Stop Drinking and Start Living

You Need Your Own RecoveryIf you're in a relationship with someone experiencing addiction, you may have started organizing your own life around their behavior without even realizing it. In this episode, I introduce the idea that family members need their own recovery, too, and why taking care of yourself is not separate from supporting someone you love. I also introduce the SAFER framework, a process we'll explore throughout this series on family addiction and recovery.Why addiction affects the entire family, even when only one person is using substances.The different stages of behavior change and how they affect loved ones.How suspicion, monitoring, fixing, and anticipating crises can become patterns of their own.Why your urgency for change may not match your loved one's readiness.The five parts of the SAFER framework for beginning your own recovery.Book a Connection Call:https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule/1abbca81/appointment/12839280/calendar/3584316?appointmentTypeIds%5B%5D=12839280Download the Sobriety Starter Kit:https://marywagstaffcoach.com/sobrietystarterkitFree Training: 5 Shifts to Sustainable Sobriety:https://marywagstaffcoach.com/5shiftsListen to my other podcast, What She's Praying:https://open.spotify.com/show/2GsJzvG87XLiMoEWRCKbkSGet the What She's Praying 7-Day At-Home Devotional Guide:https://marywagstaffcoach.com/vowsFollow Stop Drinking and Start Living for weekly conversations on holistic health, sobriety, personal growth, and family recovery. Share this episode with someone who needs a reminder that a different way forward is possible.In this episode, we explore:Resources & Ways to Work Together

Stop Drinking and Start Living: I'm Back — And We're Talking About the Part of Addiction Nobody Talks AboutI'm back! After taking a much-needed break, I'm returning to Stop Drinking and Start Living with a broader perspective on sobriety, addiction, family recovery, and what it means to truly change. I'm sharing what’s been shifting in my own life, my evolving relationship with faith, and why supporting a loved one through addiction requires us to look beyond the obvious symptoms.Why I’m returning to the original podcast name, Stop Drinking and Start Living.The overlooked impact of addiction on family members and loved ones.The connection between our daily habits, emotional patterns, and compulsive behaviors.My personal shift toward a Christ-centered relationship with God.Why the belief “It’s not about you” can change how we experience addiction and recovery.Book a Connection CallExplore coaching support for your personal recovery, holistic health, or family recovery journey.Book Your Connection CallMake Sobriety SimpleGet your Sobriety Starter Kit to help you begin changing your relationship with alcohol through a holistic approach.Get Your Sobriety Starter KitFree Sobriety ResourceStart your journey with a brand-new perspective on sobriety.5 Shifts to Sustainable Sobriety — Free TrainingCheck Out My Other PodcastWhat She's PrayingWhat She's Praying — Devotional GuideExplore the connection between faith, prayer, and the way you live.Get the 7-Day At-Home Devotional GuideFollow Stop Drinking and Start Living for weekly conversations on holistic health, sobriety, personal growth, and family recovery.Share this episode with someone who needs a reminder that a different way forward is possible.

What if you’re not behind at all, but just overcomplicating what already works? This episode reframes change, sobriety, and wellness by cutting through noise and returning to a simpler truth: you already have access to what you need.You’ll hear how devotion, not more information or effort, becomes the foundation for sustainable change—and why inaction, listening, and internal connection often move you forward faster than constant doing. The episode also clarifies how real transformation happens across stages, not through sudden breakthroughs, and why you may be further along than you think.Walk away with a clearer understanding of how to reduce overwhelm, trust your internal guidance, and approach behavior change in a way that is sustainable, grounded, and aligned with long-term well-being.Grab the free mini training & Work with me 1:1 https://marywagstaffcoach.com/

Sobriety is your birthright. God didn't create you to alter yourself. The only alteration required is remembering who you are, both holy human and divine. It's the right of passage most Women never received, and in fact, alcohol has limited the privilege in our lives of being able to know God deeply. The reasons Women drink are the same reasons we stay separate from God: fear of receiving and the need to always prove our worth. Empowered Feminine Sobriety Is the Next Phase Of Your Evolution: Get the Permission Protocol Free Mini Training: https://marywagstaffcoach.com/minicourse#God #sobriety #love #feminineenergy

