Biblical Plan for Separation Part 1 - Emotional Abuse
What is a biblical plan for separation with the intent of reconciliation and restoration, when is it necessary, and what does it look like? We're diving into this as well as one type of abuse, being emotional abuse. Please listen and share with your people so that we as a church body never dismiss this damaging cycle within many Christian (and non-Christian) marriages today.National Domestic Abuse Hotline: 817-369-3970Grab The Emotionally Destructive Marriage here.Grab Is It Me? here.Partner with us through donating (A Wife Like Me is a 501(c)3 nonprofit), here: https://awifelikeme.com/giveGrab our book, Dear Wife, here: https://www.amazon.com/Dear-Wife-Invitations-Practice-Connection/dp/0578470594Watch on YouTube, here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCe5HUNNkN0hhA8Xv-g1R3qgGrab our planner, Design My Day, here: https://awifelikeme.com/design-my-dayFind out your Wife Type in less than 3 minutes, here: https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/63b9c12b3108f50016d71ba7Grab our FREE marriage resources, here: https://awifelikeme.com/subscribe-to-a-wife-like-meNotes:Emotional abuse involves controlling another person by using emotions to criticize, embarrass, shame, blame, or otherwise manipulate them. It can be subtle and insidious, but it can also be overt and manipulative. The goal of the emotional abuser is to control and have power over their spouse.Emotional abuse might look like one spouse isolating the other spouse, taking away their network of support. The abuser might feel insecure or afraid of their spouse leaving them or finding or thinking anything different than the abuser, so the abuser attempts to keep them isolated, away from the influence of others. Any time a spouse prevents their spouse from support networks and controls who they can and cannot be with, or when and how they can be with them, this is emotional abuse.Emotional abuse might also look like the abusive spouse making threats. The abuser might threaten a certain type of consequence be inflicted, they might threaten to leave, to withhold finances or information, they might withhold sex or affection, a car, a place to stay, the abuser might threaten sharing false information with family or friends, or with an attorny - or they might threaten taking the kids away, or they might threaten self harm or suicide. Any type of threat is emotional abuse.Emotional abuse could also be yelling or name calling. Statements such as “You’re so dumb. You’re fat. You're a freak. You’re an idot.” Or any verbal outbursts - this is emotional abuse.It might also look like gaslighting. Gaslighting is when the abuser makes the victim question their reality to gain power and control. It’s a way to create doubt and confusion. The victim will typically make a statement, and the abuser Support the Show.
