Why Therapists Need Therapy

Human beings are social creatures, yet there is a noticeable difference between how women and men engage with friendship and emotional intimacy. Across cultures, women consistently demonstrate stronger social ties, richer networks of support, and more emotionally fulfilling friendships. In contrast, men are often more socially isolated, with many struggling to form and maintain close friendships, especially as they age. This disparity reveals both deep-rooted cultural conditioning and unaddressed emotional needs among men.Women tend to be more socially skilled, not because of innate biological differences alone, but largely due to how they are raised. From a young age, girls are encouraged to nurture relationships and value emotional closeness. As adults, this translates into friendships that are often more intimate, communicative, and mutually supportive. Women also tend to prioritize connection and community over competition, making it easier for them to sustain long-term bonds. These insight sub-episodes are mirrored on our primary YouTube channel which can be found at https://www.youtube.com/@NilesHeckman/videos

To speak of young boys and the shaping of the men they are to become is to invoke one of the most delicate and vital alchemical processes in the human journey. For in the crucible of childhood, the psyche is molten, receptive, and impressionable — and it is here that the figure of the father, or the lack thereof, becomes a kind of mythic force, casting long shadows across the soul’s landscape.In a later part of this series we'll of course speak to the massive importance of the mother, and especially how that relates to a boy's future relationships with women, but for this one, we'll say a father is typically the primary channel through which masculine aspects of culture pours itself into the next generation. And the “downloads” dads give sons are not merely advice, but psychic imprints—gestures, tones, and ways of being that are installed deep in the nervous system before the child even has words to critique them.These insight sub-episodes are mirrored on our primary YouTube channel which can be found at https://www.youtube.com/@NilesHeckman/videos

The American Empire despises democratic socialism not because it misunderstands it, but because it understands it all too well. For democratic socialism, in its essence, is the insistence that the fruits of collective labor be shared more equitably, that the machinery of wealth serve human beings rather than enslave them. This is heresy to empire, whose lifeblood is the concentration of power in the hands of the few and the perpetual commodification of everything.Empire thrives on hierarchy, on the myth that some must toil endlessly so that others may accumulate without limit. Democratic socialism punctures this myth by saying: health care is not a privilege, education is not a commodity, housing is not a speculative token, but all of these are human rights. In other words, it asks the system to bend toward compassion, and empire, which feeds on extraction, recoils like a vampire before the dawn.These insight sub-episodes are mirrored on our primary YouTube channel which can be found at https://www.youtube.com/@NilesHeckman/videos

Labor Day, at least in the American context, is one of those curious holidays that has been both hollowed out and yet still retains a subterranean charge of meaning. On the surface, it has been domesticated—absorbed into the consumer calendar as the symbolic end of summer, a long weekend for barbecues, travel, and back-to-school sales. The American empire, as it so often does, has taken what was once a cry of resistance and repackaged it as an occasion for zombie consumerism.There used to be both labor sections and business sections in newspapers. Now they only have business sections. Also, we used to have newspapers.But if we peel back the veneer, we find the radical heart of Labor Day beating still. It was born out of struggle—the strikes, the marches, the martyrdom of working people who dared to demand that their lives not be consumed entirely by the hellfire furnace of pure capital. It is a holiday carved out of blood, a reminder that the eight-hour day, the weekend, the protections we take for granted were not gifts from benevolent rulers but concessions wrested from reluctant masters who have skull faces from the film They Live under their rubber masks. (Joke).These insight sub-episodes are mirrored on our primary YouTube channel which can be found at https://www.youtube.com/@NilesHeckman/videos

