Overcome Rejection at Work ⎸ ADHD Signs, ASD, OCD, Dyslexia, RSD, Overthink, Work Insecurity, Late Diagnosed, Neurodiverse

Do you ever feel like you're on top of things one minute, only to feel scattered and overwhelmed the next? Do you find yourself beating yourself up when you struggle to focus, procrastinate, run late, or fall behind on your responsibilities? And do you sometimes wonder what's wrong with you when you can't seem to keep up with the expectations you've set for yourself or the standards of your work environment?   You're intelligent, capable, and you've accomplished a lot over the years. So why do you still feel like a hot mess sometimes?   In this episode, I'm sharing three lessons I've learned that have helped me move away from self-condemnation and toward self-affirmation.    Here's what we'll explore: Give yourself grace: Learn why comparing your capacity to someone else's can leave you feeling overwhelmed, and how to set realistic expectations according to your strengths and abilities Practice intentional self-care: Understand how caring for your body, mind, and spirit can support your energy, focus, and peace throughout the workday Use the resources available to you: Consider how therapy, coaching, and body doubling can help you navigate cognitive challenges instead of trying to manage everything on your own   We'll also look at what Scripture teaches us about our differences, our weaknesses, and God's sufficient grace.   Scriptures referenced: Romans 12:3–6a 2 Corinthians 12:9 Luke 5:16 Jeremiah 17:5   Here's the link to the episode about "weaknesses"! 2 | Biblical Truths About your Weaknesses for Confidence Even in the Struggle https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/2-biblical-truths-about-your-weaknesses-for-confidence/id6786417659?i=1000775056232   Want to hear more about seeking professional help so you can thrive at work and beyond? Email me at [email protected] or leave a comment on the blog post at https://riseandshinebright.com/14-want-to-stop-feeling-like-a-hot-mess-3-lessons-i-learned-to-turn-overwhelmed-into-self-affirmed/    You're invited to the Body Double Work Café hosted by Yardley! Register here! https://calendly.com/yardley-messeroux/body-double-work-cafe-11-19  Body Double Work Café is a free virtual community workspace designed for you to get things done alongside other women, including Yardley, your host — whether you're working your 9–5 job, running your own business, tackling a personal to-do list, or getting to that project you've been meaning to accomplish before the end of the year.  Here’s How It Works Reserve your the hours you wish to work using the Calendly link Join your scheduled work session(s) via Zoom Set your check-ins & breaks with our live Work Wellness Coach, Yardley WORK (All on mute + on/off camera is your choice) Be amazed at how much you accomplish in just (1) hour! You can sign up for any amount of hours out of the four available. Just use the link as many times for as many hours as you wish to reserve.  https://calendly.com/yardley-messeroux/body-double-work-cafe-11-19  This productivity-focused community session is hosted by a live Work Wellness Coach with ADHD who has tried and true methods to getting things done! Have your favorite beverage in arms reach and get ready to focus as we smash our goals, together!   AFTER THE EPISODE, LET’S CHAT! You might want to sit with the content for a little reflection time. So if you’d like an overview of this topic with the featured scriptures and action items, go to RiseandShineBright.com and you’ll find it all there. Here’s the direct link!  https://riseandshinebright.com/14-want-to-stop-feeling-like-a-hot-mess-3-lessons-i-learned-to-turn-overwhelmed-into-self-affirmed/   That’s also where I hang out! So share your thoughts in the comments on the site and I’ll reply!  I read all of the comments and would love your take on what you found helpful in this episode. Just go here:  https://riseandshinebright.com/14-want-to-stop-feeling-like-a-hot-mess-3-lessons-i-learned-to-turn-overwhelmed-into-self-affirmed/ HOW CAN I HELP YOU? Are you a midlife Christian woman with a neurodivergent brain, whether it's ADHD (Attention Deficit / Hyperactivity Disorder), autism, AuDHD (the combo), OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), dyslexia or something else–and might've even been late diagnosed? You want to learn more about handling insecurities at work (and life), maybe it’s tackling rumination / overthinking, the comparison trap, imposter syndrome, receiving feedback, and overall rejection sensitivity–whether real or perceived? If there's a specific topic that you'd like me to cover on the show, just email me your topic or even a scenario you may be facing. I'm here and happy to help! Email me at [email protected]. You can also post it in the comments section right here.    HAVE A QUESTION? If you have a question for me, email me directly at [email protected]. I look forward to connecting!

