A Millennial Mind

Why do we spend more time planning the nursery than preparing for labour? In this episode, I sit down with Ayurvedic doctor, naturopath and functional medicine clinician Dr VJ Murthy, who has supported thousands of women through pregnancy and birth. At seven months pregnant with my first baby, I came into this conversation wanting to know the benefits of unmedicated birth, and left realising I’d been asking the wrong question. We unpack why birth has never been safer yet feels scarier than ever, what hypnobirthing really is, why your partner should never try to “rescue” you, and why a woman who gives birth is a superstar, epidural or not. We talk about: Why we’re more afraid of birth than ever, and the role of social media Why motherhood is a learned skill, not an instinct Hypnobirthing explained, and how to feel safe and ready for labour Simple breathing and grounding techniques to calm your nervous system Why birth isn’t a performance, and the pressure to “bounce back” What a birth plan really is, and why it’s overrated How partners can support you without panicking Epidural vs unmedicated birth: the real benefits and drawbacks How your pelvis shape can affect birth Ayurvedic pregnancy foods, from ghee to eating dates from 36 weeks If you’ve ever felt scared of giving birth, or pressure to do it the “right” way, this episode is your reminder that there’s no right option, only feeling supported and empowered. Make sure you’re subscribed and have notifications on so you never miss an episode. If you're ready to launch your business before Black Friday, go to shopify.com  to start your free trial. Follow Dr VJ Murthy: AD: [Sponsor block, if applicable] #AMillennialMind #Hypnobirthing #PregnancyJourney Chapters 0:00 Intro 1:04 Why do we plan the nursery but not the labour? 1:59 Welcome Dr VJ Murthy 4:33 Why are we so afraid of birth? 5:30 Losing the wisdom of experienced women 7:08 Hiding a pregnancy from the algorithm 10:08 Preparing your mind vs your body for birth 12:09 What is unmedicated birth? 13:38 Hypnobirthing explained 14:48 How to feel safe and ready for birth 17:24 Building your birth support system 18:34 Why your breath matters more than the nursery 19:52 Grounding techniques to calm anxiety 21:31 The humming breath that soothes stress 24:03 Trusting “I am safe” and the diving reflex 25:52 Ayurvedic self-oil massage in pregnancy 29:23 Pregnancy hormones and letting go 30:31 Why birth isn’t a performance 32:28 Birth boundaries and visitors 33:39 What is a birth plan, really? 34:59 Partners: be present, don’t rescue 36:43 The woman whose hand he held for 8 hours 40:37 Making the epidural decision with agency 42:52 First baby nerves and the pain relief safety net 44:17 It’s not the method, it’s the support 44:48 What Ayurveda really says about birth 46:58 The benefits of vaginal birth 50:25 Epidural: benefits and drawbacks 53:27 Every woman who gives birth is a superstar 54:50 Does your pelvis shape affect birth? 59:05 Pilates, pelvic floor and breath 1:00:43 Natural ways to boost oxytocin 1:02:03 Eating dates from 36 weeks 1:03:10 The best foods for each trimester 1:07:45 Foods to avoid in pregnancy 1:10:09 Golden milk and sesame laddus 1:13:45 Quickfire round 1:15:05 You never go back to who you were 1:15:41 One message for every mother 1:17:58 Next week’s episode 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When was the last time someone asked who you actually are? Not your job, your title or your role, but you? In this episode, I sit down with former Victoria’s Secret model, content creator and mum of two Vita Sidokina for a conversation she’s never had in an interview before. Vita opens up about walking away from a modeling career she thought would last forever, the postpartum depression that forced her to start from zero, and how motherhood healed her relationship with her body. We talk about the painful “in-between” stage of any life pivot, why she calls herself a selfish mum, and how the tough-love parenting she grew up with shaped her drive. This conversation is for anyone outgrowing an old version of themselves and wondering who they are underneath it. We talk about: - Losing your identity after a career change or motherhood - Why the “in-between” stage of a pivot keeps you stuck - Postpartum depression and learning to start from zero - Healing your relationship with your body through motherhood - Why putting yourself first makes you a better mum - Tough-love parenting, unconditional love and high standards - Letting go of the victim mindset - How to find out who you really are, and why half effort never works - Why no phase of your life is permanent - Choosing friendships wisely in your 30s If you’ve ever felt like you don’t recognise the person you’re becoming, or you’re grieving who you used to be, this episode is your reminder that you can always start again. Make sure you’re subscribed and have notifications on so you never miss an episode. Follow Vita:  @VitaSidorkinachannel  #AMillennialMind #IdentityShift #MotherhoodJourney Chapters 0:00 Intro 1:00 Who are you, really? 2:10 Welcome Vita 3:08 From Russia to Victoria’s Secret 4:50 Why she walked away from modeling 7:18 Grieving the old version of yourself 9:11 Accepting life changes without resentment 10:08 The danger of being “in-between” identities 11:02 Postpartum depression and starting from zero 12:18 Vegan chef, ice cream brand and finding her thing 13:15 Pivoting your content and your audience 16:36 Staying motivated when nobody engages 19:06 Is the algorithm the new rat race? 20:49 How motherhood healed her relationship with her body 24:49 Best shape of her life after two kids 26:43 Why she’s a “selfish” mum 29:18 When being at home isn’t enough 31:00 Kids copy what you do, not what you say 33:20 Career sacrifices and dropping the victim mindset 35:51 Raised on “Okay, what’s next?” 39:40 Unconditional love with high standards 41:16 Life is on your side 42:47 Ignoring other people’s opinions 45:55 How to find out who you really are 47:32 Why half effort never works 48:55 How to stick with something new 49:29 The biggest lesson from changing identities 50:17 No phase of your life is permanent 53:15 Choosing friendships wisely in your 30s 55:05 Outgrowing friends and being direct 58:06 The quote she lives by 58:38 Next week’s episode 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is the spark in your relationship supposed to fade, or is losing it a sign that something’s wrong? In this episode, I sit down with Maria G. Sosa, a licensed couples therapist (you might know her as Holistically Grace) who has been through divorce herself. We get into why the spark fades in every long-term relationship, the small resentments that quietly pull couples apart, and what healthy love actually needs once the honeymoon stage is over. If you’re ready to launch your business before Black Friday, go to shopify.com to start your free trial. We talk about: Why being a “divorced couples therapist” kept her in her marriage longer than she should have stayed. What the spark really is, and why it has to fade. How to tell if feeling disconnected is a hard season or a real problem. Why there’s no “normal” amount of intimacy, only what works for you two. The early warning signs couples miss (it’s usually what’s been left unsaid) How to bring up hard conversations without your partner getting defensive. Why emotional safety is the most underrated part of any relationship. Why communication isn’t always the real problem. What to do when you’re the only one trying to change. How she finally knew it was time to leave. If you’ve ever felt disconnected from someone you love and wondered whether it’s normal or the beginning of the end, this conversation will help you understand what that feeling is really telling you. Subscribe and turn on notifications so you don’t miss the next one; it genuinely helps me bring on more incredible guests. Follow Maria G. Sosa: [add her @holisticallygrace] AD: This episode is supported by Let’s Save Water. Small changes, repeated by enough of us, add up. Search “Let’s Save Water” or visit letssavewater.com for simple ways to save water every day. #AMillennialMind #RelationshipAdvice #CouplesTherapy Chapters 00:00 Intro: can divorce teach you more about love? 02:05 Welcome, Maria G. Sosa 02:54 Who is Maria? 03:17 Being a divorced couples therapist 05:51 What is “the spark”? 07:42 Does the spark have to fade? 09:28 Is it normal to feel disconnected? 10:33 How to know if it’s a real problem 12:04 Is there a “normal” amount of intimacy? 13:43 The early signs couples miss 17:13 How to start difficult conversations 24:51 Why you should never start with “you” 28:21 It’s not conflict, it’s the lack of repair 29:06 Ad break 30:00 Why safety is the most underrated part of love 34:46 How to build emotional safety 38:05 When your partner says “you’re always complaining” 41:12 When work and ambition strain the relationship 44:03 Why couples wait 2.68 years for therapy 47:37 Why communication isn’t the real problem 52:13 The stories we tell ourselves 53:39 How resentment quietly builds 54:38 Can you break the cycle? 