The Impact of Your Core Wounds on Your Friendships

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen share tips and tricks to help you build self-confidence and self-esteem. They discuss why doing something new can trigger feelings of insecurity, self-confidence and mastery, how to know if your inner critic is right or wrong, building self-confidence with a core wound of unworthiness, how to validate yourself, when people's opinions matter vs. when they don’t, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 6 minutes to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies MasterClass: Get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/shrinkchicks Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Prose: Get 50% off your first subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are covering a topic that they differ greatly on: when to speak up (what Jen works on) and when to bite your tongue (what Em works on). So whether you are an Em or a Jen - they got you! They discuss questions to ask yourself when debating whether to say something, harming yourself by staying quiet vs. harming the other person by saying too much, honesty without tact, how this relates to parenting, and tips on how to bring things up and how to refrain. The episode ends with a Dear Em and Jen about everyone’s favorite topic: in laws. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 7 minutes to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies MasterClass: Get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/shrinkchicks Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Prose: Get 50% off your first subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks

This week's episode is a re-release of one of Emmalee and Jen's favorite episodes. They want to model what they often share, which is the importance of resting and taking breaks in order to continue to show up as the best versions of themselves. The topic is one that constantly receives questions: what to do when the people in your life aren't "doing the work?" Whether that's your family member, friend, co-worker, or partner, Emmalee and Jen are answering your questions about the frustrations that can occur when it feels like you're the only one working on yourself. They discuss tangible tips, firm boundaries, their thoughts on being called "too sensitive," passive aggression, resentment and the emotions underneath it, changing relational dynamics, and so much more. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 6 minutes to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Part Two of the "doing the work" episode series: Apple Link Spotify Link Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies MasterClass: Get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/shrinkchicks Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Prose: Get 50% off your first subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are explaining the difference between having empathy for someone vs. enabling someone, as they can feel very similar. They start off the episode by sharing ways to recognize the line between the two and speak on why it can be challenging to shift the dynamic in a relationship where we're enabling. Emmalee and Jen discuss how to apply this same logic to ourselves (i.e. holding self accountable in a gentle way), ways they have enabled one another as well as their partners, what maternal gatekeeping means and how it can lead to resentment, what to do when a family member enables another family member, plus boundaries, boundaries, and more boundaries! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 6:30 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies MasterClass: Get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/shrinkchicks Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Prose: Get 50% off your first subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks

Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by two incredible guests, Dr. Sophia Brandstetter and Karen Smith, LCSW! Both Sophia and Karen are therapists who have advanced training in and specialize in Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP). Together, they discuss who is a candidate for KAP, a detailed explanation of what KAP looks like, KAP in a group setting vs. individual setting and what the group process entails, and information for those who may feel tentative about the idea. Sophia and Karen share how they each got into this work and why. They discuss why it can be so hard to connect with our unconscious mind and how KAP has the ability to bring down our defenses in order to do so. Tune in for an educational, insightful, and entertaining conversation! PS: There is no intro for today's episode - join us right away for the content! Karen's Book The Ko-Op Ketamine Kollaborations Full Living Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies MasterClass: Get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/shrinkchicks Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Prose: Get 50% off your first subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks

On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about anticipatory anxiety. They begin by explaining the different reasons and scenarios where we might experience anticipatory anxiety, along with what could trigger it for us. Emmalee and Jen share their own personal experiences with anticipatory anxiety and how it manifests for them. They help you to recognize anticipatory anxiety and share tangible coping skills to use when it becomes activated. Then, they discuss the line between preparing and over-preparing, fear that can develop around experiencing the fear, control and how it plays into anxiety, and how to work to change the relationship you have with anxiety. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 9:20 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies MasterClass: Get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/shrinkchicks Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Prose: Get 50% off your first subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks

On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are thrilled to sit down with Alua Arthur! Alua is a speaker, an author, and the founder of Going with Grace, a death doula training and end-of-life planning organization. The three of them discuss the often uncomfortable topic of death and how to get more comfortable with it so that it doesn't feel as overwhelming and scary. Emmalee and Jen start the episode off by finding out what exactly a death doula does. Then, they talk about anticipatory grief, death anxiety, common regrets people have at the end of their lives, the complex emotions that can come with grief, and so much more! The episode ends with Alua calling some BS. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS - There is no intro for today's episode - join us right away for the content! Alua's Ted Talk Alua's Book: Briefly Perfectly Human Going With Grace Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies MasterClass: Get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/shrinkchicks Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Prose: Get 50% off your first subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are digging deeper into our childhood wounds and exploring how they may affect our friendships today. They start the episode by explaining the four different common core wounds to help you identify yours. Then, they share which core wound they each most identify with and how Jen's wound can trigger Emmalee's and vice versa. They discuss how we can work on noticing these wounds and changing our reactions, processing the grief from a friendship break-up or transition, relational vulnerability vs. non-relational vulnerability, and so much more! The episode ends with a Dear Em and Jen question asking them about their favorite therapeutic modality. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 4 minutes into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies MasterClass: Get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/shrinkchicks Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Prose: Get 50% off your first subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks

Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about the very under-discussed topic of friendships and the difficulties that exist as we try to make new friends and nurture old friendships in adulthood. They start the episode off by sharing some interesting statistics on friendships. Then, they give us a glimpse into what their friendship was like in the early stages and how they struggled to be vulnerable with one another. Em and Jen discuss competition in female friendships, friends in different life stages, the high stakes in making new friends as an adult, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! And, come back next Monday for part two of this friendship series to learn about the core wounds that might be coming up in your friendships. PS: Fast forward to around 3:15 into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies MasterClass: Get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/shrinkchicks Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Prose: Get 50% off your first subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks

On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about what they are working on personally and professionally. They want to continue to be vulnerable with you all and share their personal goals and struggles. In the first part of the episode, Emmalee and Jen share two different personal stories about having to pivot when it comes to either keeping or canceling plans. They then ask each other what they are working on overcoming in their own lives. Jen touches on staying present and setting emotional boundaries, while Emmalee touches on her guilt-proneness and getting better at saying "no." The episode ends with a Dear Em and Jen about envy of a younger sibling announcing her pregnancy before the older sibling feels ready to have kids. Tune in for some laughs, insight, awareness, and action! PS: There is no intro for today's episode - join us right away for the content! Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies MasterClass: Get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/shrinkchicks Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Prose: Get 50% off your first subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks