The Pleasure Seeker

Energy Coach and Erotic Pole Dancer Allison Finely joins me to talk about the power of your own erotic dance! I’m excited to say she will be teaching in my upcoming salon: Better Sex in 60 Days!!!   This is my signature program to help you get into your body, enhance your desire, and deepen your everyday and erotic relationship with your partner. Would dancing like a stripper make for better sex? Well, yes! BUT the answer why may surprise you.  Allison is not only a magnetic erotic dancer but teaches embodiment in such a creative, accessible way so you can feel more empowered in your erotic, sensual SELF and spirit. In today's interview, we talk about sexual healing through pole and erotic dance, common misconceptions about the dance form, and the most surprising changes & benefits she has seen in her client and herself (in the bedroom and way beyond) OH and where she buys her favorite shoes and sexy pieces. ;) PLUS, learn some easy, sexy AF moves right now!  Click here to watch our YouTube video where she teaches her top 5 moves! Follow Allison on IG HERE. Make sure to like and subscribe to my Youtube channel to see lots of fun content to help support you and YOUR PLEASURE. (If you want to join Better Sex in 60 days, it’s $1000k -- a total steal for all the content, guest instructors, and weekly private coaching you’ll get on your way to enhancing YOUR delicious sex life - send me an email as we begin 10/17/22).

Desire can feel impossibly tricky, especially when that sparky, electric, grab-you-by-the-pants kinda D E S I R E disappears from a relationship.   Here are three ways to increase your hot WANTING when sex feels like a chore. If you are interested in 1:1 coaching or joining my next group salon Better Sex in 60 Days we begin 10/10/22. Dm here, on IG @mrslydiafeldman, or email [email protected]

Not fully sold on months of life coaching at this current moment? How about ONE DAY to get mind-blowing results in your s€x life? Desire that fuels your whole body. Rich fantasies that truly turn you on. A sexy bedroom revamp. A *pleasurefication* of your wardrobe. A lingerie overhaul & boudoir selfie shoot. How to up-level your dating life & add infinite spice, parties, fantasies or subtleties. A couples-session where you both can get on the same page erotically & PLAY together. Ask me ANY question. Coach on any mind drama. Move into YOUR needed embodiment, breath, erotic style & relationship dynamics. In ONE session. Epic results in ONE day (with an entire week of unlimited support). It's really like a choose-your-own-sexy-adventure w a sassy chauffeur. 😏 Wanna play? This summer offer sizzles for just $1000 and is a limited time offer. Email me for your BESPOKE EXXXPERIENCE or more details, my darling. [email protected] 

What the heck do I mean by "courtesan"?? Ummm err, prostitute? Escort? Street urchin turned harlot turned glorified Woman of the night? Like, it's a good thing? Oh yes my friend, we are reclaiming not only this brilliant word & class of elite women from the gutter, But also embodying what it means for YOU in this modern age. Be brazen Be opulent Be adored & reverered Be outrageous powerful & break all the rules. We are now starting ⚜️ The Elemental Courtesan ⚜️ July 5. 6 weeks Group & 1:1 Dm for your gilded link! Click here for Visuals of this audio!

Get good with the discomfort of seeing your badass hotness reflected back at you from your camera.  Don't let this be complicated, take your phone, find a big window, and let the video roll and screenshot away after. In this episode, we talk about what makes for a fantastic, unique, and LIT selfie (and guess what, it ISN'T a perfect body or lighting).   With over 20+ years of experience as a professional photographer, coupled with her work as a Life Coach, Davina Fear gives some real practical tips on how to get out of your head and into your body for the best selfies possible! Follow this woman! (here on IG, and FB)  Take her Selfie Siren Series (if you're listening in May/June;)! ALSO, here's a little taste of my very own Selfie Siren Session from our work together in The Lusty Creative!  Oh oh OH! And if you want to see the eye candy of my Zoom Room (aka WATCH us live instead of listen on the podcast, CLICK HERE). 