In today’s episode of Wild Sobriety, I’m talking about what I believe is the most overlooked—and most crucial—piece of sustainable sobriety and feminine healing: radical self-compassion.After years in the self-development and coaching world, I’ve noticed something that quietly keeps women stuck: the belief that healing means trying harder, being better, or fixing yourself alone. In this episode, I share why that approach actually deepens shame, fuels over-functioning, and keeps alcohol—or other coping patterns—alive beneath the surface.We explore why sobriety isn’t about more discipline or self-control, but about learning how to meet your suffering without turning on yourself. This conversation goes deep into feminine nervous system healing, cyclical wisdom, and the moment everything changes when you stop trying to override your humanity.In this episode, you’ll hear about:Why self-improvement can secretly become self-punishmentThe missing link between sobriety, feminine energy, and inner peaceHow shame keeps repeating patterns—even when you “know better”What actually allowed me to see myself beyond the identity of drinkingWhy compassion (not willpower) builds real emotional resilienceIf you’ve ever thought “I should be past this by now” or wondered why sobriety feels harder the more you try to control it—this episode will shift something important.🎧 A short companion meditation is available as a separate episode to support this work in the body. Grab the Free Mini Training HERE to explore the field of radical feminine permission that makes releasing alcohol simple and enjoyable.

✨ Beyond Dry January is now open.A private 6-week experience where we anchor your sobriety into devotion, embodiment, and deep self-trust. More Info & Register Here:  https://marywagstaffcoach.com/invest/p/beyonddryjanOn today’s episode, I’m talking about the one thing that’s usually missing from Dry January—and why that’s exactly why so many alcohol breaks don’t last.If you’re participating in Dry January (or are already sober), congratulations. But if you’ve ever noticed that you just replace alcohol with mocktails, workouts, scrolling, or another “healthy” distraction—and still feel restless, disconnected, or off—this episode is for you.What most people call “willpower” is actually a longing to go inward.In this conversation, I share why a fast without devotion is just another project to manage, and how true change happens when you stop checking out and start tuning in. I talk about prayer—not as religion—but as presence. As listening. As learning to ask: What is the most loving choice right now?I also share what I’ve seen again and again with my private clients: when women add spiritual connection, self-honesty, and present-moment awareness to sobriety, alcohol naturally loses its grip. Sobriety stops feeling forced—and starts feeling like home.If you’re tired of starting over every January…If you don’t want to be in the same place this time next year…If you know there’s more depth, peace, and truth available to you…This episode will change how you think about Dry January—and what comes next.Want to get off the emotional merry-go-round of alcohol? Grab The Permission Protocol- https://tinyurl.com/pnfv4baeMy free mini training will help you see alcohol and sobriety from a new perspective, so you can focus on what really matters. Schedule A Free Private Strategy Session With Mary Today and Take Your Power Back by Taking Control Where You Can https://tinyurl.com/4p875uafQuestions? Please leave a comment below with any questions you have, and I'll create a video just for you!Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.Join The 90 Day Life Renewal! A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here. Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms. DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

In this episode I sit down with Essence Turner, Self Love Coach, to talk about self-worth, healing, and finding your true purpose. We dive into her personal journey from the underground of exotic dancing, drinking and instability to radical forgiveness, healing and serving others.  Essences shares a relatable story of finding her way into her feminine expression, practical tips for self-love, and how to break through limiting beliefs. If you’re ready to feel empowered and inspired, you won’t want to miss this conversation!Connect with Essence : The Self-Healing School is a free blog space.https://www.theselfhealingschool.comInside are two gifts: The Meet Your Goddess Guide quiz, which helps women connect with the divine feminine energy leading them right now:https://www.theselfhealingschool.com/p/start-here-goddess-quizAnd the Lightworker Gifts for Women on a Spiritual or Purpose-Led Path, a free resource library to support healing, clarity, and becoming:https://www.theselfhealingschool.com/p/lightworker-giftswww.theselfhealingschool.comImagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning. Get the free mini-course: The Permission ProtocolA foundational experience designed to help your alcohol-free time become more than just time off. You’ll learn how to end the mental tug-of-war and return to peace, presence, and pleasure. Sobriety stops feeling like discipline and starts feeling like trust — trust in yourself, your body, and your inner knowing.Join The 90 Day Life Renewal! A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here. Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms. DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

