Paul Carlson Administrator of the Year Award, which he accepted in 2015. He holds adjunct appointments at three universities, teaching courses at the masters and doctoral level. Together they present nationally on topics of school leadership, and they co-founded TheSchoolHouse302, which is a leadership development institute. They co-authored Candid and Compassionate Feedback: Transforming Everyday Practice in Schools. And, with Salome Thomas-EL they co-authored Passionate Leadership: Creating a Culture of Success in Every School, Building a Winning Team: The Power of a Magnetic Reputation and the Need to Recruit Top Talent in Every School, and Retention for a Change: Motivate, Inspire, and Energize Your School Culture.Follow T.J. Vari:Website: www.theschoolhouse302.com Twitter: @tjvari Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Theschoolhouse302 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-t-j-vari-78726b40/ About Mitch Weathers: Mitch Weathers became an exceptional educator because he once struggled as a student. Throughout his academic journey, Mitch rarely felt comfortable in the classroom. It took him seven years to graduate from college—a reflection not of ability, but of disconnection. He often experienced education as something happening around him, not something he was actively part of. That sense of isolation fueled his desire to create a different kind of learning experience. When Mitch became a teacher, he brought with him a deep empathy for students who felt unseen or overwhelmed. He quickly realized that before we can effectively teach content, we must first build the foundation for learning. That foundation is structure, consistency, and support. To meet this need, Mitch created Organized Binder—a simple, research-backed system that empowers teachers to explicitly teach executive functioning skills without sacrificing instructional time. By establishing predictable learning routines, teachers foster safer, more inclusive classrooms where students gain confidence, independence, and a sense of belonging. Mitch’s mission is to equip educators with the tools to help every student succeed—not just academically, but...

What if students’ “attention problems” were really a mismatch between how the brain works and how we structure learning?In this episode of Aspire to Lead, Joshua Stamper talks with first grade teacher, cognitive science scholar, and author Sarah Oberle about what executive functions actually are, core and higher order cognitive processes like working memory, inhibition, and cognitive flexibility, and why they are so often misunderstood as behaviors in schools.​Sarah describes how explosive development in these skills during the K–3 years should shape our pedagogy, from how we orient attention and chunk directions to how we design routines, structure independent work, and set up the physical and acoustic environment so students can think instead of just “look busy”. Drawing from her upcoming book with Mitch Weathers, she shares concrete classroom moves—mini check ins, EF informed routines, visual and sound management, and tools like dividers and voice recorders—that any teacher can use to promote self regulation and learning without adding another program to their plate.About Sarah Oberle Sarah Oberle is an educator, writer, and professional learning designer with 18 years of experience as a primary classroom teacher. Her work centers on helping educators understand how learning happens and how that understanding shapes daily instructional decisions. Beyond the classroom, Sarah designs and facilitates evidence-informed professional learning for teachers and school leaders, both in person and virtually. She works with national and international organizations to ensure professional learning is research-informed, practical, and responsive to the realities of teaching. Her work focuses on attention, memory, and executive functions, with an emphasis on pedagogy rather than programs. Follow Sarah Oberle Website: sarahoberle.com Twitter (X): S_Oberle Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/drsarahoberle Pre-Order "Executive Functions for Every K-3 Classroom: Promoting Self-Regulation for a Strong Start": https://organizedbinder.com/books/ — NEW Aspire to Lead Cohort: Join the March 1st Launch Ready to move from teacher to administrator? The Aspire to Lead Cohort is a monthly leadership program designed for educators pursuing administrative roles. Get expert training, peer accountability, interview prep, and a clear roadmap to advance your career. December 1st cohort launching soon. Limited spots available. READY TO JOIN? Apply for the Aspire to Lead Cohort: https://bit.ly/47xWzIu Limited spots available. Next cohort starts 12/1/25 📧 QUESTIONS? Email me: [email protected] — #1 New Release, "The Language of Behavior" is NOW Available! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DVT32KQ1?&linkCode=ll1&tag=aspirewebsite-20&linkId=d18e5a44a6582a22d15ee23193af7bb8&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl The Language of Behavior is an essential guide for school leaders committed to transforming their school culture and addressing student behavior through a more compassionate, effective approach. Drawing on their extensive experience in education, Charle Peck and Joshua Stamper challenge outdated disciplinary practices and offer a clear, trauma-informed framework that empowers educators to interpret student behavior as a form of communication. Through three core tenets—Consider the Environment, Explore the Root Causes of Behavior, and Respond with Intentionality—this book equips leaders with actionable strategies to foster positive behavior, build stronger relationships,...