Do performance reviews leave you questioning your abilities or wondering whether your boss is disappointed in you? Do you struggle to separate constructive criticism from feelings of rejection or inadequacy? How do you receive feedback without becoming defensive, overthinking every comment, or allowing it to affect how you see yourself? Performance reviews can be difficult, especially when feedback touches on areas where you already feel insecure. Whether the comments are positive, constructive, unexpected, or difficult to hear, how you process them matters. In this episode, we're taking a spiritual approach to receiving workplace feedback with a level head. We'll explore how to protect your thoughts, guard your heart, and remain grounded in God's truth when receiving feedback. You'll learn how to distinguish feedback about your performance from your identity, avoid allowing criticism to turn into self-doubt, and respond thoughtfully rather than react emotionally. Walk away with a biblical perspective and practical ways to receive performance feedback without losing your confidence, peace, or sense of godly security.   YOU'RE INVITED TO THE BODY DOUBLE WORK CAFE HOSTED BY YARDLEY Body Double Work Café is a FREE virtual community workspace designed for you to get things done alongside other women, including Yardley, your host — whether you're working your 9–5 job, running your own business, tackling a personal to-do list, or getting to that project you've been meaning to accomplish before the end of the year.  Here’s How It Works Reserve your the hours you wish to work using the Calendly link Join your scheduled work session(s) via Zoom Set your check-ins & breaks with our live Work Wellness Coach, Yardley WORK (All on mute + on/off camera is your choice) Be amazed at how much you accomplish in just (1) hour! You can sign up for any amount of hours out of the four available. Just use the link below! https://calendly.com/yardley-messeroux/body-double-work-cafe-nov5 Have your favorite beverage in arms reach and get ready to focus as we smash our goals, together!     AFTER THE EPISODE, LET’S ACHAT! You might want to sit with the content for a little reflection time. So if you’d like an overview of this topic with the featured scriptures and action items, go to RiseandShineBright.com and you’ll find it all there. Here’s the direct link!  https://riseandshinebright.com/tired-of-spiraling-after-getting-feedback-3-ways-to-handle-performance-reviews-with-confidence/  That’s also where I hang out! So share your thoughts in the comments on the site and I’ll reply!  I read all of the comments and would love your take on what you found helpful in this episode. Just go here:  https://riseandshinebright.com/tired-of-spiraling-after-getting-feedback-3-ways-to-handle-performance-reviews-with-confidence/     HOW CAN I HELP YOU? Are you a midlife Christian woman with a neurodivergent brain, whether it's ADHD (Attention Deficit / Hyperactivity Disorder), autism, AuDHD (the combo), OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), dyslexia or something else–and might've even been late diagnosed? You want to learn more about handling insecurities at work (and life), maybe it’s tackling rumination / overthinking, the comparison trap, imposter syndrome, receiving feedback, and overall rejection sensitivity–whether real or perceived? If there's a specific topic that you'd like me to cover on the show, just email me your topic or even a scenario you may be facing. I'm here and happy to help! Email me at [email protected]. You can also post it in the comments section right here.      HAVE A QUESTION? If you have a question for me, email me directly at [email protected]. I look forward to connecting!

