working through the fear of abandonment

STAND TF UP TIMESTAMPS 00:00 girl talk, gogi talk 04:26 emotional rebound 05:04 blurred lines 05:58 story time 08:55 don’t lie to yourself 11:36 missing your person after a breakup 14:13 being led on 16:32 realizing your worth 17:17 learning your boundaries  18:52 maybe I should’ve confessed 20:09 stand UP 20:24 if you’re looking for an emotional rebound ~things mentioned in this episode~ calvaire by spill tab https://www.instagram.com/spilltab/  ashley mehta https://www.instagram.com/ashleymehtaofficial/  Camel Coffee https://www.instagram.com/camelcoffee_us/ HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

this week we're talking about parental expectations and parent/adult child relationships!! join us as we recount some family drama, transition periods, and how to communicate with your parents. xx, hanakattt TIMESTAMPS 00:00 haul from Musina 02:05 praise report 06:07 parental expectations  10:30 parent child relationships 14:33 parent and ADULT child relationship transition 16:14 children want to please their parents 18:05 it’s your life 19:00 I would not survive as an immigrant 20:59 what was our parents’ sacrifice for? 22:09 taking risks 23:30 language barriers in immigrant families 25:21 mutual understanding 27:05 making your parents proud 28:41 reaching your potential 29:43 feeling less alone through bulgogi pod 31:45 gratitude HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

idk im just like on my own timeline or something ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 HOKAYYY  00:35 gogi talk 03:22 the walls going up 09:46 uncovering the layers 11:36 shame is cyclical  13:44 social currency & legitimacy  16:31 finding worth internally  18:31 I’m not everyone’s cup of tea 22:19 I didn’t date until I was 22 24:18 using insecurities as motivation  27:50 I’m on my own timeline!! things mentioned~ Derrick gee - https://www.tiktok.com/@gee_derrick Maartebaby - https://www.instagram.com/maartebaby/ HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

i need ya'll to match my energy!! in relationships, friendships, life, i want to surround myself with like-minded, emotion-feeling people!! enough with the nonchalance and tryna be "cool". caring is cool. energy is cool. xx, hanakattt TIMESTAMPS 00:00 heyyyyy/gogi talk 04:39 Korean snack break 06:17 match my energy!! 08:18 apathy in the dating scene 12:16 texting etiquette  13:25 it takes two 15:21 wanting the same things 30:43 silly goose time 31:24 confessional 37:22 ARE YOU HAVING FUN? things mentioned~enneagram - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions/ HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

what is loyalty? are we "choosing sides" after a breakup? what are your expectations of your friends? we're talking about how to earn loyalty and sustain relationships. xx, hanakattt TIMESTAMPS 00:00 gogi talk 08:03 “choosing sides” when friends go through a breakup 09:48 developing relationships with your friends’ partners 13:36 loyalty expectations 17:28 being considerate of others 21:22 who they are at the end of the relationship is their true selves 22:05 friendship loyalty 25:48 stuart cameo OK BYE HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

are they trying to lock you down early? is it too intense, too quickly? do you secretly enjoy the whirlwind excitement of a new talking stage? are you being love bombed?! we're talking about it all this week. xx, hanakattt SOURCES https://health.clevelandclinic.org/love-bombing https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/202212/how-to-tell-if-its-love-or-love-bombing HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

do you ever feel like you can't share your problems? like you can't take up space? that you have to minimize yourself? this episode is for you. we're talking what it's like to feel like a burden and how to work on that. xx, hanakattt RELATED EPISODES https://youtu.be/qjmlqN-JveA?si=P9fu3Yk_j1enQFBv SOURCES my brain HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

this week we're talking about loneliness. this is a reminder that spending time alone is beautiful and you can be alone and not lonely. sometimes finding our "group" or feeling like we belong can be tough and i'm here for you <3 xx, hanakattt RELATED EPISODES how-to-know-yourself-lead-with-honesty-in-relationships-feat--calebjooo to-anyone-feeling-lonely SOURCES my brain HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

this week we're talking about the anxiety, stress, and unpleasant feelings that come with uncertainty. as things are constantly changing in our lives, we're talking about different mindsets to take on in times of transition and change!!xx,hanakattt RELATED EPISODES conflict, confrontation, and communicationi lost my job... now what? feat.  @joycechunvlogs  SOURCES https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-addiction/202110/understanding-the-process-changehttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-addiction/202110/understanding-the-process-change https://ed.stanford.edu/sites/default/files/annurev-psych-psychology_of_change_final_e2.pdf https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/mindfulness/definition https://hbr.org/podcast/2022/07/the-case-for-embracing-uncertainty https://open.spotify.com/episode/6gsu1D19tYvxpXkR6tt5GI?si=wn1tLP6zTIONPk2DgvfzOA https://youtu.be/vLpBR_AREPM?si=6aMW_RL7sXZadifr HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support

IM IN A FIGHTING MOOD THIS WEEK but im tryna learn to fight better so we're here for an episode to learn how to be healthy, communicate clearly, and get in front of problems. i discuss the science behind conflict, use proven tools from the gottman institute, and what to do post-fight. xx, hanakattt RELATED EPISODES how to know yourself and lead with honesty in relationships feat. caleb joo communication in relationships & how to train your bf feat. jenny heo losing your best friend to their significant other should i be worried about my boyfriend having a girl best friend how to win in a fight with your s/o SOURCES https://hbr.org/2015/12/calming-your-brain-during-conflict https://www.fastcompany.com/90805500/this-is-whats-happening-to-your-brain-in-the-middle-of-a-conflict https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2808029 https://www.shondaland.com/live/family/a40436785/art-of-friendship-how-to-handle-conflict https://www.calm.com/blog/how-to-feel-your-feeling https://www.tonyrobbins.com/personal-growth/self-awareness/ HANAKATTT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/hanakattt/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@hanakattt/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ BULGOGI POD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/bulgogi.podcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://twitter.com/bulgogipodcast/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~music in this episode provided by epidemic sound~ all social media + design work + cover art by ashley peng ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lilshashimii/ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠sounds by 808kino contact us at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bulgogipod/support