Join us today as I talk with Ayurvedic Yogi Life Coach Dana Skoglund as she talks about the embodied practice of SELF - MASSAGE!    Self-communion of slow sensual touch can feel surprisingly vulnerable & intimate and has vast effects on health, skin, lymph detoxification, and sexual connection.  The best part is also the busy-ness of my brain doesn't have to be responsible for destressing the body.   Your hands...  Slippery with oil and love potion essential oil scents,  Slow, deep, rhythmic & circular strokes,  Between fascia, bones & muscles...  And then light and silky glide of fingertips...  Pleasure, relaxation and MAGIC will work their way through your body.  Literally, loving self-touch releases a love-inducing hormone cocktail in our brains so we ARE more open, connected & resilient.    So! Wanna try?   Here's the practice in a nutshell (and follow @danaskoglund for more wisdom!!!)  ** You can also do this with none of the below -- just your hands RIGHT NOW is enough!   You'll need an oil base (🥑🥥, sesame or almond)  Essential oil (optional) - Most important is that you LOVE it!  👉🏼 for The Love Potion blend try any combo of:  Jasmine (⬆️desire & ⬇️nerves)  Neroli (⬆️arousal)  Sandalwood (⬆️testosterone& drive)  Patchouli (⬆️libido & ED)  Ylang Ylang (⬆️ libido & endocrine system)  Clary Sage (⬆️fertility)  Blk Pepper (⬆️ circulation)  Bergamot (⬇️ stress)  🤲🏽Combine some oil with the desired any combo of scents in a small glass jar or bowl.  🧘🏻‍♀️ Sit or stand on an old towel.  ❤️Use long deep strokes towards the heart, starting with outer limbs working in,  💞Using long strokes on bones & circles on joints.  ⏰ Let it feel GOOD & soak in for 10min, crown to feet. (Could meditate and play with partner massage here;)  🚿 Rinse in a hot shower!   Curious to give it a try?  Leave a comment and let me know!   PS. Follow Dana here:  https://www.instagram.com/danaskoglund/   PPS. Here's the link to my sexy playlist:  https://open.spotify.com/playlist/44eSs3TkOYQVDs2diMVbhe?si=e3e398fbc0de41ae5

Being a successful creative (that loves their work) isn't all sparkles and sunshine. It requires both delicate & hefty attunement to your energy & intuition. ❤️‍🔥Enter the Creatrix Cycle.❤️‍🔥 First, we need to understand what phase of the creative process you tend to get stuck in. And then we need to know whether LUST or LOVE is required. There are the 6 stages of the Creatrix Cycle we will explore in this month's pleasure salon, The Lusty Creative. Enchantment Conception Incubation Birthing Afterglow & Integration Each phase leans on lust or love. Where do you get stuck? Do you see your hot, turned-on ideas all the way through to cha-ching results? Do you feel yourself up-leveling and growing as a creator? The Lusty Creative begins on Monday 4/18/22! This group is unlike anything I've seen anywhere & allows you to fully activate & channel your BODY as part of your creation process... But remember: Creative energy IS sexual energy & allllll of it supports YOUR own life force. (Bc if your creative process is draining, limp or heavy-- YOU MUST DEMAND AN UPGRADE!) Let your creative lusty life get racier, splashier, bolder and a fuckton more SUCCESSFUL. Click here for more info and to join asap! 💋

Lust? Sounds risky, sinful... animalistic. I know, I grew up drinking that Koolaid too. 💞But, before you're bound with the "eternal flames of love" you begin with lust. 💥It's the fire starter kit, complete with kindling, lighter fuel and a blow torch. Before there is trust, there is the unstable wanting & adrenaline. Before there is intimacy, there is longing to know more. And when that all-encompassing love & friendship seem to smother the flames... ⚡️💥☄️🔥🌪 Ya NEED SOME LUST infusions. When you de-shame and OWN your lust, LUST is as life-giving and supportive as LOVE. WE ALL NEED BOTH flame and ember. 🔥🔥🔥 💋💋💋 Want to stoke your lusty fire without fear of wildfire? I have an awesome process I've developed to help my clients. We map your simple pleasures, lusty desires and intimate needs... and then create it, one step at a time. Your hot lust and epic love are NON-NEGOTIABLES. Dm for a consult for 1:1. WANT IN ON THE LUSTY CREATIVE!? CLICK HERE!

Fantasies hold SO SO SO much insight and potentiality for us... they contain wisdom, access to our deeper desires, and truest selves.  Ya know, the heroine that has ALL the power, presence, and gets exactly what she wants.  Here's the INVITATION:  Curate your erotic imagination & start exploring all those dreamy fantasies you've kept tucked away.  Write your favorite fantasies down. Send them to me.  I will read the best ones on this Podcast and celebrate YOUR amazing imagination and smutty erotic brilliance. Deadline is March 1st, 2022. :)

First check out my tattoo here on IG: @mrslydiafeldman = so rad! AND what I realized through this intense experience is that your voice is meant to enhance your life, Temper the perpetual pain & expand the immense pleasure! So what about s3x? Ummm whatcher saying is banshee scream and moan more? 🤔 😏 🚨 1. There is no RIGHT way or decibel to have s3x or pleasure (so fuck off lyd 😂). 🚨2. YESSSS make a fuckton more noise! More sounds, bigger range, more vibration texture & expression! Moan, growl, trill, throaty whisper, hum, roar, squeel, guttural laugh, buzz & yell. Talk dirty. Speak sweet nothings. But get your brain to shut up. Why??? 😯 it gets you into the moment and in your body for pleasure (or tempered pain;) 😮 it circulates tension & orgasmic energy (try breathing deeply before orgasm and pulling that energy up to your throat with some sound!) It will prolong and deepen pleasure. 😛 it can connect you more with your desires and help signal to your partner what you like and want. 🤩 it will help integrate the pleasure of the moment- literally your brain and body will take in & remember more pleasure signals! Don't hold so much back. No one really cares & when in doubt grab a pillow and let loose.