Have you ever found yourself overthinking about a delayed text, a short email response, or a coworker's unexpected silence?  Do you find yourself trying to win someone's approval, explain yourself, or repair a relationship that may not even be in trouble? Are you tired of feeling like rejection sensitivity has the upper hand on your life and you want to finally take control of it?   In this episode, we're talking about rejection sensitivity, Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD), and why the fear of rejection can feel so overwhelming, and how God can play a powerful role in these experiences.   Through Amos 4:4–7, John 6:25–35, and Psalm 37:4, we'll explore what the Word of God teaches us about where to turn and how, when we're hungry for acceptance, validation, and approval.   In this episode, you'll walk away with: A better understanding of rejection sensitivity and why seemingly small interactions can trigger big emotions A biblical perspective on the desire for acceptance and why human approval cannot provide lasting satisfaction Practical ways to turn to Jesus when rejection sensitivity shows up during your workday or personal life Scripture-based action items for when you're tempted to seek reassurance or validation from others   Scriptures referenced: Amos 4:4–7, John 6:25–35, Psalm 37:4, Jeremiah 15:16, Psalm 90:14, John 5:41, Psalm 73:25, Hebrews 4:12, and Psalm 139:1–18. Let's talk about finding our satisfaction in Jesus instead of exhausting ourselves trying to earn acceptance from people! You're invited to the Body Double Work Café hosted by Yardley! Body Double Work Café is a free virtual community workspace designed for you to get things done alongside other women, including Yardley, your host — whether you're working your 9–5 job, running your own business, tackling a personal to-do list, or getting to that project you've been meaning to accomplish before the end of the year.  Here’s How It Works   Reserve your the hours you wish to work using the Calendly link Join your scheduled work session(s) via Zoom Set your check-ins & breaks with our live Work Wellness Coach, Yardley WORK (All on mute + on/off camera is your choice) Be amazed at how much you accomplish in just (1) hour! You can sign up for any amount of hours out of the four available. Just use the link as many times for as many hours as you wish to reserve.  https://calendly.com/yardley-messeroux/body-double-work-cafe-nov5 This productivity-focused community session is hosted by a live Work Wellness Coach with ADHD who has tried and true methods to getting things done! Have your favorite beverage in arms reach and get ready to focus as we smash our goals, together! AFTER THE EPISODE, LET’S ACHAT! You might want to sit with the content for a little reflection time. So if you’d like an overview of this topic with the featured scriptures and action items, go to RiseandShineBright.com and you’ll find it all there. Here’s the direct link!  https://riseandshinebright.com/struggling-with-rejection-sensitivity-whats-happening-and-how-to-finally-satisfy-the-hunger-for-acceptance/  That’s also where I hang out! So share your thoughts in the comments on the site and I’ll reply!  I read all of the comments and would love your take on what you found helpful in this episode. Just go here:  https://riseandshinebright.com/struggling-with-rejection-sensitivity-whats-happening-and-how-to-finally-satisfy-the-hunger-for-acceptance/  HOW CAN I HELP YOU? Are you a midlife Christian woman with a neurodivergent brain, whether it's ADHD (Attention Deficit / Hyperactivity Disorder), autism, AuDHD (the combo), OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), dyslexia or something else–and might've even been late diagnosed? You want to learn more about handling insecurities at work (and life), maybe it’s tackling rumination / overthinking, the comparison trap, imposter syndrome, receiving feedback, and overall rejection sensitivity–whether real or perceived? If there's a specific topic that you'd like me to cover on the show, just email me your topic or even a scenario you may be facing. I'm here and happy to help! Email me at [email protected]. You can also post it in the comments section right here.  HAVE A QUESTION? If you have a question for me, email me directly at [email protected]. I look forward to connecting!