55:26 When only one partner wants to change 57:00 When is it worth fighting for? 59:07 Why breakups shake your identity 59:48 How Maria knew it was time to leave 1:02:02 There’s no certainty in love 1:03:53 One piece of advice if your spark is fading 1:05:27 Coming up next 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you owe the internet every part of your life? In this solo episode of A Millennial Mind, I share why I didn’t tell anyone I was pregnant until I was six months along, even though I share so much of my life online. I recorded this at the end of my second trimester, while our plans were still changing almost every week. In it, I talk honestly about the three reasons I chose to keep this chapter private. The first was protecting myself from unsolicited advice. The second was wanting to hold on to the sacredness of such a magical time. The third is the one I’m still unsure about: energy, and nazar (the evil eye). This isn’t me telling you what’s right or wrong. It’s simply my experience, and I hope it gives you a different perspective. Because this goes far beyond pregnancy. Whether you’re changing jobs, starting a new relationship, moving cities or making a big decision, you don’t have to tell everyone everything until you’ve figured it out for yourself. In this episode: - Why I kept my pregnancy private for six months - The growing pressure to share everything online - Why unsolicited advice can become noise - Listening to your own intuition during big decisions - The sacredness of pregnancy and telling family in person - What happens when everything becomes content - Nazar, the evil eye and protecting your energy - Radiators vs drainers: the people who lift you and the ones who drain you - Being mindful of those experiencing loss and fertility struggles - Why you don’t owe anyone your story If you’ve ever felt like you had to explain yourself, or share something before you were ready, I hope this episode reminds you that some things are allowed to stay just yours. AD: In England, we're using water faster than nature can replace it, and in Wales, wetter winters and drier summers are putting pressure on the water supply. We often use more than we realise, but we don't need massive lifestyle changes to change these stats. Everyday ways to save water: Cut your shower by two minutes to save 28L Use a washing up bowl instead of a running tap to save 10L per minute Fix a leaky loo to save up to 400L a day Use eco-mode on appliances to save 10L per wash Search "Let's Save Water" or visit letssavewater.com to see what small changes you could make, and maybe have a chat with your friends and family about this too. #AMillennialMind #PregnancyJourney #protectyourenergy Timestamps 00:00 Why I Kept My Pregnancy a Secret for 6 Months 00:51 Not Everything Needs to Be Shared Online 01:40 The Pressure to Share Everything to Be “Authentic” 02:17 How I Hid My Bump 03:12 The 3 Reasons I Kept It Private 04:42 Reason 1: Avoiding Unsolicited Advice 05:42 Finding Out I Was Pregnant After Dubai 06:12 How the Pregnancy Changed All Our Plans 08:21 Why I Didn’t Want Anyone Else’s Opinion 09:53 Why Too Many Opinions Become Noise 10:34 Don’t Take Advice From People Who Haven’t Done It 11:24 Learning to Trust My Own Intuition 11:52 AD 12:52 Reason 2: The Sacredness of Pregnancy 13:58 Telling Our Families in Person 14:45 When Everything Becomes Content 16:49 Why I Don’t Share Week-by-Week Pregnancy Updates 17:30 Why I’m Ready to Share It Now 18:27 Reason 3: The Evil Eye & Nazar 20:05 Radiators vs Drainers: Positive & Negative Energy 21:19 Why I’m Still Unsure About Nazar 21:58 The Reactions I Didn’t Expect 23:44 Not Everyone Reacts the Way You Expect 24:15 Being Mindful of Loss & Fertility Struggles 25:34 You Don’t Owe Anyone Your Story 26:06 Only You Know What’s Right for You 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Why do some traditions feel like a warm hug, while others leave you questioning everything? In this episode, I sit down with my friend Shivani Bafna, content creator and new mom, who openly shares the reality of motherhood online. We talk about pregnancy, postpartum recovery and the Indian traditions passed down through generations. She shares which ones helped her, which advice she chose to accept or ignore, and how she kept her peace with parents, in-laws and the internet all weighing in. Motherhood doesn't have to mean choosing between honouring your culture and doing what feels right for you. We talk about: Her real emotions when she found out she was pregnant, and the pressure South Asian women feel to act excited about motherhood Never seeing herself as "maternal," and the fear of losing her identity How our own mothers shape what we believe motherhood should look like Handling unsolicited advice, and why she asked her family questions instead of handing them rules The no-visitors debate, and why she chose her mental health Why every parenting decision has a trade-off, and "call me a bad mom" Three generations, three laddu recipes, and how she picked one without offending anyone The 40-day postpartum diet: saffron milk, fenugreek water and nourishing food for recovery Why every woman struggles with postpartum, and why motherhood doesn't have to be binary If you've ever felt torn between the traditions you grew up with and the mother you want to be, this conversation will make you feel a lot less alone. Subscribe and turn on notifications so you don't miss the next one; it genuinely helps