Aging Without Apologies And With Better Boundaries

Send us Fan MailWe catch up on my recovery after an aborted sudden cardiac death, what helped me get past the fear, and why I refuse to let life shrink. Then I walk you through five iPhone update improvements that make everyday phone use easier, plus one camera trick that instantly levels up your photos. • Recovering physically and mentally after a major health scare • Using therapy tools to rebuild confidence and return to normal routines • How to check your iOS version and find Software Update • Why some iOS features depend on iPhone model compatibility • Messages suggested actions that turn texts into calendar events • Siri becoming more conversational and remembering context • Photos search, Collections and using the three dots for options • Favorite albums and simple ways to organize important images • Quick camera exposure control using the on-screen sun slider • Apple Podcasts separating continue playing from new episodes • A 15-minute rule for exploring changes after updates • Turning off notification sounds and taking control of alerts Check your iPhone software version. Then explore one feature you haven't used before, just one. Tell me what you discovered. Email me at [email protected] or go to my website. You can connect to me through my website. 

Send us Fan MailWe talk about one of the best surprises of getting older: we stop giving our energy to things that never earned it and we start protecting our time without guilt. I share a retreat weekend, a rude flight attendant moment, and the everyday ways letting go turns into more peace, better boundaries, and more meaningful living. • letting go of needing everyone to like us • traveling stress, asking for help, and dropping perfection • a United flight story and choosing not to replay it for days • relaxing about a “perfect” home and ditching the fake apology • downsizing, living with fewer things, and feeling bigger • comparison culture, social media pressure, and choosing our own version of happy • quitting the busy badge and treating rest like a gift • arguing less, agreeing to disagree, and skipping the closing argument • owning our preferences without apologizing • caring more about friendships, health, laughter, and meaningful time You always know you can get me at marcybackhusmedia.com. 

Send us Fan MailI’m making the case for something I refuse to give up: Halloween is for grown-ups too. We laugh about candy corn, plastic masks, and pillowcase trick-or-treating while I challenge the idea that being silly has an age limit. • Loving Halloween on purpose, including candy corn and decorations • A quick life catch-up, healing updates, and everyday annoyances • Remembering old-school costumes, from flammable store-bought sets to homemade creations • The pillowcase era of trick-or-treating, full-size bars, and the great candy sort and trade • How Halloween has changed, from door-to-door nights to elaborate yard displays • Adult Halloween done right, from bars to parties to embracing the fun • Halloween after 60, pushing back on “too old” thinking • A question to spark nostalgia and a challenge to do one thing just because it’s fun What’s your favorite memory from Halloween memory from childhood? If you feel like dropping me a line, go ahead and do that. [email protected]’s a survival challenge for the week. I want you to do just one thing because it’s fun. Not because it’s healthy or productive, not because somebody expects you to do it, because you want to. 

Send us Fan MailWe call out the little things we once mocked about aging and admit how many of them quietly make life better. We trade the need to seem impressive for comfort, clarity, and the kind of joy that doesn’t require an apology. • choosing dinner at five because it’s calmer, easier, and leaves a whole evening • knowing your go-to order and enjoying reliable favorites • switching from painful shoes to footwear that cooperates • celebrating real pockets and outfits that feel good all day • treating home as a destination and loving open space on the calendar • being particular in a practical way about tables, temperature, and parking • rewatching comfort shows and replaying favorite music without explaining it • saying what we mean and appreciating clear answers Send me some information to [email protected]  www.marcybackhusmedia.comShare this with a friend who knows exactly which chair we're talking about and which shoes are the best. And if you enjoyed it, follow the show so we can have more of these conversations. 