Do you like music? And do you care about nature and our environmental crisis? Then you should care about shamanism. Which is one of humanity’s oldest spiritual (spiritual meaning full spectrum nature which then allows for direct experience with the mystery) practices. Older than organized religion, older than written language, and in many ways, as old as consciousness itself. It is as old as the hills. Found in various forms across nearly every continent and culture, shamanism is less a "belief system" and more a spiritual methodology - a toolkit for navigating the spiritual world, healing the psyche, and restoring balance between humans and nature.These insight sub-episodes are mirrored on our primary YouTube channel which can be found at https://www.youtube.com/@NilesHeckman/videos

An archetype is a pattern older than any one culture or story, a primordial shape in the collective psyche that keeps reappearing in myths. or fairy tales, dreams, or art and proliferates across geography and ages. Characters, images, and motifs that recur not because someone invented them, but because they are expressions of structures somewhat timelessly present in the human mind. They're not rigid scripts; but more like the strongest gravitational fields or vortexes in the landscape of human imagination. They pull stories, symbols, and personalities into recognizable forms - humanoid, animal, god, but the details differ through civilizations. As shape-shifters, they don’t exist as neat, singular entities, but as dynamics of energy that appear in different guises depending on the time or location. A Hero in one culture may be a dragon-slayer; in another, a wandering ascetic. A Great Mother may manifest as a caring elderly woman, devouring witch, or even the nourishing Earth. From a more mystical vantage, archetypes can be seen as the language of the collective unconscious. Meaning the hidden mind of humanity dreaming itself across millennia. They are the bridges between the individual psyche and the great ocean of shared meaning. And from a metaphysical perspective, archetypes often reveal themselves with uncanny vividness: appearing not as personal hallucinations but as presences woven into the deep grammar of being. Carl Jung, who popularized the term in the modern West, saw archetypes as psychic blueprints. Examples such as The Hero, the Trickster, or the Shadow are not just characters in stories, but living energies that animate our behavior, our fears, or our longings. When one encounters an archetype in any medium of story - in fiction or nonfiction real life, etc... it resonates because it is not foreign—it is something already living within all of us. They are recurrences that stir beneath the surface of culture and psyche, or can also be thought of as great masks through which the human spirit speaks.———An Infinite Path podcast official URL http://www.aninfinitepath.comSpotify | iTunes | YouTube | Overcast FM | Stitcher | Player FM

MAGA as slogan functions less as a policy platform and more as a psychological spell, an incantation deeply embedded in the dynamics of projection, inversion, and confession. This triad is the very machinery through which the MAGA cult sustains itself, manufacturing an alternate reality while displacing responsibility for systemic collapse onto scapegoats.These insight sub-episodes are mirrored on our primary YouTube channel which can be found at https://www.youtube.com/@NilesHeckman/videos

To speak in terms of good and evil is to flatten reality. It is to reduce the infinite nuance of being into a two-dimensional moral cartoon. It pretends at clarity, but at great cost: the cost of understanding, the cost of compassion, the cost of truth.These insight sub-episodes are mirrored on our primary YouTube channel which can be found at https://www.youtube.com/@NilesHeckman/videos

The imperative for young men to improve — and we don’t mean in the gym or in the economy, but in the psyche, the soul, the story — has never been more urgent. For we are living through a strange and volatile epoch, where the absence of deep meaning has created a vacuum. And into this vacuum, old ghosts are marching again.These insight sub-episodes are mirrored on our primary YouTube channel which can be found at https://www.youtube.com/@NilesHeckman/videos

The therapist-in-therapy phenomenon — one of psychology’s open secrets, though “secret” might be overstating it. The simplest answer is that therapists are human beings, not omniscient wisdom machines in cardigans. They get caught in the same messy whirlpools of anxiety, heartbreak, family drama, existential dread, and late-night doomscrolling as the rest of us. But there are deeper, more systemic reasons they often need therapy themselves: like a mirror gazing into another mirror, reflecting infinity. The healer who heals must themselves be in a perpetual state of healing. It is not a flaw; it is the nature of the work.These insight sub-episodes are mirrored on our primary YouTube channel which can be found at https://www.youtube.com/@NilesHeckman/videos