Ep. 548 How to Date When You’re New in Town

Most men think women already know how to access that deeply sensual, turned-on version of themselves, but the truth is, a lot of women have never actually been guided into their own bodies before. They’re in their heads, second-guessing, performing, or trying to “do it right”… instead of actually feeling anything.In this episode, we’re joined by Amy Rowan from The Suburban Intimacy Project to break down:Why so many women don’t even know what they’re supposed to feel during intimacyThe hidden reasons women shut down or go numb in the bedroomWhat men can do before anything physical ever happens to help her open upHow safety and attunement create way more sexual intensity than “technique”How to help a woman get out of performance-mode and into real arousalThis isn’t about pressure or “getting her to do more.”It’s about helping her drop from her mind into her body - which is where her actual sexuality lives.If you want the kind of connection that turns into real passion, this conversation is the roadmap.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

We’re throwing it back to one of our most powerful Ask Women episodes — where we explore why being happy isn’t just good for your soul, it’s magnetic. Studies show that the happier you are, the more attractive you become to the opposite sex. That’s why we brought on happiness coach Robert Mack, a man who had it all - looks, success, intelligence, a great family — but still felt miserable inside.Robert opens up about how he completely turned his life around and discovered that true happiness comes from within, not from validation, success, or relationships. Now he teaches thousands of people how to do the same — and how being genuinely happy can transform your confidence, energy, and dating life.Get ready to learn how to attract from abundance, not desperation - and why joy might just be your best pickup strategy yet.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

We’re throwing it back to the Ask Women days! Comedian Nick Guerra joins Marni and Kristen for a classic “Over Analyze This” episode where we dive into listener letters and answer your biggest dating questions. From how to handle jealousy to dealing with flakers and c*ck blockers, nothing’s off limits. We also dive into our classic segment, Help Another Brother Out, where we give one listener some direct, no-BS advice to get his dating life back on track.Tune in for some laughs, some raw truths, and a little nostalgic chaos from the Ask Women archives — now under the new How to Get the Girl banner.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

On this week’s How to Get the Girl, we’re joined by Adam Woolard — husband to Bachelorette star Hannah Brown, VP of Business Development at Joi+Blokes, and a guy who knows firsthand what it’s like to feel intimidated by a woman.We dive into two huge areas that can make or break your dating life: • Confidence around women you actually like — why guys hold back, don’t fully express themselves, and how to flip that script so women feel more attraction. • Your health and dating success — how small diet changes and preventive care can boost testosterone, sharpen focus, increase energy, and make you more magnetic.Adam shares his own experience and expertise to show you how much your inner game and your health work hand in hand to make you more attractive.This episode is packed with practical insight you can use right away. Keep listening, because this conversation might be the one that finally changes how women see you.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Moving to a new city can feel like hitting the reset button—new streets to explore, new friends to make, and a whole new dating scene to figure out. In this throwback episode (originally aired 6.15.16, Ep. 67), Marni and Kristen talk with east-coast transplant PJ about how to rebuild your social life, boost your confidence, and navigate dating when you’re starting from scratch.We also dive into:The challenges of dating in a brand-new cityHow to create your own social circle from the ground upBuilding confidence and finding comfort in unfamiliar places>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty ⁠⁠⁠⁠

This week, we’re bringing you a throwback episode that’s just as valuable today as when it first aired. We sat down with Abby — a hot, young, single twenty-something — to get the unfiltered inside scoop on what dating in your 20s is really like. From the shifts COVID created in the dating landscape to what’s stayed exactly the same, Abby pulls back the curtain on what works, what fails, and how to approach with confidence. She even shares what makes her (and her friends) take notice when a guy walks in — spoiler: a killer smile still wins the day.>>>Join Kristen along with the founder of Limitless Brave for an in-person workshop in LA September 27th and 28th. >>>SEATS ARE LIMITED! Get them here:⁠⁠⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day2⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this bonus episode of How to Get the Girl, Kristen sits down with Dave Stultz from Limitless Brave to talk about something that can completely shift your dating life: the power of working with a coach in person.We break down why nothing compares to the energy of being in the room, where body language, presence, and confidence can be seen, felt, and fine-tuned in real time. You’ll hear why workshops create an environment where skills stick faster, nerves get rewired into confidence, and accountability goes through the roof.And here’s the big news: Dave and Kristen are hosting a live in-person workshop in Los Angeles this weekend, September 27th & 28th. If you’ve ever considered coaching, this is the chance you don’t want to miss. It would behoove you in more ways than one to be there because there’s simply nothing like learning face-to-face.Seats for the intensive are very limited so if you'd like to be part of it, sign up below ASAP!>>> To join the Intensive, sign up HERE >>> To join for the Day 1 Seminar, up here HERE

This episode is anything but a lecture. In fact, we kick things off with a totally candid 10-minute conversation between me, Kristen, and our guest Dr. Kayte about our own porn patterns - genres, likes, dislikes - proving that yes, we ALL watch porn.From there, Dr. Kayte breaks down what’s actually healthy versus harmful when it comes to porn, plus what’s real and what’s pure camera trickery that should never, ever be tried in real life.We also dive into Dr. Kayte’s own dating life as a woman in her mid-30s, where she shares surprising insecurities that so many women in that stage of life can relate to. Even if you’re a woman listening, you’re going to love this one.In this episode, we also overanalyze and unpack:The best questions to ask on dates to instantly put your date at easeWhat to avoid saying to women when you’re on a dateHow excessive porn can absolutely kill your real-life sex lifeThe traits women secretly find attractive (that will probably surprise you)...and so much more.>>>Join Kristen along with the founder of Limitless Brave for an in-person workshop in LA September 27th and 28th. >>>SEATS ARE LIMITED! Get them here:⁠⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day1⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day2⁠⁠>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty ⁠⁠⁠⁠

Dating at 49 isn’t about playing games — it’s about knowing who you are, what you want, and not being afraid to say it out loud. On this episode of How to Get the Girl, we sit down with Rachel Birch, host of the award-winning podcast Love Before 100.Freshly divorced and unapologetically back in the dating scene, Rachel opens up about what she’s looking for, what turns her on, and the mindset of a sophisticated, strong woman who’s not settling for less. We dive into attraction, desire, confidence, and the little things that make a big difference when dating a woman who truly knows herself.If you’ve ever wanted a window into the mind of an empowered, grown-up woman navigating modern dating — this conversation is it.>>>Join Kristen along with the founder of Limitless Brave for an in-person workshop in Los Angeles September 27th and 28th. >>>SEATS ARE LIMITED! Get them here:⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day1⁠⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day2⁠>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty ⁠⁠⁠

When it comes to men’s health, your penis might be saying more than you think. On this episode of How to Get the Girl, we sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin — physician, innovator, and creator of the world’s first smart penis ring — to talk about not erectile dysfunction, but erectile fitness.Dr. Justin shares why sexual health is more than performance — it’s a vital indicator of your overall well-being. We dig into the critical need for data-driven solutions in medicine, how technology is changing the game for men’s health, and why paying attention to your erections could literally save your life.He also opens up about keeping intimacy alive with his wife of decades — proving that long-term relationships don’t have to mean long-term boredom in the bedroom.If you’ve ever wondered what your erections reveal about your health (and your love life), this is a conversation you don’t want to miss.>>>Join Kristen for an in-person workshop in Los Angeles September 27th and 28th! >>>SEATS ARE LIMITED! Get them here:⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day1⁠⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day2⁠>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty ⁠⁠⁠