Why You Keep Setting the Same Goal & What to do

You've been thinking about this idea for eight months. You tell yourself you're thinking it through.You're not. You're rehearsing.There's a short film running in your head of this going badly, and every replay makes it feel more true. This episode is about changing that film — not the plot, the picture quality. I'll walk you through the technique live, and it takes about ninety seconds.And no, the answer isn't positive thinking. That one surprised me too.For 1:1 NLP (paid) session, email [email protected]. First come, first served. Limited slots.

You've set the same goal more than once this year. Same plan, same energy, and it ended the same way. Not because you didn't want it enough.In this episode I walk you through research that shows roughly half the people who firmly intend to do something never follow through — and why that means the intention was never your problem.You'll hear:The two ways people hold a goal in their head, and why only one of them survives a Tuesday eveningThe story of a client who'd invested in every method going and still couldn't make the change stick — and what we uncovered in our first sessionWhy nine hours in a corporate job quietly trains you to abandon your own goals by 6 PMThree questions to ask yourself before you set another goalThe one-sentence statement that replaces motivationIf you try this one, tell me how it goes: [email protected] few one-on-one NLP coaching slots are open. If you want to work on the self-limiting beliefs holding you back and get clearer on your life and business goals, book here: https://scheduler.zoom.us/paden-bhutia/consult Follow Action-Ables for a new episode every Saturday.

Milind Kanvinde spent two decades inside corporate — project leader, project manager, programme management — before walking out in 2017 to build his own thing.This episode isn't about the decision to leave. It's about the two years on either side of it.Milind breaks down why running your idea "on the side" almost guarantees it stays on the side. The one hobby that quietly kept him afloat for a full year after he resigned. Why he stopped treating other people in his field as competition and what he did instead. And the single thing he'd tell every corporate professional to start doing five years before they plan to quit — the thing he didn't do, and paid for.He's also a self-described introvert who had to build a network from absolute zero after twenty years of never needing one. He's honest about how uncomfortable that was and how long it actually took.In this conversation:(02:20) Twenty years in, and the question that wouldn't go away(06:56) What actually runs through your head before you hand in the notice(09:49) The culture shift nobody prepares you for(13:36) Running a job and a venture in parallel — practically(17:03) Why the network you build inside corporate isn't yours(23:41) If you're an introvert: break the barrier, don't change your nature(26:57) Collaboration over competition, and how he found his USP(30:22) His biggest personal challenge in the transition(32:53) Being your own boss without a boss(36:45) What coaching actually is — and isn't(39:45) Rapid fireConnect with Milind Kanvinde on LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/milind-kanvinde/Got thoughts on this episode? Write to me directly: [email protected] episodes every Saturday @ 9 AM IST.

You get home from work. You'd promised yourself that tonight was the night — the side hustle, the gym, the thing you keep pushing to tomorrow.And you don't do it.Then the self-talk starts. Lazy. Undisciplined. Maybe you're not motivated enough!Nothing is wrong with you. What happens to you at 6 PM isn't a character flaw — it's a resource running out. And once you know which one, you stop blaming yourself for the wrong problem entirely.In this episode, I go past the diagnosis and into what I actually do about it: the first side hustle I built while working a full-time advertising job, the one belief that quietly kills most online businesses before they even start, and the three hygiene habits I've protected for years.Fair warning: these may help you start working on your goals that you’ve been putting off!Want help staying consistent? Join the Staying Power newsletter — one short read every week → https://wqch37qm.sibpages.com  If this one landed, hit follow. It genuinely helps the show.You can email me on [email protected] 

Somewhere right now, someone is on day 14 of building a habit and about to quit — because a number they read online told them they're already behind.That number is fake. Here's where it actually came from.In this episode, I break down how a 1960s plastic surgeon's casual observation became the self-help industry's most repeated myth, and what the real research says: a 2009 University College London study tracked 96 people forming new habits and found the minimum number of days it takes to form a new habit. And it's not 21 days!If you're trying to build a side hustle around a full-time job, you should tune in! Not because you lack discipline. Because the math was never explained to you.In this episode:— Where the 21-day number really came from (and why "minimum" got quietly deleted)— The actual research on habit formation, and why the range matters more than the average— Why willpower is the wrong tool: what happens in your brain when you white-knuckle a new habit— How I stopped relying on willpower to lose weight — and what changed— The Action-Able: how to budget your days & get your reps inResources:If you're serious about building your side hustle while working a full-time job, let's chat. Book your free consulting call here.New episodes every Saturday. Hit follow so you don't miss the next one, where I break down my exact system for building automaticity — and why your willpower at 6 PM isn't a character flaw.