Send us Fan MailThe fastest way to feel older isn’t your birthday, it’s the moment you start editing your joy to look “appropriate.” Marcy is done with that. At 65, she’s making a playful case for being a little ridiculous after 60, not reckless, not embarrassing on purpose, just openly delighted again.We talk about the imaginary dignity committee that whispers “at your age” when you reach for glittery shoes, a bright pink hat, a silly dance, or a hobby you’re not instantly good at. Then we replace that voice with something better: permission to wear what you love on a random Tuesday, use the fancy dishes, drink from the holiday mug, and stop saving your favorite scarf for a royal invitation that isn’t coming. This is confidence after 60 built through tiny choices that say, “I did not come here to disappear.”We also dig into beginner energy as a form of freedom. Want to learn mahjong, take a class, try a sound bath, paint badly, or ask the rules of a game three times? Do it anyway. You can be a competent adult and a novice at something specific, and you don’t owe anyone an apology for enjoying yourself.You’ll leave with a simple one-week challenge that fits your budget and comfort level, plus ideas for low-stakes fun with friends and family. Subscribe, share this with the friend who needs more laughter, and leave a review so more people can find their way back to delight.

Send us Fan MailJanuary loves to yell at us. October doesn’t. I’m making the case that fall is the new spring, and that a fresh start in October feels better because it comes with less pressure and more joy. If you’re tired of resolution culture, perfection, and the exhausting “fix yourself” energy, this conversation is your permission slip to reset in a kinder way.We talk about why fall hits our brains like back-to-school season even when we’re long past classrooms and algebra, and how that nostalgic momentum can turn into a real-life routine reset. I get into the simple pleasures that make the season feel doable and comforting: fall clothes that prioritize comfort, layers that let you be yourself, and the return of cozy food like soup, roasted vegetables, apples, cinnamon, and all the warm smells that make home feel good again.I also share what I love about Chicago in the fall, from walking weather to theater season, and why the smartest “anti-winter” move is planning something to look forward to now. The Great Fall Reset has one assignment: ask yourself what would make this fall fun, then put one fun thing on your calendar. Listen, share this with your favorite sweater-loving friend, and subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next. If it resonates, leave a review and tell me: what’s your one fun thing this fall?

Send us Fan MailWe come home from the hospital after a cardiac episode, a blackout, and a concussion, then tell the truth about what it feels like when life bulldozes a carefully planned calendar. We hold gratitude and disappointment in the same hand, and we challenge you to stop waiting for the “right time” to do what matters. • the shock of losing time after blacking out and falling • grieving a canceled France trip while staying grateful to be alive • the mindset shift that two things can be true • making plans anyway while admitting plans are not guarantees • hating the helplessness of being a hospital patient and the endless waiting • learning to let friends and family help without fighting it • dealing with fear after a health event and getting support • choosing adventure even if it means going slower or using a wheelchair I want you to think about something you’ve been putting off. Not because you can’t do it, because you’ve been waiting for the right time 

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Send us Fan MailRetirement looks a lot less like endless leisure and a lot more like managing a calendar that keeps filling itself. We talk through the mindset shift that helps us move from nonstop busyness to an intentional life that includes real rest. • retirement as a full-time job without the paycheck • the hidden workload of health care, workouts, and daily logistics • navigating smaller appetites and prioritizing protein while using GLP-1 medications • why travel planning now requires reservations and constant coordination • how the productivity mindset follows us into retirement and creates guilt • the difference between having a full life and having a life that is simply full • asking “if I say yes, what am I saying no to” to protect time and money • learning that rest is allowed and blank space is not a problem to solve • a calendar reality check to see what truly matters versus what is habit Anybody out there that needs a baby kitty, email me at marcybackusmedia.com if you're in Southern California. 

Send us Fan MailIf you have ever caught yourself thinking, “I just want things to go back to normal,” this one is for you. I’m closing out the Aging Survival Guide with the truth I did not fully see when I started: we were never only talking about retirement, downsizing, marriage, friendships, travel, and the holidays. We were talking about change, and how to live with it without spending the rest of our lives looking backward.I share how my own life has shifted, from letting go of a big house and most of my stuff to learning how to accept the reality of a long marriage while still building a richer day-to-day life. We talk about the kind of change that sets you free and the kind that shows up uninvited, including health changes that reset your priorities fast. Along the way, I give you simple, practical aging mindset strategies: stop waiting for “normal,” give yourself permission to change your mind, don’t confuse familiar with good, and keep something new in your life so your world doesn’t shrink.We end with a concrete challenge you can do today, a two-list exercise that helps you choose less of what drains you and more of what makes you feel alive. If this brought you a little clarity, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s in the middle of change, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What are you ready to leave behind?