When you’re disappointed in circumstances or frustrated with a process or outcome, do you chastise yourself?  Do you highlight your struggles and habits, then condemn yourself? Maybe you’ve said things like, “I’m so bad at time management,” “I’m not good enough for this job,” or “What’s wrong with me that I can’t just sit down and do the thing?” Have you consciously heard yourself talk about you and your neurodivergent experience and it comes out negative?   After feeling rejected, yearning for approval, getting caught in a comparison trap, and trying to keep up with others and your own standards, negative self-talk can become our default. But the cycle stops here! In this episode, we’re exploring what God’s Word says about how we speak to and think about ourselves, why our words matter, and how we can replace negative self-talk with truth and grace. Discover The T.G. Test, a simple, three-part method to help you change your inner dialogue, build self-acceptance, and grow in confidence. Ready to go? Let’s dive in!     After the episode, let’s chat! You might want to sit with the content for a little reflection time. So if you’d like an overview of this topic with the featured scriptures and action items, go to RiseandShineBright.com and you’ll find it all there. Here’s the direct link! https://riseandshinebright.com/negative-self-talk-try-this-3-part-method-to-build-your-inner-dialogue-self-acceptance/  That’s also where I hang out! So share your thoughts in the comments on the site and I’ll reply!  I read all of the comments and would love your take on the topic and about your own experiences. Just go here: https://riseandshinebright.com/negative-self-talk-try-this-3-part-method-to-build-your-inner-dialogue-self-acceptance/      How can I help you? Are you a midlife Christian woman with a neurodivergent brain, whether with ADHD (Attention Deficit / Hyperactivity Disorder), autism, AuDHD (the combo), OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), dyslexia or something else–and you might've even been late diagnosed? You want to learn more about handling insecurities at work (and life outside of work), maybe its tackling rumination / overthinking, the comparison trap, imposter syndrome, receiving feedback, and overall rejection sensitivity–whether real or perceived? If there's a specific topic that you'd like me to cover on the show, just email me your topic or even a scenario you may be facing. I'm here and happy to help! Email me at [email protected]. You can also post your topic in the comments section right here.      Have a question? If you have a question for me or simply want to connect, email me directly at [email protected]. I look forward to connecting!

Does rejection sensitivity make you question your performance and wonder whether your job is secure?  Do you overthink your boss's emails, facial expressions, or lack of feedback?  Do you worry that you're one mistake away from getting fired?  If you're a late-diagnosed neurodivergent woman, does this fear have another layer—the fear of possibly starting over again at this stage? In this episode, we're talking about the fear and rejection sensitivity of getting fired, fueling workplace insecurity, rumination, and anxiety. Discover three biblical convictions that will help you build confidence in job security rooted in God, and greater peace while you work, instead of striving to prove yourself. Ready? Let’s go!   After the episode, let’s chat! You might want to sit with the content for a little reflection time. So if you’d like an overview of this topic with the featured scriptures and action items, go to RiseandShineBright.com and you’ll find it all there. Here’s the direct link! https://riseandshinebright.com/fear-of-getting-fired-3-biblical-truths-for-unshakable-job-security/  That’s also where I hang out! So share your thoughts in the comments on the site and I’ll reply!  I read all of the comments and would love your take on what you found helpful in this episode. Just go here: https://riseandshinebright.com/fear-of-getting-fired-3-biblical-truths-for-unshakable-job-security/    Want to contact me? If you have a question for me or want me to address a challenge that you’re facing at work? Email me at [email protected]

Does someone at work seem friendly with everyone else but distant or unfriendly toward you? Are you constantly wondering, “What did I do?” and replaying conversations in your head? Does someone’s behavior toward you leave you questioning yourself, your confidence, or whether you’re actually the problem? When someone at work seems to have a problem with you, it can be difficult to know how to process it. You may find yourself overthinking their behavior, searching for an explanation, or wondering if you somehow caused the tension. And when you’ve experienced rejection throughout your life, workplace opposition can hit differently. It can bring up insecurity, self-doubt, and the urge to figure out what you did wrong. But what if you could approach these uncomfortable situations in a new healthier way? In this episode, I’m sharing 3 biblical, confidence-boosting methods for dealing with someone at work who seems to have something against you. We’ll talk about how to process opposition without automatically making it about you, how to maintain your confidence when someone isn’t treating you warmly, and how your faith can change the way you respond. If you’re tired of letting someone else’s behavior take up space in your mind, this episode will give you a different way to look at workplace rejection and opposition.   After the episode, let’s chat! You might want to sit with the content for a little reflection time. So if you’d like an overview of this topic with the featured scriptures and action items, go to http://www.riseandshinebright.com and you’ll find it all there. Here’s the direct link! https://riseandshinebright.com/oppositionatwork_3_methods/    That’s also where I hang out! So share your thoughts in the comments on the site and I’ll reply!    I read all of the comments and would love your take on what you found helpful in this episode. Just go here: https://riseandshinebright.com/oppositionatwork_3_methods/   Want to contact me? If you have a question for me or want me to address a challenge that you’re facing at work? Email me at [email protected]