What if nothing is actually going wrong?In this episode, I’m unpacking a truth that has completely changed how I move through sobriety, business, money stress, emotions, and even embarrassment: the work is always working — either for you or on you.We talk about getting out of your head, breaking the mental loops, and learning how to trust the process even when it doesn’t feel good yet. I share how sobriety taught me clear seeing — not just the absence of alcohol, but the ability to be with emotions instead of escaping them. Anxiety, embarrassment, boredom, fear, money stress… all of it.We also dive into:Why alcohol (and other substances) create synthetic joy — and how feminine sobriety gives you the real thingLetting go of control, approval-seeking, and codependent patternsThe power of saying “so what?” to emotions instead of making them a problemHow embarrassment, discomfort, and emotional waves are actually building confidence and self-trustMoving from hustling and hunting to gathering, receiving, and trusting opportunityWhy sobriety makes entrepreneurship, relationships, and self-expression easier — not harderIf you’re navigating sobriety, questioning your relationship with alcohol (or weed), craving more self-trust, or learning how to stay present with your emotions instead of numbing them — this episode is for you.Nothing has gone wrong. You’re not behind. The work is working.Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning. Get the free mini-course: The Permission ProtocolA foundational experience designed to help your alcohol-free time become more than just time off. You’ll learn how to end the mental tug-of-war and return to peace, presence, and pleasure. Sobriety stops feeling like discipline and starts feeling like trust — trust in yourself, your body, and your inner knowing.Join The 90 Day Life Renewal! A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here. Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms. DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Hey friends, today’s episode is extra special—I’m sitting down with Nicole, a former client and now a true inspiration, as she celebrates an incredible milestone: 1,000 days alcohol-free! We get real about the ups and downs of her sobriety journey, the grit it took to keep going, and how life has changed in ways she never expected. Nicole opens up about the challenges, the small (and big) wins, and what it really means to make alcohol irrelevant in your life. If you’ve ever struggled with drinking, felt overwhelmed by life’s demands, or wondered if lasting change is possible, this conversation is for you. I’m so grateful Nicole was willing to share her story so honestly—I know you’ll walk away feeling encouraged and less alone. Let’s dive in!Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning. Get the free mini-course: The Permission ProtocolA foundational experience designed to help your alcohol-free time become more than just time off. You’ll learn how to end the mental tug-of-war and return to peace, presence, and pleasure. Sobriety stops feeling like discipline and starts feeling like trust — trust in yourself, your body, and your inner knowing.Join The 90 Day Life Renewal! A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here. Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms. DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Sobriety and feminine living meet the magic of the winter solstice in this episode. I’m diving into what the solstice really means for those of us longing to live through the lens of love, and how this dark, quiet time of year in the northern hemisphere is actually the perfect invitation to slow down, reflect, and reconnect with ourselves.I’ll share how I use the solstice as a portal for deep inner exploration—tapping into the cycles of nature, the phases of the moon, and the wisdom of my own body. We’ll talk about why I stopped using alcohol as a shortcut to relaxation and creativity, and how embracing my feminine rhythms has brought more freedom and clarity than any drink ever could.If you’re curious about living in sync with the seasons, finding your own rituals for rest and renewal, or just want to feel a little less alone as the days get shorter, this episode is for you. Let’s honor the solstice together and see what’s waiting to be birthed in the dark.Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.Join The 90 Day Life Renewal! A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here. Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms. DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.