What if the strongest leaders in your school are already in classrooms, waiting for permission to step up? In this week's episode of Aspire to Lead, Joshua Stamper reconnects with longtime friend and former Teach Better teammate Brad Hughes, elementary principal in Ontario, Canada, to explore how aspiring leaders can build confidence, prepare for interviews, and maintain personal and professional balance without rushing into formal roles.​ Brad shares stories from his 30+ year journey, from classroom teaching to principalship, and reflects on the value of district aspiring leaders programs, responding to interview setbacks with humility, and investing in physical, emotional, and relational wellbeing to avoid burnout. Listeners will hear practical advice for educators ready to expand their influence, including the power of one-word intentions like “allow,” seeking candid feedback, and recognizing the leadership already happening every day in classrooms. About Brad Hughes: Brad Hughes is the host of The Good News, Brad News Podcast. Brad is an elementary school principal in Ontario, Canada, with 30 years’ experience in education. Prior to becoming a school leader, Brad taught for 16 years from Kindergarten to eighth grade, most recently teaching middle school Visual Arts, French and Special Education. Brad has an ongoing commitment to reframing the joys and challenges of school life through a Self-Reg lens. Brad is an optimist and recovering perfectionist, passionate about improving kids' lives by loving and supporting the adults that serve them. Follow Brad Hughes:  Twitter:@brad_hughesInstagram:@bradnewspodcastWebsite:bit.ly/brad_hughes -- NEW Aspire to Lead Cohort: Join for the March 1st Launch Ready to move from teacher to administrator? The Aspire to Lead Cohort is a monthly leadership program designed for educators pursuing administrative roles. Get expert training, peer accountability, interview prep, and a clear roadmap to advance your career. December 1st cohort launching soon. Limited spots available. READY TO JOIN? Apply for the Aspire to Lead Cohort: https://bit.ly/47xWzIu  Limited spots available. Next cohort starts 12/1/25 📧 QUESTIONS? Email me: [email protected] — #1 New Release, "The Language of Behavior" is NOW Available! ...

In this special conversation on Aspire to Lead, Joshua Stamper, Kim Gameroz, and Mitch Weathers share everything you need to know about the Thriving Educators Summit 2026 and how it was born from a desire to help teachers move from surviving to truly thriving after years of running hard and lean in schools. Listeners will hear the story behind the free virtual summit, what makes its fast paced, highly practical sessions different from typical PD, and how districts are using past summit recordings as a no cost professional learning library all year long.​ The crew also spotlights Kim’s Becoming the Bison session on intentional teaching and leading, Joshua and TJ’s new leadership focused session, and the growing speaker lineup that blends inspiration with concrete next steps educators can act on immediately. Finally, they preview the in person VIBE Edu event at the ARTIC in Anaheim, California and explain how both gatherings are designed to give educators community, clarity, and energy heading into a new school year. Thriving Educators Summit 2026: https://thrivingeducatorssummit.com/ Vibe EDU Event 2026: https://www.teachinginsideout.com/vibe-edu About Mitch Weathers: Mitch Weathers became an exceptional educator because he once struggled as a student. Throughout his academic journey, Mitch rarely felt comfortable in the classroom. It took him seven years to graduate from college—a reflection not of ability, but of disconnection. He often experienced education as something happening around him, not something he was actively part of. That sense of isolation fueled his desire to create a different kind of learning experience. When Mitch became a teacher, he brought with him a deep empathy for students who felt unseen or overwhelmed. He quickly realized that before we can effectively teach content, we must first build the foundation for learning. That foundation is structure, consistency, and support. To meet this need, Mitch created Organized Binder—a simple, research-backed system that empowers teachers to explicitly teach executive functioning skills without sacrificing instructional time. By establishing predictable learning routines, teachers foster safer, more inclusive classrooms where students gain confidence, independence, and a sense of belonging. Mitch’s mission is to equip educators with the tools to help every student succeed—not just academically, but personally. Follow Mitch Weathers: Website:www.organizedbinder.com Twitter:https://twitter.com/organizedbinder Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/organizedbinder/...

How do you lead staff who seem stuck in their ways, resist new ideas, and quietly shut out new colleagues? In this New Year episode of the Aspire Mailbag, Joshua Stamper and longtime co-host Jeff Gargas dig into anonymous listener questions from the Aspire Voxer community about culture, communication, and accountability.​ Josh and Jeff unpack practical strategies for having hard one-on-one conversations, rebuilding trust after past leadership missteps, and balancing empathy with firm expectations so that relationships strengthen instead of fracture over time. Along the way, they reflect on six years of Mailbag episodes, the realities of initiative fatigue, and why clear communication and shared ownership in hiring and onboarding are non-negotiables for a healthy school culture. Featuring Jeff Gargas and Joshua Stamper Follow Jeff Gargas: Twitter:https://twitter.com/jeffgargasInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/_jeffgargas/ Follow Joshua Stamper: Contact:https://joshstamper.com/contact/Twitter:www.twitter.com/Joshua__StamperInstagram:www.instagram.com/joshua__stamperLinkedin:www.linkedin.com/in/joshua-stamperFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/AspirePodcastSubscribe:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/aspire-the-leadership-development-podcast/id1384210762?mt=2 Follow The Teach Better Team: Twitter:https://twitter.com/teachbetterteamWebsite:https://www.teachbetter.com/Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/teachbetterteamInstagram:<span style="font-weight:...