Three months ago, I disappeared. No podcast, no content, no explanation. Just silence.This episode is why.I'm telling you where I went, what actually happened when I stopped running my business for the first time in nine years, and the moment that changed how I think about goals, momentum, and what "consistency" actually means. There's a line someone said to me on a dock that I still haven't shaken off — and it might change how you think about your own goals too.If you've ever felt like you should keep pushing even when something's off, or wondered whether stopping means you're failing — listen to this one before you decide.Where are you with your goals right now? Email me at [email protected] and let me know — I read every single one.

In this conversation, Paden Bhutia and Hariprasad Varma discuss the journey of Hariprasad into leadership coaching, the importance of mentorship, and the integration of Indian philosophical traditions into modern leadership practices. The conversation revolves around the profound impact of mentorship on personal and professional growth, the importance of collaboration over competition, and the relevance of archetypes from Indian epics like the Mahabharata in contemporary leadership. The conversation also touches on how stories and myths can serve as mirrors for self-discovery and personal development.To understand your Mahabharata Leadership archetype, express your interest at https://learn.zensei.co.in/f/epic To learn more about Hari’s work, visit https://www.hariprasadvarma.comSubscribe to Hari’s Substack at https://hariprasadvarma.substack.comTo get featured on the Action-Ables podcast, email: [email protected]

On this 200th podcast of the Action-Ables podcast, I sat down with a special guest.. You may know I’m on the journey of learning two foreign languages. Learning languages is something I’m passionate about. Today’s Guest is Reema, who’s a Spanish expert. I met her via her YouTube channel, where she's doing a fantastic job sharing her language expertise.Reema is the founder of Hungover Books, a platform for learning languages and reading books.She runs a YouTube channel and an Instagram on which she shares tips for language learning, primarily Spanish and a little bit of English, along with book reviews. Recently, she designed her Notes packages for people taking the DELE A1 and A2 exams, primarily for those looking to organise their study materials. She also coaches individuals in 1:1 sessions on strategies for passing the DELE exams. You can reach out to Reema below: Email - [email protected] - Hungover Books - YouTubeInstagram - Hungover Books - InstagramBlog - Hungover Books - BlogYou can email me: [email protected]

In this special episode of the Action-Ables Podcast, Paden steps away from the usual coaching techniques and shares something far more personal — the real story behind nearly 7 years and 200 episodes of podcasting.What began in 2019 as a small experiment amid low confidence, uncertainty, and self-doubt slowly grew into a journey of consistency, creativity, and personal transformation.Paden opens up about the inner voice that tells us we’re not ready, the discouragement of creating content when no one seems to be listening, and the quiet power of staying consistent even when results don’t come quickly.If you're thinking about starting something — a podcast, a side hustle, a creative project, or pursuing a bold life goal — this episode is a reminder that confidence doesn’t come before action. It comes because of it.You’ll learn why the voice in your head isn’t always your best advisor, why contrast and challenges are part of the creative journey, and why persistence might be the most underrated skill for building anything meaningful.After almost 200 episodes, Paden shares why this podcast is just getting started — and invites you to reflect on the goals you're still waiting to pursue.In this episode, you'll discover:Why the voice telling you you're "not ready" is often the biggest obstacleThe surprising role imagination played in starting the podcastWhat happens when you create consistently without immediate resultsWhy contrast and challenges are essential for growthThe mindset shift that helps you stay committed to your biggest goalsIf you’ve been waiting for the “right time” to begin something meaningful, this episode might be the nudge you need.

Starting an online business while working a full-time job?Yes—it's hard. But it’s also 100% possible when you do it the simple way.In this episode, I break down a realistic, no-fluff roadmap for building your online business without burning out. If you’ve ever told yourself, “I’ll start when things calm down,” this episode will show you exactly why that keeps you stuck—and how to finally move forward.You’ll learn:Why starting feels so mentally exhausting (and how to fix it)How to avoid overwhelm from online information overloadThe 5-step framework to launch your online business simplyHow to work on your business with just 60 minutes a dayWhy consistency matters more than confidence or motivationHow to get your first paying client without branding, logos, or websitesThis episode is for working professionals who want more freedom, more income, and a business they can build responsibly—without quitting their job.If you’re secretly building something on the side, this will help you finally start, stay consistent, and create momentum.🎥 Watch the video version on the Action-Ables YouTube channel📧 Join Paden’s free masterclass on March 8th. Email to register: [email protected]