Are you people pleasing at work because you’re afraid of rejection, conflict, disappointing others, or not being liked? People pleasing can show up in subtle ways in the neurodiverse experience—taking on too much work, overthinking conversations, constantly apologizing, or agreeing just to keep the peace. While these behaviors may feel like they’re protecting you from rejection, they can actually chip away at your confidence and leave you overwhelmed, burned out, and disconnected from your authentic self. In this episode of Overcome Rejection at Work, we’ll look at five common ways people pleasing can show up in the workplace, including ADHD signs like RSD (Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria) and OCD behaviors like compulsions, and practical ways to break the cycle and build confidence. We’ll also look at what Scripture teaches us about this topic, so let’s dive in! For after the episode… Action Items When you’re taking on too much work: How can my workload be redistributed? If it can’t be redistributed, how can the work be prioritized or phased throughout the year? What is motivating me to take on this much work—service, responsibility, or a desire to please people? When you’re volunteering too much: Am I volunteering because I genuinely want to help? Or am I trying to be liked, needed, accepted, or seen as dependable? Is there someone else who could do this or grow by learning how? When you want to revisit a conversation: Why do I think that conversation damaged something? What if it did? Will I be okay regardless? If this person doesn’t like me anymore, am I still valuable? Will more words make me more confident or less confident? Does God still love me after that conversation? When you’re apologizing unnecessarily: Why do I say “I’m sorry” so much? Am I actually sorry? Did I do anything wrong that warrants an apology? What am I seeking permission for? Where does this come from? When you’re agreeing to avoid conflict: What do I actually think about this? Am I staying quiet because I genuinely agree—or because I’m afraid of rejection? What would it look like to respectfully share my perspective? And when you find yourself caught in any of these people-pleasing habits, remember this question: Who am I truly working for? Colossians 3:23–24 “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.” Have a question for me or want me to address a challenge that you’re facing at work? Email me at [email protected]

Tired of working twice as hard at work, afraid someone may think you’re not as capable as they thought? Have you ever accomplished something you’re proud of only to downplay it, wondering if you can really do it again? Want to stop second guessing what you want to say in meetings because you don’t want anyone to think you don't belong in the room?  Are you ready to feel firm and secure in your role? If any of this hits, you may have experienced imposter syndrome at your workplace, and you are heard, understood and relatable! In this episode, we explore a biblical approach to attack the fear of being exposed as a fraud at work, like a mighty warrior!   Discover the A-D-G approach to move beyond the insecurity of imposter syndrome so you can have a better thought-life at work, with a greater sense of security about being the right fit where God placed you. Now let's dive in!   Have a question for me or want me to address a challenge that you’re facing at work? Email me at [email protected]

Tired of feeling like everyone else is doing better than you at work?   Ever thought, “what is wrong with me that I can’t seem to do things so easily like she does?”   You do great work, yet somehow you still feel like you're not measuring up.   Want to learn how to stop comparing yourself to others and start feeling personally content from within?    In this episode, we’re talking about the truth about the confidence killer of comparison and how to handle it and ultimately overcome it..    Have a question for me or want me to address a challenge that you’re facing at work? Email me at [email protected]

Are you tired of feeling stumped while prioritizing the workday? Do you want real ways to prioritize your work according to how your brain works? Do you want to end your workday confidently, no matter how much got done? If you have ADHD, AuDHD, or another neurodivergent brain, figuring out what to work on first can feel surprisingly difficult. You may start the day already feeling behind, spend too much time trying to decide what to tackle, and then end the day frustrated that your to-do list still isn't finished. And when you compare yourself to coworkers who seem to be getting everything done, ADHD signs, it can quickly turn into workplace insecurity, self-doubt, and feeling like you're not productive enough. In this episode, we're looking at a kinder way to prioritize your workday—one that considers your brain, your energy, your need for rest, and your faith. You'll learn how to: Surrender your agenda and let God establish your steps Pay attention to your brain's high- and low-functioning times Break larger projects into manageable bite-sized tasks Build rest and breaks into your workday Let go of unfinished work without judging yourself Practice the gentleness and humility Jesus teaches us Have a question for me or want me to address a challenge that you’re facing at work? Email me at [email protected]