What if social-emotional learning, culture, and instruction could move in rhythm with the real seasons of a school year instead of feeling like “one more thing” on everyone’s plate? In this episode of Aspire to Lead, Walter McKenzie, Heather Lageman, and Leigh Alley introduce their book School Seasons xSELeratED and the xSELeratED Schools Framework, a month-by-month roadmap that helps educators care for the whole child and the whole educator with small, doable practices that fit into the flow of each month.​ The trio shares how their adult-first approach to SEL honors educator wellbeing, offers 5–10 minute micro-moves that feel human rather than scripted, and uses seasonal themes, from belonging and renewal to closure and celebration, to build trusting, relationship-rich school communities over time. Whether you are a teacher, coach, or school leader, this conversation will help you see SEL less as a program and more as a sustainable way of being together that strengthens both people and practice. About Walter McKenzie: Walter McKenzie is the founder of The Worthy Educator, a thriving community of leaders in education supporting each other to have impact and build lasting legacies in their work. He has always embraced the heart in his work, and in the power of relationships. In joining forces with Heather and Leigh, he proudly adds his voice to their efforts to reclaim the mantel of social-emotional learning, for both students and adults. Before retiring from ASCD, he served 25 years in Massachusetts and Virginia public schools: 14 years as a classroom teacher and 11 years as a district director and assistant superintendent. He also served as a senior training specialist for the Department of Housing and Urban Development in Washington, D.C., and its field offices around the nation. Across the span of his career, he has pursued uses of technology to support multiple paths to learning and knowing and being and doing. In addition to his work in public education, Walter is an internationally known presenter and author. He has been instrumental in launching and leading online professional development programs and postgraduate professional education courses, and he has actively facilitated online educator communities and web-based interdisciplinary instructional projects over the past 40 years.  Follow Walter McKenzie: Website:https://www.theworthyeducator.com/ssxandhttps://www.theworthyeducator.com/xselerated Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/groups/theworthyedcator Linkedin:https://www.linkedin.com/in/the-worthy-educator/ YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@TheWorthyEducator <span style="font-weight:...

What if you could actually see the hidden influencers on your campus and use those connections to move culture forward instead of fighting it?​ &nbsp; In this energizing Aspire to Lead episode, Joshua Stamper sits down with Dr. Ben Johnson, assistant superintendent and executive coach, and award-winning principal Bobby Dodd to unpack their new book, Intentional Influence, Harnessing Cultural Mapping to Build Commitment. Together, they introduce cultural mapping as a practical way to “make the invisible visible,” helping leaders identify formal and informal influencers, understand levels of commitment, and design intentional moves that build trust, belonging, and buy-in across a school or district.​ &nbsp; Ben and Bobby walk through their three-phase process—mapping your people, reflecting on commitment and connections, and planning next steps—while sharing real stories of shifting disengagement, navigating resistance, and turning isolated talent into aligned teams that carry initiatives forward instead of waiting for top-down directives. Whether you lead a classroom, a building, or a system, this conversation offers a human-centered roadmap for using relationships as your strongest currency and building a culture where people feel seen, supported, and ready to commit to the work that matters most. &nbsp; About Dr. Ben Johnson: Dr. Ben Johnson serves as the Assistant Superintendent for Secondary Schools in Bismarck Public Schools, North Dakota. A leader, author, and executive coach, Ben has a passion for developing innovative systems that align culture, leadership, and learning through his Cultural Mapping framework. His work centers on building commitment through relationships and purpose—helping leaders transform compliance into authentic engagement. Ben is also the author of Intentional Influence: Harnessing Cultural Mapping to Build Commitment. Follow Dr. Ben Johnson Website:https://cascadingsolutions.org Twitter (X): @dr_ben_johnson Instagram:@dr_ben_johnson80 Facebook:@dr_ben_johnson80 Linkedin:linkedin.com/in/drbenjohnson80 About Bobby Dodd: Bobby Dodd (JD) is an award-winning educational leader, speaker, and principal known for his focus on organizational culture and innovative leadership. He brings decades of experience helping schools and leaders build capacity through trust, collaboration, and reflection. Bobby’s leadership philosophy blends servant leadership with practical strategy—empowering leaders to develop high-performing, connected teams where everyone leads with purpose. Bobby is also the coauthor of Intentional Influence: Harnessing Cultural Mapping to Build Commitment. &nbsp; Follow Bobby Dodd Website:https://cascadingsolutions.org <span...