me bring on more incredible guests. Follow Shivani Bafna: @shivani_bafna https://www.instagram.com/shivani_bafna AD: In England, we're using water faster than nature can replace it, and in Wales, wetter winters and drier summers are putting pressure on the water supply. We often use more than we realise, but we don't need massive lifestyle changes to change these stats. Everyday ways to save water: Cut your shower by two minutes to save 28L Use a washing up bowl instead of a running tap to save 10L per minute Fix a leaky loo to save up to 400L a day Use eco-mode on appliances to save 10L per wash Search "Let's Save Water" or visit letssavewater.com to see what small changes you could make, and maybe have a chat with your friends and family about this too. #AMillennialMind #Postpartum #SouthAsianMotherhood Chapters 00:00 Intro: why old motherhood traditions are only now making sense 02:47 Welcome, Shivani Bafna 03:53 Who was Shivani before the public eye? 04:28 Growing up Indian in the Midwest 08:03 "I was never maternal" 11:02 How our mothers shape our idea of motherhood 16:17 Her real emotions when she found out she was pregnant 19:37 When your parents disagree with your pregnancy choices 23:31 Navigating unsolicited advice as a first-time mom 28:37 Why family support is give and take 30:24 The problem with fear-based motherhood content 33:15 AD: Let's Save Water 34:05 Living under one roof with the whole family 34:47 The no-visitors rule: does she regret it? 38:52 Every parenting decision has a trade-off 39:46 The no-kissing rule 40:57 How to set boundaries with parents and in-laws 42:05 Have these conversations before the baby arrives 44:18 Three generations, three laddu recipes 46:49 Treating your family like key stakeholders 47:33 When everyone in the family disagrees 49:40 Why it's okay to change your mind as a parent 53:19 The 40-day postpartum diet 56:34 Collective care in South Asian culture 58:59 The truth about postpartum 1:01:05 Adapting traditions to work for you 1:02:26 Motherhood doesn't have to be binary 1:03:38 Final thoughts 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Why do some relationships feel safe and easy, while others leave you constantly overthinking? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Amir Levine, psychiatrist, neuroscientist and bestselling author of Attached and his new book, Secure. We talk about the four attachment styles and why your style isn't something to heal from. It's a biology you can learn to work with. The little everyday moments are what actually rewire your brain to feel safer in love, friendship and family. We talk about: The four attachment styles, and why you can have a different one with every person in your life The smoke experiment that shows the hidden strengths of anxious and avoidant people Why tiny everyday interactions matter more than big therapy breakthroughs The five pillars of a secure life, and how to show up for people even when life is full Why one partner can't be everything, and how to build your "secure village" The three pitfalls avoidants fall into, and the simple fixes that save relationships "Wall tennis with love," a tool for anxious people in one-sided friendships Why parents have far less influence on your adult attachment style than you've been told How anxious attachment can be a superpower when you learn to use it If you've ever blamed yourself for being "too much" or "too distant," this conversation will change how you see yourself and the people you love. Subscribe and turn on notifications so you don't miss the next one; it genuinely helps me bring on more incredible guests. AD: In England, we’re using water faster than nature can replace it, and in Wales, wetter winters and drier summers are putting pressure on the water supply. We often use more than we realise, we don't need massive lifestyle changes to change these stats. Everyday ways to save water:• Cut your shower by two minutes to save 28L• Use a washing up bowl instead of a running tap tosave 10L per minute• Fix a leaky loo to save up to 400L a day• Use eco-mode on appliances to save 10L per washSearch “Let’s Save Water” or visit letssavewater.com to see what small changes you could make and maybe have a chat with your friends and family about this too. #AMillennialMind #AttachmentStyles #Relationships Chapters 00:00 Intro: why some relationships leave you overthinking 02:26 Welcome, Dr. Amir Levine 02:49 Why he wrote Attached and Secure 03:40 The four attachment styles explained 06:03 Different attachment styles with different people 07:59 Is being secure the goal? 08:30 The smoke experiment: hidden strengths of each style 10:50 Why the little moments matter most 13:43 When our first recording fell apart 18:43 Why attachment is a daily practice 20:15 What if your partner isn't secure? 