Stop Taking and Giving Advice—Here’s Why

When it comes to writing a book there are two different approaches.  Both can be useful in different settings.  Only one way invites you into a deeper relationship with yourself, with reality, with a divine force that is bigger than you, and with the person you’re being invited to become.  This is the “way” I’m interested in talking about and teaching.  It’s the way that I find most interesting and valuable.  And if you’re someone who wonders “Who am I to write a book?” then maybe this is the “way” for you too.  Host: Ally Fallon // @allyfallon // allisonfallon.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you’ve ever considered writing a book, this episode is for you.  You might be questioning what to write about, where to begin, or even your own sanity. You might also be surprised to hear that all of your swirling is normal and necessary.  Consider it a bit of an initiation.  In this episode, I’ll walk you through what’s so important about the “liminal” time between idea and actual writing. I’ll also make some suggestions for where and when to begin.  So tune in and / or send this to your favorite aspiring author.  Maybe 2027 will be the year that you finally get to write your book.    Host: Ally Fallon // @allyfallon // allisonfallon.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When you are in pain or crisis, there are three main ways that most people respond.  Sometimes they pity you.  Sometimes they judge you.  Sometimes they try to fix you / your problem.  And yet none of these responses inspire true connection, healing or growth.  In today’s episode, I’ll share what does inspire connection, healing and growth — and it mostly requires you to avoid giving and receiving advice.  Why?  Because advice in all its forms — fixing, judging and pity — short-circuits what is trying to unfold through your beautiful story.  Host: Ally Fallon // @allyfallon // allisonfallon.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever considered giving your pain a voice?  For most of us, this doesn’t even register. We think about curing our pain, side-stepping our pain, solving our pain, fixing our pain or numbing our pain. Anything but allowing and listening to our pain.  Let me ask you this: what if your pain is trying to speak to you?   What if it has an important message to share?  What if there is wisdom buried within your pain that you need in order to take your next step, to understand yourself or the world more fully, or to truly heal?  If you believed that, would you lean in and listen? Host: Ally Fallon // @allyfallon // allisonfallon.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There is the story you want to tell with your life. And then there is the one that is asking to be told, through you.    The one that’s asking to be told through you:    Probably terrifies you Challenges your sense of yourself Makes you feel out of control  Calls you past your old conception of yourself Might feel embarrassing  Overwhelms you when you think about it   And yet the story that’s trying to come through you is the reason you came here.    Are you brave enough to allow it to unfold?  Marianne Williamson A Course in Miracles Aligned, Messy Action Host: Ally Fallon // @allyfallon // allisonfallon.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There is the story you want to tell with your life. And then there is the one that is asking to be told, through you.  The one that’s asking to be told through you:    Probably terrifies you Challenges your sense of yourself Makes you feel out of control  Calls you past your old conception of yourself Might feel embarrassing  Overwhelms you when you think about it   And yet the story that’s trying to come through you is the reason you came here.  Are you brave enough to allow it to unfold?  Marianne Williamson A Course in Miracles   Host: Ally Fallon // @allyfallon // allisonfallon.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I watched my two young kids have their first experience with monetizing their art and I walked away with one conclusion.  Art deserves to be celebrated, sold and reciprocated (financially). I haven’t always felt this way.  I’ve wrestled with the question of what art is worth. Or rather, I’ve felt a strange need to keep my creativity and capitalism separated.  But in today’s episode, I’ll share why I think it matters that you not just see your art as valuable in general — but as worth actual dollars. In what ways can you sell your art without shame?   Aime McKnee    Host: Ally Fallon // @allyfallon // allisonfallon.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you’ve been doing everything you know how to do to make a change, and nothing is changing, consider this:  Maybe LESS is actually more.  Maybe making progress is less about how much you can add and more about how much you can subtract.  There is a time for trying harder and doing more. There is also a time for subtracting what no longer fits.  So today’s episode comes with a challenge: what can you take away that might move the needle infinitely more than anything you could add?  Fast Like A Girl by Mindy Pelz Joe Dispensa Host: Ally Fallon // @allyfallon // allisonfallon.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Tomorrow is the LAST DAY to join us for The River Within, the new program I’m hosting with my friend Ruthie Lindsey. In this episode, we’ll awaken your creative gifts and activate your life force! One of the ways we’ll do this is through the topic of today’s episode: aligned, messy action.  If you’re a thoughtful, deliberate, intentional person, you likely struggle with aligned, messy action. You probably prefer precise, perfect, effective action. And yet what you need most might be permission to try and fail.  Permission to move forward, even if it’s not the “right” move. That’s exactly the permission I’m granting in this episode, and in The River Within. I hope you’ll join us.  Third Coast Comedy Club The Confidence Code by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman Host: Ally Fallon // @allyfallon // allisonfallon.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I used to think celebrating myself was self-centered. Self-aggrandizing.  A waste of time at best.  An overextension of the ego at worst. If someone else wanted to celebrate me, I would let it happen. But letting it in was a whole different story. When it came to celebrating myself, it used to be a non-starter.  But I changed my mind and I want to tell you about it.  Register for The River Within, a 12 week program with Ally + Ruthie: https://www.ruthielindsey.com/the-river Somatic healing work w/ my practitioner, Allison: https://www.healwithallison.com/ Host: Ally Fallon // @allyfallon // allisonfallon.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.