What if the strongest leaders in your school are already in the classroom and do not need a new title to make a bigger impact? In this inspiring episode of Aspire to Lead, Joshua Stamper sits down with educator, author, and department chair Dr. Chris Jochum to unpack his book You Don’t Have to Leave to Lead, that reframes teachers as highly skilled influencers, not “just” a teacher.​Dr. Jochum shares how his journey from ESL and Spanish teacher to leading a large teacher education department shaped his belief that leadership is rooted in character, courage, and service, and that teachers already practice Fortune 500–level leadership every day in their classrooms. Listeners will learn how to strengthen their leadership identity, craft a personal mission statement that actually guides daily decisions, and approach conflict with adults using the same relational skills they use with students.​Whether you are a first-year teacher or a veteran educator wondering about your next chapter, this conversation offers a clear first step, recognize the “superpowers” you already have and choose one small leadership behavior to intentionally grow this year so you can expand your influence without ever leaving the classroom.About Dr. Chris JochumDr. Chris Jochum currently serves as the Chair of the Department of Teacher Education at Fort Hays State University, where he leads a teacher preparation program of over 900 students. His career, spanning more than two decades in K-12 and higher education, began in the public schools teaching Spanish and English as a Second Language before holding faculty appointments at the University of Central Missouri and the University of Nebraska at Kearney. His research focuses on leadership development in both K-12 and higher education, as well as the value of study abroad. As the founder and CEO of CJ Leadership Solutions, LLC, Chris translates his research into practice and is a sought-after speaker, trainer, and coach in the United States and abroad. He hosts The Department Chair Leadership Podcast and is the author of The Department Chair: A Practical Guide to Effective Leadership, You Don’t Have to Leave to Lead: A Practical Guide to Teacher Leadership, and co-editor of the forthcoming book, Profiles in Educational Leadership: A Practical Approach.Follow Dr. Chris JochumWebsite: https://cjleadership.com/&nbsp;&nbsp;Twitter (X): https://x.com/jochumcj&nbsp;&nbsp;Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cjleadership/&nbsp;&nbsp;Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chris.jochum.7&nbsp;&nbsp;Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chrisjochum/&nbsp;&nbsp;YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cjleadership&nbsp;&nbsp;TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cjleadershipsolutions&nbsp;...

What if the difference between surviving the principalship and loving it again came down to how you spend 90 minutes of your day? In this energizing episode of Aspire to Lead, Joshua Stamper sits down with longtime collaborators Dr. Joseph Jones and Dr. T.J. Vari from The Schoolhouse 302 to explore how their new book, Time, Tools and Tactics of Instructional Leadership, A Principal’s Guide to Leading Learning, helps leaders escape operational overload and step fully into the role of instructional leader.​ Joe and T.J. share the story behind their partnership, from trail runs at White Clay Creek to blogging, keynoting, and coaching leaders across the country, all centered on one belief, iron sharpens iron and leadership should never be left to chance. They unpack practical systems like asking, “Does this need to get done now, and does it need to be done by me?”, reverse time blocking, and their AFA framework, anchor, focus, align, which together help administrators reclaim their calendars and refocus on what happens in classrooms.​ Listeners will hear how nine concrete leadership systems make it realistic to visit four to six classrooms a day, deliver specific, neuroscience-informed praise, and build clarity around a small set of high-leverage “look fors” that every teacher understands and can grow toward. Whether you are an aspiring leader, a new assistant principal, or a veteran principal feeling stuck in management mode, this conversation offers a clear first step, audit your calendar, define what 50 percent instructional work could look like, and start removing the “pebbles in your shoe” that keep you from leading learning with purpose and impact. About Dr. Joseph Jones Dr. Joseph Jones is the Superintendent of New Castle County Vocational and Technical School District. Starting his career as a social studies teacher, he rose to the principalship at Delcastle Technical High School, earning Delaware's Outstanding Academic Achievement Award and Secondary Principal of the Year. He holds a doctorate in educational leadership from the University of Delaware and co-founded TheSchoolHouse302, a leadership development institute with an international footprint. Dr. Jones is a recognized speaker and co-author of 6 books on educational leadership. About Dr. TJ Vari Dr. T.J. Vari is the Senior Director of Product Strategy at MaiaLearning with a focus on postsecondary planning for students worldwide. Dr. Vari is a former deputy superintendent, middle school assistant principal and principal, and high school English teacher. Dr. Vari is an award-winning educator, recognized speaker, and the co-founder of TheSchoolHouse302, a leadership development company with an international footprint. He is the co-author of 6 books on educational leadership, which are the basis for his speaking...