22:46 Why different people support us in different ways 24:53 Turning "insecure" traits into strengths 26:55 Why we expect friends to be everything 28:42 When friendships drift apart 30:31 The five pillars of a secure life 33:25 The small thank-yous that make us secure 35:27 A loyalty program for relationships 36:15 How the human brain actually feels safe 37:37 The health benefits of feeling connected 39:39 Stop villainising avoidants 40:56 Avoidant pitfall #1: "Heal thyself" 42:53 Avoidant pitfall #2: breaking the baseline 46:09 Are you avoidant in your friendships? 47:03 Why teenagers pull away from parents 49:58 Avoidant pitfall #3: closeness overdose 53:23 How do I raise a secure child? 55:36 Sleep training, breastfeeding and attachment myths 57:44 Anxious baby vs anxious attachment 58:46 Attachment ingenuity: staying connected your way 1:00:29 How to handle an anxious friend 1:01:15 Wall tennis with love 1:04:14 When the other person isn't doing the work 1:07:54 What shapes the other 90% of your attachment style 1:08:21 What worms and dogs teach us about closeness 1:10:04 Why secure people don't overthink it 1:10:49 Anxious attachment as a superpower 1:12:34 The adopted sisters story 1:14:16 When your strengths become your swords 1:14:56 What he wants you to believe about yourself 1:15:36 Final thoughts 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Can you actually have it all, or is that the exact belief that's making you feel like you're failing? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Dhivya Srinivasa, a double board-certified plastic surgeon, mom of three, and the internet's most unfiltered voice on modern motherhood. We get into the myth of doing it all, the impossible standards placed on working parents, and why the "good mom" checklist most of us are measuring ourselves against was never built for the life we're actually living. We talk about: Her definition of being a good mom, and why she refuses to be graded on how she cuts a cucumber Going into labor in the middle of surgery, and the brutal reality of maternity leave in medicine Being mistreated at work while pregnant, and why she wishes she'd stood up for herself sooner Meeting her husband and being radically honest about her goals from date one Why the burden of self-sacrifice still falls on mothers, and what it actually takes to change that at home Quality time versus quantity of time, and what she learned from watching her own parents The soccer game she missed and the conversation that came out of it Why women get judged for having help, and what her husband says when she spirals about it If you've ever felt guilty for wanting a career and a family, or like you're constantly being judged no matter what you choose, this conversation will change how you see it. Subscribe and turn on notifications so you don't miss the next one; it genuinely helps me bring on more incredible guests. Follow Dr. Dhivya Srinivasa: [add her @drdhivyasrinivasa / https://avarawell.com/] #AMillennialMind #MomGuilt #WorkingMom 00:00 Intro: the pressure to be a good mom02:27 Welcome, Dr. Dhivya Srinivasa03:10 Who is Dhivya?04:17 What actually makes a "good mom"?06:43 The fake metrics we judge parents by09:16 The guilt of wanting to work21:14 Going into labor in the operating room26:15 Maternity leave in medicine is brutal28:20 Mistreated at work while pregnant37:21 Meeting her husband: radical honesty on date one43:29 Why alignment matters more than perfection45:55 Men, self-sacrifice, and equal parenting55:12 Quality time vs. quantity of time1:00:20 Reacting to viral "you have to be in the office" takes1:04:36 The miseducation of sons1:11:24 Confidence modeled by her parents1:13:46 Dealing with mom guilt: the soccer game story1:19:39 Feeling misunderstood as a parent1:21:13 Advice for women judged by their mom or mother-in-law1:28:44 Hiring help and letting go of the guilt1:30:57 Why women get judged for having nannies1:34:18 Her husband's take: "let's just get the help"1:40:26 Next episode preview: attachment styles Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this weeks episode I am joined by Gabby Bernstein, New York Times best-selling author of 11 books and one of the most influential voices in personal growth and spirituality, joins us to unpack limiting beliefs, trauma, and what it actually takes to rebuild trust in yourself. We talk about why manifesting fails for so many people (hint: it's not the vision board), the 4-step process Gabby uses to heal a limiting belief in real time, how she healed from addiction and childhood trauma, and how she's applying everything she's learned to parenting her son. We also get into friendships in your 30s, setting boundaries without guilt, and why willingness, not certainty, is the real starting point for change. If you've ever felt stuck but couldn't articulate why, this episode is for you. Gabby's book Self-Help is referenced throughout this conversation. Her new book, Unshakeable Faith, is coming soon. ⏱ Timestamps: 00:00 Opening 01:25 Meet Gabby Bernstein 02:25 Welcome & why this topic 03:26 How to start when you feel stuck 05:36 Willingness to heal: opening the door 07:44 Manifesting needs follow-through, not just belief 08:53 Recognising your own core beliefs 11:39 The 4 steps to healing a limiting belief 15:17 How Gabby met her husband 18:14 Gabby's story: addiction and healing 20:41 Healing after loss and grief 22:53 Solitude, fellowship and community 24:06 Friendships in your 30s 29:45 Working through "I can't trust people" 31:54 Relief and sadness in recognising your patterns 33:40 Dissociation and remembering trauma 35:18 Parenting through personal development 39:17 Becoming your own inner parent 40:22 Finding a partner who respects your journey 41:14 Practising patience with yourself and others 42:20 Trauma vs. limiting beliefs 43:32 Understanding your protector parts 44:51 Why manifesting doesn't work for most people 46:57 Overcoming fear of confronting your patterns 48:17 What is self energy? 49:36 You can't force someone else to change 52:27 Setting boundaries without guilt 53:22 Self-forgiveness and daily practices 54:36 Trusting the universe and faith 56:49 Closing & where to see Gabby next 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Can you prepare for a life you’ve never lived before? In this deeply personal solo episode of A Millennial Mind, I share how I’m preparing for motherhood while trying to protect something I’ve spent the last six years building: my podcast, my work and a part of my identity. I’m walking you through the exact framework I’ve used to prepare for a season where my time, energy and priorities are about to change from setting realistic deadlines and building in a buffer, to defining non-negotiables, systemising my work and learning to let go of perfection. But this isn’t just about pregnancy. It’s about preparing for any season of life where you know you won’t have the same time, energy or capacity you once did. If you’re entering a new chapter, building a business, navigating motherhood, moving, recovering from burnout or simply trying to make space for what matters most, I hope this episode reminds you that you don’t have to do everything perfectly. You just have to decide what matters most and do your best. In this episode: • Preparing your life for a major transition • The reality of becoming a mother • Matrescence and changing identity • How I’m preparing A Millennial Mind for motherhood • Why consistency matters more than perfection • The 4-step framework I’m using • Setting deadlines and building buffers • Defining your non-negotiables • Systemising and batch-recording your work • Learning what to keep and what to let go • Giving yourself grace when things don’t go to plan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if the heartbreak that broke you was actually the beginning of becoming who you were always meant to be? In this episode I sit down with spiritual teacher and author  ⁨@SaharaRose⁩  for a deeply personal conversation about betrayal, heartbreak, identity and what she calls the “dark night of the soul.” Sahara opens up about the night her then-husband confessed he had been unfaithful throughout their relationship and how that discovery completely dismantled the life and identity she thought she knew. We explore why heartbreak can feel like losing yourself, the “good girl” conditioning that teaches women to find validation through relationships, and why healing isn't about rushing to become happy again. Sahara shares the Triple E Method Emote, Embody and Express that she developed while navigating the darkest period of her life. We also unpack why love alone isn't always enough to sustain a relationship, choosing yourself after betrayal, celibacy after heartbreak, feminine energy, Dharma, rebuilding trust in your intuition and the powerful ritual Sahara used to hold a “funeral” for her former self. If you're going through heartbreak, betrayal, a breakup or simply a chapter where you no longer recognise yourself, this conversation is a reminder that losing the life you knew can sometimes create space for a life you couldn't yet imagine. In this episode: • Sahara's experience of discovering infidelity • What the “dark night of the soul” really means • Why women can lose their identity in relationships • The psychology of heartbreak and attachment • Why love isn't always enough • The Triple E Method for processing difficult emotions • Why Sahara chose celibacy for 2.5 years • Finding yourself instead of searching for another relationship • Sacred feminine vs masculine energy • Breaking “good girl” conditioning • The funeral of your former self • Rebuilding trust in your intuition • Practical ways to rediscover yourself after heartbreak Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices